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ThisisIkemefuna:
Talk to me about your Canada and US number for verification

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confirm guy with d real number , just chikini money

Please house anyone with canada number for prolly verification, please quote me

zionmde:
And their students have not invented a single ventilator or found cure for COVID 19 after all d 4.5Millions?

waste of money

you think thats a waste of money no, wait until this children come out, the connection is what the parent are paying for

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

my brother well done , God don save you, if you have a chance just get ur child to be with you, God just show you that your woman cant cope with you when you are down

there is no love btw two of you she just find out that when you go broke with no hope

Babawale01:
How did you get the hold account lifted Bros.

All my 6 account is on hold bro.. Pleas help

actually some people advise that we should not contact the support but I do, after some days my account is normal and i even have a survey too wish is yesterday

before you contact them you need to relax your nerve and compose your statement properly

Notyamate:
Mehn Abacha truly swallow the whole of Nigeria o. Imagine even after his death they are still recovering the money he looted.

Madam, to me ooh, the best president that we have in this country is still Abacha, ever since his death, all the democrat elect goverment have been on his pay roll,

Because I believe a good father save up for the unborn children for 20 years plus, Nigeria has been receiving this and that on his name, and to what benefit is such money to common man,

this show us that all our new days past and present govt or presd are worst than abacha

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am not a religious person, but if we look into this very well this is term JIZYA in Islamic state, because when talk about tax payer in Nigeria I can boldly say 90% tax that Nigeria has to day only comes from the south area,

did anybody wonder why no one mention the distribution company in the North？

I know some of my muslim kinsmen here in southwest we try to deny this, but wait find sometime to go to North, no matter how grounded you are in Quran you will never be allow to lead prayer

even the so called Muric president will not be allow all because southwest Muslim are consider to be second class Muslim

Rich4god:
Forget all these talk. Na person wey get food dey stay for house. All the citizens that can't eat except they come out to hustle for the day, what do you want them to do.

Before you blame the citizens for not staying at home, blame the govt for not providing palliative.

SIR /MA, even almighty france and Italy no give out palliatives, we should be guided, if boko haram guys are present in KANO town would you see anybody out, let reason with our mind, if you like come out and die, if you like stay at home the choice is yours from the south here how many palliative do you receive all naa audio palliative, our government only think with their ANUS, all their mind is on Money, so far gandola don see what was given to Sanwolu in Lagos problem don start, North must get their own share

Bonapart:
This evil man Is a disgrace to anything that breath.
Yorubas in the house, you wanna tell me you cant see that this man is mole in yoruba land. The earlier y'all wake up the better for you!

please just ignore the stupid man, atleast there is always judas among twelve

MISTAICEY02288:
Nice one.. More grease to their elbow.. Imagine private organizations doing what the government is supposed to be doing. Really shameful..

are they not the same private organisation that keep bribing the federal character in order for the policy to favour them, and also make sure that federal or states do not compete with them, like NEPA and DISCO, DANGOTE and NIGERIAL MILLS and many more

if they like they should let the country collapse, they all depend on the buying power of all Nigerian

Noerection:
Why Ibo are rejoicing over Abba Kyari's death?
Nnamdi Cownu parents died like chicken without befitting burials.

please sir / ma, i dont know you from anywhere, please and please let be guided , death is death, there is nothing like befitting burial all naa magort food, he will face his own judgement, and let focus on ours, dont mean to.insult , let respect the dead, we are all guilty of this

dallyemmy:
If we had completed our national identity it would be easy to ascertain the people who fall below the poverty line based on the data.

Moreover, people's conditions can equally change from time to time. It is not fixed.

we dont need the national Identity stuff it a scam, imagine when bvn was introduce, if we need data of all people in Nigeria today just ask everyone to have bank account and promise dem 20k for opening the acct even aboki go do it

austin4real:
They even completely exempted Ogun state in that list Abi Na my eye.. plz someone point where Ogun state is in that list

no need to poin, Ogun state is not on the list

Esseite:
The list...

it be like ogun state is not part of this country on this one

Haymaykar:
Fellow Nairalanders so I have been wondering if salaries are going to be paid during these Lockdown.. Because some these firms depend on the money they make from their customers in which they use In paying their workers salary..

So share your option of you think salaries are going to be paid..

not all privete owned company will pay but am sure of where I work even during the last recession the company still do salary review, so it sure die for the payment even if the lock down continue

IdioticNLmods:
If coronavirus is caused by 5G then why do we have cases here in Nigeria? Do we even have 4G, talk more of 5G?
Make una no vex me this night.. Been on lockdown for days with no pussy.

there is a testing on 5G in lagos and ABUJA around late last year, if you check the number of victim in Lagos and Abuja it kinda on increase

Feranchek:
Good morning house. For over 6 months now, my penis has been itching me. I've been to different hospitals for help (BABCOCK teaching hospital inclusive). I've also tried different pharmaceutical stores around me, yet no solution. I'm deeply worried.

