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credibleGod:
can someone tell lies with his health ?

not saying you're telling lie with your health, but seems the other moniker is on a mission of deceiving forumites that your case has been verified, which is not okay.

dominique:
I'm sorry but your verification doesn't count. You're a fairly new member not known by many. Verification goes more than confirming through a friend. We'll be needing medical documents with his name on them. Clearer pictures of the victim will also go a long way.

Just wondering, your username and the account name of the victim looks quite similar. Coincidence?

Coincidence
weldone, able moderator.
You're a genius!
You're a sound detective!
From the little search i also did, it's obvious that the op and the so called jayandy is the same and one person.




But, honestly, has it gotten to this stage
May God heal this country o.

babyosisi:
Missed my flight
Familanders please console me and pray I make it as a standby passenger
Pray that someone misses their connection so I can get on
I need to get to my destination today
There is a man waiting for me dia

you never know the real reasons for the missed flight, that's why the bible says in everything, we should give thanks.


Therefore, be cool, calm and collected and remember that He is God.
Stop being anxious!
It shall all be to your testimny

With some comments i'm reading here, i think we Nigerians deserve the kind of leaders we have.
Smh

maclatunji:
Good afternoon, you are a very patient lady, it reflects in your story and your posts too. Your example answers my question. I interact with sone ladies and their attitude is like; "I am smarter and better than any man", I just wonder how they want to sustain marriage with such mindset.

thank you!

Power tussle in marriage...............beginning of violence and divorce.
Arguement in the presence of the kids............nowonder many youths today are naturally violent and believes that everything should be by violence.

What happens to effective communication, without raising of voice, without sentiment and without blackmail.
This life is easy jare but for those who take it easy.
Anyone that makes mistake is for lesson for such a person.

Ewuro4, i love your points. More wisdom.

maclatunji:
I am more interested in situations where you are totally on the opposite side of your husband's point of view. Do you allow him to move forward based on his judgement without trying to undermine his authority in doing so? Does his moving forward still have to be negotiated? If so, to what extent?

Good morning Mac, i really understand what you're driving at and where you're coming from. All of us at one time or the other make mistake but in an instance where we are both at complete opposite of each others' decision, i let him have his way and we both face the consequences, provided the consequences/repercussions are what is bearable and thank God that for the past 10 years we've been together, he has never taken any decision that it's repecussion is so difficult to live with. For example a very recent ones that just happened..... I have noticed that anyday we have fan on throughout the night, our last baby who still sleeps in the same room with us(4+) usually have cold/cough. On this fateful day, he insisted that the fan should be put on the highest rate and i tried to remind him the repercussion of putting on the fan, he objected, i let him have his way, no arguement. The second day, the young boy started shivering and coughing. Ordinarily, i would have been the one to take him to hospital, i didn't say anything, he was the one who said, "haaa and you said so yesterday o, if i had known, i should have listened to you". I said the solution now is that you will have to take him to hospital by yourself, that is the price to pay for it, he laughed, i laughed, we laughed over it, he took him to hospital, bought some drugs and later proffered a permanent solution which is very okay with me.
This is marriage, no perfect human being my dear, but see, personally, i detest argument, i would rather let him have his way, then we both learn from it and move forward. And also, remember......we are all still canal.
May God help us all.

Accept my condolence.
May her soul rest in perfect peace.




Op, grieve if you want to, but never allow it affect your reasoning. It's a debt we're all going to pay, and she has paid hers, once and for all.

emusmith:
Sometimes we forget to check up on my parents because we are "too busy". Take a few minutes today and call your parents.
Perhaps, do it now!
No more procrastination!

not guilty of this.
But how i wish a particular brother of mine can see this.

No perfect human being on earth. I trusted his sense of judgement before i married him andhe also trusted mine, but that does not mean his own decision must always prevail in the house, we both have to make suggestion and look critically at the best decision and make use of it, that does not mean the person that made the unused decision is not wise or trusted enough, if one's decision do not prevail today, it might tomorrow. In marriage, no one should be seen as the almighty, whose decision must always be adhered to. That is the essence of marriage. No competition but complement and mutual understanding. In as much as it possible to make mistakes once in a while, it does not exclude man, even as the head of the home.

And i hope your dad is not a victim too?

Lol............



Find a way to match-make your aunt with that father that walks around in one of these threads in this section, i think they have something in common.




On a serious note, tell your mum to caution her sister.

omegdeluxe:
When this same water pours on rug, it can make it smell for days, then imagine if the child wees on the rug.

then go for ordinary carpet then, tiles is a no no in kids' room, it's too risky for them. Kids are usually restless.
My opinion though!

Marriage...........so sweet when you're a right person with the right person.




Conduct the same interview for the wife and she would have sweeter things to say about her husband..........so, it's not only about the wife, it's about the two of them.......you know, like attracts like.....like wife, like husband.

Rug carpet please!

God bless this man and keep the cuties.
But, honestly, he needs someone like nanny to help take care of the kids, it's not easy at all.

Rest in peace to the wife.

I massage his back and eulogise him, he must laugh sha ni. There's this special eulogy i compose for him alone, i'm the only one authorised to give him.

babyosisi:
In our nigerian society ,physical abuse is recognized but often times emotional abuse isn't
While some batterers are usually also emotionally abusive,emotional abuse can exist without the spouse ever laying a finger on the other.
This is a comprehensive list of emotional abuse culled from an online site
Couples should recognize that this is not acceptable behavior and should not become a pattern in the home

These signs are




Humiliating or embarrassing you.

