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Maysdevices:
If it’s so inherent, why are men of today fighting their destiny so hard? Many are even turning to women to escape at a frightening rate. Some are using it as joke, some are downright serious about it.


This is because men and women approach relationships differently, being in relationship as a woman is completely different from what you can ever tolerate as a man. Women tolerate it because of MONEY, even a lacking man will tolerate a woman’s excesses if she builds him the way men build lowly women.

I am not against polygamy at all, all I’m trying to tell you is that real men don’t feel too Hot for ladies until money enters their accounts. Even the rich easily get bored of themselves and cheat.

What does that tell you? It is money that is polygamous and not your dick.

I read your comments twice and honestly don't understand your questions?

Why are men of today fighting their destiny so hard Destiny? Hard?


Many are even turning to women at a frightening rate? For what?

Maysdevices:
Man is irresponsible by nature because of their forced provider status, not some polygamous DNA strain


No person that provides wants to stay with one person, man or woman

It isn't forced, it inherent in men, to provide and protect. So is their nature to sample..

Why do you see men start thinking of marrying more wife or increase sampling when money comes their way? But for women, that's when they start saying I don't need a man, am free and independent?

You ask an interesting question.

Hatred is usually caused by mothers, and to some extent, fathers. Polygamy? The truth is, man is polygamous by nature; it's society that's trying to change the narrative. That's why you see baby mamas all over. If a man is capable, why accept his mistresses/baby mamas outside but restrict him from marrying them? Why shame the mothers outside? It should be encouraged, honestly. The benefits outweigh the shortcomings. It gives children legitimacy, secures the women in case of death, and more, which I won't delve into further.

The capacity of the man when it comes to managing two or more women is where the majority of the problems come from. On the women's side, the major problem is their inherent sense to protect their own, and this leads to jealousy and competition.

We first need to accept our shortcomings, then work out a way that protects All..

"After their mother left, we were quiet for a while, like characters in a suspenseful sitcom, all pondering, 'What's the deal here?' I swear, it felt like we were in some bizarre reality show. I was lost in my thoughts when suddenly Fabi blurts out 'our In-law' with a grin. We all turn to look, and there's Lami, trying to play it cool but failing miserably.

Then Fabi coughs, breaking the tension, and I realize I've somehow won Lami over. But before I can revel in my triumph, Fabi's like, 'Is this real?' And I'm like, 'I'm as baffled as you are!' Then she turns to Lami, and we all stare expectantly, but Lami's playing shy for the first time ever.

Things get awkward real quick. We went from carefree to 'Is this a soap opera?' in seconds. Fabi keeps trying to dig deeper, but Lami just smiles like she's got some secret sauce. Fabi, bless her curiosity, turns to me and drops this bombshell: 'Did you know Lami came back from Kene's and basically said, 'Nah, not feeling it'? She even begged us to crash at yours so she wouldn't have to deal with your toast.'"

"The mother clapped her hands, expressionless, and said, 'Ladi, I hope you understand what accepting this ring means?' Ladi replied, 'I think so.' 'So, what do you think it means?' her mother asked. 'Mum, I do,' Ladi responded. 'I hope you do,' the mother deadpanned.

She then went and sat beside Ladi, placing her hands on her shoulder, and said, 'These things are not done like this, my dear. We have traditions here with procedures for such matters. I'm just meeting this young man for the first time. I know his father has always called me his in-law, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't follow our traditions. Normally, both families must have agreed before such matters are brought up. We've never discussed this issue as a family. How do you want your father to feel, knowing his position on marrying outside?' Ladi didn't respond.

The mother turned to me and looked at me for a while, saying nothing. My mind went blank. I tried to say something, but couldn't think of what to say. Then she said, 'My young man, what's your name?' I told her my name is Yah. 'I can't believe we're discussing such matters on our first meeting,' she said. 'Anyway, for your information, we have our traditions here when it comes to such matters. But since she has accepted the ring, that means she has accepted you. However, as a family, we haven't discussed this matter before. You just ambushed me,' she exclaimed, raising her hands in the air. I don't know if it was the way she said it or the hopeless look on her face that made all of us start laughing, somehow easing the tension in the room.

She continued, 'As I was saying earlier, we have our traditions, and such matters need to be discussed within the family before we can respond as a family. So, please tell your parents we have received your message, and we will respond as soon as possible.' Without waiting for my response, she stood up and said, 'Let me go finish cooking your lunch.'"

