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6figs:
hello harddon, I need your help regarding some issues. I find it very very difficult to attract a girl and its quite worrisome. I'm a reserved kinda guy tho I'm not bad but I'm also not nice to ladies.I have this sendless attitude from the onset but my problem is attracting the opposite sex even tho I'm not bad looking.

I used to be straight forward when asking girls out and within that period I loose interest. I tend to have short attention span to things especially ladies mostly because of their boring and one word replies. They kill my vibes. my main problem is attracting the opposite sex, I'm tired of always not seeing encouraging result �

Even though you cannot find the right words to really explain your situation, i get your drift.

Your sendless attitude is not borne out of a positive mindset, unlike Us. This is bound to repel ladies.

Just like you cannot strip been funny from been sassy, sendless alone cannot roll.

Kindly go back to page one and ready. that is going to be one of your best investment before the year runs out

MickeyJB:
I need a lil help there...
There's this girl who I met like two weeks ago and ever since I have been dropping drills on her and giving her send less attitudes... But she's the proud type and gives me the boyfriend line which of course I answered accordingly.. Quite alright, she's hot, more or less an eight( but her proud attitude just kills my vibe.
Just yesterday, she called me in the middle of the day just to tell me she just made her hair and I said I would reserve my comment till I see the hair... She immediately sent me a picture on one of the socials, though the hair was cute I told her we'd go back to the saloon to get her money back and shii..
She was laughing and was saying I was jealous and that my girlfriend is not a fine as she is.. I told her that my girlfriend was more beautiful without a doubt and I went on to ask her 'why are u breaking ya head over it, u want me to leave them and start writing love poems to you rather abi'...
Then she started with her ego shii saying that she has not replied to all her stalkers, it's me.. That she has not finished reading love poems from her boyfriend it's me.. She even said I should be lucky she's talking to me(i already gave her this line before though)..
I was pissed and yabbed everything on her face...
Thing is she wants me just as a friend, buh hell no.. And I ain't concerned about loosing anybody
Just wanted to know what I did wrong for future cases
Thanks
Sorry for the long write-up though

With this typa gurl, you must have a planned sequence if not, you would wake up one day and realise that actually, with all the efforts you ploughed in, you on da free roll, da Zzone!

Stop calling randomly. Give it a sequence.

I would edit this post leta with details.

shollish:
harddon thanks bro so much

i have been fucking up, a lot of people have been fucking up and will still continue to Bleep up... its left to us to exploit these jewel..

clemmonce:
thumbs up bro... You totally understand.... Some girls can be so full of themselves.... But guys dey bleep up too much...

Yea, guys and their bribery, wimpish attitudes.
How can you be so graciously blessed with JRod and money, yet fall mugu to these soft dolls that gat nada and haven't even learnt how to properly wash their panties?

Itz really annoying!


Btw, I, usually, am the one that keeps them waiting even if they are the ones footing the bills.

WIZGUY69:
Never Knew I'd be doing this in the nearest future, I always have the mindset that I've seen it all when it comes to dating and ladies.
so I've been all this girl's case some few weeks ago, immediately I broke up with my girlfriend, I just love been in a relationship, can't stand been single.
I have been keeping tabs on this beautiful girl, chatting her, making her to laugh, Happy and all.
as in I really want to date this girl.
so yesterday we decided to chat deeper, and she made me known that she's not yet ready for a relationship for personal reasons.
my pain is, this girl knows the reason why I have been on a neck all this while and she wouldn't let me know my stand, she made me to waste my time and mb
In fact I'm really confused, don't know what to do anymore.

If you don't enjoy been single, you wouldn't enjoy relationships.
Your life does not depend on an external stimuli. Learn to ball up!

And after all you've read off this thread, you still went to ask a gurl out?

