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Sad.
Sportsmen and women shld endeavor to be going for constant medical checks.

@CC
You know what makes one scrape a pot of jellof right? . . .its just too sweet that u want more.
That is what happens when u eat a well prepared and spiced up indomie . . you just cant get enough,whetting appetite up and down.Well,for peeps that want the good old Ishu(yam),a delish Indomie is norrrrin but BS.  
@Kola,Happy Holidays.
I wud send u directions asap.

5 what
You must be a rare gem?I love my mum so much but cant even begin to imagine having her living with me in my husbands house for 1 year at a stretch?
@OP,GO back home,running away from a problem does not solve it.Talk with ur wife pls and let her see reasons why her mum cannot stay permanently in ur place.If after that ur wife cannot ask her mum to leave,pls have a talk with the Woman herself and ask her as nice as u can be to leave.
BTWN,is ur FIL dead?Is ur wife the only child?If after u try talking with ur wife and mil and it does not yield any positive result,pls call the next closest person in their family to come and pick her up. which kain wahala be dis sef
Do u have kids?As per ur suspicions,keep that within u first,its normal considering whats going on in ur home to have such assumptions so i wud say,take that off ur head for now,focus on getting back ur home in order.

@Topic,Some pasts need to told please.Imagine going in for a stud(cos he gave u that impression b4 marriage) only to find out that he is an indomie man

luvely:
In my own jugdement i will never go in d past cuz d bible says old things have past away. I will luv her more n respect d fact dat i'm married to her n let go of d past n show her all d luv she desire

. . .new things have come to stay.
While the old things have gone,the new thing now is "what else is a lie or he/she keeping away from me",u wud have no choice than to keep wondering what else he/she is keeping away from you.The trust wud be gone and wud take time to be rebuilt

oada:
Hello everybody. I would want to have other opinions from both men and women on the topic above. I have heard the saying that a man owns his wife and therefore also [b]owns her money [/b]and has the final say on finance in the home, what do you think?

Is this right? what does the Bible say about this? anybody know?

@Bolded,laughing in strange tongues.
My money is mine,his is his BUT we have a collective purse,once i've paid my dues as a wife for the family upkeep,the rest is mine to blow as i want.Same for him.

Lagosboy:
Salaams Habeebah, regarding your query Wallah it is a very important question that many muslims who were born into islam and are old fall victim of. Traditional festivals associated with kufr e.g deities, idols etc are not to be celeberated in islam. Examples I would give as eyo festival of lagos, Osun oshogo festival of Osun, agemo masquerade of ijebu, oro festival and all other masquardes festivities.

These festivals all have their origin to idol worship and there are many traditional idolatory rites practiced before the festival. Eyo festival some people might say its more of fun and cultural but the bottom line is it is associated with kufr and idolatory. The new yam festival in ibo land honestly I don tknow what it entails perhaps if you shed more light on the festival then I might be able to explain further. I don’t like being hasty in passing judgements or opinion as in islam you have to understand the circumstances and specifics before you pass an opinion,

The evidences for my opinion is in Q4 v 140
“He has indeed sent to you the book that when you hear Allahs verses been disbelieved in and mocked at, do not sit with them until they turn to other discussions. Surely (if you don’t) you would be like them. Surely Allah will gather together the hypocrites and disbelievers in hell.” Now the issue is looking at them and going to watch them is tantamount to hypocrisy and that is why the verse specifically continues with “ will gather together the hypocrites (muslims who knowingly engages in these traditions) and disbelievers (the masquerades themselves) in hell”

The quran also mentions something similar in Q6 v68

Allah says “ Enter in to islam completely and do not follow the footsteps of Shaiytan” Q2 v208

Finally the hadith quoted by brother Azhardeen “One who imitates a people is one of them”


There are many other cultural practsises a muslim/muslima should not engage in but you have to mention them before we could analyse it. I dont like to genrealise.

Islam respects culture in as much as the culture does not violate any islamic prinicple.