“She took the ring from my hand and looked at it for a while, then looked straight into my eyes for a moment and said, ‘So you are serious?’ I didn’t know what to say, so I just smiled and she smiled too.

Neither of us spoke for a while as she continued to examine the ring. Then she asked, ‘Where did you get the ring from?’ Before I could answer, she said, ‘It looks unique and old.’ I explained that my mother gave it to me, that it’s the ring my father gave her when they got married. She remained silent for a while, then stood up and said, ‘Let me arrange something for you to eat.’ Before I could respond, she got up and left.

I was left alone in the parlor, wondering if I had moved too quickly. Then I noticed the ring on the chair where she had been sitting. Various negative thoughts started to flood my mind. Does she not like me? Does she already have someone else? I began to regret allowing my parents to push me into this situation, feeling confused about what to do.

As I was about to pick up the ring, I heard footsteps approaching the door she had gone out of. Thinking it was her, I sat back down. I heard a female voice say, ‘Good afternoon,’ but I could tell it wasn’t her voice. I turned and saw two young girls, the youngest of whom greeted me. I responded and exchanged pleasantries with them. The eldest girl mentioned that her younger sister had told her that I was Alhaji Baba’s son. I nodded, unsure of where this was heading. She introduced herself as Fabi, Ladi’s elder sister, and pointed to the younger girl, introducing her as Mami.

They sat in the seats opposite me, where Ladi had been sitting, and asked how my parents were doing, smiling. I told them they were doing well. Fabi then said, ‘Do you know your dad is a very funny man?’ I smiled and asked why she thought so. She laughed and said that since she was young, whenever he would visit, he would always call her his wife and tell her dad that he would marry her. She would always refuse, but one day when he came around and she was with Ladi, who was about 5 years old at the time, he called her his wife again. This time, Ladi said she would marry him because he always gave them gifts. He told her he was too old to marry her, but he had a son who would marry her. I smiled and told her that my dad had always told me he had a beautiful wife waiting for me, especially when he returned from a journey. We all burst out laughing.

I felt at ease chatting with Ladi’s elder sister. After a while, Ladi joined us, but I noticed she wasn’t saying anything and seemed preoccupied with finding something on the seat. She asked her sisters to stand up, and her elder sister asked what she was looking for. Ladi said she thought she left something on the seat. As soon as her youngest sister stood up, her elder sister saw the ring and asked, ‘Where did you get that from? Please let me see it.’ Ladi handed the ring to her elder sister. Fabi looked at it and said, ‘Wow, it’s beautiful. Where did you get it from?’ Ladi remained silent, ignoring her sister. Fabi looked at me with an inquisitive smile and asked, ‘Is it from you?’ I smiled and nodded. The youngest sister, who had been quiet the entire time, excitedly said, ‘Please please let see it.
As soon as Fabi handed over the ring to her, she stood up, running and shouting, “Mummy, mummy!” Ladi called out to her to come back, but she was already gone. I wondered how all of this would play out, feeling a bit confused. Fabi looked at me and asked, “What is it for? Is it a gift or something else?” with a smile on her face. I didn’t know how to respond, so I told her that it was for Ladi and she knows what it is for. Fabi then turned to Ladi and asked her the same questions, but Ladi remained silent, smiling.

While Fabi was still questioning us about the ring, their mother walked in with Mami. I stood up, greeted her, and we exchanged pleasantries. She asked me where I got the ring from. I explained that my mother gave it to me to give to Ladi. She remained quiet for a while, then turned towards Ladi and asked her, “Do you know what this ring means?” Ladi nodded in response. Their mother then asked, “And you accepted it without informing your parents?” Ladi stayed silent. She then looked at me and said, “But your mom knows that this ring is only given to a wife on the wedding day.” I didn’t know what to say at that moment. She continued, “I’m sure when their father comes back, you will get a response, young man. But for now, I suggest you keep the ring until you hear from us.” Before I could even think of a response, Ladi told her mother, “I have already accepted the ring...”

Wow, I never knew the level of hatred for Islam is this high in thiscountry?

When you take the numbers of Muslims killed and ramsomed by either BH or Herdmen, I don't think the Christian has lost a quarter of what the Muslims has lost.

Most here are practising the religion they are birthed into, which is not by their choice. So you birthed into a religion/tribe, what moral justification do you have to see the others as lesser beings? You can as well be that persons position if you were birthed there?

