₦airaland Forum

Johndagr8t:
Good evening guys.
actually this will be my first time here on nairaland I really
need advice please,am 21 and honestly I don't just like the
fact that I still look feminine like it really embarrassing mehn.
Alot of times people take advantage of my look to cheat me
and whole lot.
am very fair,curly full hair(natural) ,tall, hairy,pink lips and am
just too fair to be a man honestly,i am an introvert I know coz
my dad always tell me that yeah.
And also am a student of unijos it just crazy the way lecturers
we tell me to stand up in classes and start asking me if am a
girl or boy,like it really embarrassing mehn,so I have decided
to come and ask elders on nairaland if there is anything I can
do to make me look like a real man,even girls feel
intimidated around me like WTF who I offend

Stop eating soy products and other estrogen producing compound in your food suppy it's making you effeminate.

Stop eating bread beans wheat and sodas and soft drinks

Work out

The strong will alway prey on the weak it's just the way life is and whether you agree or not is none of my business. Maybe you can ask God why if you believe in him.

Most of the good done by even the billionaire are for selfish grandiose reason. They simply want to feel important.

[quote author=Arkhanmu post=113654662]I wish I can but she will keep giving me the same assurance she won't do it again.My thought now is to engage her sister whom she have high regards for a lot.You know hearing different experience from people can help ik the long run to some extent..Appreciate your response.[/quote

You'd better put a stop before it's too late if she can't make up her mind to change on even her sister or Jesus can do it.
You want to learn the hard way then keep going with the charade you call marriage.
You are in love with her while she's loving and fucking her ex. Paternity fraud loading...40%......
Get off now why you can

Owo youth are cowards they should be the one interviewing these criminal not the criminal in uniform.

Now they will never know the truth.

spiritualmubi:
Hello, good day Nairalanders.
I'm presently in a critical situation in my life. I really need your advice on this situation of mine.
I just feel like a looser, I am an undergraduate studying botany. In 300 level due to me deferring a semester due to a Relapsing illness (schizophrenia). I suffered from brain fog when I resumed school after the relapse and lock down. I'm 26 and I don't have any skill and don't have a degree at hand.

The reason for this is not far fetched because till date I still harbour that anger for what my Dad has done to me. When I was in Jss1 in a very good school and also doing well, he removed me and my younger brother from school and took us to a Quran memorizing Islamic school following the advice of a hausa colleague of his in his place of work.

We memorized the holy book but for me it came with it's price, I didn't even have solid memorization of the Quran self to speak. I went through hell in those two years memorizing the holy book, ranging from mental, physical and spiritual challenges, which I believe triggered the schizophrenia am suffering from today. After the graduation ceremony from the Islamic school he enrolled me in conventional secondary school into Ss1 which means I never attended Jss2 and Jss3. Had episodes of relapse of the ailment am suffering from after then twice apart from the first occurrence after my memorization of the holy book. I believe that if I was allowed to continue my education back then I would have been a graduate by now and even working and must have gained financial independence
Presently my mum brought the idea that we should meet a Sheikh who is a saint of God, regarding my issue of not being able to read, assimilate let alone retain, the Saint said that I should defer a session, that is a year so that he will pray for me that there is a good spirit standing beside me that needs to be dissolved into my system, which (the spirit) is as a result of a spiritual book, litanies I read that my father gave me.

So now I don't have any skill, my Father has no source of income whatsoever, he doesn't earn any salary, he only has ND, the money we are even feeding on presently is a contribution by BOT of a foundation he founded to buy a house for its Islamic school.

I started learning photography during the lock down but left it for no tangible reason. My Dad insisted that I should learn shoe mending, that it is easy to learn and get small small change, I started it but had to leave it when I faced the challenge of sowing and polishing shoes, I don't just like the work.

Presently am been pressured by my parents to get something doing to be getting money because even to eat once in a day is a problem for us now, and to buy the drug am living on which enables me to sleep but believe me I'm at loss of what to do, should I go back and learn photography as a skill or should I find a job, like a company that can employ an Ssce holder. Cos the former needs start up fee and also need time for me to master it before talking of getting money from it.

Secondly, regarding my academics, I am thinking of using this one year or two years which I would defer to gain financial independence and mental well being, then rewrite jamb and apply for my original passion which is medicine and surgery but hmm, am already in my late twenties, so please Nairalanders help a confused soul.

