₦airaland Forum

dollytino4real:
Not the salary dat matas, does he give happily? He can earn one billion and can not give

You need both Jesus and Mohammed together with their mothers and all the disciples to join hands and pray for you.

Tolexander:
He was sent on loan back to CSKA Moscow for the remaining half of last season.
He is back now to Leicester City FC training. I feel Leicester City will like to retain him, based on his performance in the world cup, coupled with the fact that Riyad Mahrez has left for Manchester City FC. Musa if he lives up to his performance and being consistent will likely fit in to the boots Mahrez left behind, like Wilfried Ndiddi to N'golo Kante.

Honestly, I would have preferred having Musa stay back and play in the EPL but unfortunately, Leicester is not good for him.

Musa started playing well again the moment he went back to CSKA. Such spontaneous resuscitation only confirms that Leicester is bad for his career.

Some clubs and certain plays don't ever mix well irrespective of his quality. It happened to Torres at Chelsea until he went back to Athletico.

NOC1:
“However, it must be noted that the suspect was roughened up a bit by a mob. For him now to turn around to put any form of blame on the F-SARS men who worked hard to recover the stolen bag is most unfortunate.

The bolded statement by the policeman is highly provocative and insulting to a sound mind. Does he know thr definition of stolen, what is the correlation between misplaced/forgotten and steal?
In a working country the woman will be on her knees begging the cab man.

You must understand that in Nigeria, we have stupid and unintelligent fools in sensitive positions starting from the president. They don't understand that any single word from their mouth is important.

Imagine an image maker of an organisation not knowing the difference between a stolen and a lost bag.

malificent:
If only someone understood..

One thing you have to understand is that-----NOBODY (aside your parents and blood siblings) truly cares about anybody in this country.

Even if this man spelt it out that he wants to die, the highest he can receive is prayers and religious motivational speakers.

Nobody will reach out to him.

You were born 1938 and you graduated from UI in 1979, how then did you serve (NYSC) at the age of 41?

NYSC age limit is 30.

But continue, we are listening.

Pidginwhisper:
Do you need Someone to tell you NERC and Discos are now working hand in hand. Gone are those days when NERC will take up your case, but these days NERC is fully behind Discos as "Corruption is fighting back" .

If the house adjacent your house dey pay wella, my bro Just tap current and start contributing lil token of their own billing.

But from the story, he never went to NERC.

AbujaNigeria:
Call 07042994249

Bros, please assist me with a job in Abuja. I will really appreciate.

I am a B.Sc holder and a licensed driver.

Impressive

doctorexcel:
What about BOMBOY Of oshodi

I think Bomboy is the greatest of them all. He was in control of the whole of Oshodi and Mushin axis. Talo and MC were his boys.

But he is dead now.

docadams:
"...was charged on the two-count information of conspiracy and unlawful killing.
Our police self, which one come be unawful killing? Oga police I need to know because since yesterday, I have been in the mood for something...

There is a lawful and unlawful killing.

bjayx:
Tall looks cool than short ofcos, who wants a short man for a hubby Its normal

Oshomole comes to mind with his tall and extremely beautiful wife.

jaxxy:
Totally ridiculous to me. There are risks in every business. This is office abuse and intimidation. I don't believe this story.

In my bank, you must visit the prisons before you graduate from training school.

sarrki:
Igbokwe I am with you all the way

You are a patriot

You are just an inconsequential boko haram bomb carrying member

donstan18:
Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

From your comment, I assume you may not be married.

Your assertion is not totally correct. You must realize that marriage involves two people. Many marriages broken as a result of third party interference, has never been the fault of BOTH couple.

Imagine where the wife is always been controlled by the mother. So, can you blame the breakdown of such a marriage in the man?

Only very few ladies whose mothers are alive, are able to ward off the cord of control. Most see it as their mother being too caring about them.

nanakgh:
Well the article itself isn't as offensive as the heading suggests. She does make a few good points, but I personally believe these things are to be judged on an individual basis. Plenty criminals were raised in homes with both parents

Yes children trained by both parents can become criminals but MAJORITY of criminals were raised by single parents (mum or dad).

