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I do that sometimes and it's for no big deal, who knows what her reasons are

Just mind your business

Kuns84:
You bitter women cannot do without launching personal attacks on this forum. SMH.

You are too ironic not to be a troll lol

cococandy:
He already knows the truth about anything you could possibly say on this thread. His decision to believe otherwise is simply his decision.

Lol clearly, everything about the OP from the thread itself, to his 'questions' is disingenuous

Pressure from society obviously

Maybe they're just being strategic, 'going along to get along', maybe they genuinely dislike women, who knows. Internalised oppression isn't new

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-9DxpPiE458

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1xRCjjiTR7I

lefulefu:
most times ex runzgirls are married to very faithful and submissive men .its only very few of them who are unlucky to end up with wayward men.

Lol in Nigeria?

lefulefu:
many go back to their old ways even when married and they do it very well behind the husband"s back

I don't know the stats on this but I know for a fact that their married male counterparts do the same thing

I mean some get married to 'better men', some don't, same goes for all the self-proclaimed 'good girls'

Plus it's not like these girls have their sexual history written on their foreheads, every single one of these men can't know about everyone's past. And that goes for average and 'top-tier' men alike.

And since there are multiple facets to an individual, asides most likely being fine and experienced, who knows what other attractive talents and characteristics she possesses, or is 'runs girl' supposed to be her only identity? 'Reformed runs' girls are in happy relationships and get married to 'responsible' unsuspecting men every day

This is such a weird question, lol how many twins have you observed?

Semperty:
See as everyone here is saying let her go like say it's easy

It won't be easy but it's a better option than

a. Going into a marriage that he isn't ready for. It isn't wise to start a marriage on an unstable foundation. Could it end up working out? Sure, but the stakes are too high to take the risk
b. Asking her to wait and potentially wasting her time

Your concerns aren't unreasonable. Life's a gamble sha...

On one hand nobody should be rushed into marriage, on the other, you may end up losing a great catch (or greatest catch you'll ever meet, potentially)...it's a sticky one

It's probably better that you let her go than telling her to wait for you though.

When you say you aren't financially ready, that's your financial situation like? Are you completely destitute, or you just don't earn as much as you'd like? Do you have a job at all in the first place? School qualifications? A business? Objectively speaking, what do you think your career prospects will be like?

Finnese001:
Then what happens to FOR BETTER FOR WORST?

He forfeited his rights to that commitment from her when he incessantly refused to go to the hospital, that level of stubbornness can only come from someone who is very delusional or who already knew they had a medical issue

Finnese001:
because the man is not alive to tell his own part of the story

most of you here defending the woman will also do same to your husbands

most of you women are naturally selfish and heartless

Divorcing him would’ve been the ‘better’ option, perhaps she had suggested it and he’d begged her to stay. It’s very plausible, but who knows

If he didn’t beg her, I wish she’d divorced him

If he did, I don’t really blame her for looking outside

Lol I’m 100% sure if the shoe were on the other foot, the husband would’ve stayed with her and remained faithful throughout the 12 years

Is it 'good'? Well it's not ideal, but it probably happens more often than parents would like to admit and I don't think it's something you can always control.

The most important thing is that your children never actually know, don't make it evident. You do this by putting in EQUAL efforts into showing and providing them with love in their own (possibly very different), personal love languages. None of them should feel deprived of it compared to another

Nigerians have a...weird way of addressing mental health and topics about suicide.

Everything about this story is just unfortunate, from his obvious medical issues and being stubborn and refusing to go to the hospital for 12 years, to his wife being frustrated into cheating on him (which I don't even blame her for), conceiving as a result, allegedly not telling the guy she cheated with about her marital status etc, to him being delusional about the baby...he could've handled the situation differently but I wouldn't necessarily call him 'weak' for committing suicide. Why are people reducing things to 'he killed himself because he got cheated on' when there's clearly a lot more depth to the story?

