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I see many single old ladies who never married before jumping on this thread to give advice about what they have no experience in.

OP, be careful of them. They cannot give you what they don't have.

If she is sexually attracted to you naturally, then you can work on stimulating her mentally first. Then stimulate her bodily using right techniques with your fingers and tongue.

You can also work and improve your techniques to psychologically and physically stimulate her with time and see improved responses from her.

BUT If she is not sexually attracted to you, nothing will work.

The truth is that the girl is not attracted to you. Take it from an elder here.

Sex starts from the head for women. Her psychy must first be sexually attracted to you before you can get her to respond to you to the point of being wet. All the nerves in that kumtus are wired to her brain.

Sexual stimulation start from the brain. A woman must first find you sexually attractive, be in a good frame of mind, not stressed to respond to your touch.

I say touch because if all the above are in place mentally, they will even become wet just by touching them.

If mentally she is good with you and herself, then you must make sure you learn how to touch a woman. How to use your tongue, fingers and the gbola. It is also a turn off for them when you are not doing it correctly and many of them will not tell you.

Trash news from Headquarters of democratic party fake news. CNN.

I refuse to be infected with CNNism. A serious brainwashing disease from fake news CNN.

Jew man Zelensky should be removed as the president. He is a sellout. He used Ukrainian people to enrich himself through Biden and democrats proxy war.

A true son of the soil will not allow his people to be slaughtered in thousands in a war he cannot win.

Even though the lady looks like she has been tested and seems loyal which is very rare to find in ladies nowadays, I will advise you buy property in your kids names, and put your kids as next of kin too.

You can also setup your woman in a business, so that she can be self sufficient too.

Putting all your property and money in your woman's name is too much of a big risk.

Very good. American people voted correctly in the last election.

These are the lunatics leading democrats party.

Exactly.

Also there are many mentally unstable people in Nairaland, both males and females.

There is no sense in arguing with a faceless person.

This 71year old FIL is a disgrace to elders.

It's true that even fools will get old. This is a typical example.

A man that cannot maintain a stable marriage cannot help his daughter to maintain one.

This man divorce cases and child support cases are also publicly available in the US.

He is a useless old fool.

GloriousGbola:
you can screencap and upload

Hopefully, the screenshots will show...

GloriousGbola:
link is blocked for some reason

but what you have posted invalidates the story the family and bloggers have been sharing

that the guy was being strangled by a hungry gold digger.

i can only assume he snapped after being served divorce papers or maybe finding his wife has moved on and is dating again.

Or I think it is blocked because of IP address issue.

I am looking at the case file on that website. Any other person in the US should try to check that link and look at the case file.

1. It is a Custody case and not a divorce case.
2. Case started on Feb 18, 2022
3. As usual in such cases, court will issue temporary order of support while the case is ongoing. This temporary order was issued on August 31, 2022 called Pendente Lite Order. This can cover temporary child support amount.
4. In their case, court also issued more orders on child support on March 27 and 30, 2023.
5. These are the temporary child supports that the FIL screenshot and they are obviously more than 1900.
6. Court issued final order on the Custody and Child Support on January 27, 2025 and closed the case. This final order of support we don't know how much it is.
7. Ikenna killed himself on January 26, 2025 after learning of the outcome of their court hearing of January 21 and 22, 2025.

GloriousGbola:
child support is $1900 per month

at the minimum, you pay child support until your child is 18 years

from the documents they have been separated since august 2023.

this is simple maths

has he paid child support of 15 to 16 months

why do you think the FIL was calling him a deadbeat?

1900 is not material to the late dr.

Go back to the screenshot uploaded by the FIL. You will see 2 payments in October 2024 total of 3668 dollars, 4 payments in July 2024, total of 4550 dollars, 2 payments in September 2024, total of 4000 dollars. Going by this, I can say the total monthly temporary child support was not 1900 dollars.

I called it temporary child support because the final order of child support was issued on January 27, 2025.

Go to this link below, and use case number C13FM22000282 to see that final child support order was issued on January 27 2025.

https://casesearch.courts.state.md.us/casesearch/inquiry-search.jsp

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GloriousGbola:
the man did not lose any license . i googled him and his wife.

this is the latest from the Dad

i had said before that everything about this story is documented

in the

is the reputation of the guy that will be smeared in the mud

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2025/2/he-klled-himself-to-avoid-paying-1900-francis-van-lare-alleges-his-daughters-partner-who-took-his-life-was-a-dead-beat-dad-denies-report-of-15k-per-month-child-support.html

$1900 not 15k because he has a special needs son
he was asked to pay child support , not alimony because the daughter is self sufficient
he had restraining orders

Going by the evidence posted by Linda. The temporary child support is not 1900. You can go through it. For example, he paid twice in October 2024 to a total of 3668 dollars.