TonyeBarcanista:
My brother, I am sure the husband is not a mad man to wake up one Morning to utter that statement (asking her to leave the house). Something must have transpired! The OP FAILED to tell us the things she said to him before it got to that stage.

Now, sometimes when people are angry they utter words they don't mean. I agree though that we are duty bound to watch our words at the height of anger.

My brother, no good wife will act the way the OP did.

If I was the husband I will leave the house to rent or build another. I will not bother whether she changes the name or not

I agree with you on the woman NOT being exactly what a man should pray to have.

She even captioned this post "my husband's PRIDE is destroying our home" and she sees nothing wrong in either her actions or at such derogatory remarks. It tells a lot about her character at home.

Saintmary:
Upon re-reading the original post, I observed that the husband's share was used for his parents, not specifically to build a house as I supposed. I am not impossible.

Honestly, I am touched by your extremely mature response. Keep this attitude, it will take you places.

I have noticed a dangerous trend in the social media, particularly amongst Nigerian women

The moment a woman shares her marital challenges, you will find fellow women either encouraging her to leave the marriage or offering advice that is intended to finally collapse the union if implemented.

The fact is majority of these women are embittered divorcees or circumstantial baby mamas. They just hate ALL men perhaps because of their bad experiences.

If you make a post on how you are enjoying your marriage, they will never comment.

Wives please be wise. No marriage is without challenges, the difference is how you handle them. A wise woman buildeth her home.

Saintmary:
The husband built his own house in the name of his parents, how does that spell trust for the wife, are you saying one sided trust can sustain a marriage?

Do you know this family personally or where did you get this information that is never on the post?

You read one thing and propagate what you imagined in your mind.

You are just impossible.

TonyeBarcanista:
Having gone through this thread this is what I can deduce:

1. You and Your husband did business.

(You failed to say many percent much each person contributed to the business and the sharing percentage.)

2. Your husband's dad had ailment and some family issues, he used his own "share" (according to you) to take care of his family's pressing needs, which you FULLY agreed with him.

(You failed to say that your husband has been also taking Care of your family. You also failed to say how much he gave your family from his alleged share)

3. You used your own "share" to buy a property (Please you didnt clarify whether you Bought a land and your husband added his money to build it or it was an already built property)

4. You made the property in YOUR NAME without informing your husband

(Without informing him)

5. On a heated argument he asked you to leave (which he might not have meant) only for you to tell him that the house is in your name not his.

Meanwhile, he's the one working hard to taking care of the family.

6. You expect him to be happy?


My Dear, if I wear your husband I'll move out of the house and rent a smaller apartment without even asking you to change the name to mine. Keep the house to yourself.


NB: I am 600% certain that his own version will be different

Your submission is excellent. More so as you perfectly captured the exact picture even from her lopsided submission alone.

However, I got to number 5 and I felt the need to draw our attention to something that has destroyed relationships than any other factors.

What is that thing? CHOICE OF WORDS IN ANGER.

I believe that most people don't understand that negative words stay as long as a person to whom it is directed is alive. After moments of anger, people feel the words uttered more than the actions and it keeps ringing.

You believed that the man might not have meant it when he told the wife to pack out. Now this statement has kept the woman alert and curiously suspicious-----who wouldn't be.

Again, it's the height of irresponsibility and ignorance for a spouse to ask another to leave the house they jointly own by virtue of being married.

We must learn to be mindful of what we say when angry. Nothing destroys relationships more than hurtful words.

HEseesall:
When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly,

Madam, whether both of you continue to stay together or not, this union is badly damaged and almost irretrievably so.

So, in your best interest, start making plans on how to live without your husband.

And I must advise you to be careful with changing the document because you may regret it later. Don't even contemplate changing it "to restore peace in the family" because peace is extremely expensive in your marriage henceforth.

