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sinaj:
i figured it out immediately

same with me.

LaRoyalHighness:
He knows.

Good!

Very beautiful girl. Thanks for taking care of her.
On behalf of this cute girl, I say, thank you and well done to you and her mum.

Wow!!!



God!!!




Scientists!!!


I respect God!!!


I respect scientists!!!

wow!!!



God!!!

Scientists!!!

That's all I can say

1. Sightseeing and nature seeing.
2. Video games for their ages also helps.
3.Involving them in decision making also as well helps.
You can involve them when taking decisions. Also ask them to take their decisions and just make modifications where necessary having told them the need for the modifications.
You can as well sometimes ask them to suggest what you can do when faced with life situations. Something like "I'm faced with so, so and so, what do you think I should do, you can give me your suggestions after dinner, it will amaze you how they will give you very very useful suggestions. It may not be what really happened to you, it may be from a movie you just watched, a book you just read, etc. You would be amazed to see that they can actually think outside the box and give very useful suggestion.
We parents never know how intelligent these kids are until we involve them in critical thinking.
I am not saying you should involve them in your office management system o, but at least we all know what their levels are suppose to be.
4. Puzzle and word searching.
5. Ludo and paper games.

It is another thing if the man does not have o, but the the one that have and refuse to be financially responsible is just doing himself unknowingly. It's a pity! Ignorance kills!

To expantiate my point above, go to any family, where the husband do shy away from financial responsibilities to his wife delibrately, you'll see that the woman will always be more blessed than the man, the implication is that, once a man shifts his financial rresponsibilities on his wife, he has unknowingly shifted his blessings as well on the said wife, though, it might be difficult for the woman initially, but at last, you will discover that the woman will laugh last and later be in total control. Atleast, about 2-3 posters above me has confirmed this.
So, anytime i see a foolish man who thinks he's smart by shifting his financial responsibilities to his wife, i do pity him, because he's gonna definately lose his blessings to his wife. It's sympathetic but there's nothing one can do about it, it's natural.

In my personal opinion, there's a blessing that is attached to being good, responsible and caring to one's family, anyone who delibrately leave his/her own part without being played is unknowingly and ignorantly missing his/her blessings.

bellong:
They have their own rules different from other church people...


Long time madam, how una dey and family?

long time jare my brother.
We're fine, and you?

Please o, how many minutes/hours is the boss going to sit on the front seat that will make me to cause unnecessary drama?

Whoever says you shouldn't tell your hubby must be the said yeye and randy friend.

bellong:


Church people like him?

you go fear some some church people fa

@op, is your mum late?
Or your parents divorced?


If late, then your dad need to remarry, it's getting to a stage where your dad could no longer "hold" it again, it's nature, not his fault at all. What you can do now is to sit down with your dad and have a heart-to-heart talk with himm into settling down with whoever he thinks he can cope with provided such a person agrees to, instead of this. Don't just walk out of the office because of this, he just need to be shown love by you his children, not condemned.
And as for the lady in question, chill, relax.......she might later be your step mother, you know, just be patient with her. One step at a time, you know, time will tell how to solve every problem.
And if he is divorced, advise him remarry and stop wandering about.
It is well.

This is one of the reasons i always say love alone is not enough for and in marriages.

Except you're ready to marry and not procreate. If you can do this and go for adoption instead, then, you can go on and marry each other, but if you both plan to have your own biological child/ren, then, think twice, lest this love be later cursed.


Abali1......come here o!

kingolaola:
That is a good idea that I support. Let the house endorse your suggestion

on behalf of every Nairalander, it is endorsed. Folake is literate, so, she also has right to know what is going on on this thread, so, please, get her an internet-enabled phone so that we can hear from her direct, and please answer chaircover's questions to put people in the open and to also let people know how much more is still needed.
Thank you very much for all you're doing for your sister, you're a good brother.
And to the whole house, well-done, you're wonderful! You're the best!
To Folake, you're healed.

Delicacim:
why will i be a scam? To clear your doubt am check Godsbaby1, ur sympathy is welcome, am not a scam am for real, i desperately need help, thanks

i'm sorry please, i didn't call you a scam, i only advise that if people aint convinced enough through your moniker, it might as well look as a scam.
I pray that God will meet you and everyone of us at the point of our needs o.

Congratulations to them!

But they actually worked for the money.......or you think it's easy sitting on that "hot-sit"?

vjsmiles:
GOD HELP THEM IN BED LATER THAT NIGHT

like what and what?


Your mind need cleansing

Congratulations to them!

But they actually worked for the money.......or you think it's easy sitting on that "hot-sit"?

mamziii:
Hi house I've been stomach pain daily for d past 1week,I don't knw d cos and hav not visited d doc but am getin really disturbed. Pls is der a drug I can take?

please go to the hospital ASAP. Nairaland is not an hospital. And please, don't do self-medication, it's dangerous. You need to be tested first, especially since it involves internal.

chaircover:
You need to get an internet plan. very important. This is not the time for 24 hourly updates.
Now as it is, you are online when most people are in bed.

People are willing to donate and this is the time to be here 24/7 and give people the information that is required now that there is much interest in this case. If you need help, then get another family member to take care of updates.