Please let me know if you understand or i could expantiate

And God knows best

Salams LB.
Now,in all honesty,New yam festival in Igboland is meant to be a meduim of thanking the gods for a good harvest(Yam).Therein lies the problem . . . which god/gods
Thanks for ur replies to Hymen,i found that useful as well.

^No need for that.IMO.
@Topic,Dont do or say much,just shake my head and move on.

. . .There goes the thread and search.
Little wonder peeps don't believe one can find love at nld.

^wharrrra body.

I have lost count of the number of times i have heard such stories abt this man and his companies.
If he is what they claim he is,its really crazy and mean . . . shelling out millions every now and then for his brand ambassadors,makes no sense.

Agaba Idu.
Miss him lots

queenafric:
em, emm, blazay and ifyalways, are u a couple? just an innocent kwesion from a curious cat.

welcome back to nld.
Coffee or tea ma'm 

googles:
Dear you,When we first met, I took you with chicken hand cos i thot you weren't serious
you told me you were going to marry me even tho' we just met then,i found it hilarious
now all I want is to be your second skin, I can like to walk with you thru your life
you gimme so much love and joy,I would give anything in d world to be your[i] Ijebu[/i] wife 

Maybe I'm a crappy lyricist, maybe this is the worst love note ever
but if means being with you I don't mind writing crappy notes forever
we've had challenges yea,silly fights,we have our own ups and downs
but in your ever loving ways you always choose the ups over the downs

My sexy beast   
errrm. . .sorry i will complete the note later, am out of words 

lanredo:
Please who do the laundry in the home, the husband or the wife, I went to my friend's house last weekend I met him and his wife over a serious argument. He lament His wife have stopped washing his clothes long time ago after the birth of her second baby.
so whose job in the home to take care of the daddy's clothes, is it the daddy or mummy? your response is welcome. I will copy your comments and mail them to the husband and wife

o ma se o.Time he wasted on lamenting he could have used it to do the laundry.
Reading through some of the replies from the men makes me cringe.women don suffer
@Topic,laundry is one of the many roles of a wife but it does not make a husband less a man If he helps out once-in-a while.

Funny people are harping on the mans honesty . . . .honest to who,the people that matters not,online faces 
Dude shld tell his wife the truth/give her the real reason of his refusal . . .then wud he be truthful and much more dealing with his problem.IF he does that and the wife does not understand ONLY then wud he be said to be sincere and true.
As per the epistles abt not avoiding temptations and fleeing from the devil yada yada . . .why are we so celebrating mediocrity?For Gods sake,does it mean been and staying faithful is  now out of fashion or maybe for men its a rare quality hence he shld be celebrated for announcing that hes bound to cheat soonest cos his wife got a maid 
Wud u guys celebrate and congratulate same way if this thread was abt the wife and maybe a young sexy driver or that wud be a case of a loose woman with itchy c.lits?
@OP,how wud u feel and react if u get a young and cool driver for your wife and she rejects the driver without giving u any good reason?what if she gives u reasons like "Oh hes too young and charming",how wud u deal with it and her?

Blazay:
Dear Mrs. Blazy. What can I say?

This year, I got her a diamond ring.
It has been a long road as always.
But loving it every step of the way.
Just for being there through thick and thin. . .
You will always be the best.
We celebrated our anniversary this past weekend and it was extremely emotional.
To one more year behind us sweetheart,
I want to say thank you for your love, patience, understanding and fortitude.
Without you, the rock of this family. . . I would be no where.
Thank you and this year, I would like to devote this song to you.
God bless you always, my angel.

This beautiful song captures what I feel right now.

I'm yours. . . always.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYhrYHmUPn0

*enters sobbing mode* aww so sweeeet,
rofl . . .so u dis man can be all emotional and this loving
@Topic,You know where u belong and wud always be,
Its been a celebration of love,trust,tenacity,partnership,tolerance and bliss.
what we share is eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence,Never!
I love you my King
Lets do our thing . . .
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xINmoCGmNV0

dayokanu:
I asked her some questions and I am still awaiting answers.

If she has another ID, Might tell us somethings about her. No one would like to waste his time.