12inches1:
Finally!!! Someone with an iota of sense. We all know that most times in Nigeria that it is men that spend most on the family expenses. In fact let me paint a better scenario of what is happening here. Husband and wife have a joint savings(possibly and probably the husband is even putting down way more because he earns more). Let's say husbands puts down 6 million as the head of the family and wife puts down 2 million. Who brings up the business idea?Possibly the husband or maybe the wife. Now they do the business and then make 3 million naira in profit. Note that the husband is still the one primarily spending on the family. Now the husband runs into financial crises and he also needs to help his family. He has also been the one taking care of the wife's family and paying rent and children school fees. So, because of this many expenses he can't embark on buying the land right now. He does what he has to do and spends his own agreed part of the money on his parents and family expenses. The wife doesnt agree with him spending so much on his parents (though she has not mentioned how much he has been spending on her own parents as a good in law and also living expenses like rent etc) The wife uses her own "part" (agreed part) of the interest from the investment in buying the land. Husband does not mind. After all, it is one family and one love. Husband keeps investing in the building project till its complete. because he believes Shebi it is family property. But Mrs owns the land and bought it in her name. Sneaky woman. Now they have an argument and out of annoyance husband tells her to leave only to discover that Mrs has sneakily had the entire property in her name all along. Husband is furious and feels cheated and betrayed. Who wouldn't be? Now Mrs is here on Nairaland asking if what she did was fair. You yourself do you think it is?? That is why I'm a supporter of sharing everything in marriage both interests and expenses based on how much each person has put in to the extent possible. Madam you know what to do. The name on the property shouldn't have been only in your name in the first place because it's a joint investment. You only solely paid for the land.

I agree with you totally.

LewsTherin:
I both agree and disagree with this at the same time. Wierd, huh?

From the onset, yes. She should have made it a joint filing. I believe all property bought in a marriage should be jointly owned. Heck from the start, I would mot have “shared” the money in the first place. We would have used it jointly. That's what I do in my marriage. There is no his and her money. There is only our money. May be easier for me as we run a business together but hey, that's just me.

But seeing what has come out of this decision howbeit only from her side of the story, imagine what would have happened if the property was jointly owned. From the little I know, a Nigerian man can still kick his wife out of a house they jointly own. Tradition being stronger than law here. It will be said that even though both names are on the deed, he is still the husband and head of the house and still owns the house. Lawyers would be needed to untangle the mess.

I may be wrong but that's what I understand.

The only reason I won't be blaming you is simply because----you chose to and are reacting based entirely on what she submitted.

Having handled numerous family law cases, I can see the flaws in her submission and it's not difficult when you listen more to what she is not saying than what she chose to say. With due respect to her, she hasn't told us exactly what transpired.

However, let me draw your attention to likely possibilities which may also be close to her husband's version----supposing we get that.

1. The business was done with both of them contributing money together not as partners (two different people coming together for the purposes of a business venture) but as a family unit with a specific target----building a house. So, the total money realized belongs to the family as husband and wife. Nobody therefore has a separate share.

2. What this woman is referring to 'his own share for his family' was money both of them agreed to spend the way it was spent. I am sure you noticed when she said ""I had no problems with that". So it was expended on mutual consent. They made "so much" money than expected such that they could build the house and attend to other needs. The money was never shared in reality.

3. This man believed all along as "they" (you must gave observed also when she said they built the house together) were building the house that the document was probably in his name as the man of the family.

4. This woman knew she was wrong to have used only her name for a family property and so, she shielded the document away from the man. There is a huge possibility that she was more available than her husband to supervise the project and she used the advantage to manipulate the process.

I understand the man's anger sufficiently and I can tell you that this man has trusted his family all along until he realized this shocking development.

The man is feeling betrayed and I can tell you that this family CAN'T be the same again.

The foregoing notwithstanding, my advice to this woman is to NEVER change the document to ONLY the man's name. In fact that is even wrong in the first place. The property belongs to both of them (the family) as long as it was built during the period the are legally husband and wife, irrespective of who brought the money.

Lastly, it's a painful fact that this marriage has ended. They may or may not go the way of divorce but truly there is no marriage between them aside the marriage certificate.