Therefore, we should think wisely before we condemn other, you can't see from their position of view, if you are slaved by myopic stereotype designed to capture your reasonings.

For God sake, we are first considered blacks, that's our identity, why allow others sentiments to becloud our reasoning, we should reawaken our minds..

It is important to think wisely and avoid condemning others based on narrow-minded stereotypes because:

1. Fairness and Justice: Condemning others based on stereotypes is unfair and unjust. It assumes that all individuals within a certain group are the same, disregarding their unique qualities, experiences, and perspectives. Treating people unfairly based on stereotypes perpetuates discrimination and inequality.

2. Empathy and Understanding: Thinking wisely allows us to cultivate empathy and understanding towards others. By putting ourselves in their shoes and considering their point of view, we can develop a deeper understanding of their experiences, challenges, and motivations. This helps foster compassion and promotes harmonious relationships.

3. Overcoming Bias: Narrow-minded stereotypes are often rooted in bias and ignorance. By challenging these stereotypes and actively seeking to understand others, we can overcome our own biases and preconceived notions. This allows us to engage in more meaningful and respectful interactions, breaking down barriers and building bridges between different communities.

4. Personal Growth: Thinking wisely and avoiding stereotypes is not only beneficial for others but also for our own personal growth. It expands our horizons, broadens our perspectives, and enhances our ability to critically analyze situations. By embracing diversity and inclusivity, we become more open-minded, adaptable, and tolerant individuals.

5. Building a Better Society: Condemning others based on narrow-minded stereotypes hinders social progress and cohesion. By thinking wisely and avoiding stereotypes, we contribute to the creation of a more inclusive, accepting, and harmonious society. This leads to stronger communities, where individuals can thrive and contribute their unique talents and perspectives.

In summary, thinking wisely and avoiding condemning others based on narrow-minded stereotypes promotes fairness, empathy, personal growth, and a more inclusive society. It allows us to break free from biases and embrace diversity, fostering understanding and respect among individuals from different backgrounds.

9th January, 2024

Dear Mr. President,
BOLA AHMED TINUBU, GCFR
ASO VILLA, ABUJA.

An OPEN LETTER..

IT’S TOO MUCH.... CORRUPTION
Mr President, Compliment of the season.
As a citizen of this country, I believe our major problem is CORRUPTION. As PMB said if we don’t kill it, it will kill Us. Many deaths in the country are directly or indirectly linked to Corruption.
The state of Institutionalised Corruption in governance can never allow any program succeed, because everyone want to take from the pie even before the program sees the light.
Institutionalised Corruption has been a persistent issue in Nigeria, hindering the country’s progress and development. To combat this pervasive problem, it is crucial to implement effective strategies and take decisive actions.
Mr President, the previous ADMISTRATION, FAILED, why, because corruption fought back, and the will wasn’t there, and nepotism (corruption) took the front stage.
Sir, we have honest and hard working Nigerians that are willing to serve. Most of the people seeking for appointments are majorly there to serve their personal interests.
Sir, if the only legacy you can leave behind, please let it be, here was the President that changed our destiny by fighting corruption squarely, RENEWED HOPE.
Your Excellency, I watched your wife on TV during the campaign and she said “God has blessed us, we are here to serve “ so you have no reason to fear, that fear is what that has held us from moving forward. The truth is that for you to succeed, you most be ready to sacrifice members of your inner caucus, family and friends. I believe money making wasn’t your desire when you came out, as your wife said you already blessed. RENEWED HOPE starts with fighting Corruption.
Mr President, appointments should be made on merit, anyone seeking for any appointment should come forward with his proposal or plans in that MDA. They should let you know what value they want to add and quarterly reporting of steps taking to achieve the goals.
You need to let them know that, they are here to make you succeed, if they are not ready, then flush them out. You should be ready for these sacrifices.
To achieve this your Excellency, we need to have a paradigm shift, to start with, we need pay a living wage. The truth is, with the present salary structure, it encourages corruption. As civil servant and citizens there should be some privileges that should cushion the salary. These can come in as free/subsidised Education, Health care and retirement benefits.
Below are steps that I believe if implemented will go a long way in reducing Corruption.