Sorry for the long write up, just had to say everything.
Thanks, any contribution is welcomed I am really in a critical situation.

You can become anything you want to be face the future with courage and do the work.

If you want to earn why learning search on nairaland for mk.82 remove the dot go through the tread it's your key to financial breakthrough.

New222:
I won't try to sugarcoat it. I'm 25 years old, she's 19. Still in university because of the endless ASUU strike.

I've been having unprotected sex with this particular girl for a long while now. We've been dating for close to two years. I practise the "withdrawal" and "safe" days method. I met her a Virgin too.

Just realised she's pregnant. She started showing a lot of symptoms. Darkened areolas, nausea, breast heaviness, headache, back pain e.t.c.

I asked her to get do a pregnancy strip test and it came positive. Two red lines.

Though it's not what I ever planned for myself, I won't really mind having a child at my age. People will so much insult me, including my family but I'm sure my family will take care of the child.

The issue is the girl. Her family (Deeper Life) are wahala, big wahala. Educated people that behaves as if they never went to school. Now, we detected very early, her first period is supposed to start tomorrow (which I'm sure she'll miss). She's still very young and about to start schooling. I'm sure her dad will disown her (he once sent her away from his home over a slight misunderstanding, refused to let her back in until it was shown she was innocent).

I told her we have two choices, keep the baby or remove it. I am confused too, but I didn't show it. Pls what do you think?

We're really considering ending the pregnancy. Since it's very early, I'm considered getting m...p......r..l. I need medical advice pls. Above all, I don't want to endanger the girl's life.
I've read about abortion pills. I don't know how to get them or their price. Or should we keep the baby? Her dad will surely disown her, might later accept her, but it will definitely end her Education. What do you think? Should we get the drugs pls. Or consider another option? Should we keep the baby?

P.S: I know nairaland. I've been here for years, insult are welcomed. I never imaginned I'll ever open a thread like this.

P.S: If you're using withdrawal method and it works, it WILL STILL EVENTUALLY FAIL YOU. I used it for a really long time, now I'm here.

Congratulations Start preparing to be a good father remember this child did not ask you to have unprotected sex with the mother it's your choice.

Don't remove the pregnancy you should take 100% responsibility for your actions.

People will always talk get use to it... it's call life.

Start giving your wife enough Amino acids and omega three oil rich food so that you'll help your child out of the gate to be intelligent and strong.

I greet you again as a would be father

You will probably learn the hard way.

You have started giving reason why you don't want to stop and a lie told many times always seems like the truth.

Prepare well oo after all every man must go six fit but you are using your hand and legs to call death.

Wish you the best if you refuse to flee!!!!

Entitled entitimentality
he hired you he payed you case closed...you should thank God you are not dealing with a person like me.
Here's my No bs guide to get your shit together.
Get good at what you do.
Improve your writing nd research skill
Being an entrepreneur is hard if it was easy you won't be looking for a job.
Shout out to the MVP out there making payroll while workers think they could do it better

Crvrider:
Receive sense. If all you've stated here is true then she does not need to help him look for a job when the door is wide open.

I don't make the News up i just tell you as it is with no bs.
FACT
She's not wrong for seeking help for her man...every man or woman would protect his/her source.
This should be an eye opening, soul searching, brain bursting questions for single men out there.

Nigeria's keep hyping themselves to high heaven even when they know they are not qualified to do the job.
You both agree for 40k he paid and someone is even saying 40k is to small
When an Indian programmer can do it for less than 50-60 dollars bit here's the best part you will get a finished job before Upwork or fivver pays them.
And if you are tech savvy you make sure they are not using null plug in.
Nigerian and entitlement ee

She has stated in clear term why the nigga has to get a job asap mother brother accommodation etc those yapping about her being a supportive partner are looking but not seeing.
Facts.
She wants a job for the guy so he continues taking care of her responsibility...
Fact
What happened if theres delay.
This is slavery not love

HRprof:
You forget to add this : Boko Haram, skull miner, headsmen, bandit etc .
Meanwhile Nigeria will work if we vote the right candidate this coming election 2023
Vote wise !!!
Vote Peter Obi !!!

Who dey decieve you peter obi Tinubu amechi atiku lawal are all there for their reasons
Nigeria cannot work even if Jesus and Mohamed become the president and vice
Reason is because we have more things dividing us than thing that unite us.

