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zayhal:
That's harsh.

@topic

I'll make him see reasons.

Yeah right.
I highlighted 2 words in her post.

nurabela:
What do you do if you have to travel for work and your boyfriend or girlfriend gets mad about it with [b]no [/b]reason to be?

Meaning,he/she have done all the explaining,communicating and coercing abi

Ninapha:
@ Ninapha
You know some people are blessed with the spirit of patience . . . .i'm not one of such people! But one thing I know I've been blessed with is a good head, and I love using it.

I beg to diagree with CC on some of her suggestions here, If you have been there, you would understand it.  Its a kind of attitude that weakens you, sometimes, you are confused as whether you are the one doing it wrongly.

Ujujoan, you and I know there are different times and reactions with people with such character.  Before now have you not tried to flex muscles? has it worked out.  so long i advocate for patience, you have to be yourself in some cases that will affect your person.  Like the drink issue, he never forced the cup on you rather was more like boring you with nagging, In such situations, I would say, I wont and thats it, its my life and personality here not his.  At worst he would get angry but atleast, he understands I  know when to do things my way.  Do you know how I look at it,  You only wanted to play a good girl.  There was no need smarshing bottles, ofcourse u know its unlady-like.  Here My "GOLDEN SILENCE" would play well for me cos i would say no and keep quit.  All I wish is that you learn the act of equal-cushion reaction to his attitudes.  There are times Silence would work well, other times, give definit answers and at other times, take him unawares, do this without his consent too yet when he nags, use silence to teach him.

Silence and patience works so also is a lil'bit of strong head. I think CC had a disclaimer attached to her posts too 
That single act of forcing her on a drink she clearly said she does not like is alarming.
Silence and patience does not work all the time neither does strong head.
Maybe she needs to use both 

Da Cork:
yea right. DONT HATE, JUST CONGRATULATE!!!

Mr Crackles,seriously this ur clown cloak fits u perfectly,im still wondering how u managed to act sane those early days
Btwn,how is madam?

naijababe:
Spot on

Ujujoan:
One time, we went out on a date and he decided I was going to drink a particular brand of wine. Now what irked me was how he kept telling me I was gonna like it even after I've explained to him that I've tried it before and I detest it! He went ahead to place the order (and it costed about 3x what I would have loved to have) and when it was served,he insisted I go ahead and drink it. 

Now I didn't want to appear rigid so I took a sip and of course I hated it. He still insisted I kept drinking it that 'I'll like it' and I'm like wtf?

Extreme! i doubt if i cud have taken that.
I wud agree to such arrangement only if he wud let me pick either his own drink or dinner for him . . .trust me,i wud make sure its the very thing he detests.
Well,if the guy is good in every other dept and worth the efforts,try both methods simultaneously. . silence and strong head.One wud surely work for u.
This is a red sign,dont ignore it,he wud either change now or never and u can either make him change now or accept it forever.
[s]wheres omo-ibo,i need to hear his own version of the tori[/s]

@Topic,If one of the key reasons a certain couple married was to make babies and after marriage,one of the partners was not able to do his/her own quota towards child-bearing . . .any of them can walk out of the marriage at any time if he/she cant wait.

johndoe200:
Let me start from the beginning, I used to have a secretary at a company I used to work for, she is from a village not far from mine. Anyway after a while we became "close" if you understand what I mean.
She took me to party hosted by a guy from her village, at the party I met the younger sister of the host, honestly I had not seen a booty that size on a young girl for a while. To cut the story short, I had  a very satisfying relationship with the sister.

Once when I went to the area, I ran into the mother of the young girl and she needed some help, we talked and became "close". To me it was a trip to bleep both a mother and her daughter. 2 years ago the guy who hosted the party married my former secretary. They now have a child. I was invited to small get together at the house. For some reason the guy was very rude to me and we got into an argument. I very nearly told the fool that I had slept with his wife, sister and mother and he should show me some respect.

I am still upset, I want some advise, should I tell him? I have pictures (which I kept as souvenirs) of all three (his wife, his sister and his mother) unclothed as proof that I "did" them.

I know that this may cause trouble in their family but it is his fault isn't it?

