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darkenedrebel:
Thank you for taking your time to compose this comprehensive and eloquent counter to the prevailing cynicism about the rottenness of the modern-day marriage.

#Bookmarked!.

And of course, the day I become a Reverend Father is the day pigs would become animals of flight

You are welcome


Lolz, like I don't know that.

oloyede252:
ok continue




lols.am here to have fun,you are here to tell story and if you dont see sense in it then you are senseless....i wanna start liking you since you dislike me that much.hello bea i like you like you i like you wu.you are the woman of my need the person to tell me stories..l like you wu..to be continue

Ok, now I grab, having fun on NL usually involves being silly.
Sure, even a mad man will call sane people mad.

Na you sabi

oloyede252:
are you phychologically okay?cos you seem to have expirenced all nagative stories.pls change your enviroment or people close to you so that you can have good story to tell....[i knw you lying and i need to encourage you..ewu]



you dont like me why? this the second time am qouting you so i dnt get you disliking me...quit hating gal.

I can tell you I am psychologically healthier than you. I see both positive and negative experiences and only share these experiences to buttress my points and share with other people. You can chose to believe or not, I could care less.


I repeat I don't like you. I see you around and don't seem to make sense much so I rather ignore you.

9ja4show:
There are still alot of strong hardworking ladies out there that show love unconditionally if you dont know of any try and be one ok.

You are not fit to give me an advice, thanks.

oloyede252:
see who is saying one is jumping from one thread to the other.anyway dont you have any story similar to this maybe your sister,mother etc..cos you always have a story[lie] to tell

I can swear it, every story I tell are true life stories. I am not the type that lies and unlike many I seek to learn from other people's experiences and mistakes which makes me more mature than lots of people to relate with issues.


Maintain your lane. I don't like you and that's why I don't ever quote you.

9ja4show:
You made a good decision to reply me because you need some morals..You think abuse is only when you slap and beat up someone ? You go about telling people that your husband can't provide for you and you expect him to not reply you with a slap

Go get a job if you can't feed your wife. Stop disturbing us here with nonsense. Later they'll start jumping from thread to thread calling women liabilities and gold diggers.

D2diff:
Imagine the nonsense he is spitting

Would the woman have mentioned the feeding part without a genuine reason? As if most people do not everyone mention it when they feel betrayed and diassapointed with the recipient. The only issue that thing could concentrate on was turning the feeding part to a gender thing


This forum don tire me. Bunch of idiots running around.

You can say that again

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

I'm thinking that is how he treats his wife. So all the fingers point at him.

9ja4show:
Just like that? You think marriage will always feel like the first spark always? If you want a perfect relationship, get a dog. You think its childplay to live with another human being when its hard sometimes to live with oneself

What is this one saying? Give this same advice to your daughter when her husband beats and tries to strangle her. There is no perfect marriage but it is stupidity staying where your life is threatened.

bbulldog:
support what you believe.. That's my rigid point my dear

Being dogmatic is never good. Whatever rocks your boat, just stop trying to spread falsehood and stereotypes as fact .

dahaz:
I have no preferred candidate but am seriously considering voting for a lady who describe herself as 'flawsome'

Hmmm, alright, not sure I know who you are talking about though.

Animal! God protect us and our families. Kidnapping and selling a fellow human for rituals. Thank God for those Children's life. She should probe the wicked woman well for more info.

Who has watched the video and can interprete the meaning? I don't believe this topic cos I know how people like distorting the truth. But if true, those set of people are crazy

dahaz:
At bolded, you have already mentioned the word now . You are the number one romancelander I know. I was surprised that you are not contesting for miss nairaland. my vote could have been for you

Lolz, no, I didn't. The funny thing is I don't consider myself a romancelander, I probably opened the romance section tag just once and couldn't see sense in most of the topics, I only contribute to a romance section topic if it's brought to FP or someone I'm following makes a comment on a topic that interests me. That's it. I go more to the family section.


LMAO, Miss NL, seriously? You are funny. Who are you voting for anyway?

Lexusgs430:
You nairaland handle really states your profession. Haneefah(RN) Registered Nurse

Yeah

Weyrey leleyi o. Talking like an illiterate, even if you Bleep her 5 secs and you released in her, you are not safe. Better go and accept your bastard. How much is condom abeg, you'll sleep with Olosho without condom and claim you slept only once with her when belle comes whether it's yours or not is up for debate. Nonsense people.