For a start how much do you have & how much is needed?
What are your plans now that you have some money?
Do you intend to continue with Eko Hospital?
How many chemotherapy sessions has she had/how many left required?
What is the cost?
What is the next step?
Should she be on admission or is she well enough to be a day patient?
Are you still looking at the Ghana treatment?
What are you doing about the radiotherapy?
You need to share all this information so that people who can help know where to come in and people need to know that their donations are of benfit to the person that they are donating too.

You need to be on top of things now that people are interested. There is no such thing as information overload when it comes to a matter of life. There may be an ENT specilist out there reading this thread.

I speak from experience.

The case has been verified, however that does not mean that your work is complete. Folake is counting on you.
It is well with her, my prayers are with her and she will be here to give her testimony soon in Jesus Name.

Thank you ma.
These are exact things i've been thinking are expected of op since i've been coming in and going out of this thread, but i was trying to be careful lest i be attacked or seen as something else.
Also, we need update on how Folake is feeling now as regards how she's responding to treatment, et,al.

I pray that this shall all be to the glory of the most High God. Amen.

To all that have given in one way or the other, i pray that our pot of oil shall never dry in Jesus name.

EfemenaXY:
He was lucky to survive to adulthood.

I don't know if it can be surgically treated, but I'm thinking if it could, it would have been done earlier... so perhaps not. I don't know.

The woman should manage jare. No one's perfect. Besides, she's lucky sef. Two for the price of one. When one gets tired, the other can take over. All night rendezvous for her.

you're wicked!

chaircover:
Its simple.
If you see a gap, then just plug it
A man will only refuse an offer of help from his wife if he knows that she will sing it to him everyday and make him feel inadequate

honestly, i don't know how someone can claim that she doesn't know what to do as a working class wife at home financially. It's not just possible for the man to fix everything at home, there must be some gaps to fill shaaaa ni, no matter what, so what the woman can do is to fill the gaps IMO, except.........

EfemenaXY:
That's nothing new.

There a medical term for it and it's called Diphallia. It comes with a host of other medical problems amongst which is the risk of Spina Bifida.

Poor guy.

can it be medically/surgically treated? If yes, let him go for treatment now and save himself further embarrassment.

SAMBARRY:
You dey find post falentine money to pay for your debts abi?




ori e ti daru.morope otiyawere. Ibi to makusi lotiwayen




oniranu. Ahen maybe I should contact some nairaland big boys. Coogar Oya where are you. Pastor coogar come and pray for op and give him money

do you know her personally?

If no, those names calling are really uncalled for.

Using your real moniker is the only thing that can make people believe in you, and hence attract sympathy.

We all know that things are really hard in the country, but hiding under new moniker may make people believe you're a scam.


And please, that does not mean i'm guaranting you specially. I only offer to advise and actually i logged in basically for this.

It is well!

carefreewannabe:
There is no argument. We are only discussing a very important topic and sharing our views.



I am aware.



No risk here.



So?



How high are chances the two will have an open wound at the same time and exchange body fluids by rubbing these wounds against each other?



Do you know that you can even kiss an HIV infected person?



Most of the scenarios you have described show that you don't even know how HIV is transmitted.
Even if your maid cuts her finger when cooking, you cannot get infected.




I understand and respect that.

ok!
Thanks!

Miami11:
I have been treated with a white doctor in New York that apparently has been living with HIV for 20years.
If I could not fire my doctor am not firing my maid.
This is 2015 Aids has come out of age.
Ignorance is what is killing Africa as a continent.

your doctor is an adult, you are also an adult.

If there's no very young children where the maid is working, there's no need to sack him/her. An adult knows the right thing to do, but kids may not.

carefreewannabe:
Explain to me how a domestic accident can give you an infection.

i no dey argue abeg.......

We are talking about HIV/AIDS, not just infection that can be cured with antibiotics o.
~A domestic worker will need to use knives, he can get him/her self cut, and the kids might want to show sympathy by going close/r to him.
~A domestic worker might need to make use of other sharp objects and might get accident through it.
~A domestic worker might have already sustained injury which might be bleeding while handling the kids, though, unconciously and coincidentally, the kid too might also have open wound.
~We all know kids are very funny, a kid can bite the domestic worker if he/she is provoked.

Infact, so many ways.

Please, don't get me wrong, if kids are not involved, or the job does not have anything to do with kids, there's no cause to dismiss the maid, but where kids are involved, i, personally think it is the best decison to make but politely and with financial empowerment granted to him/her.

carefreewannabe:
Do you know how HIV is transmitted?

yes!
On one side, we all know that it might not be his/her fault that she got infected, infact, she may not even know s/he's infected until his/her boss ran the test. That is a fact!


On the other hand, a maid, to my own knowledge is someone who helps in the domestic chores like cooking, cleaning, washing and sometimes, babysitting. And knowing that domestic accident/s may happen at any time which may involve the very young kids who might be too young to be careful around her. It's not a risk worth undertaking, especially where young kids are. Infact, it's better to run all testable tests on anyone to be employed as maid so as to avoid situations like this.

carefreewannabe:
No, I wouldn't. Why should I?

what if you have very young kids who are yet to learn how to be careful.



@op, yes, like somene said, immediately and politely. And even with additional fund that he/she can use to take care of himself.