Johnbull and his annoying boooty tales.
Please,feel free to post their pictures to the hubby through email,registered mail and nipost.
I hope doing so wud help massage ur seemingly dead ego and esteem.
yeye de smell.

Uche is not one of my fav. actresses but she shld have informed the police then go to the AGN.However,if she believe the AGN wud give her the justice she deserves fine for her.
Na she collect slap,na she sabi as e pain/sweet reach but if it were me . . .dauda dey cool down for cell now with atleast 3 teeth missing.

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=565637.msg7305540#msg7305540 date=1291937626][size=20pt]Gosh . . .See love  . . .
$2 million Bugatti Veyron ''The fastest in the world . ,   . .
[b]Niaja girls [/b]can never buy their husbands an ordinary Panty or singlet talking of Bugatti Veyron . . . . . . [/size][/quote]nOT to join in ur sweeping generalization mood,are some naija boys worth buying even "dodo" for
!Topic,good for them.When u get someone who appreciate having u in his/her life,no sacrifice/gift is too much.

Andre Uweh:
Jimmy  'Snuka' Superfly bu onye Fiji.

O dinm ka na amaghi superfly nkea
Nke m ma buru ibu,ozokwa o na eyi uwe nwere nku(wings) 

Ladyrsky46:

I am proud to be one.
[size=5pt]Wish I can speak Igbo or is it Ibo though[/size]

Ndeewo

dayokanu:
Are you jealous? Do you want me to start sniffing yours?

Ok just say it, Sniff mine I sniff yours, God no go vex.

You don kolo.

Uju u dey fear?why use big grammar mask the true word?So Omo-Ibo Is " Mr-know-it-all"?
@Topic,Try and avoid getting into arguments with him/her.avoid discussing controversial issues as hes likely not ever gonna listen to u or stop and consider ur views and If he brings up the controversial topics,let him do the discussing himself alone and if possible argue with himself.
when u give him the silent i-do-not-care attitude for sometime,he wud get the message.whats the essence of getting me into an argument,share ideas with me when u are not going to listen to my opinion and views?

Aloy na confirmed Okpo
If he does not grab Jolies butt as5 na ur own e for grab?
Btwn,how do we even know if Jolie didnt start the game(playing with his fly) and we cant even see whats shes grabbing with her other hand

. . . whats unmentionables
Freaking bleeping Filter,My "ni.pp.les" i said!