Explorers:
37. Wife selling.


During medieval times, women were completely subordinated to their husbands. After marriage, the husband and wife became one legal entity, a legal status known as coverture. During this time in history, married women could not own property in their own right, and were, indeed, themselves the property of their husbands. It is unclear when the ritualized custom of selling a wife by public auction first began, but written records indicate it was some time towards the end of the 17th century. In most reports, the sale was announced in advance, perhaps by advertisement in a local newspaper. It usually took the form of an auction, often at a local market, to which the wife would be led by a halter (usually a rope) looped around her neck, arm or waist. The woman was then auctioned off to the highest bidder and would join her new husband after the sale was complete. Wife selling was a regular occurrence during the 18th and 19th centuries, and it acted as a way for a man to end an unsatisfactory marriage. In most cases, a public divorce was not an optionfor common people. In 1690, a law was enforced that required a couple to submit an application to parliament for a divorce certificate. This was an expensive and time consuming process. The custom of wife selling had no basis in English law and often resulted in prosecution, particularly from the mid-19th century onwards. However, the attitude of the authorities was passive. It should be noted that some 19th century wives objected to their sale, but records of 18th century women resisting are non-existent. In some cases, the wife arranged for her own sale, and even provided the money to buy her way out of the marriage. Wife selling persisted in some form until the early 20th century. In 1913, a woman claimed in a Leeds police court that she had been sold to one of her husband’s workmates for £1. This is one of the last reported cases of a wife sale in England. Today, you can visit a number of websites and get an online divorce.


Source: Listverse

Na wa o. Women have suffered.

bbulldog:
I have warned all my family members that_ no matter the condition will they plan to date or marry a nurse, police officer , inshort any profession that includes shift type of working hour. I am not sorry to say that most nurses are highly frivolous, which is passed on to their children. I know people here will want to have my head because of this. But if you people can sit down to think and look around, you will find out about their lifestyles.

Were you raised by a nurse?

Don't be blinded by stereotypes. Anyone of whatever profession even house wives can have frivolous children. I can boldly say that all the nurses I know do not have frivolous children. Probably the ones around you do
And most nurses ain't frivolous. You don't have to like us, but stop trying to soil our profession. We all have different personalities.

dahaz:
where that student nurse wey lyk quarel pass fight and who lyk to inject pple haneefahrn see your thread oo.If you like come and quarel here i go send you bck to romance section.

Da.haz, so you have already tagged me a trouble maker even though I am as gentle as they come? God will see us. I'm not a romancelander o.
I'm not thanking you for mentioning me again.


Nice one OP. It ain't easy especially the perception and stereotypes. Male nurses rock!!!

ilovemylife:
Good morning everyone, I can't really go through all the mentions but like some of you advice, after work yesterday I drove them to where he is staying to see him because he too has noticed I am not in my best frame of mind and he has been asking me what's wrong with me. We have a long talk about these issues, he was surprise how I get to know, from that to ashamed of himself, and he starting apologizing I told him to say I was hurt will be an understatement and after that I told him what I wanted and this was it, I want a break from this relationship, our traditional wedding put on hold for now because I needed to clear my head and again for him to really think it through and know exactly what he really wanted and if at the end of everything he still want me and I am also ready to continue, then he should cut all ties with any female he has anything to do with. My decision didn't go down well with him, he keeping telling me he doesn't want the break, he doesn't want out traditional wedding put on hold, he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, he will do what I wanted from today.
But my mind is already made up and I stand by what I said, he knows my stand on cheating, I left my previous relationship because of that! Even as I typed this I can't still start the tears from flowing, this morning I am going to see my mum and explain things you her and I pray she will take everything calmly then my siblings and my would be mother in-law. Above all I will do ask many of you asked and put everything in God's hand, all I want is to be happy and I know God will see me through in this difficult situation because I have alot of explanation to give lots of people why my marriage isn't happened as proposed.
Thanks everyone for all the contribution so far, I really appreciate.

All the best sis. Don't worry, be strong, everything will fall into place. You made the right decision.

darkenedrebel:
Marriages nowadays are what people lunge toward when the barrenness of loneliness has hit the psychological ceiling; others principally for baby-making; some for around-the-clock come-at-able sëx; and others, like I eventually would, do so to keep appearances - call it a high-fallutin dance to the constrictive tunes of superannuated societal injunctions.