Constant put-downs.

Hypercriticism.

Refusing to communicate.

Ignoring or excluding you.

Extramarital affairs.

Provocative behavior with opposite sex.

Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.

Unreasonable jealousy.

Extreme moodiness.

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.

Saying “I love you but…”

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”

Domination and control.

Withdrawal of affection.

Guilt trips.

Making everything your fault.

Isolating you from friends and family.

Using money to control.

Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.

Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.


http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/

anyone who has any of these traits should either not get married or be ready to change and be determined to treat his/her partner the way he/she will like to be treated.

For those saying not getting married is the solution, in all sincerity, can you take any of these from anyone?

The solution is simple.................if you can't take it, do not give it. If you're abusive yourself, you don't have the right to complain about abusive partner.
Do unto your spouse what you want him to do unto you.

And if you're not abusive, but so unlucky to get married to one(which is rare anyway), then, you have the right to find your way out to regain your sanity and your self esteem.may God help us all.

seunoni34:
Classic mentality, God bless your wisdom! I pray for the best man for you in life. Amen

I already have the best man in my life. This is the 10th year of my marriage.
Thanks for your wishes.

chaircover:
All of una are in my bad books
na so kpekus reach that no one remembered how special I am
Okay oooooooo

Your fines are simple
One 15 reg RR evogue each
1st March is a new registration so its even good timing

No rice for any of you

happy birthday my sister.
I remember yesterday but i was kinda confused because i know you're 29th Feb, so i was waiting till today.
I wish you every good and beautiful things of life my dear.
Long life and prosperity ma.





I hope my rice is double portion ma.

Smh....
How i wish i still have the picture of where i served, then you will know that this is still better.

yinkus4u2c:
This is whr d issue of selfcontrol comes in,women will always be women.
Ladies r not meant to be trampled upon but be cared for.
at ds juncture...i quit

posts or words like these don't usually go well with me, i usually find it hard to absorb, please pardon me, so, because she's a woman, she's not suppose to have self control, it's only men that self control are recommended for, abi, what a double standard?
So, men does not deserve to be cared for but trampled upon, it's only women that are suppose to be cared for and not be trampled on, abi? So, it's a crime to be a man abi?
As far as i'm concerned sha, the two of them have the roles they played towards their failed relationship, the two of them are both guilty, but the woman definately brought out the devil in the man, that's a fact. No gender should be abusive, either emotionally or physically, and no one should treat the other the way he/she will not want to be treated. That's the golden rule.

@op, sorry for asking o, i still remember this your moniker very well.
Is this the same woman you asked us on this forum to help you win back? If yes, then, maybe the two of you are not meant to be together in the first instance.
It's unfortunate she pushed you into hitting her and also unfortunate that you know it's a regratable situation. Anyway, find a way to get her and try to make arrangement on how you can both take care of your baby together without bitterness from either of you, because that baby deserves the best from both of you, i'm saying all this because i don't think the two of you are compatible.
If no, please disregard my sermon on the mount.

Joel3:
face fact.

which fact
Smh!
And i thought i've seen all on NL.
God have mercy.

Your son is 28 years old right?
He is educated and enlightened, right?
He is an adult, an intelligent one,right?
He has good morals, right?
He can distinguish what is wrong from what is right, abi?
And you believe that there's nothing new under the heaven, right?
Then, tell your son that you don't want his friend in your house again, and also that you don't want him to be his friend any longer as well because he's a bad company.
Of course he will ask for your reason for such sudden change of yours, tell him that, his friend tried to rape you when he thought she was drunk.




And as for being faithful to your dead hubby, your vow was "till death do you part" except there's something else you're not telling us.

sweetcocoa:
Aww!

Children, are what I most definitely look forward to having, I know I'll raise "exceptional" kids and I so want to.

#Gotsomuchlovetogive

may God grant you your heart desires. Amen.

angelTI:
First time I will be seeing your post in a while. Welcome back

God bless you beautiful Ebere

thank you ma.

I love your mum!

Ewuro4:
I wanted to write an epistle about 'decision making' then I saw Greatgod's post. ( making them part of the team)

My dear you have no idea how effective that ^^ is in kids life. If you do then you're on the right track.

#6.. Sudoku and cross puzzles.
#7.. Piano ( I don't know about anyone else but keynotes reading is one of the most strategic skill that involves critical thinking , I've ever came across especially performing in a crowd of audience).

Thanks my sister, believe me, since I've started involving them in decision making, I've been getting awesome feedbacks from them.
Ko so mode nibi kankan jare.

How are you and yours ma?

gladiator12:
@greatgod2012, its just that he is too secretive, and since he started putting codes on his phone i have lost a bit of trust in him. Because after our wedding we were been open, his phones were open and he jist me about his colleagues and all that. But Few months after he started looking his phones saying his phone is his privacy. I let it rest cos its always bringing up arguement

ok, now I know the reason for believing what you're told.

However, why don't you ask him and save yourself from unnecessary worries. Communication is very essential in marriages, because sometimes worrying about hearsays is like giving yourself unnecessary stress.
May God grant you the wisdom to go about it all well.

Is there a drinking or eating code for a bride on her wedding day?


Nothing special joor....she's only being herself.

@op, do you have any reason/cause to suspect your hubby?

I do this alot, can't look at the doctor/nurse when giving injection to my baby, when going for immunisation, i must go with another person who will help me hold my baby.


And as for circumcision, my own crying will even be more than that of my baby.......lol.....truly, truly, next to God's love is mother's love.