PLEASE doctors in the house, what help can you render a brother here. Thanks for your assistance.

Anonymous.

Mods please push this to front page to further help his condition.

try this cream, Hydrocortisone BP 1% apply it morning and night it just 400 naira for my area here

Jayjezey:
Nah, his execution wasn't ordered immediately, he wanted escaping to go see his people and that was a threat to national security.

And if all borders were to be shut down, please tell me how Nigeria will have it's share of the virus?? Do we have researchers that are currently working on the virus in a lab and with a propensity to leak it out to the public??
Nah bro, Nigerian wouldn't have been in such a dilemma, had borders been shut down much earlier

you and me know that the only boarder will claim to shutdown will be the one at the southwest, what about the hundreds of such in the north my brother, there some hiden one around the northern area that upto today things are going in and coming out ...... what will be will be, even no case of covid-19 some government official will still cash out on it

Jayjezey:
Corona virus is in Nigeria today, no thanks to Buhari and his cohorts. Shutting down the borders in due time would have saved this country this dilemma. But here we are. North Korea is safe today despite sharing a border with China; why?? Coz they were able to shut down their borders in time.

But our clueless President (who knows that the country lacks the necessary equipments, manpower and skilled professionals to handle this pandemic effectively) didn't see the borders being left open as a threat.

AM sorry my brother, is not a matter of behaving like a north korea, dont wish for what you dont know anything about, the first person that has the virus on.landing at the airport president order his execution immediately. is that one a country, even if our government close all the boarder since last year, NIGERIA will still have the share of the virus

AroleOduduwa2:
If you know anything about Sagamu, you’ll know they are not cowards, if hin don happen hin don happen be that, some people have jazz they have kept for years, they will let it out so they can test it.

Naa so bro, among Remo Sagamu stand out, people should just try to remember the hit btw sagamu and the hausa fulani 1999 or 2000 no be today

Donaldoni:
True.

But the Christian is the son of the wife while the Muslim is the son of a slave maid... There lies the problem...

Are you there Forget about what you read thats why human being cant be God

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Bro my advice, if you accept the pregnant always have it at the back of your mind no way for marriage,
In short the Mother know what shes capable off so they want you to just carry away the burden for them,
You have your own life and destiny to fulfil. Don't let your matter end with a touching story
If you are alive thats when you can achieve something, a dead rat no fit piss inside garri

bigiyaro:
weaponised drone as how, is the drone carrying hell fire missiles? what kind of weapons?

It happen to be similar to what USA use to kill the head of Military in Iran, so without sending the soldier, from Lagos the military can attack sambisa forest bandit or militant

It work like the same drone use in shooting films but this one has capability of attaching bomb or any other military weapon on to it

Ustec:
What type of drugs and eyedrops are you using?

I use brinmonidin and later switch to Azopt bcause the later make me deezy

imhere:
Glaucoma is hereditary but can be treated with Vitamins. Have you heard of PurXcel product? You can google to see how it handles all eye related issues.
You call me if you are interested in the products 080 359 65 405
You can get your dad's eyes back again with this product.

Lie Lie please sir , i know you want to sell your market but dont mislead people here, is like you dont know what we are discussing here

Ustec:
What is the name of the eyedrops you're using?
I have a friend with a short sightedness.

Please and please dont confuse Glaucoma to any other eyes disease, let the person go for eyes test first then ophta, can now prescribe any eyes drop or it might be just ordinary eyes spectacle.

ghiloman28:
What the name of drug you using ... have been using Allergan (Aphagan product) ...

I use Brimonidin ( this one always make me deezy ) and later change to Azopt, with wider test every 6 month

Coder2Client:
Is there a time you stop using those drugs or it is going to be for life?

My brother if you need your eyes you dont stop, you continue using it,
Have been using it for the past 6 years now

For now no cure for glaucoma for now, but you can manage it with some eyes drops, am in my mid 30's and I have the so call glaucoma, dont fear it not going to take your eyes away, not untill you stop using your medication

Yes it cost intensive to treat it but it pay off, you have to spend minimum of 3k to 5k for eyes drop per month

princeSammyz:
Are the millions really real millions or e get as e be? Why do not not make Forbes richest men?

All because some people still pay their salary/wages only people that earn from personal business that Forbes tend to consentrate on

My advice if you really want a Nigerian Passport, dont go to Lagos, Abuja immigration office, better go to like of Osun, Ogun, and less patronised states

Octopusssy:
I cannot spend more than 55k on a phone in this Buhari era, and even that 55k will be with a lot of frowning and squeezing of pocket.

Then go for Huawei 9x or Realme X
Currently using realme x with alot of features with 55k u can get it on aliexpress but in Nigeria you can get them around 75 to 80k