Prithee, can you capitulate some necessary and red-carpet steps you think would prove effectual in subsiding this wave of madness that's leaving modern-day marriages tempest-tossed?.

Today you'll hear about Ronda Shonke, tomorrow you'll hear about Tee Billz. All these kain stories dey discourage we younglings o. Abi make I kuku become Reverend Father?

Yeah, that's true. Most people marry now cos the Society expects it. Even when they know right from courtship their partner isn't right for them, but the pressure to settle down at a particular time or age pushes them to make the wrong choices. Take the OP for example, she is devastated about having a fiance that cheats with an acquittance even few months to the wedding. If she is someone that can't cope with cheating (not easy to cope with), keeps quiet hoping he'll change after marriage and the guy doesn't, then there will be problem, we might just hear about another woman who killed her husband or she lives her life in misery or whatever feeling she has for him dies a natural death while they live together for other reasons or we have another divorce case in town. People tend to marry more for the wrong reasons.



Lolz, I'm.not all experienced and all about marriage issues, but my stand has always been court with your eyes open, of course your brain and ask God for guidance (if you believe). A lot of signs are usually there during courtship which some people overlook for whatever reasons and it ends up coming up to bite them in the butt. I don't understand why a woman would marry someone that had been beating her before marriage or a man with short fused temper would marry a quarrelsome woman. What you won't take or stand during marriage, you reject it during courtship and if the person is not willing to change, move to someone else, not hoping the person will change after marriage, the probability is high the person won't.

Compatibility is important, it's not easy for two people from two different back grounds to come and live together for life or for whatever period they were able to manage themselves. It takes work and selflessness.

So after accepting to see each other as one, the commitment to make things work must be strong. Each party must be ready to play their part to make things work.When there is commitment, they'll find it easier to tackle their issues. Communication is very important.
Then, the couple should keep their affairs private although one shouldn't suffer in silence in a case of a toxic relationship or issues they can't seem to resolve.


Don't let me bore you, the most important steps to me, should be during courtship, then teamwork in marriage.



Lolz, abi o. It's highly discouraging, marriage is losing all those sparkles it had.

Lol, yinmu,Reverend father indeed. Go and marry jo

darkenedrebel:
Marriages nowadays are what people lunge toward when the barrenness of loneliness has hit the psychological ceiling; others principally for baby-making; some for around-the-clock come-at-able sëx; and others, like I eventually would, do so to keep appearances - call it a high-fallutin dance to the constrictive tunes of superannuated societal injunctions.



Prithee, can you capitulate some necessary and red-carpet steps you think would prove effectual in subsiding this wave of madness that's leaving modern-day marriages tempest-tossed?.

Today you'll hear about Ronda Shonke, tomorrow you'll hear about Tee Billz. All these kain stories dey discourage we younglings o. Abi make I kuku become Reverend Father?

Yeah, that's true. Most people marry now cos the Society expects it. Even when they know right from courtship their partner isn't right for them, but the pressure to settle down at a particular time or age pushes them to make the wrong choices. Take the OP for example, she is devastated about having a fiance that cheats with an acquittance even few months to the wedding. If she is someone that can't cope with cheating (not easy to cope with), keeps quiet hoping he'll change after marriage and the guy doesn't, then there will be problem, we might just hear about another woman who killed her husband or she lives her life in misery or whatever feeling she has for him dies a natural death while they live together for other reasons or we have another divorce case in town. People tend to marry more for the wrong reasons.



Lolz, I'm.not all experienced and all about marriage issues, but my stand has always been court with your eyes open, of course your brain and ask God for guidance (if you believe). A lot of signs are usually there during courtship which some people overlook for whatever reasons and it ends up coming up to bite them in the butt. I don't understand why a woman would marry someone that had been beating her before marriage or a man with short fused temper would marry a quarrelsome woman. What you won't take or stand during marriage, you reject it during courtship and if the person is not willing to change, move to someone else, not hoping the person will change after marriage, the probability is high the person won't.

Compatibility is important, it's not easy for two people from two different back grounds to come and live together for life or for whatever period they were able to manage themselves. It takes work and selflessness.