stages:
I had a miscarraige in june 2008 which traumatised me alot even though it was not a planned pregnancy but we accepted it and were ready to have the baby but unfortunately it came out at 12 weeks. I cried and was worried i might not be able to give birth in my life. Soon after that my then fiancé began pressurizing me to take in but i didnot want to coz my doctor adviced me to stay for some months. One year later we did our traditional wedding and my husband continued asking me to take in(u know it depends on the lady coz if she dos not want, then NO WAY) I wanted to get pregnant just before or after the civil and church wedding so i tried to talk to him. In september 2009 we decided to start trying to conceive. That month i cried my life when my menses came, i started googling everything concerning trying to conceive and even join the TTC thread on the health section. October we tried and still nothing. When i complained to my doctor he said not to worry and refused to give me any medication. November we tried but i knew nothing would happen but to my greatest surprise i missed my period (at dat time my guy was the one doing the counting.) Few weeks later the symptoms started. My God it was awful. I went for a pregnancy test and it was positive. days later i started spotting blood. I rushed to the hospital and forced the doctor to do a scan. he did and placed me on progestan. My December was a mess; i got sick, hospitalised and could not work for a whole month. no appetite, sensitive to smell, i could not even cook coz i would end up vomiting, my husband could not even used his perfume when i am around. Our civil and church wedding was scheduled for march. I went through all the stress of marraige preparations with this pregnancy and all the time i was scared somthing would happen to my baby. Thanx to God nothing happened to my baby, the wedding went on well and i started looking forward to my delivery date.
At 39 weeks and some days i started having irregular contractions but not too strong for me to go to the hospital. I later on went to see my doctor at 40 weeks and he ruptured my mucus plug,( it hurts) Contrations continued but they were barable. after 2 days when nothing happened my doctor asked me to come to the hospital so i could be induced. Dat monday monday we went to the hospital, my mother and my hubby. I was insserted a tablet and asked to lie down for about 4 hours, still no strong contractions,then the doctor asked the midwife to give me drips and that was when the real show started. I WAS DISCUSSING AND LAIFFING WITH MY DOCTOR? MIDWIFE AND MY HUBBY AND SUDDENLY MY COUNTENANCE CHANGED the pains had started. God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! see painnnnnnnn. I shouted ooo breathed in and out oooo but no releif. I prayed ooooooooooo. I had the doctor , midewife and hubby to massage my waist and back. About three hours later i had to pushhhhhhhhhhh. I pusheddddddddddddddddddd and pushedddddddddddddddddddd and pusheddddddddddddddddd then i felt the doctor give me a tear and when i pusheddddddddddddddddd again she came out. she wwas placed on my tummy and opened her eyes looked and me and cried. OOOOOOOOOO i had done it, i felt so happy. She was 3.9kg. But guess wht!! dat was not all ooo.
I started bleeding heavily so much dat i started feeling dizzy, my doc was confused as he did not know where all the blood was coming from. not from the womb he said. When he saw dat i was loosing to much blood, he asked for blood from the blood bank. my blood was matched and ii was the same with what they had. but before they could bring the blood, he had already found out that the blood was coming from my torn cervix. my baby gave me terrible tears; from my vaginaa to my anus. all the pains i felt durin labour and delivery was nothing compared to what i felt during the stitching. i had more than 25 stitches and gues wht! :my cervix had to be brought out so it could stitch it. i cried, shouted and until i had no more strength left. I stayed 3 more hours in the labour room after delivery. I could not eat solid food for days and to sit well was a nitmare.
After all that when i look at my baby girl today I give praise to God. and no matter all what i went through, i still want more kids. she would be 4 months on thursday and she is so lovable, pretty and jovial.



too long huh

omg
I was cut too but i never felt the pains nor had pains or trauma afterwards.Thank God for u and ur baby.I cant begin to imagine how painful it must have been for u.
@Topic,didnt have much problem with my first child birthing,if anything it was with breastfeeding.Funniest part was that while preggie,i was bragging on how I'd "kill" baby baby friendly. Oh boy,when twas time,my nipples hurt so much,them boys too wanted it so often that i cried for days.

babalase:
please I want to adopt my nephew and niece in nigeria but I don't know where to start from,their dad is late but their mum is alive and she has giving me go ahead to adopt the children legally,I want a better life for them hence I want to adopt them and relocate them to united state,the eldest one is ten years old while the other is seven years old,please how do I start?

If their mum is alive why not foster them?why adopt them or adopting them legally wud make it easier for u bring them abroad with u
Write the Social welfare office of their location and inform them of ur motives.It takes quite some time and most times,they wud require to have u in person during the processing.

nurabela:
What should you do if you and your ex are in love but he won't forget your bad history together?

Sorry!
Most men are like that _{in as much as they might want to cliam or appear otherwise} . . .They cant deal with their lady's past.
I wud say leave him!!!! His refusal to forget ur past wud make him never trust u,any mistake u make wud have him referring to ur past.Any relationship with loads of fears and very little trust for each other is waste of time,IMO.

big father:
Different heading with a different story.

abi o.

nurabela:
What do you do if you have to travel for work and your boyfriend or girlfriend gets mad about it with[b] no reason[/b] to be?

I wud pretend he does not exist and still go on with my journey.

dayokanu:
^6What of me?

i never knew one of the criteria was who's best and dogged at sniffing ard for Toyosi1 panties
i wud nominate u at the sexuality section

ChinenyeN:
ee, mgba as in wrestling. Cena ke? Mbanu, abughi m otimkpu ya. Abughi m otimkpu onye o bula mana a chokwanu ikwu okwu Stone Cold ma o bu The Rock bu ndi gara aga (ndi ochie), aga m asi na ha masiri m. Mana nke Cena bu na o buru ibu shi nne, nwekwa iru dika okuta. You can't see me. haha.

hahaha
E chetaram Stone cold ugbua Dede ahu wu onye ojoo.Ihe oji eri bu Ikpo gi isi nkwocha ya na afo . . .
I ma superfly
Lee stone cold na Cena

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrxW9RNIgV8&feature=fvsr
Stone cold in action

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU1lJr55IXc&feature=related

LeoChinedu:
Ify,
Congrats. Let's be like Muhammad (PBUH) in our own way

, and to Mukina2,
You are appreciated. Hope you find the courage to stay in this section.