Imagine this is [b]Mobo44 or 190 [/b]that opened another ID posing as female

lol
why dont u mail her and seek answers to ur question.Assuming shes an old NLDer,she might not be comfy exposing her old Id here;apparently that wud be why she took a new id.
Happy hunting,seems the general consensus around here is that u are the only eligible and benefiting spouse guy.

Ladyrsky46:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Help-Look-For-Sharon-Omolayo/126270014101731?ref=ts&v=info#!/pages/Help-Look-For-Sharon-Omolayo/126270014101731?v=wall

Apparently, she's been found!!!

At last.
All Glory and Praise be to God.

He has a 17 inch Joy stick.

denzel2009:
When did Dayokanu acquire all those qualities?

lol
Me sef open mouth dey wonder . . . .

[quote author=hot-angel link=topic=571299.msg7368416#msg7368416 date=1292785434]Since my last Visit to Nigeria in 2009, it has been in my heart to go back there to increase the awareness to people who are "disabled".  This was my first time in Nigeria after I had the tragic car accident in March 2008 which left me with practically no other choice than to make use of a wheelchair in order to gain independence and be mobile.  I was a little skeptical on going to Nigeria at first, not because of how I would be perceived as a person on a wheelchair, but because let’s face it, roads in Nigeria aren’t the best, and almost every building is NOT wheelchair accessible. As most of you already know, I don’t let this physical disability stop me from living my life and doing that which I want to do. I have been able, by the grace of God to go back to school, travel everywhere I want to go to (well, everywhere I can afford to, oh wait, I mean, everywhere my father buys me ticket to go to,  lol), and do the things I want to do, because I now have a deeper understanding of the phrase “Life is short”. I stay smiling because I genuinely know joy that is beyond comprehension.  I am thankful for being alive and well, and one thing stays constant in my life, My Faith in God. I believe that I will walk again, but until that time, I will continue to conquer and live this life. Do I have rough days? *Uses British accent* Oh No dear! Rough days?! Whatever does that mean?  LOL,  Okay, okay… Jokes aside. Well of course I have rough days, we all have rough days. But I always try to remember on those rough days: “This too shall pass”. I have been blessed with AMAZING people in my life, and I just can’t say much other than:  GOD YOU ARE SO GOOD!   

Now that I have given you a brief history of myself, let’s go back to what I was saying about wanting to increase the awareness to people who are physically disabled in Nigeria.  Physical disability does not mean mental disability, and this is something that I really think a lot of people don't get yet.

Most Nigerians see a person on the street using a wheelchair,  begging for money, food or basic everyday needs and they just snob them and immediately think "haa, another one trying to get MY money"! It is one thing to be poor and “able bodied”, and it’s another thing entirely to be poor and “disabled”.

My reason for wanting to go back to Nigeria is not because I was treated wrong when I was there, and thus I long for something better.  No, not at all, I dare say I was treated like royalty! Independent as I am, I had cousins, aunties, friends, neighbors, strangers, and just about everybody, offering to help me. I could go on living my life thinking this is the life every “disabled” person in Nigeria lives, but the truth remains: this is not the treatment the everyday person on a wheelchair or with any form of disability in Nigeria gets.

Roads in Nigeria are NOT wheelchair accessible. Offices, buildings, shopping stores, markets, even schools are not accessible. I understand the aesthetics of stairs in a building, but SERIOUSLY? Does every building have to have stairs? On my visit, I wanted to go into a bank with my friend and her mother, but come to find out, the bank had about 4 steps of stairs, and if by some way or manner I was able to get past the stairs, the doors to the bank are so small that a wheelchair would not fit into it. So where does this leave a person on a wheelchair? No access to banks? Schools? Businesses? Companies? Without education, we know it’s hard to get a good well paying job, and without access to most business places, a disabled individual is more susceptible to being poor, and having to beg for money and basic every day necessities.

Nigerians living in Nigeria, I’m sure you’re not blind, you see these people on the streets, in the market, and everywhere. You know that they are living very poor lives and most of them, though they are mentally capable would not be given the time of the day at a work place or taken seriously in the business world.  They deserve much more than being treated as incapable just because of their physical deformities. This might be some sort of a stretch, because I know some of the “able bodied” in Nigeria have not secured a good job talk more the physically disabled, but these people are human and they need to have equal rights as well.