1. Strengthening Anti-Corruption Institutions:
One of the primary steps to combat corruption is to strengthen the existing anti-corruption institutions, such as the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) and the Independent Corrupt Practices and Other Related Offences Commission (ICPC). These institutions should be adequately funded, granted operational autonomy, and provided with the necessary resources to carry out their duties effectively. Additionally, there should be a clear framework for cooperation and coordination among these institutions to enhance their efficiency and effectiveness.
The police as an institute should have a major reorientation, they should know this battle starts with them.

2. Promoting Transparency and Accountability:
Transparency and accountability are crucial in the fight against corruption. The Nigerian government should prioritize the implementation of transparent governance systems and mechanisms. This includes ensuring public access to information, promoting financial transparency, and enforcing strict accountability measures for public officials. Whistleblower protection laws should be redesiged and strengthened to encourage individuals to report corruption without fear of reprisal.

3. Enhancing Legal Frameworks and Judicial Reforms:
To effectively combat corruption, Nigeria needs to enhance its legal frameworks and judicial systems. This involves enacting comprehensive anti-corruption laws and regulations that cover a wide range of corrupt practices. The legal system should provide for swift and fair trials of corruption cases, with no room for undue influence or manipulation. Strengthening the judiciary, ensuring the independence of judges, and increasing their capacity to handle corruption cases are also critical steps in this regard.

4. Fostering International Cooperation:
Corruption is a global issue, and combating it requires international cooperation. Nigeria should actively engage with international organizations, such as the United Nations and the African Union, to access technical expertise, share best practices, and collaborate on initiatives to fight corruption. International cooperation also includes extradition treaties and mutual legal assistance agreements to facilitate the repatriation of stolen assets and the prosecution of corrupt individuals.

5. Educating and Raising Public Awareness:
Education and public awareness play a vital role in fighting corruption. Efforts should be made to educate citizens, particularly the youth, about the detrimental effects of corruption on society and the economy. This can be done through school curricula, public campaigns, and community outreach programs. By promoting a culture of integrity and ethics, the society can actively reject corruption and demand accountability from public officials.

6. Embracing Technology and Innovation:
Leveraging technology and innovation can significantly contribute to the fight against corruption. Implementing e-governance systems, digitalizing public services, and using blockchain technology for transparent transactions can help reduce opportunities for corruption. Additionally, digital platforms can enable citizens to report corruption anonymously and provide real-time feedback on government services, enhancing transparency and accountability.

Technology and innovation can play a significant role in combating corruption in Nigeria. Here are some ways in which they can be utilized:

1. E-Governance Systems: Implementing e-governance systems can streamline government processes and reduce opportunities for corruption. Digitalizing public services, such as tax payments, license applications, and procurement processes, can minimize human intervention and create a transparent and efficient system. This reduces the scope for bribery and ensures that services are provided in a fair and accountable manner.

2. Digital Financial Transactions: Embracing digital payment systems can help reduce corruption in financial transactions. Encouraging the use of electronic payment methods, such as mobile money and online banking, can eliminate the need for cash transactions, which are more susceptible to corruption. It also creates a digital trail that can be easily audited, reducing the chances of embezzlement and bribery.


3. Blockchain Technology: Blockchain technology has the potential to revolutionize transparency and accountability in various sectors. Implementing blockchain in areas such as land registry, public procurement, and healthcare can provide an immutable and tamper-proof record of transactions. This eliminates the possibility of corruption and ensures that records are secure and transparent.

4. Whistleblower Platforms: Technology can facilitate anonymous reporting of corruption through dedicated whistleblowing platforms. These platforms can provide a safe and confidential space for individuals to report instances of corruption without fear of reprisal. By leveraging technology, whistleblowers can remain anonymous, and their reports can be securely transmitted to relevant authorities for investigation.

5. Data Analytics and AI: Data analytics and artificial intelligence (AI) can be used to detect patterns and anomalies that indicate potential corruption. By analyzing large volumes of data, AI algorithms can identify irregularities and suspicious activities that may go unnoticed by human investigators. This can help prioritize investigations and improve the efficiency of anti-corruption efforts.

6. Civic Engagement and Social Media: Technology, especially social media platforms, can empower citizens to actively engage in the fight against corruption. Social media can be used to raise awareness, share information, and mobilize public opinion against corrupt practices. Online platforms can also facilitate the organization of anti-corruption campaigns, protests, and petitions, putting pressure on authorities to take action.