Face the reality

Are this girl commodities that could be bought with gifts.

I fear who no fear woman ooo.

Money is not sexually transmitted you have to offer something in exchange of money... that's why Nigeria girl only think she has her .... abeg somebody help me complete am i wan to sleep.

Here's what i find hilarious about these political commentators.
They don't benefit anything whether whether Tinubu osibande atiku or Jonathan or lawal win they will still remain where they are struggling and hoping on Gods blessings.
Why not use the time you spend reading and comment on post to start a business today believe me uou Don't need money to get started. Type mk8.2 look the thread for making regular inco

You can if only you need it bad enough.

My favorite charity which is me went from 2.50 HND 1 FIRST SEMESTER to 4.00 on graduation because of five words someone said to me aye bobo yi ti bàjé.

My record still stand till date chemical engineering from lower to distinction.

Motivate yourself.goodluck

Here's the irony Canada and Australia were disarmed af now Trudeau is fucking them in the ass forcing vaccine taking their rights light right and centre.
4th amendment protects citizens from getting as many guns as they like.

People you should be afraid of are FBI CIA MOSSAD AND KGB who destabilize countries and government.

Fairview1:
There are good girls with good characters out there. With this sort of rigid mindset, I doubt if you will ever get them.

The challenge with this generation of woke youths who doesn't believe in marriage is that many of them, have messed their lives up, thinking everyone else is the same.

It's not rigid mindset it's been true and honest to one's self... it's called REALITY.

A HONEST THOUGH ABOUT LIFE.
in any population
1% have everything figured out
5% will be doing ok
20% will be doing average
74% will struggle to even understand anything.

This is the universal truth about life. Take marriage or relationship for instance only 1% of men in the world can actually say they are happy how do i know Gallup did a study in 2019 69% of people in the world are unhappy.

Actually i can spot from ten miles away a good girl... she's is rich in contemptment if you can find that girl you'll be amongst the 1%.

Now the joke is on you, can you sincerely say you know girls who are comtempeted...i bet you can count them with your finger tips.

WHAT EVER YOU CHOOSE TO BELIEVE...BUT THE REALITY NEVER LIES.

Fairview1:
They are many. Just that you are attracting your kinds. Become better so you can attract better girls.

You want to feel good by telling yourself lies great for you.

Suffering and smiling that's what most people prefer, face the reality staring right at you...

I'm like honey i attract and screen them like a banshee does to his slave...na mumu man dey become better because of woman....

If you decide to become better because of a woman you go slave for years trying to meet up demand ...even your son will never appreciate your sacrifice... REALITY

You can never satisfy the so called gods TALKLESS OF a woman.

find what works for you and go for it.

AntiTerrorists:
Some days ago we saw a post of how Comedian, Chukwuemeka Emmanuel, popularly known as Sabinus, slammed a one billion naira suit on Friesland Foods Wamco Nigeria Plc for what he termed unauthorised use of his trademark ‘something hooge'.

Sabinus also demanded a sum of N100m from UAC Foods for what he termed "the use of his animated image in an advert for the Gala sausage roll".

If you watch a lot of comedy skits and videos, then you must be conversant with some regular voices in the background such as; “70-year-old man”, “no be juju be that”, “you are a mumu man”, “they have left you behind” “photo” “na your mumu na him too much” you be mumu, you think say you dey wise”!

At a point, you might be wondering where the comedians and funny skit makers got those background voices from, but little did you know they were gotten from Asari Dokubo.

Also, funny background voices such as "na only you waka come", "there is God ooo", "you were not informed too", and "continue", were gotten from former first lady- Patience Jonathan.

All Nigerian Skit makers are doing skit to make money, using intellectual properties such as the above mentioned background voices without paying a kobo for them.

Comedian, Chukwuemeka Emmanuel, popularly known as Sabinus is also guilty of this act as background voices of Asari Dokubo and Patience Jonathan were heard in his comedy videos.

OPINION : I am not against people suing companies for using their intellectual properties without their consent. But he Who Comes Into Equity Must Come With Clean Hands. You cannot be suing people for what you are guilty of. How much has Sabinus given to Asari Dokubo and Patience Jonathan since he started using their intellectual properties to make money ?.