As I stated earlier, ever since 2009, it has been in my heart to do something about this, get some sort of awareness thing started out there, to just do something! But until now, I was thinking I had to be IN Nigeria to start doing something, I was thinking I had to be seen and be heard audibly! I forgot that I can start by talking to the few people I am able to reach by typing.

So what is my point today? Where exactly am I trying to reach with this?

Well thanks for asking. I plead with everyone of you, when you go out today and you see a person who is not able bodied, or someone who is not standing up as tall as you are, because of a birth defect, an accident, abuse, neglect, or a disease, Please lend a helping hand to them. It doesn’t matter what you give, nothing is too little. It doesn’t have to be cash or food, it could be a smile, a handshake, a lift, clearing out the path they’re moving along, or just plainly asking them “how are you doing”. If you are an architect, a construction worker, remember to make the buildings you’re making accessible to those with physical disability. If you’re a citizen, trying to get on a bus, watch carefully, look at that guy who can’t run to the bus as fast as you can, and give him the chance to get inside the bus. If you’re a teacher, remember that, the boy on a wheelchair who can’t participate in sports could be the best on the debate team. Everybody has a part to play here.

Although this note focuses more on disability awareness in Nigeria, I urge everyone everywhere to look around you, and help those who are less privileged whichever way you can.


P.S: I am NOT stating that everyone who has a disability brought on by an accident, a disease, abuse, neglect or on a wheelchair in Nigeria are poor, lacking or wanting! When you want to give, give to those who are needy. If you see a person on a chair and you go give them 200 naira, and you get a dirty slap, Biko, No call my name o,  lol. Jor o, I no send you!  Ensure that they are in the position of need, and remember Nothing is too small to give.

After all this is the season to be Jolly, Give a gift today.

Be Part of the Change in Someone’s life

God Bless you.

Signed: Elizabeth Oke.



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P.P.S: Remember there's nothing God cannot do.My life is my testimony and I am very glad and thankful!

As you give a gift to the less privileged, remember to most importantly Give a Gift of thanks to God for your life and the lives of your friends and family. :-)

Happy Holidays! Remember The Reason for The Season: JESUS!

[/quote]You exude positivity,high hopes and Confidence,I admire that.
Everything wud turn out fine before you know it.cheers 

Long Interview,I picked a few things that are news to me though;
Fred Amata used to be/is currently divorced.
Ibinabo had a child with him.
. . .As per being born-again,setting up an NGO,time wud tell.

chyz:
[size=18pt]Anxiety in Ekiti community over Fulani herdsmen’s alleged robbery[/size]

Damisi Ojo, Ado-Ekiti 20/12/2010 00:00:00



Tension rose in some communities in Ekiti State, at the weekend, when some people suspected to be nomadic herdsmen reportedly robbed commuters on Ijan/Iluomoba/Ekiti road in Gbonyin Local Government Area.

It was gathered that the victims were injured.

The hoodlums reportedly stole cash and other valuables.

Briefing reporters in Ado-Ekiti, the state capital, the Coordinator of the Oodua Peoples Congress (OPC), Chief Ojo Obafemi, said he mobilised his men, following complaints by some drivers plying Ado-Ekiti/Ikare road that they were robbed by some suspected Fulani herdsmen

Obafemi said the robbery started at about midnight and lasted two hours, when OPC men confronted the hoodlums.

The OPC leader said his men engaged the suspected Fulani robbers in a gun duel and eventually drove them away to Iluomoba—Aisegba boundary, which is about 10 kilometres from the robbery scene.

He said his men trailed the suspected robbers to Iluomoba, killing four of their cattle but could not arrest any of them.

Commander of the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) Mr Ogbonnaya Okoronkwo said his men have been dispatched to the area, adding that two of the suspects have been arrested.

He said his men were investigation the matter.

Okoronkwo, a Superintendent, paraded a suspect, Garba Shehu, a Fulani herdsman, at the Police Headquarters in Ado-Ekiti over a similar offence.

