₦airaland Forum

Tedpgrass:
Hallo,

Any spring meets or bbq being planned for this year?

Thanks

slex:
Em, please i made an awful mistake in telling my babe that i was going to buy her perfume, chocolate and a big teddy bear thinking it would excite her a bit, the next thing she said was ''for what ?is that all'' and started to laugh, we both here in Ukraine but she is a Nigerian girl, i told her sorry i was joking i will buy you Ipad 2. for WHY(what) so she wants be to spend almost a $1000 on her?mind you she had already told me one week ago that she wont get me anything cos of money issues. pls advice cos i have made up my mind not to get her anything.

dadicvila:
Ordinarily i hate any form of homo sexuality,infact it disgust me,till i met this girl recently online,we got talking and we realised we lived not too far 4rm each other, as usual i took it to the next level and i bleeped her,4rm my keen sense of observation i noticed she was a hardcore lesbian,i was patient till i gathered enough evidence and confronted her,she dint deny it,she was so shocked and she started crying,asking me how i knew her deep secret, ordinarily i did not plan to have any emotional attachment to dis girl but right now i am confused,i am not sure but i think i feel sometin for her,we talked recently and she promised to change her ways,please i want to know how i can talk sense into her head and make her change her ways??is it possible??what kind of things can i say to her??thanx

dadicvila:
@Chelsea for some strange reasons i cant understand the rate of lesbianism in PH is on the steady rise, many PH guys like me not only have to guard their babes from other guys but also 4rm their fellow girls, its pathetic, i just want to convince her to give up her old ways

dadicvila:
@Chookym she gave the same old reasons,-sex with a guy hurts,a guy will sleep with her and dump her,the same reasons they keep using to confuse and recruit small girls into their dark acts

mobf:
Bleep her very very well . She'll come to see there's nothn as sweet as flesh 

Goldieluks:
Inknerd you sound very single and available.I wanted to have a conversation with that guy ,while I have been eyeing this guy for a week now. Wtf girl?

TisaBone:
no one told me about fasting. it is something i decided to do for myself after reading the bible. I just really want to be as close to God as possible and not of the world. In the past I have made horrible choices in life and in men and I WILL NOT make the same mistakes. Although I am disappointed, because the longest I have been able to fast was for two days, then I got sick. so next time im going to have to have some sort of nourishment like slim fast, in order to meet my goal of three days without food. I am trying to live a certain lifestyle. Christianity is not a cloak you can take on and off. All aspects of your life must be changed. And the most important thing is adhering to the doctrines of God and not Being Intimate until marriage. Then once I get married THEN I  will be able to do all the freaky things that I want to my husband, because everything is sacred in the marriage bed. Also, I will know for sure that the man loves me if he is willing to wait for me.

I always gravitate toward the hood dudes and the drugs boys. but they never mean me any good and I only  end up being the "good girl" I'm done with  treating men who dont deserve that special treatment, and giving the  my all. My African sisters, you are not the only women who are getting mistreated, mind, body, and soul.  Im sick and tired and have been drained dry. I dont hate men, nor am i bitter, but i also know that i need time away from men to clear my head, and think on what it is that i truly want from a man, and what i am willing to put up with and what i wont accept.And most important of all, I need to put God first.

old dude at church fits the bill. so really im glad that they told me to stay away. and thats why i listened. I am not a 'yes mummy' girl. but a wise man/woman is able to listen to instruction.I'm so glad that I caught myself, with the help of people that are looking out for me. What feels good to you is not always good for you.