Alright BYE

clemmonce:
here is the bitter truth.... You don fuc.k up from the beginning.... You don't pamper girls, there is a difference in showing a girl love and pampering her... You misbehave sometimes you will still be the one to apologise.... Girls don't like guys like that..... True talk you can take it the bank.... Girls don't like soft guys..... When a girl misbehave she knows..... she expects you to correct her but if you fail you don dey mess up be that..... There is a difference between being nice and being a foot mat..... I will elaborate on this later...
Secondly she doesn't like you that much .... I am 90% sure she is seeing someone else.... If a girl likes you, no thing like busy schedule ooo.... She will create the chance... One month ? No ....unacceptable..
A big mistake guys make is thinking If i am loving , caring and soft she will like me more.... No, she won't....
There is a big difference between being nice and being a foot mat.. I will give an example..
You invite your babe for a date at 7pm.... 7pm you are already there, she comes in by 8pm, without apologising for the delay.. she just went to sit down... and you as the guy you smile order for her.... You don Bleep up..... Tell her straight up. we were suppose to meet by 7pm and you are coming by 8pm and you did not even apologise, thats rude.... She will not hate you, she will even respect you more...
In summary guy free the babe..... if you dont nah she go free you and it will break you down more mentally....

One full hour later? And you patiently waited while pressing your phone? On top of your own money you planned on spending on her

Yours truly wud have gone home after 15 mins max! Or call someone else and ball somewhere else! No time.

N when she comes and starts calling incessantly, I'd totally ignore her tru the day.

No time Gee, no time

tstx:
On hw she comot cloth na eh.. The bweast go fall like the price of Bitcoin..

Sometimes I just wonder what the life of ladies would look like without augments.

From head to toe, all padded with one form of deceptive maneuvers or the others

If not for the wonders of bra, people like this would constantly be on thick sweatshirts because that is the only thing that can hide the sorry sight.

I'm totally impressed with responses from guys on here! We growing!


@ op, you have to majorly fix your self first before you find and fix the world.
In all these, you are solely to blame because your worse mistake is not working on yourself after your last bitter break, shutting off your heart for a long time, meeting someone online and without scrutinising same, jumping on bed with her and you started loving for two calling it Dating while wasting your time, efforts and money on a leopard.

Sense Pill: No matter how hard the rain pours, it does not wash off the dark spots of the leopard.


From your long read, here are flash points. Hopefully, you learn from them and improve on yourself.

1. You are too naive, balless, nice and voiceless for a relationship.

Too Naive because you failed to observe all the red flags and allowed b00bs, Womanliness and b00tie to dictate and blur your thinking cap.


Too nice because you went loving and apologising for two. Putting down your happiness for another's. I'm sure you must have spent a fortune on calls, recharge cards, outings and the likes! Most probably got only a smile or a peck for a thank you.


Too balless; imagine you getting on bed with a lady that takes offense at correction! You are dating a demon! How can someone , a lady at that, take offense at correction when you guys have different ideologies and backgrounds? N the balless you didn't show her the door immediately you realised this rather you emboldened her to pull more terrible stunts on you until you were totally beaten into line! Until you started getting SCARED OF correcting HER because you don't wano freaking rock the boat!

Son, you were the WOMAN in the so called relationship.


Too voiceless: love does not preclude your getting pissed and voicing your anger boy! Sometimes, you need to tear down a nest that is too comfortable and build another! You take lies and maniputions with an "ok"? Who does that?

Sense Pill: it is only a cold pot of soup flies have a feast on.


See? You are totally to blame. For thus you made your bed, thus you lay

Solution?

DO NOT END THE RELATIONSHIP rather, friendzone her. She is the quickest way to learn from your mistakes and deploy some of the skills you are about learning. You would use her as a target practice. For now, just simply ignore her. Calls, messages, everything!

Visit https://datingdrill.com and take it from the top.

You must work on yourself confidence first , then gradually improve to other aspects.

I also have a thread here called Dating Drills: Guys only. Search for it and start studying. Kindly ignore the fact that it is more than 200 pages.

Thank me later

HARDDON:
Sense Pill 128:

You can't have the machinery to mine gold and be digging for clay!

You were made for more! Dare for more, Never settle for less!
You are one of a kind out of the 8 billion mortals that tread on earth. Wake up with these royal thoughts every morning.
Walk royal, talk royal with all your ways calculated.. Prance with the Steps of a man sure of his wealth, certain of his future and in absolute control of his destiny.