Islam for Muslims, let's be friends,

Thank u.
Are u really Chinedu?i bu onye Igbo?
@Uplawal,u said sumtin abt not praying for a dead unbeliver.Pls come and shed more light.

Lagosboy:
All kind of jewelry is permitted for women ify, tell AR to get you a platinum plus diamond ring Lols.

Generally gold is[b] forbidden[/b] for men.

lmao.AR dey read oooh.
Gold for men is forbidden?as in its a haram,not recommended or its advised against?

uplawal:
@Ify,Allah warned us not to pray for an umbeliever living and dead,am just making a refrence to Bawolomo's page you wrote R I P

Oh really?
lets not derail this thread,come to the other thread with sura or hadith to support ur claim.Salams

I miss the ffg members:
toh.
sauron.
almond joy.
Adeboo.

freecocoa:
@Ifyalways are you sure our mums aren't related?u just reminded me of something,my mum loved God and church to a fault,at times my siblings and i pretend to be ill just to avoid one fellowship or the orther,which doesn't always work cos she'll say just manage lets go,the lord will heal you faster there and if you insist that you can't she'll disconnect the elecronics in the house and go wiv the wires or she'll lock you outside till she gets back(this happens wen she thinks you are lying)which is usually the case.GOD I MISS THAT WOMAN.

lmao
Faith of our mothers,amazing it is!.I cant however,pretend or deny the power of her over-church,over prayers,over fasting and over everything spiritual.

[quote author=Mr¬Cork link=topic=564352.msg7293611#msg7293611 date=1291799015]will apreciate sumbody when I get punny on Nairaland. But until then, [/quote]
@Topic,Agaba123,Hes got all the time in the world from me,from sharing all my pains to celebrating all my strenght.Hes always there for me,met him in NLD and im so scared to think of what life cud have been without his brotherly advices. 
Lagosboy,I and hubby cant even sit back to explain what hes done for us.
Toyosi,shes the lil'kid sis i never had.
I love and appreciate the ffg users,their posts always somehow make my day:
Ujujoan
Spikecylinder
Naijacutee
Omo ibo
Darfur,Ikomi,Youngies,Presido1,Echelon,Andrew Uweh.
Sissy.
Otokx. . . .my e-crush 
Tpia
. . . . .and my main man,Jakumo  darling 

There are 2 things i dislike abt my parents . . . They killed me with over-love.  
1.Mum esp.gave and still gives me so much love but refuses to take as much as i wud have loved to give.
2.Mum loves church,bible and God toooo much.She hardly has time for anything else;Bible study,visitation,go-a-fishing,counseling,sunday school preparation,prayer band,prayer warriors etc.Dem build church for her head  

Ileke-idi,Tpia,Oyinda and Andre-Uweh.

Nope.
I dont wanna be rocking Da-grin while hubby is humming Obey Ebenezer.

There is nothing absolutely wrong with the OP sharing this story on NLD neither is he/she breaking any rule of silence/code of confidentiality.
@OP,The girl shld be meant to understand the after effects and consequences of her action and non-action.
First the fetus:
Is she ready to have a child now,can she cope with the stigma attached with single parents,can she deal with the trauma when its time to explain to the child who the dad is?
The Family:
As long as she keeps the preggie,sooner or later,her sis and extended family wud get to know,can she deal with that?Severe family ties?
i believe this girl was above 18,how on earth did she forget the "morning after pills" ?
She needs to answer sincerely the above questions and decide if her staunch religious beliefs wud see her through when the fruit of her action or non-action ripes

Outstrip:
You are welcome. okpo

*Death*