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Tomorrow Hollywood would act a movie of how they fought for Ukrainians against the Russians and won. Nobody should come and paint this history o, cause I watched how it all started and America did nothing.

[quote author=CALEB1590 post=110495223]Hello romancelanders, doctors and nurses in the house. I need you all to take me through dz with your professional thought.

I met this girl in November of 2021, asked her out and she gave in. We started our relationship life without sex up untill 7th January of this year. We had sex on 7th January and today her scan result shows that she is 10weeks and 2 days pregnant.

Please docs and nurses in the house, considering when i had sex with her and how old the pregnancy is, am I the father of the child? NOTE; I have accepted it, but I want to be sure that I ain't gotta father another man child.

The baby is yours, is usually calculated from the date of last menstrual flow, of which am sure she had in December

Are your parents buoyant enough to sponsor your education? If yes, pls go to school. If no, then you can pursue your music career.

My advise is going to be on how you should clear those loans. I have nothing to say about your attitude towards loan because you already said you might go into it after you clear the loans (meaning you don't learn).
Don't collect loans anymore. My suggestion is that from your salary, clear those loans with the smallest amount of money to the biggest. Ensure at the end of every month, you're able to clear one of those loan apps. And please don't live above your means, you don't have to put yourself in such debt to impress anyone.

All those things you highlighted requires money. You need money to be in good health, cos you have to eat healthy diet to be in good health.
You need money to keep and make family members happy, cos no one will respect or regard you if you don't show them love with money.
You need money to have peace of mind, cos when the bills start coming your brain is calculating on how to settle those bills.
Stop hyping nonsense to prove a point.

Love at first sight isn't love but just an attraction. Love is beyond the physical looks. Is that attraction that makes you make your move as a guy to approach the lady and want to know more about her. Then when sex is being introduced in the beginning of that relationship and the lady is the money monger type, it blinds both partners from getting to know the real characters of each other. Both partners then get fed up of each other, they can't communicate, the relationship becomes boring and it slowly dies. Then heartbreak and hatred, and in the lady's part she ends up feeling used.

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

You're very correct op. No man will want to get married when he hasn't gotten a sustainable source of income to cater for himself not to talk of a family. When ladies (28 and above) find it difficult in meeting their choice of man, is not because they've been selective in the past but because their criteria and standards have now increased (especially those working)
Another reason is that when it comes to marriage, looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with is different from looking for someone you want to go into a casual relationship with that leads to nowhere. So in such situation, ladies take out time to look out for men that are husband material. In this case, money is not necessarily a priority but character and compatibility. (Just my thoughts)

Marriage sounds scary

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

gimakon2:
$1 = 517 naira.
and she has many in her hands

Uncle show us Akant balance or forever put your toilet inside your pocket and learn to mind your own business. You cannot be broke and stupid at the same time. Next thing na to call am Olosho. You have no respect for women, it shows how badly raised you have been.
Mxm

Well said, thank you

supportnija:
My brother who do you this thing?

This time he made sense in his comment

Karmatyra:
Why are Afghanistan Muslims running away from their own countries, the Talliban want full blow Islam sharia law, why all this noisy all about, why are they Afghans afraid of Islam way of life if truly they love Islam,
Generally Muslims are not happy in their own Islamic countries but want to convert the countries they found grace in to Islamic countries they ran from.

They’re not happy in Gaza
They're not happy in Egypt
They're not happy in Libya
They're not happy in Morocco
They're not happy in Iran
They're not happy in Iraq
They're not happy in Yemen
They're not happy in Afghanistan
They're not happy in Pakistan
They're not happy in Syria
They're not happy in Lebanon
So, where are they happy?
They're happy in Australia
They're happy in England
They're happy in France
They're happy in Italy
They're happy in Germany
They're happy in Sweden
They're happy in the USA & Canada
They're happy in Norway & India
They're happy in almost every country that is not Islamic!
And who do they blame?
Not Islam...
Not their leadership...
Not themselves...
THEY BLAME THE COUNTRIES THEY ARE HAPPY IN!!
And they want to change the countries they're happy in, to be like the countries they came from where they were unhappy.