In case Sabinus doesn't know, his case can be argued in court. But that of Asari Dokubo and Patience Jonathan cannot be argued, it his theirs. So because Sabinus took a photo with is hands hanging, no one has the right to draw an image or snap a photo using same posture ? You call it "Intellectual property" ? Tell me you are kidding.



For me, Sabinus is the best Nigerian comedian at the moment ...I have to make it known before people say I am hating on him.

Trademark is different from voice or whatever you call it they are not copyright or any of that.

Let me school you all public servant words action and any other thing dey do can be used for free provided you are not slandering or libeling them or saying falsehood about them

I can decide to write a book today and say wise saying from Oprah Winfrey aliko Dangote Elum musk and any other celebrities and nobody would sue for copyright or anything like that.

Sabinus deserves compensation for his infringe trademark period.

Fairview1:
Fear not, two are better than one, for they have good rewards for their labour. That's not my handwriting, it's the Bible speaking.

Bible say two good heads not just two ooo.

Ask yourself how many women with good head dey naija?

If you're sincere with yourself you can count them with the tips of your fingers.

Better save than sorry.

TheOldGods:
[b]I thought this was a joke at first. She would want to go to shop, she will tell me to drop her, come pick her back from shop. She will want to pick her waybill item, she will tell me to drive her, and bring her back. I am working oo, but because I work from home, she thinks I can always come out anytime I want cause I am the boss of myself. she doesn't want to hear it, she starts nagging, crying and complaining that I bought a car and it's useless, that I don't make use of it.

If she wants to visit her friend, she will ask me to drive her. If I say no, she starts saying how can I buy a car of more than 5million but I will be parking it, blah blah. And the worst part is anytime I decide to drive her to her friends, that when she remembers she has to go and do everything that day. Na so I go dey drive and be waiting for her in the car, untill she is done.

It was becoming too much, even at night she will suddenly call me to come pick her from anywhere she goes, even when I never knew where she was. Immediately she is done, it's as if I am the next taxi driver.

Now today, she said she is going to Lagos, and I should drive her to airport I refused and told her I will book bolt for her. She refused, insisting I must drop her. I told her I will follow her in the bolt yet she refused.

She doesn't contribute money to fix any fault my car has. And I only drive a Mercedes Benz and a Lexus and those two cars are luxury, no be something I have to drive all the time. She always insist on me driving her with the Mercedes all the time.

Guys, this girl wants to turn me into her slave or taxi driver. How can I maturely reject this offers without allowing her to nag, and complain [/b]

You don't value your time period.

You should have a clear boundaries for work hobbies and romance if you work from home.

Charge your self esteem to 80% e remain one bar. Your babe sees you as a weak man who she can easily emotionally manipulate... it's not love it's manipulation.

Note you are going out with a narcissist the earlier the better.

Never fall into debt gambling and drinking.

Never chase a woman attract them but screen them like a banshee does his slaves to weed out leches and gd

Never go into any business involving huge amount without doing your home work know at least the nitty gritty of the business before investing any funds.

RealistRedpiler:
Lol. That's how those expantire people lie they make millions every Friday.
You see this life, keep pushing and keep trying.
No body will teach you how he makes his money. He Wil rather collect yours and lie to you.

Learn from person wey sabi this one no be expatriate them ooo na years of hustle and this man dey run ads oo no be say him sidon money dey come ok.

The guy don pay him due very well.

chatinent:
I know about KDP and AM.


Before you defend sb, think twice. Leave emotions out of it. People don't accuse people blindly. 99 percent of skit maters are into fraud.

Just understand some people know them in reality too.

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Baba you fit go court say you know the guy na yahoo?

Making money now is very easy ooo leave emotions out of it too.

Here's a flaw in your statement and it's emotional too "99% of skit makers are into fraud."

Humor drugs and sex are the three powerful opioids every created.

Established a following in any of these and cashout massive.

Reading list
big mouth big money.
Make them laugh and take their money both by dan Kennedy.

Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got a new job 7th of February and the pay although not a normalised pay is very okay. The least I have received every month since I joined has been #126,000. There were months I was paid #170K ( happened twice) because it's commission based.

So far, I have been able to save #315,000 but I have a little problem.