So after accepting to see each other as one, the commitment to make things work must be strong. Each party must be ready to play their part to make things work.When there is commitment, they'll find it easier to tackle their issues. Communication is very important.
Then, the couple should keep their affairs private although one shouldn't suffer in silence in a case of a toxic relationship or issues they can't seem to resolve.


Don't let me bore you, the most important steps to me, should be during courtship, then teamwork in marriage.



Lolz, abi o. It's highly discouraging, marriage is losing all those sparkles it had.

Lol, yinmu,Reverend father indeed. Go and marry jo

Interesting. Omo olomo, enjoy the lives of your head jare.

I remembered playing with my dad more as a child. But not all fathers do this sha, some father's motto is as long as they are providing money for upkeep and they are as distance from their children as anything even while staying under same roof, the only time the children probably get their attention is when they do something wrong.


Cute pics by the way.

Lovely couple. More strength to their union.

D2diff:
I am still going to disagree. I have heard of how nurses fvck around with doctors in Nigerian hospitals and I have seen how my married teachers frolic with each other and I have heard how my neighbour who sells something have sex with another married man.

Sorry I am still going to disagree because if poverty is a reason for infidelity, then financial security is a definitely a reason to cheat.

Doveda, don't bring nurses and Drs into this
Most of what you heard are exaggerations and lies plus imaginations born out of Nollywood films.


But I'm not disputing what you are trying say though. A married female friend ( a well off woman) of my aunt was telling her how she and some friends enjoy their lives (cheat), I just open mouth. My aunt just put her at arm's length .These are women you would never think are involved in such, and their husbands will also be feeling smart while cheating on them. Marriage is loosing it's meaning.

searchiing4love:
Just like the way u did when poke nosing in my quarrels with daretodiffer abi Hypocrite

Who poke nosed into your affairs with dareto.differ? . Bigger hypocrite, warn yourself o.

I would if I were you. I will call it quits, I can't start early in marriage to be coping with a wandering di.ck. It was someone like him that was bragging about how he cheated on his wife right from their wedding night. I don't know what's wrong with some men, few months to the wedding they'll still be busy running after other girls for relationships.



Discuss it with him though, let him know you know all he has been doing and you want to call it quits. If he finds his concubine so irresistible, he should marry her not trying to eat his cake and have it.

But if you know you can cope with an unrepentant cheat then move on, It is only a matter of time before the shameless woman you claim you know will start plotting means of destroying whatever you have.

searchiing4love:
No be he get him daughter? wetin concern u?

Take your nose out of my business

covbrand:
oga I wish unto all your daughters this kind of Man. I used to live in the same hostel with this people, and believe me this man's wife is a very quite and scared person. she is very withdrawn. this man has always been beating her, locking up her children and starving them. I remember during my project defense time last year November I was about going jogging as early as 5:30 am when I came downstairs to see this woman who just gave birth lying down outside in open air. I asked her why she would expose herself such way only to be told that she was locked out all night by her HUSBAND! !!

As if that was not enough, one day while coming back from another jog, I met this lady and her 3 children outside with the door with the door locked. the baby of a few weeks didn't even have water to drink and this was harmatten season. I had to boil water to give the baby.

this man didn't start today, and I blame the woman for not being woman enough for her kids. to me she killed that baby. am so pained.

Thanks for this perspective. Nonsense people be forming respect and be submissive to an animal.

Chrisrare:
see wot lack of submission and respect has caused. If d woman respected her husband, her baby will still be alive. The husband will pay for his foolishness, but it wont bring back her baby. Next time she will respect her husband.

If a man does not respect himself, there is no how yhe woman will respect or be submissive to him. You don't just demand it, your actions bring about it. It's not about, I have the dic.k, you have to respect me having a di.ck brings a huge responsibility on him as thr head which lots of men abuse and manipulate for their own good rather than the family.


Look at that baby well, looking so malnourished, the wife is most likely malnourished too. He could be one of those husbands that'll spend the little they have on alcohol and pros.titutes yet expect the woman to always welcome him with fresh soup, wash his clothes, clean up after him. Where will the respect come from?

See how malnourished and sickly the baby looks sef
RIP baby.

I hope both parties are happy now, the one beating his wife for not washing his clothes and the one using her baby as shield.

See the mad dog's face. God where has shame and conscience gone to? Raping your own child. He should be stoned to death.