RIP to him sha

lefulefu:
many of the white tourists i see here look average.some are just high school teachers while some are civil servants.there was one i made friends with some time ago.the girl is from germany and she came with her brother.i asked her where she was working and she told me she teaches in kindergaten.i was surprised...can u imagine..a kindergaten school teacher being able to afford a pleasure trip .how many nigerian university lecturers can afford traveling overseas for tourism.

Lol yeah I'm not surprised, travelling is not just for the rich white people, plenty average people do it as well.

They may not be earning a lot, but the average income in their countries is not as woeful as somewhere like Nigeria for example and is usually enough to provide them with a fairly decent livelihood. And if they aren't working, there are benefit systems in place for the unemployed. If the average earner saves and plans enough, they can travel.

I think attitudes towards travelling differs across different countries and cultures too, I was surprised to hear having in a passport in a country like the US us not as commonplace as it is in the UK for example (anyone can correct me about this if I'm wrong)

Scroll through my contacts list and you will see some of the most random names, and it's mainly out of laziness. I had one of my aunts named as 'Someone' for years because one day I didn't recognise her number but even when I found out it was her, I never bothered to change it back

Money can never be disregarded as a factor, but there are plenty of white people of just average (and below) wealth who still manage to travel a lot.

I think overall they tend to be more 'adventurous'...or actually, brought up in a network that encourages them to tap into their adventurous side more because I can't say anyone is 'inherently' more or less adventurous.

Also, traveling whilst white vs non-white is probably a more privileged experience when it comes to how other countries/cultures welcome you

I'm sure Nigerians would travel more too if the average person had the funds and was used to seeing people around them travelling

‘Best’ wife is very subjective, different people look for different things in their partners, your personal criteria/checklist may not apply to others. On the topic of your checklist, bear in mind that the fact that your partner is intelligent doesn’t necessarily guarantee that the intelligence itself will be put to use on any of the things you listed, (funnily enough, you mentioned that it's easier to 'get the intelligent ladies to reason along with you', I would've thought they'd be more likely to challenge things? But who knows...). I think you’re assuming being intelligent will automatically come with certain things, and it may end up leaving you disappointed because things aren't always that straightforward.

Also, if you’re looking for an intelligent wife make sure you’re on the same level as her at the very least, lest you start feeling threatened, and we all know a lot of men aren't fans of that part of being with an 'intelligent' woman.

pocohantas:
Yope, I will.

I will recognize Ibkayee’s own too.

Lmao

You have a distinct voice too, I'd recognise you instantly

About to watch Kuzu no Honkai

Kaycee7:
Devilman: Crybaby 9.5/10

The only warning I'll give, not for the faint of heart or overly emotional.
The emotions I felt from this anime, the subtle messages that I keep picking up even after finishing it. It's an unforgettable experience.
And the music was fantastic.

Lol I really liked this anime, violence and debauchery overload

Hathor5:
All this complaining for what? I am currently [b]craving plantains [/b]but I can't get it because Corona won't let me.

I stocked up on plantains at the beginning thank goodness, although my supply is dwindling

Akposy:
Enjoy! but which one is salted caramel again...local boy does not understand


I need to break my no carbonated drink rule and try this fearless

Ice cream flavour

pocohantas:
Because you are the cousin na.

fieryy:
Hahaha

Poco, they have exposed you o

pocohantas:
Ehen. Na my cousin fry am when she came for holidays.

Don't mind her fieryy, I was right there when she made this

tellwisdom:
No, only if you are not Nigerian, can you post your country’s local dish.

Nigerians posting 100% foreign delicacies; leaving their own locals?? Mbanu

But 5/7 dishes posted in the last 2 pages have been 'Nigerian' meals, lol stop looking for stuff to complain about. I think there's a fair balance of both here

Post your own local dishes to get the ratio to a 'satisfactory' level and let people post what they want

tellwisdom:
Yes, that would be more better than seeing all these Google recipe meal upandan. I eat locals.-Just call me when food is read.

You should open up a local food only thread then

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r3GVd4DFFPA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KitcvxK9bzU