A rare gem, a cream in the society blessed with the airs of wit and wisdom That anyone should be glad you let them share your space.

Live a life if impact, touch humanity positively as you give Glory to God and carve your name on the epithet of time. Burn your memory in the face of history. Not for naught were you born with balls!


Happy Sunday! Don't ever forget Jesus Loves and Cares Dearly for You!

......penciled by Triple Royal Don

These are nothing but the musings of a blogger not from a heart that has been broken. Theories and Experience are two things eternally at a tangent.

1. The pain does not come all at once and disaapear there after all at once. So you suggest the broken hearted should keep crying whenever the pains roll by?

Solution? Trickish

2. Point 2 and 4 are relations. A broken heart is one that has been cast into the abyss of negativity. No matter how much you try, those thoughts would come. And
every activity reminds you of the heart breaker. Heck, you had everything in common. Just merely opening your eyes reminds you of them.

Solution? The brave don't fear war. They face it.


3. Valid point but might I add it's not everyone you should talk to?

5. Valid. Life must live on. Infact, this is the best time to switch on your Fab!


6. Totally valid! If you ain't good enough for them, you should really let go and prove to them you are better. Make sure the next person you date is a huge step up from the past.

7. This is not the time to avoid anything! It is time to face everything. How can you advice in point 5 to live their life yet turn around and preach the gospel of avoidance? If they would live on, they should really live on.

9. Technically valid. But the best way to avoid fear is to face it.

10. Valid. For he/she who is scared of losing sight of the shore would never sail. A captain terrified by raging storm would never sail.


Love/lust is life and to live fully, we must keep loving/lusting

Heck, the heart was fashioned to share however wrongly.

But hey, there is only one true source of Love he is Jesus! It is only when him, we can truly love our fellow mortals, understand what true love is and make the world less of a broken record

MissRaine69:
Vos non potestis figere stultus

ne de ucuz bir fahişeyi tamir edemezsin


In an unmaaped part of Nigeria forming international with Google translate.

Run along cheap lil one

MissRaine69:
I post what I observe amongst couples
What I hear being discussed
Questions asked to me
Articles I read
What I discuss with my friends
What I read in books
What gets posted on my forum
Then along comes individuals like your good self who read a post and rather than discuss you automatically assume it’s a personal article and launch into personal tirade about what you think you know about me.There are many like you here on this forum. Individuals who take everything as is. So assuming you read are all novels true stories about the authors?
I am not going to reciprocate with the personal slurs as that would make us equals and we are not.
Take what you will from that . One thing is certain you would struggle to work in an international environment with that way of thinking.

Arrhh, yet another cheap attempt at an uncalculated manipulation.
Lmao @ miss international! I'd school your tool internationally. Though stuck in your village however.

Ofcourse not, we are no equals you couldn't hold a candle to the least of the ladies I've rolled with MissRain manipulator let alone have any opportunity to split hairs with me if not for the wonders of the internet.

Dabble into any plain you so suit as you try to hoodwink the gullible with this stew. To me, you are nothing but a lil baby trying her hands at manipulative manoeuvre for the very first time.

Now run along


#HenceOnIgnored

MissRaine69:
Emotional intelligence means you can discuss hypothetical situations objectively. Without all the personal jibes you seem to lean towards.Now you just assumed but then this is NL a lot of that happens. I acnkto be offended by what you have written it would be a massive disfavour to you. Maybe you actually cannot be objective and this is how you look at everything....literally.

No, emotional intelligence means telling yourself the truth and opening up to that poor guy. There is nothing hypothetical here. You cheated!

Wow, my response was literal? Maybe you should go through them again.

I gave you a deep accurate extrapolation from the situation you painted. Some might even say I am a seeth by been so clairvoyant about this.

I have been with your type before. Imagine her creating a situation for her serious guy just so we can spend the weekend together! And the wimp of a guy went apologizing for what he didn't even do! Called almost through the night while she was riding me. Until she switched off her phone! Average guys suffers a lot in your hands.