I am a 29-year old guy who presently stays with my elder sister who also works in this company. She's a single mother of two. The apartment is a one bedroom-parlor apartment. She stays in the room while I occupy the parlor with my few properties (Mattress, Wardrobe, Plasma TV and home theatre) none of which she has because she had to abandon her husband late last year as she was being frustrated by him. She didn't pick anything while leaving, so she literally has just started buying a few things in the house. Apart from the parlor, 70% of the things in the kitchen and bathroom belong to me.

What actually happened about this was that; when she newly got this job (August, last year), she desperately needed a space as her ex husband was seriously frustrating her. She just left the husband's house with absolutely nothing like I already stated. Then as an unemployed graduate, I couldn't renew my rent which expired (November, last year). Because of this I decided to move them to her place and also shelter with her. Now my question is that, I am 29 years old, should I get a personal space with my current savings as my monthly pay seems enough or should I keep staying with her while I keep saving?
Mind you, I contribute to everything in this house, from food to water to NEPA bills and everything. Times we share the bills, other times I pay alone or she pays alone but it's all seem balanced in a way. No complaints so far.

Mind you I do not care what neighbors think as well even as they seem utterly unpleased with a man this grown staying with his sister. I do not care and also, I do not have a girlfriend so it's not about privacy or whatever.
But you know as a grown man with a lot yet to be achieved, I just seem confused.

What would you advise a brother?

You and your sister have no problem
I don't care about what people say oooh stop mister you actually did if not you should not be seeking advice.

Save invest money in the bank no be asset ooo when them advice you go high brow area go rent house that time gf go come you to quickly realize 300k no be money ooo

Do wetin dey your heart.

[quote author=Ishilove post=113308654][/quote]Why not do research before migration why do people rush to do life changing decisions.
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How on earth would you move to Chicago the house of drugs crime and violence na lowkey bundu or abonema be Chicago na except the gated communities there.... thousands of drug heads fraud and crime


A Google search of top 10 violent states in America would have saved her family these trauma.

However, "it's good to die in a place where things work than stay in the shit hole" ipob and agitator.

If you wan leave Nigeria and you no shine ya eye do your research you go turn to philosopher preaching bad news every where you go.

$0000/2

lastchild:
wait o, did he register the slang to have right to it?

or can you have right for a particular slang for making it popular?

Lawyers in the house, clear me please

Any word or phrase dummies school zone atomic habits DBT are all trademarked terms.

Spaxon:
Hello Sir, first and foremost I'm not an Oga.
Secondly I'm not poor.
I don't need to exploit people to gain wealth.

Suing Peak for The "Something Hoooge" advert is senseless, yes suing Gala is quite reasonable;they used his picture.
And listen I'm not one of those you can run your mouth against anyhow and get away with it, Learn to be respectful to people.
Manage your little #100mb and stay away from my mention..
I never recall quoting or having tagged you anywhere.

I've been on NL since 2014 and I stay on my lane. Mind your words.

So you are saying it good for peak to exploit and use his trademark with compensation while they pay their brand ambassadors?

And everyone need to stop throwing subtle threats like you get away with it.

You are giving your opinion and you want everyone to accept it because what you said was right? Jesus and Mohamed couldn't even pull that stunt for thousands of years.

Sabinus deserves to be compensated he is not exploiting peak rather na them come use a word he has trademarked.

Anywhere in the world but Nigeria we get emotional about doing the right thing that's why the country is so bleeped up.
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chatinent:
Lol.

Sabinus is smart.

He registered it low-key. They thought it was just a slang.

Always register what's yours.


Well, it's common for yahoo boys to use comedy as a shield for their income. Na today? Who no know Sabinus for PH before the comedy coverup?

Everybody wey make am na him be yahoo boiz and see the amount of likes you got.

I know ph boiz wey dey make on a steady $10k every month on kdp and affiliate marketing... he's even on nairaland ooo.

We make money on a low no be everybody wey make am be yahoo boiz.

Trademark term is his trademark if you say he's a yahoo boiz you just blabbing how many yahoo boiz get Sense to trademark something?

Go work abeg leave person wey sabi stop hating.

For your information ive almost got my business taken away from ne because of a trademark School zone atomu habits and dummies.

If you're publishing on Amazon those three words would lead your account to a ban in less than 1 hours.

Better

Directway:
Ok. I used a nickname to register on Amazon instead of my real full name. Will that affect any process including payment in the future?

Change everything to your real names just as it appears on your documents.

Publishing on Amazon is legal no be yahoo ooo everything should be your re details.