He urged the people to provide the Command with information to check criminal activities.

Okoronkwo urged the people to go about their lawful businesses without fear of robbery, saying his men are up to the task.


http://thenationonlineng.net/web3/news/22196.html

@Bolded . . . LMAO

. . .oops i forgot,Salams.
Wal hamdu lillahi.

I thought I posted a reply here yesterday

azharuddin:
It is reported that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "Whoever imitates a people is one of them." (Ahmad & Abu Dawood)

If the above mentioned tradition belongs to a some other religion or pagan worship then its Haraam for us to take part in it. Or it might not belong to any particular religion and its the custom of that region, in that case if the celebrations involve anything unislamic like music, mixing of opposite gender etc then also it is Haraam for us to take part in it.
P.s. This is not my personal opinion, Its the opinion of the Fiqh Scholars.

The reason being, We Muslims should always be distinguishable from unbelievers. We have a distinct personality and a way of life. So its wise to follow our Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) 's advice and stay away from unislamic celebrations. If your mentioned festivals do not have pagan roots and does not break Islamic rules then celebrating them wont be an issue i guess.

Allah knows best.

Thanks.
Discretion shld come in place here i guess.
Are u a Nigerian?If Yes do u happen to know of cultural practices like Oro(Yoruba),Ozo(Igbos) or maybe just the general masquerade festivities and display . . .how wud u see partaking in any of the above?

alimat 2:
I think the problem here is that once u r in hijab/niqab u hav become the centre of attraction and focus because people around u will always step on your toes in order to know your level of tolerance,they forgetting that u are also human like them.

What ever u do will always be the subject of discussion,even in the public they always display the hatred for the hijab u wearing in order to make u react and once u do that they will just fly up and start calling u names like, Eleha na waaa oooooh, and u say u wearing hijab, u are this and that.

People around are the problem of the hijabites cos they dont wanna tolerate them at all even among the Muslim that are not hijabites.

Any mistake made by non hijabite will never go unannounced/criticised if done by any hijabite.

True.
Also the hijabite shld try not to look down on non-hijabite or feel that because her sis is a non-hijibite makes her less a muslima.

dvd:
ok. 2 says nt true. Share your views

what abt people that are not religious,their work schedule does not give them time to meet or interact with people?
What if u move to a new environment and u feel safer  looking for friends online?
What if u had a past and ppl in your town/city have refused to let the memory die?
what if u just love the space that online thing offers?
  . . . i cant type much.sorry 

^lol.

[quote author=dami_paul link=topic=571215.msg7372031#msg7372031 date=1292834304]Coughs,  I'm not tryin to defend myself or anything, we all have our pasts and our short comings. Just like I said earlier, my work,church, etc atmosphere is different from my house's. The maid will be staying with us! She get's to open d gate for me to drive in, take my briefcase from me etc when my wife's not around. It's different at work, it's different at recreational centers. My eyes could honestly wander for a while (don't criticize me for being honest) but the memory soon fades away. The mind is very dangerous thing, it plays a lot of tricks.[/quote]Aiight.
See what u typed here now,just sit your wife down and tell her exactly same thing.I believe she wud appreciate your honesty,understand that u as a guy needs to be aided constantly to stay on the right track and more importantly help u overcome your weakness.
It might put her in the panic mode for sometime though but heck,the issue here is that the problem is trashed out once and for all.
Goodluck

Murphy G:
I dont think the fact that he went to pick her from school confirms he shld be held responsible for her disappearance,  . I think both of them need prayers.

No one said so yet.
When things happen,the first step shld be to follow the trail and leads,in this case,hes a hot trail and lead.IMO
where did he board the taxi(in front of the house,down the street etc),who was at the sch. gate when he picked the girl or who saw him;was he alone in the cab,what happened to his phone,last calls he made or received .Im no Sherlock Holmes
@Topic,Have she been found ?
scary,scary !!!

^Hahaha.
UW Oga.
Ok,on a lighter note,work on controlling ur T.J.

Heaven-bound.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=561783.msg7280644#msg7280644

Love my grannies