You've spoken well

I really don't understand why feminism has become a daily topic on Nairaland. It amazes me of how our African men (Nigerian men precisely) want women to bow to them like they're god's all in the name of submission, then they use Bible verses to justify their points. I agree that a wife should submit to her husband because there has to be a head or a leader in the family. Being the head of a family comes with responsibility, it's not an award. No lady will like to submit to an irresponsible man or a low thinking person.. she won't delay or abandon her dreams to please you (because she's goal oriented you tag her a feminist).
So all you men calling ladies abusive names, get a life, step up your hustle if you want her to submit. Develop your character and change that myopic mindset you have about submission (submission is not stupidity).

larryeffizy1:
Hi folks, I'm Sure we're doing good in our respective places.?
Quick one pls, I really need the help or rather a piece of advice from whosoever has been in this shoe before...; Because it's really affecting my marital life negatively and that's why I'm here if I could get a cool counsel on this platform bikoo; as we all know that a problem shared is half solved... The question is "How May/Can I get rid of Marriage Phobia...?
I'm above 30 and I'm really scared of MARRIAGE... A candid advice from you guys will go along way... Hence, if you have had the experience before, kindly share with me how you go about it and overcame it....


Thanks#

I'd advise you download pastor Kingsley Okonkwo's relationship sermons

BluntCrazeMan:
The people that usually bring these type of videos are not always telling us the whole story.
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The couple are playing a game to entertain the guests.
And the rule of the game is that, once the woman smiles and her teeth appears, the man will stop spraying her with the money.
So, she's deliberately (and with some sort of difficulty deep within her) trying to maintain her mean face.
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One thing is, I really don't know why MCs usually introduce such games.
Is it to test how long the lady can stay angry when angered?
Or to know if money can move the lady?
I really don't know.
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If I were the guy, even before I spray the first cash, I would just do something that usually makes her laugh - which she could never resist.
And boom her teeth would appear.!!
Then I would throw in all the cash I wanted to spray on her so that she won't be having zero naira after the game.

It's not a game but a tradition in my place Bayelsa, Nembe precisely. The husband, his friends and families will spray the bride till she smiles. A woman that knows her husband doesn't have much, won't stress or embarrass him on that day

Never marry someone who can't control his/her sexuality, because they will see opportunity in having sexual activities with even their blood bro or sis.

Workch:
You don’t know how many babes I have gotten just because I have big beards.
Good and well maintained beards Dey give guys levels and sex appeal. If you come get small money join, ha, forget story.

Lolz that's good.. Thanks for being matured in your comment unlike some guys

Tourist123:
Breakfast is served. The diversity of this city is stunning. I haven’t met any caucasian since I came.
My airbnb host is Latino, the restaurant I had dinner last night was Arabian. This breakfast restaurant is also run by Arabs

I'm really enjoying your trip, though am not there with you but feel connected. Have a wonderful day and a great stay in NYC

I don't like guys that keep beards. A short stubble beard maybe okay, but those Osama bin Laden beard is a big turn off

Tonymegabush1:
Just today I was celebrating her progression Into semi final race now these[sub][/sub] .. who we offend ni

I watched the race last night and was impressed by her performance because she came 1st.

xhandra:
I'm also having severe heart burn, and it just happened after I ate white beans. I'm just fed up

Am experiencing same right now with white beans also. I don't get this feeling with red beans, but red beans is now very expensive that's why I bought the white. My health is very crucial, so I'll have to throw it away �

TOTOnigga:
Hello guys.... I don't just know.. Is it just me or is there anything I don't understand......my parents are rich people especially my dad, I know that for sure... someone paying #950,000 naira per year as school fees for me aside other expenses, plus multiple houses and lands I can't even keep count of....

How come they are this stingy? There is no time I would ask them for money for my own personal well being or any of my personal needs that they would like to assist me. I once ask mum for #12,000 naira just to buy a fairly used android phone (when I know they can even afford me an iPhone x) but she told me I should wait till months end before she gives me saying there is no money on ground... it's five months now and still nothing (not waiting for it though)...

Then I ask my dad, he told me I don't need an android phone... telling me that phone makes people unserious and other types of bulls*it( a 19 year old student for that matter)

Any expenses that is not book or academic related is not important...my parents would rather buy clothes for me than give me money to buy clothes... sometimes I end up not wearing some of them..

The funniest part is that, anytime I take any urgent lie(Asin scam) about any payment in school...they wouldn't Waits a second to send it to me... This has got me telling all sorts of lies just to get what I know can be gotten honestly.. It has even gotten to the point that any money that enters my hand now, I use it to play sports betting to see if I can get enough money for what I need, but I end up loosing the money...I am just frustrated.. someone time I wish I didn't even have rich parents cos what's the point...

Seems your parents and my mom must be related, because you just gave a clear description of my mom.. but my dad is generous �
Well you'll just have to continue to lie to get money from them, that's how I did till I graduated.

