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100k for your wife and considering the kids? The woman is probably doing things you are not aware of to manage that amount monthly without complaining.

Divorce should be out of the question.

Have a one-on-one with your wife where you are sincere with her about your sexual needs. Don't abuse her. Don't blame her. Don't shame her. Just air your feeling to her.

Have at the back of your mind that a good number of women somehow forget about their husband's needs due to raising of children. They are trying to cope with much although I am not justifying the neglect of the husband.

Congrats o!

What an achievement!

Wow!

I shake my head.

I just learnt he was once a security guard.

But the company should at least be fair. Given all that you do, it is obvious you are underpaid.

Increasing your pay can be an incentive to stop you from stealing from them.

Yes, everybody can tell you to stop but the company should fairly incentivize you.

I can understand where you are coming from. However, it is obvious that cheating is a deal breaker for you. You have to be true to your self. If you are being genuine, you would realize that you do want better.

Your accepting her back again signals that you are even enabling her cheating. So forgive her but move on without her.

As you separate from her you create a space for someone better for you to come into your life.

Student!

Very suspicious.

Let us see results soonest.

So other countries including developed ones are not having it easy too.

Judgements delivered.

From the look of things, CBN just cannot stabilize the naira. Maybe they are not meant to be able to do that.

But they are one of the main reasons the naira is devalued and continues to devalue.

Printing money the way virtuay all Central banks around the world does is robbery.

Looks like situation was handled.

And all prices keep going up.

Palliative is not enough for this rise in cost of living

This looks good.

This ia commendable and I commend it.

Drastically reduced the rate of checking WhatsApp status of people much of which is nonsense.

Stopped arguing on social media. I will rather comment on my page or channel.

Hope it will end up being for good in the long run.

If you can crash the price please do.

How could anyone require us to submit our social media handles to financial institutions? For what?

It will be nice to have a clear road map.

Stopping illegal mining is a step in the right direction though.

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Attempt to solve problems. A few months after birth, a mother begins “training” her child on sitting. The baby, with her yet-to-be-fully-developed body, really doesn’t know how to sit but the mother gets her in a sitting position and surrounds her with pillows so that if as a result of her position, gravity pulls her head, her head lands on a pillow. But what happens over time? The baby is able to sit. Somehow, the baby learns to sit by attempting to sit. So does she learn to stand - by attempting to stand (and falling repeatedly). So with walking. We get better at solving problems by attempting to solve problems. The capacity of the person who solves problems grows. You can even attempt to solve a problem, fail, and still grow. Say you want to solve problem A. You try all you can but you failed to solve it. What you may not have realized is that in your attempt to solve it you learnt a couple of things. So you didn’t solve problem A but sometime later, problem B shows up and just because of what you learnt from attempting to solve problem A, you avoided mistakes while confronting problem B and eventually solved it.

For Good or for Evil

Life is partly joy and it is partly suffering. Jesus’ instruction to take up your cross is no joke. The suffering of life often motivates the desire for selfish, immediate gratification – for expediency. But work and sacrifice are far more effective at keeping suffering at bay than impulsive pleasure. We keep talking about suffering; what is the source of this suffering?

You could say the source of suffering is tragedy. Tragedy is the arbitrary harshness of society and nature set against the vulnerability of the individual. Earthquakes and storms could be considered tragedies. Tragedy however is not the primary source of suffering. There is evil which is far more potent in producing suffering. The world is not an easy place for us but man’s inhumanity to man is something that has shown itself to be very difficult for us to deal with. It brings hell unto earth. Our work and our sacrifice are what we use to combat tragedy and evil.

We work because we are awake to our vulnerability to pain, anxiety, disease, and death. So, we see the future and we can either prepare for it or live in denial which produces terror. Hence we sacrifice the pleasures of today for the sake of a better tomorrow. But it is not only the realization of mortality and the necessity of work that was revealed to Adam and Eve after they ate the forbidden fruit. They were also granted (or afflicted) by the knowledge of good and evil. What could this knowledge of good and evil mean? Let us look at a possible interpretation (and I may be wrong).

When you become conscious, when you become aware of yourself, you come to understand the nature of human vulnerability. You know what it is like to be susceptible to disease and aging. You know what pain means. You understand what it is like to be angry, bitter, resentful, and fearful. You know such feelings in yourself and can understand how they are produced. The thing is this: once you know how these feelings are produced in yourself, you know how to produce them in others. It is in this manner that the self-conscious beings that we are become capable of malevolence. Thus, we have the knowledge of evil. It is therefore not an accident that following the story of Adam and Eve’s fall and how they came to possess the knowledge of good and evil in Genesis chapter 3, the next chapter tells the story of man’s capacity to be malevolent or evil in the story of Cain and Abel.