This is temporary order. I have checked their case online and I saw the court ordered final support amount on January 27, 2025.

We don't know how much is this final order.

Once the victim is a man. Women and the world will still blame him

Reverse the case, let the victim becomes a woman, the world will have sympathy.

Lesson here to men is this.

Stop marrying or having children with women whose income are far less than yours.

The court awarded that 15k dollars to the man because the woman's income is far less than his.

Date any woman, f.uck broke ones or those with low incomes compared to you with c.ondoms. BUT NEVER HAVE A CHILD WITH THEM OR MARRY THEM.

When you are ready to have a child or marry, choose the one with income close to yours.

Marry or have children with your class. Period.

This is father of the wife/baby mama of Ikenna Erinne MD, the doctor that committed suicide in Maryland, US over 15000 dollars monthly child support.

Toxic feminists are avoiding this thread because they are happy that their member fully got this man.

This news is from the HQ of Fake News Network.

It is mostly likely possibly probably fake.

Kobojunkie:
Let's all be for dispelling myths than propagating them abeg! This is 2025.

Please can you allow people to drop their opinions? Everyone must not have similar opinions. We must not all agree on everything. We all learn everyday. Everything is not arguments. When we allow other opinions, we learn.

This person has brought an important struggle. The least we want to do is to derail this thread to arguments and forcing of opinions on others or the OP.

Only Virgin should be looking for a Virgin to marry.

Marrying a Virgin does not dictate whether you will enjoy your marriage with the person or not. It guarantees nothing special in the marriage.

At the same time, I don't support rewarding a prostitute with marriage.

Madam, this your matter is beyond the brains of many people here.

Go and seek advice from elderly people in your life.

12inchess:
No.its more mental and no physical symptoms

People will give you various opinions based on their perspectives and experiences. Please take a survey of the suggestions and go with ideas that have more people on them.

A lot of Nigerians have felt loneliness at one point or the other in the US and they were able to manage it without becoming depressed and if, without taking antidepressants.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to him. I took anti-depressants for many years and I can swear by them any day that they were the best things that ever happened to me as the depressed soul I was before it all.

By the way, antidepressants are not meant to "solve the problem". Rather, they are to help people with mental illness manage their condition so that they can live a life that at least comes close to the one they prefer. Give them more control over an otherwise uncontrollable situation that is mental illness. If the mental illness is there for all of your life, what would you rather the mentally ill do? Refuse to use what is at least available to help them live a more comfortable life.

I am not lieing to him. I just dropped my observation. And you further buttress my observation in your reply.

He needs more outdoors, sun and gratefulness.

Unfortunately. The case cannot be won. It's just a waste of time and money.

The daughter will have to find another way to get a green card.

Tohsynetita1:
Why are you taking antidepressants?

Exactly. Those American antidepressants hardly solve the problem. They are just there to manage it for the rest of your life, if they don't even make your situation more worse.

I am not a doctor but this is my observation in the US.

And on being happy generally. You need to find ways to be grateful for what you have and what you have accomplished in life. Think of millions of people that are behind you and praying daily to be where you are.

Think of where you are coming from, where you are now and use that as a way to motivate yourself.

You have a wife, good job, good home, you are legal in the US etc. I am sure there are many you can look inwards to.

There are many Nigerians that are praying daily to be like you even in this US.

12inchess:
I'm based in Ohio

Okay. About the general loneliness. I will suggest you try to connect with some Nigerian groups in Ohio, or some other black African groups. They are there in Ohio. You can do a search in Facebook for them. Connect with them, go for their functions and meetings. You can take it from there.

2. You and your wife should try and have an outing activity at least per week. Outing can be visiting new places, going to outdoor exercises like hiking, going to watch sports events, etc.

3. You and your wife can also had traveling within Ohio and the US.

4. My philosophy on depression in the US is to get more outdoors. It works wonders. Try to replicate that our naija life as much as possible.

5. People have suggested churches too. You can start going to church to build some support base and not to be religious.

12inchess:
I'm no longer very religious.

What city are you based? I think you can pull through.

I am based here too and I understand the loneliness part you are talking about.

Unfortunate, they have no case. He was informed of denied I485. Once 485 is denied, 130 is also dead by default.

Akpaamunsi:
This thread is a nonsense thread. Marriage wey go work go work; the one wey go fail go fail. Abroad doesn't determine anything. Mods close the thread, abeg.

Statistics disagree with you.

There are fundamental problems with Made in Nigeria marriages taken to abroad.