TeamLeader:
Bro pls how can I access Twitter thru the VPN abeg

Just download riseup vpn and turn it on.. it's very easy and it's free

Did your brother sign any contract agreement with them? Find out from him the contents of what he signed. Some of the agreement states that you must give the company 1 month notice before you resign or else you'll pay back a month salary. Some persons take this for a joke

Righteousness2:
He said


These and many more are the kinds of Exclamations and announcements that will be in the Print and Electronic media on the Day millions will Mysteriously Disappear from this earth in a twinkling of an eye.

The Day of Joy, Celebrations , Depressions and Gloominess.
Joy and Celebration for those who Suddenly Disappear to Meet JESUS in air and Depression and Sadness for those left behind on Earth.

I Perceive the Lord is using these mysterious happenings to speak to the Earth Inhabitants and all who will listen.

Ladies and Gentlemen,Wake up !Something Mysterious is about to Happen

Seun need to ban you, you're very irritating and annoying with your silly comments. Must you attribute everything you read to religion? Stop this your antiquated righteousness cos it won't take you anywhere. You think you're the only born again Christian in the world? Please get a life.
If you're frustrated, deal with your frustration and not bring your foolishness to the public

I'd advise you to follow the advice of your mom, sit for jamb and pursue the admission into a university. Certificate is never useless and never a waste of resources (time, financial, material, energy). You need the certificate not to secure a job but not to regret not going when you had the opportunity.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright......meaning this guy go dey bang one pussy for God knows how long...this whole marriage thing scares the hell out of me

a real niggarrr won't do this shit.....baby mama sure me die....too many problems and wahalar in marriage
a real niggarrr will now be in the same roof with one particular pussy for God knows how long
The thought of that shit scares the hell out of me
Coupled with the fact that she won't be allowing me to live my life on the fast lane anymore...she won't allow me smoke my weed, bang other pussy, drink enough bottles.
Not to talk of the fact that my dickkk won't be getting excited for her anymore because my dickkk is used to her already...the love will no longer be there...but we will continue to be pretending that we still love each other probably because of our kids and what society will say
She go dey quarrel and advise me like a mother, sister and wife make i stop those things like alcohol, smoking weed, banging other pussy or make i reduce am..if i nor hear she go come go report to my mum or daddy..or probably person way I dey fear pass for my family...those ones go come call me for family meeting...see wahalar

Damnnn.......mmmmm...he who finds a wife..finds real dope problem and wahalar..and he doesn't know what he has put his hand into

There's more to life than just sex. Marry a lady that you're fond of that's where the excitement is. And whatsoever you're doing as a way of life or making a livelihood; marry someone who will accept you for who you are and not criticize you. No one is perfect, marriage is full of fun if you marry the right person. But to get that right person, you have to lay a good foundation at the early stage of the relationship.
Once that foundation is not based on sex (guys) and money (ladies) then there's a true friendship because marriage is not all about sex and spending money but you'll do more of talking. Now when both of you can't have an intellectual conversation then there is a problem. (My opinion)

Federal government appointment letters usually have your grade/level and salary per annum but yours doesn't have the salary per annum. And why will he send it to you, you're suppose to pick up your appointment letter yourself.

I really can't understand why a man would enter a relationship with a woman that is not working. I wonder if such men have future goals, cos if you do, you won't venture into a relationship with someone that will end up draining you financially.

[quote author=Eriokanmi post=102651411]Nice. Guys I dey there too as seen . I led a team of brave Nigerians who are tired of the current situation in our dear country. I was expecting mc Oluomo boys to disperse us but they too asked for a t-shirt which we provided with love at Ikeja. We loaded them in a coaster bus and other vehicles we chartered. We were all here together who can see me.? We came out as promised Nigerian youths. It was devoid of violence at ojota. See that officer, they had to cooperate because we served then a protest notice yesterday. Details on channels tv tonight

Nice one, you've done well! Am so proud of the courage you guys have shown today

Please remain in your country, because it's obvious you don't have plans with that money. You just want to squander it, tomorrow you'll be among those saying God did not try for you. The main reason people travel out of Nigeria are:
1) you're either travelling out of the country to enjoy your money
2) or you're travelling out of the country to work hard to make money because their money is of higher value in Nigeria.
So please since you don't belong in any of these categories kindly stay in your country.

Please sis dump him, he's not a serious type, he's only after your body. Possibly tell him no sex, only by marriage and see his reaction. Someone that wants something serious with you will stay but otherwise will grumble and see reasons to walk away.
And in your part, please don't demand anything from him.. be responsible!