God accepts Abel’s sacrifice but reject Cain’s. If you are rejected because you didn’t do any work or make any sacrifice, you can understand the rejection. You know in your heart that you are to blame. That knowledge prevents you from having an outrage. It is a different thing however when you forgo enjoying what you have in the present in order to have something better in the future but end up having what you gave up rejected. In such a situation, you have lost the present and the future. Your sacrifice turns out to be pointless. When this happens, your world may darken, and your soul may rebel.

Following God’s rejection of his sacrifice Cain becomes furious and was hell-bent to make God pay. God says to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why are you dejected? If you act rightly, you will be accepted; but if not, sin lies in wait at the door: its urge is for you, yet you can rule over it.” That is not the apology Cain wants to hear from God. Cain goes on to have intercourse with sin and an offspring was produced – evil in the form of murder. Cain, to wreak vengeance, kills his brother, Abel. This could have been prevented if Cain had done right and offered the right sacrifice. This violence of Cain continues with his descendants. It is actually worse with them. Lamech, a descendant of Cain says, “I have killed a man for wounding me, a young man for bruising me. If Cain is avenged seven times, then Lamech seventy-seven times” (Genesis 4:23-24). Tubulcain, the son of Lamech, is the ancestor of all who forge instruments of bronze and iron. Such instruments could be weapons of war. Evil is multiplying. Not long after this story comes the story of Noah and the flood. When evil compounds, a destructive flood is being invited. The way these stories are arranged in Genesis to teach us something deep and true is no accident.

What can you do right or what can you put right to prevent evil from propagating? You just don’t know how much good you bring and how much evil you avoid just by doing what is right.

Regardless of what the world may say to you, your decision to do what is right or consider to be good is not something trivial. It is worthwhile.

Acquire resources. This one, to a large extent, depends on one’s peculiar situation and opportunities in life. All hands are not equal and all hands may never be equal. Notwithstanding, acquire the resources you can: money, business, property, and so on. I do not mean to say that you should become so materialistic that you worship your resources or become too attached to them. No. I mean, acquire them and be detached from them enough to take a risk with them and put them to productive use. As with risks, you may lose or gain, and so, the result may not tally with your effort. Having said that, acquiring resources and putting them to productive use can by itself solve problems.

It is expected that one who wants to relocate abroad will have good reasons and would have made serious plans.

You may want to take the fact that you are asking this question here as a sign that you may really not want to relocate abroad.

Ask God for the spirit of wisdom and discernment like that granted to Solomon.

Grow a network. You don’t want to go about this one in a manipulative way. There are people who only remember you exist when they want something from you. And even when they tell you what they want from you, they embellish their story with lies. If this is not manipulation, I don’t know what is. Use things, don’t use people. So, when I say, “Grow a network,” I mean, “Build meaningful and reciprocal relationships with sensible people.” I don’t see a relationship that is of mutual benefit as something bad. Now, I mean that in a good sense, not in a morally bankrupt sense.

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If that thing interests you or bugs you, you may want to seek more knowledge about it. In the process, you may acquire some skills. More skills in your skill set or less ignorance about it makes you better able to confront chaos.

This issue of chaos presents us with a challenge in life: The challenge of building yourself into the sort of person that can confront and potentially solve problems. Problems that are yours to face. Come to think of it, that is why your parents raised you to become responsible; that is why you go to school; that is why you have that job. You can’t take on every problem. No. You are not omniscient or omnipotent. But you can’t run away from every problem especially if they are yours to solve.

This issue of chaos presents us with a challenge in life: The challenge of building yourself into the sort of person that can confront and potentially solve problems. Problems that are yours to face. Come to think of it, that is why your parents raised you to become responsible; that is why you go to school; that is why you have that job. You can’t take on every problem. No. You are not omniscient or omnipotent. But you can’t run away from every problem especially if they are yours to solve. All this got me thinking about what exactly one can do to build one’s self into being able to handle problems. I can think of four. And let me emphasize that these are not what you do in one day or one week. These are what you do over time which will definitely span years.

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No matter how hard we try to get our lives together, things seem to get complicated. Problems emerge in our work, our health, our finances, our families, and so on. It is just as if nature herself wants us to have problems. This seems to be captured in The Second Law of Thermodynamics which basically says that entropy (a measure of disorder) in the universe is steadily increasing. In layman’s terms: when things are left to their own devices, disorder or chaos increases.