Sir, It is important to note that while technology and innovation can be powerful tools in the fight against corruption, they are not a panacea. It is crucial to ensure that these technologies are implemented with proper safeguards, cybersecurity measures, and oversight to prevent their misuse. Additionally, efforts should be made to bridge the digital divide and ensure that all segments of society have access to these technological advancements.
CONCLUSION.
It is important to emphasize that tackling corruption requires a multi-faceted approach that involves collaboration between government, private sector, civil society, and citizens. The efforts should include legislative reforms, institutional strengthening, technological innovations, and a commitment to enforcing anti-corruption laws and policies no matter who the individual is.
Mr. President, if you fight this battle, you’ve fought more than half of our problems, other facets will automatically fall into place. We will now know Yes, The RENEWED HOPE is really real.
WE’VE SEEN YOUR FIRST STEPS, PLEASE CONTINUE, WE ARE TOTALLY BEHIND YOU, I PRAY YOU WILL HAVE THE COURAGE AND STRENGTH TO CONTINUE TO FIGHT THIS MONSTER, I PRAY NO BE INITIAL GRAGRA......
Respectively Yours,
Hasyak88@gmail.com

SalamRushdie:
Tinubu vis doing everything to frustrate the refinery so Oando can become the market leader

OMG, if people can think like this, then am sorry for the country...

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It suprises me. Strange enough, I have observed her conmunication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation. She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people. I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free. How can I deal with this?

Divorce her immediately, life is too short to live with negative people..

MSN1:
It's ONLY fools that think Peter Obi is d saviour they are looking for.
Common sense should tell u that,; these people are busy securing their children's and generations future while u kill yourselves for them.
You have ONLY one vote, make it count and let others breath.
Politics is a game of interest and my interest and conscience is; TO STAY VERY FAR FROM IT because ITS EVIL! Not Until the common citizens are ready to rise; AM NOT A FAN OF ANY POLITICIAN THAT ARE BUSY SECURING THEIR GENERATIONS FUTURE.
Wishing people death for telling u d truth goes a long way to reaffirm my point that Obidients are synonymous with FOOLISHNESS and if u think am for APC, PDP or others; THAT EQUATES TO BIGGER FOOLISHNESS!

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Ahmed0336:

Since your problem is Sex and your wife cannot meet up your demands I don't think the issue of divorce should be brought up.
Remember, there are children in the picture.
My take, since your dad prefer divorce to cheating, I'd advise you take a second wife and let the sleeping dog l..

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Reflect7:
THE FUNNY THING IS THAT THESE OBIDIENTS WERE SO HOSTILE TO OTHER PEOPLES AND REGIONS BEFORE THE ELECTIONS, YET THEY INSIST THAT THE SAME PEOPLE THEY WERE ABUSING DAILY AND CALLING ZOO ANIMALS ACTUALLY TROOPED OUT EN MASSE TO VOTE FOR THEIR CANDIDATE.

I HAVE NEVER SEEN SUCH A DELUDED SET OF PEOPLE.

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I had a meeting with an Asian in Nigeria. While we were discussing, the issue of corruption came up, and he said Nigerians are "honestly corrupt " I asked him what do you mean?? He then said, if you give a bribe to a Nigerian, s/he will at least try to do what you want.

He said in his country they will collect your money and still deal with you and you can't complain?

maak400:
Peter Obi said politicians that do not have anything good to offer usually promote division and tribal bigotry. That is what has happened down the years and is now heavily fuelled by Tinubu's greedy ambition. Unfortunately, there's no way back from this cesspool and the future is grim for Nigeria. Like you always say, japa is the best option right now.

Did you hear where Obi was saying "Yes Daddy ", was that promoting unity?

YouAreFinished:
If this massacre happened in sambisa forest we'd feel some momentum. 103 people vanishes overnight in a cosmopolitan city like Lagos...they have no bodies,no friends or families,no co-workers,no neighbors,no pictures or videos . How can people be this gullible.
The day ipob got involved in this endsars was when I knew it was now about to turn into a clownery of ludicrous lies.

+7.7

This young couple are having a serious fight to the extent the wife was packing her things that she's leaving and neighbours where there trying to plead with them to calm down, and both insisting it's over.

While the wife was busy bringing her things out of the house, insulting themselves anytime she passes by, at a stage while she was passing in front of him, he now said "see her natsh" she turn and said "you like am" he then nodded, na so everyone bursted out lol and fighting finish...

If we don't allow these people go in peace, we will be hated all over the world, JUST LET THEM GOOOOO..

Jt seems you guys eyes don dey open now, when i said this guyman dey press una mumu button, una say na lie na una in-law, indeed...