Guess what? She went back, accepted his apologies when she was the one that cheated, now they are married.


I am not your average Joe MsRain. Bliv me, I'm not

There is something I would have shared with you privately, but I don't want to complicate your life, so no, I'm not giving you my number and dnt bother trying to send a mail, I wouldn't respond

MissRaine69:
Emotional intelligence means you can discuss hypothetical situations objectively. Without all the personal jibes you seem to lean towards.Now you just assumed but then this is NL a lot of that happens. I acnkto be offended by what you have written it would be a massive disfavour to you. Maybe you actually cannot be objective and this is how you look at everything....literally.

Miss Rain, you ladies are too densed to deal objectively. Your Double entendre ways wouldn't let you.

Besides, what you actually mean by been objective in this situation is that we shouldn't take you to roast, help clear your conscience by agreeing with you that what you did was cool.

I saw through every line ... I see through every words from a woman.

Deny it as you may, it doesn't change the fact that you took a calculated break so you can take a lick.

And long may your conscience prick u.

DissTroy:
Technically, you didn't cheat 'cause at that point you weren't romantically-clinged to the lover-cum-ex-lover-cum-lover.

I'd only be concerned that you are willing to have casual sex with just about anybody. A one-off thing.

I like a girl who loves sex; I just dislike the one who has casual sex.

Oh zipit.

The fall out was a calculated move and it was generated by her so she can explore.
Virgins that have been with one guy only, most times, do this. And some gurls do it too so as to hit some financial gain quickly, over the weekend without someone breathing down their necks.
And when she ignores his calls and messages? Ofcos, they were having a fight, so justified.

And if you can just read in between the lines of her message, it is so glaring she isn't at peace.

MissRaine69:
You have been dating someone for a year, then you breakup . Within a week you work things out and decide to try again. That’s when you find out he/she slept with someone else. Is that cheating?

Of course NOT! It is not Cheating. You took a temporal break by creating a break loop so that you can taste some slim joints that has been catching your fancy!


I bet you generated some ruse heated arguments so that he can give you some breathing space and blam! The side guy hit! ? After the deed is done, you crawl back to the super nice guy, apologise, ofcourse you know u got his mumu switch and without thinking, the mallam accepted you back yea?

Now your conscience is tormenting you, you run to nairaland to seek some form of Justification that what you did was not Cheating?




That tiny bum bum of yours needs to be spanked by a 16 inch Rod, real Rod not d1ck dammit !

Nonsense!

Before I go to on, you must answer this Question:

How exactly did you hurt her?

It would guide my next thoughts

I had my head in the clouds, my mind puffing some slim joints before I was jolted by some J bolt.

Since I am here, heck, I could spill a thought from situation analysis.

Op, ignore most of the advice above.
There is nothing a MAN's mind can't fix. Heck, we were placed here to create and fix things.
And since I read the story of the Colorado man that gave up digging at just 3 feet to uncovering gold, my perspective changed.

First take, you have a very wrong mind set. Inferiority complex. You have to get that fixed before we even step into the world of women.

As my mentor would always say, the Lion is kind of the jungle not by size but by Heart ( the content of h
Its mind).

Good looks, long d1cks, money, sleek ride, academic excellence etc don't make a MAN, a man is a Man by the size of his balls and the content of his cranium.

So you have to expunge that wimps thoughts of any lady, no matter the class and social standing, being beyond your league and reach! Because in the final analysis, barring all superficial feminine condiments, some slim d1cks turn her like hot dog in the heat of passion. Infact, that very one you think the world revolves around is been treated like thrash by some other guy that GETS it.

I would not want to fill this space with my private experiences.

So your first port of call would be to work on your confidence and self esteem. Grow some Balls!

How can you do that? Visit our blog https://datingdrill.com and take it from the top.

MJBOLT:

you never took her serious,she might still be hurt by your past mistake


cc HARDDON

Here now, a royal summon from J Bolt the Blazer.