They are already divorced and are only still together solely because of their children. Notice when the woman said "we have kids together".

Although I am making my submission based on her story and my observations as I haven't heard from the man for a balanced view. But if this man truly told her to "pack out of HIS house" then he is absolutely irresponsible and dangerously ignorant, no matter the provocation. The house (in a marriage) belongs to both of them equally.

So, this woman should begin to prepare herself to be able to live without the man because that is an inevitable reality-----sooner or later but definitely.

AkupeMBANO:
must it always be Naija? Senegal, morroco and other African nations where also there at Russia, why always my country the embarrassment is terrible

You are probably getting this news because you are in Nigeria. Other countries have their different stories and you may or may not hear them.

Now, the fact that you haven't heard what they did, does not automatically mean that they have no stories therein.

affable4:
There is an unwritten code of conduct while fighting as a couple- DON'T CALL NAMES.

The issue may be settled later, but the feeling that comes with that name sticks. Right now, all that is discussed is the name called and not what led to the fight.

And if you are mad enough to call names, do it indoors, just to the hearing of your partner alone. There is a chance of been forgiven.

But in public is a no no. Your partner would want to prove to people that he/she got some guts too.

Be wise. Control your tongue.

This is certainly coming from a mature mind. More grace to you.

zicoraads:
Why do guys think it normal to 'reward' ladies who dated them when they were not rich? I don't get it, was she doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you?

It has become commonplace to read about rewards, car gifts especially, purchased by guys as rewards for ladies who they were in a relationship with when they were poor. I think in constantly doing that, guys are making it look abnormal, the idea, that a lady is supposed to stick with her man, come rain or shine.

She wasn't doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you. No one is doing you a favour by being in one with you now. Whether it ended or not, you owe her nothing for that period the both of you were dating.

Guys should stop making it seem like dating a particular lady is a privilege they don't deserve.

You totally misunderstood the reason behind such acts of appreciation and that is why you have wrongly termed it REWARD instead of what it really is----APPRECIATION.

Now pay attention to this and make it part of your life.

Anybody (make or female, young or old) who stood by you during trying times, encouraging you (even if it's just in words and prayers) deserve to be appreciated as much as you can.

I am not even talking about whether you are in relationship with such a person or not. If you have even gone through difficult times, you understand the value of anyone who stood by you when you had nothing to offer them. Because it's at such times that even your friends and relatives desert you.

AnonyNymous:
Sometimes censoring pictures is a good thing

Good you know it's not always good. This is one of such "other times".

Stevewonder004:
::................ Olodo

Why are you revealing my middle name (Hon. OLODO) on nairaland? Please I don't like what I hate oh.

Stevewonder004:
I never intend and will never suport cheat in marriage but the punishment that the public sometimes gave to the offenders is too much,,,,,, oh yes you caught them, i agreed but is the body your's, cant you send your spouse parked rather than killing her while she is still alife, most people who has turn to be their judge today are worse than them,,,,,,,,. This is just man inhumanity to man, infidelity is never an option but every action has a reason but no reason can justify an evil act.,,,.,,, marriage is not everything, remain single if you cant adapt to its environment,,,,,,, one love no doupt,,,,,

Bros, I was reading with excitement until I saw "can't you send your spouse PARKED rather than KILLING HER WHILE SHE IS STILL ALIFE.

xxxtedyxxx:
lollo

A married man in broad daylight leaved his village?

which kind English be this op?

Please the grammar is correct. LEAVE is present tense, LEAVES is present continuous tense and LEAVED is past tense. Same with LEFT, LEFTS and LEFTED
So, you can say that the man leaved his house.

You can also say the woman lefted her husband and sleeped with another man.

Please I will be back, let me speak with God. He just called me.

Please remove Kane and Neymar from the list of superstars.

Next2Bezee:
I just asked a question, retard. Go and spread your anus somewhere else... you grab? Idiot.

The website was created to defraud people. The stupid scammer used UBA logo to design it.

I will report this website and it will be closed.