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I was in church today (yes i do go to church!  ) and being the second sunday of the month, we had a bible study and discussion session. The topic today was Marriage and divorce. Being a sensitive one, service was an extra hr longer because everyone had something to say.

One thing that stood out for me tho was that at the end of the study session. our Vicar advised that marriage is a relationship, not a contract and should be approached as such.

Although i fully understand his point of view personally i don't see approaching marriage as a contract as such a bad thing. if everyone knws their place and all expectations are defined and outline, things would be easier and fu*k-ups can be handled properly. In my opinion d problem today with many marriages is that different people have different expectations and without being properly defined, it is inevitable that there would be disappointments which inturn leads to all other unpleasantries in marriages. . .

whats your take?

idupaul:
still aint seen that flick, hw was it? is t nice?

not my cup of tea, didnt hav a choice tho, saw it on a flight. . .

it was sappy and cute, but surprisingly entertaining  

Love is patient, Love is kind

Love means slowly loosing your mind 


_{from the movie 27 dresses}

i find that forgiveness isnt that much of an issue for me, its d forgeting part.

I'm horribel at keeoing grudges, it eats me up inside and i just want to get thru d problems and move on. unfortunately, i then worry about the whole thing repeating itself

I've always thot hissing was classless. . . Its just not proprer!

As for Jamaican women, no disrespect, but they do alot of things

i dont think its advisable posting ur cell number on here. . . _{but then again, u'r lookin for love on NL}

you're doin a hell of a lot of generalising. . . .

doesnt make u sound credible

my mind

my boobs

my lips

_{been complimented on all 3, cant decide}

just had a botched hair cut. . .

spent an extra 2hrs in d salon trying to make some sense out of it. . . in d end it looks like a boring version of the tony braxton cut!

I'll go back in a couple days to add a splash of colour and spikes to liven it up

KarmaMod:
would it have been better for you if she smoked and drank with you guys evehn though it's NOT what she does.  Everything else aside I think you were only wrong wityh this one event. Should have suggested something you'D all enjoy. .

this was a perviously arranged thing, ther was no way i cld cancel.
dont forget i wasnt expecting her to sleep over besides i gave her d option of staying back as i was sure it was something she wldnt enjoy. she went with me that evening knowing full well what d evening was going to be like. . .  but she still had d need to complain  

tope2000:
Insecurity na disease oo
but curable, as mesmya said he need a shrink

A disease? yes

curable? i dont think so

the poor girl must be in hell

mesmya:
fling them out,one hand

thats the thing I dont knw how. . .

if d yeye girl hadnt pciked a fight with me, she probably wld still be here making our lives hell

I recently had a friends sister stay with me and I never had the urge like i did with her, to throw someone out of my house. . .

It started with a days visit, she said she was in Lagos and i offered to take her out for lunch, i had a few errands to run and so we spent d whole day driving around and finally ended up in my house. I was to meet up with friends at a bar that night and i invited her to tag along even tho it wasn't her scene. she was bored and agreed to join us, needless to say the evening was awkward as she doesnt drink or smoke and cld not wrap her head around the fact that fun for us was just hanging out. she kept complaining about how boring the evening was, how she wld rather go clubbing and meet men who wld spend money on her. i did warn her about what the evening wld be like but she didnt seem to mind so i spent the later part of d evening trying to prevent her from saying sothing that wld upset my friends.

the evening ended on a peaceful note and i was relieved, afterall she'll be leaving the next day right? WRONG!

by the time i woke up (i am not an early riser) her weekend bag was in my house and she had made herself right at home. I didnt complain, its a big house and i assumed she was going to do her thing and not interfer with mine. how wrong i was again. ther was no food in the house and i ws too lazy to cook, so i asked a friend who was on his way to see me to pick up summin from a fastfood place, he said he was broke and wouldnt be able to bring much, which i understood. my dear friend then decided to place an expensive order and worse still didnt say thank you when the meal arrived. instead she complained about how bland d food was and didnt even hav the courtesy to wait for d poor boy to be out of ear shot.

by the 3rd day everyone in my house was sick of her, she complained about everything, the water, the mattress, the food. . . name it and she had summin negative to say about it. she kept going on and on about how bored she was, she everyone to drive her everywhere and wouldnt say thank you when u've gone out of ur way to drop her off somewhere, complained about traffic (like that was anyones fault). . .

we finally had an argument and she packed up her stuff and left!

ok so this was another rant but really i was raised largely in Nigeria and it is ingrained to be hospitable and go out of ur way to make ur house guests comfortable but what do u do when u have a house guest that cant be pleased

sylvao2000:
Hi Nairaland l jst discovered this morning l am still a virgin, though had sex with so many ladies but always with condom,

I read something on the internet this morning which l discover sex with condom keep your virginity safe as a man but ladies either with condom or not its all over,

Lol. . . right!

drrionelli:
Perhaps it's that they simply have certain convictions which they don't wish to compromise.

And non-virgins have none?

Hannibal:
Most of em know the drill before getting their appointment letter.
Like i was told, there are some certain requirements they must meet.
--No wedding for 3-5 years.
--They must be flexible(should be able to work round the clock to meet clients in bars/hotels)
--Et cetera.

. . . modern day slavery

Hannibal:
That was why they were employed in the first place.

Ur poor employees r going to be nothing but glorified whores. . .

Hannibal:
Whatz ya imperfection?

thats for my imperfect man to discover

Personally i think perfection lies in the little imperfections

how boring life wld be if we had everything we wanted

How do pure christians date?

Not having the house in both her and her husbands name in the first place was  huge mistake. .

Are there children involved? if there r, she needs to make it clear that loosing the house will affect the children. obviously its all up to the husband, he needs to put his foot down and get his mother to sign off on the sale.

your friends shd be fully prepared to walk as the mother-in-laws tactic is to basically hold her to randsom and make her life hell

are u now saying that non-virgins hav no right or no will to refuse?

Virginity has absolutely nothing to do with this!