What have I to do with thee oh mortal man?

Aiit, aitt, that wasn't me. No, it wasn't me.

Does Clone still pick up items?

Youngbbt:
I just need the word to get out of my shell

There is nothing else I'd say that I haven't already said about that ish. Read our blog and this thread. If you may

As a spur ,henceon, I wud be giving a royal mention to those who put in the time and effort - reading this thread from the beginning and striving to be beta Men!


@ Kseafresh you are sighted.

@PaulAris, keep the flame on . Your mail told no tale.

@austine4real, more reading stride

(And a host of others who stopped half way and those blinking in and out) I say keep honing your skills as u read and practice.

And to the female fans of this thread too numerous to mention..... There ain't no love left for ya'll . Maybe in another life time


@Lawlahdey, you can't hide
@Rali123
@creamish

HARDDON:
Lets correct d notion. Age dont make no man. Neither do Beards.

It is the content of his chatacter, the clairvoyance of his mind n an astute eye to read, analyse n respond to external stimulus succinctly that makes him worth his balls.

He is man because he is himself always. Dont need to lie to impress nor frame to seduce.

It is not d lenght of his D1ck but the size of his balls.

He is a man because he cares enuf to know n knows enough to care.

To those who are reading from the start, liking and sharing past dope posts, I sight ya'll


A glass I raise!

DRILL NUGGET 22

How To Date Right


'Every gambler knows that the secret to survivin'
Is knowin' what to throw away and knowing what to keep
Cause every hand's a winner and every hand's a loser
And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep


You got to know when to hold 'em,
know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
know when to run
You never count your money
when you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
when the dealing's done''

pencilled....Kenny Rogers

xh3ungold:
Whats happening here..why's dz page so dry? United fans where art thou?

Until mou leaves, we'r outa here

How the mighty has fallen! Sad!

Youngbbt:
hairdresser..... I don't just know the right word to say..... I just feel my heart is about to fall out when ever I think of trying.....

read my previous reply. What exactly do you want to say?

Youngbbt:
all the girls I dated and currently dating I never approach them..........I'm a very shy type of guy...... when ever I see a girl I likes my heart cut and beat so fast.......i don't just know how or were to state or even have the confidence to stop her.....i only pray on my heart for her to fall for me. it suprise me because I deals with mostly female since I'm a hairstylist
I really need help and lines on how to approach a lady....
it killing me off.... I want to be able to talk to a lady...whom I like not wait for her to fall for me guru I'm the house Help a son
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I don't know if it shyness or fear
#I wan to be a really baller with confidence

A fish in the middle of the ocean that does not know what water tastes like!

with your kinda job, you dont even need much efforts. Just make sure your hands are soft, body well built, clean appearance, good dress sense , a freaking sleek cologne and you would be shooting home free daily after collecting their money! ... oh gross me!

@ KAGMEN11 , OLUWABIG , vosquare , Temihatz , mlkraj, Cheiiii , Samcranked and a host of others,

kindly mail : support@datingdrill.com .

Only private/business matters.

Otherwise, post here so that others can learn from the plethora of answers.

Rich Regards
D1

@ Richybang , futurevizi , mikolam , PaulAris , lordchizzy , Blabbermouth

kindly mail : support@datingdrill.com

Colourich:
I'm not offering to do any house chores, I'm not their maid. If they won't marry, they should forget it.

how old are you now? 25-30?


op, in summary? Just be you? without the alcohol thingy of course

How about finding out what the family members like and getting them each a lil som som?

offering palm wine to the gods is not bribery, tradition demands it

lahp:
bro always be yourself do this if u meet her up ask what she thinks of you physically
if she replies tell her what u think if her then by actions prove to her u still the guy on the instagram page

You just woke her up from her slumber! She wud respond to the positive not to hurt his fellings but that wud be about it. She gone. And u effective murder the lil gut he's got left.

That question reeks of insecurity and not been appreciative of who you are.


There is something special I haven't treated here. It would be treated on our blog.

It is called Pre-emptive Defensive Manoeuvre...

A lot of comedians use...