GOOD MORNING, Day don break..

I now appreciate why IBB removed Buhari then, he saw in him what we couldn't see?

limeta:
Believe is not a fact
Now see what you done to 200 million people
About 300.000 dead 250 million suffering all because you Believe.

Ma benu

I would have dead with the Believe he was the Messiah? At least fight Corruption

mrvitalis:
Lmfao this election loss pain this one

From your logic Igbos should have not supported obi ...we should have supported Tinubu a known corrupt drug baron ...so that what would happen ?


Everyone knows what obi can bring to an alliance ... without contesting he would never have this respect he has now ....obi won this election hands down n the political class know ....even if obi fails to regain his mandate

Tinubu would perform woefully

Politicians would be begging to form alliance with Obi



Now chimaroke should tell us what he achieved for igboland

How did he win the election?

TonyElumelu:
I decided to join this forum on my 60th birthday today because i wanted a place where I could be more close to the people of Nigeria, a place where I could liaise directly with Nigerians and get to understand them and their problems better. An employee of mine recommended this forum to me a week ago emphasising that there is no other place more Nigerian than this. And I must confess, I am really impressed so far. I would do my best to communicate seamlessly with everyone. Please wish me a happy 60th birthday


Tony O. Elumelu

HBD and best wishes always...

Your experience here ??

kingzizzy:
FFK said a lot of terrible things about Igbos, he blamed them for the first coup and even said that the Igbos wanted to take over "Nigerias Oil"

He also claimed that Bianca Ojukwu used to be his girlfriend, who cares? Even I writting this can claim to have once been Remi Tinubu's lover, how many people would care?

The only resonating factor with FFK is that he has come to see what Ojukwu saw a long time ago. That Nigeria cannot work as a nation

Hausa/Yoruba/Igbo do not love each other, so where is this Nigerian nation going to come from? The grave of Lord Lugard?

Gudu morning

sreamsense:
Obi won Tinubu in Lagos with about 10,000 votes, Atiku won Tinubu in Osun with about 9000 votes. That suggests to you that obi only escaped with winning at very close marching in those 11 LGs. You have your agents who signed counted votes at polling units, keep monitoring votes written down at polling units which they monitored up to collation centers, if results did not tally, wouldn't they have been making noise by now. INEC portal is now open to go and confirm and call your agents if what they recorded differ. If they are different, pile them up for tribunal, how is that difficult? Learn to be a good looser.

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michlins:
Honestly, this is a very dicey situation. There's no right or wrong situation here.

While you're protecting yourself from unwarranted financial burden, the orphans will be taken care of. Your wife is looking at the kids as her own blood and no one will want his or her own to suffer

Reporting the man to welfare means nothing. I don't have any advice for you brother.

But in all honesty, take the twins, you won't die.


MODIFIED

Ok, here's the truth. If you were the one whose nephews and nieces are in this unfortunate situation, you will accuse your wife for being wicked.

And you see all these people encouraging you not to accept them,if it happens to them, they will pack all the kids.

Life has a way of taking care of itself. I don talk finish

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Kobojunkie:
1. Is the phone meant to be some sort of leash on her? Phone etiquette is that if you try to reach someone and the person is unavailable, you allow the person to call you back when the person is able to. According to your story, she explained that there was a power outage, and she couldn't charge the phone. So what exactly what she supposed to apologize to you for?

2. Is the name she saves your number on her phone part of your marriage agreement or something? Why does it matter if she saves your number under "Douchbag"?

3. You need to get yourself to a professional anger management class first. This new year, please endeavor to get a book on logical/critical reasoning/thinking so you can grow your mind and as such become able to logically analyze your decisions, and the world around you, including your relationships for yourself. I recommend the book Being Logical. However, any other text that sufficiently teaches you how to critically reason day-to-day issues out will work too. the key is to put into regular(continuous) practice what you learn so you become a more logical being than you are today.

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PeacefulAdult:
Omo very true.. if I loose this job , I don't think I have plans for the future. All because of gambling

Confirm?

Blessedmercy8:
There's nothing like wickedness there. Men should learn to control themselves or at least take their sex partner for HIV test before sleeping with them.

A man can not stay on his own and a lady will just come and force herself on him and infect him. But because they always want it sharp sharp before even thinking, that is why they fall. Only loose men fall into such traps.

Self discipline and selfcontrol are two very key virtues every one must have.

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