TisaBone:
yea i understand where you are coming from inked nerd. actually i told my aunt about the situation, and she said to me, he cant be all that bad if he is going to church, that means that he is seeking god. I mean sometimes during sermons, he dances around, and i think its funny to be honest. he knows what he's doing, because he looked back at me one time. I mean after all, I might be in my early 20's but I'm still a kid in a lot of ways. I remember the first time I saw him, and I thought how handsome he was. He is way taller than me, which I like alot because im 5'11. I went up to him and told him I could tell that he was running the streets and maybe doing things that he shouldn't. He started laughing and told me that i was spot on. I told him that just because that he was doing the wrong thing didn't mean that he couldn't turn himself around, because really, i saw something so beautiful in him. As we began to talk, he grabbed my hands in both of his, and held my hands so gently and made me feel comfortable, something about it felt so right. then after our conversation he gave me a big hug. afterwards, a woman interrupts our conversation and said he comes to church and talks to all the pretty ladies. seriously, you dont want to talk to him. she said this right in front of his face. and as she was saying this, i was thinking to me, there are no pretty ladies in this church.

but anyways, im going to pray on this.

im not exactly on the market for a man, and im not really looking. im a firm believer that everything happens in its own time. so if its meant to be it will happen,


also, was it inappropriate for him and I to hold hands? I didn't think so, but one of my church elders said that i needed to "slow down"

TisaBone:
i highly doubt that he is in church looking for a girl. he was a member of that church way before i joined. and there are no cute girls there besides me.

any how if its meant to be, then everything will fall into place.

the thing that made me feel guilty was when i was told to "slow down"

I mean i am trying so hard to be a born again Christian. I am preparing myself to not Be Intimate before marriage by fasting. I figure that if I don't eat for a couple of days and deny myself food, then that will prepare me for denying myself sex, which I have enjoyed in the past.

so he wouldn't be getting any booty anyways.

TisaBone:
i have no clue why they told me to stay away from him. but my best guess is that they know  something about him that i dont. three people warned me about him.

TisaBone:
i am too scared to ask why. i dont even want to know why. what does it matter? besides, for years, i never listened to anything that anyone told me, not realizing that they were telling me for my own good. i ended up suffering because of my disobedience, and my disregard for advice. Many lessons i had to learn the hard way. The world disciplined me.  So now, if i know that someone is telling me the right thing, i will listen., i can distinguish between wrong advice and right advice. I just dont  wish to repeat the same mistakes two and three and four times. I've had enough of that in my life. I just want to do the right thing. and if they are telling me to stay away from him, that's what i will do.

TisaBone:
im 22 going on 23 and whatever a sugar mummy is, i sure in heck dont look like one!!!!!


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it's not a matter of how i look, but i dont know what to do, as far as dressing like a heaux, thats not me. and random sex isn't either. and men like 30 and up try to talk to me. and i dont want to be in bed with someone who feels like my daddy.  they know more about life, and i dont want them to use what they know thanks to them  being on this earth longer than me, to take advantage of me. that's why i dont like older men. I dont like young boys for obvious reasons. Im not trying to go to jail. but lord some of these 16 and 17 year olds look good. now those i cant wait until they turn 18. but even then i still probably wouldn't want them because i am on a whole other level than them.

*sad face*

and then when it comes to guys my age i get really shy. I dont know how to approach them. they always talk about the latest parties and going out to drink and act silly and smoke mary jane. but i dont do any of these things. Plus, there was a guy i kinda liked at church, but the church elders told me to stay away from him. and because of the person I am, I know that obedience is better than the sacrafice, so i did as they said and left him alone.

How is one to meet a god fearing young man around my age? not necessarily for romance, but to just hang out and chill.

thankyou for the advice so far.

toyemz:
^^^
sorry i understand that every adult is responsible for his or own action
but in a situation where you have a controlling partner who abuses the vulnerability and trust put in him
then yes i hold him accountable
Bobby Brown was the original badboy who not only introduced her to the drugs but kept her on them so that he could use her money to feed his own habit, that is selfishness and that was the downward spiral clincher for Whitney
but for the faith and perseverance of her family she would have been dead long ago
she was an adult yes, but the one person who should have lifted her up,kept pushing her further and further down
That alone is  the sin

phraoh:
Yeah, i know buh,it still dont matter,he sowed d seed.Like Toyemz said,she was just too vurnerable to love.

We lost a gem.

phraoh:
Yeah,our prayers should go to them cos truthfully,i dont know how her other half (Bobbee) is faring.The originator, i know,yu said we should blame Whitney for her deviations,buh i still have this urge to wriggle his neck.