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TroyJay:No my lame brained friend, you're the one missing the point--not I. You and this dimwitted idea on how to "differentiate" between the two women is nothing more than an age old practice of using a gender based notion of measuring a woman's worth. Having gone used this foolish method does not in any way determine who is better or worse. [quote author=Ch@nges link=topic=868155.msg10170934#msg10170934 date=1328940623]It seems like ladies are against the trick, i'm against it as well. @1st advicer, remember at first, he wasn't using those tricks and if he suddenly initiate them, the ladies will feel nothing but disappointed and you know what that means. What i'm saying is that it's too late to apply those trick, he could apply them at the begining of the relationship. So, we need our ladies here to suggest a better way.[/quote]Of course I'm against it! How would you as a man feel if you found out that a woman was testing or judging your based solely on your finances? Trickery is no way to build the foundation to ones future. |
[quote author=Ch@nges link=topic=868016.msg10171012#msg10171012 date=1328942009]He needs advice and not insults, bullpoos!! @OP hmmmmmm this is a serious problem, and if i were in your shoes i'll call my fiancé and tell her what's on board(but get ready coz she'll be disappointed). But let her know you don't love the oyinbo gurl(if only u don't truly love her). I think her response will pave a way out. Try it and hear from her. Who knows? She might as well have someone she loves there and will be willing to xtend the relationship with him. With that, you guys can easily think together towards your futures respectively.[/quote]He doesn't need any damn advice! He made his bed not let him lie in it. If anything, he should entrench himself further by asking her to be his second wife. If he was grown enough to go out of his way and step out on his girlfriend then he is grown enough to take care of this nonsense on his own. As an individual who who knew what the consequences can be for cheating on a partner, he is now paying for it. If he didn't want trouble, he should have kept his pants on. |
Konnektions146:Common decency doesn't kill people ya know. Despsite whatever foolish notions you have about what women are or how we operate, we are nothing like children just as you men are not the dogs that some women proclaim you to be. |
Oletunow:What makes you think I've never opened a door for a guy before or done things like that for a guy? |
kaykaybaba:Awww Metalgoong:Abeg leave am. BigBenoski:lol no I don't have glasses [I used to though], but that is a tale I will tell some other time ![]() |
TroyJay:I'm replying based on how you worded your response so stop acting as though I just presented you with new information. With that being said, you said "Leave his house in a mess anytime he wants to invite each one over. A caring lady will notice the state of his house and do something about it.", "Always suggest eating out. . . " which lead to my comment about cooking and cleaning. You used those lines as though such tests are the only ways to determine if someone can or will make a good wife--these are YOUR words, not mine. Being at a crossroad is no reason to employ lame brain ideas. No woman's duty is too cook and clean. Just because YOU choose to assert these indoctrinated gender roles doesn't make it true. Like I said before, had the script been flipped and a woman came here talking about testing a man financially, you and your likes would be getting up in arms and proclaiming that there is more to a man than his money. Everything which I have mentioned about cooking and cleaning are in relation to the implied comments which YOU made. All I simply did was decipher it. You laid the foundation to this implication, not I. |
TroyJay:A woman's "role" or purpose in life isn't to be your personal maid or personal cook. Your the sort that would have the audacity to open your mouth and complain if a woman decided to test a man on his finances. There is more to women than just cooking and cleaning, and if you choose to limit your thinking to just that then I feel sorry for the woman who may some day become a permanent fixture in your life. |
TroyJay:Well that's quite sad to hear that such things were used as a means of choosing a spouse. You're right, he doesn't have to and he shouldn't! Had such "advice" been reversed and a woman tried the exact same thing here, she'd get nothing but insults for setting up a test to see if a guy would clean up after her. |
TroyJay:Biko, tell me how you came up with this lame brain method. A woman cleaning your house, following nonsense gossip, pretending to be broke, will not prove that a woman loves you. It's foolish trickery like that that can lead to mistrust and breakups. How about you go back to the drawing board and come up with a more intelligent manner to solve this guy's friend's dilemma. |
TroyJay:Oops, I made a mistake. Biko, no vex ![]() |
lol, no problem ![]() |
@OP: Yes, I can marry a male virgin just as long as he has the qualities I am looking for in a man. |
TroyJay:Ok, so who's gonna play Henry and Mimi? Any takers? ![]() |
claremont:I never said that claremont, so please don't put words in my mouth. I simply asked a series of questions because based on the way you worded your response it sounded as though you knew with the utmost certainty that theses supposed drunks have always been drunks. |
claremont:Can you please tell me, how on Earth you or anyone else knows that these women knew that these men were drunks beforehand or that they were fully aware? Just curious but do you live with them? Did you grow up with them? Do you know any of them personally? |
coogar:Oh gee, poor you. It must be terrible to live in a society that bends of over backwards to your attics and allows you to see live a life where you benefit from double standards. Poor you! ![]() |
uniqueren:LOL ![]() TroyJay:I'll play the poster in these roles if given the opportunity. I'm quite sure I can be just as convincing as she can ![]() |
claremont:In as much as I have argued on behalf of men that do not come forward to report their own abuse I highly doubt that the abuse is of an equal scale. Yes, its good that these men are reporting these abuse they're being subjected to and yes, abuse does go both ways but to honestly sit here and say it is of an equal nature is quite preposterous. As pendo89 mentioned, some of these men getting beaten day in and out, are usually drunkards who refuse to work like the rest or just silly adulterers--while these men are being subjected to physical abuse, it would seem that some of these women may be emotionally abuse especially given the fact that some of these women though they may be married, may possibly be the one within the household actually taking care of the household affairs. Upon being subjected to having to care for the household affairs, some of these women are being taken advantage of financially. It's one thing to care for children and work, its another thing to feel that because of marriage you're then obligated to care for a grown and competent adult. In all, abuse of all sorts is wrong regardless of the gender being affected. And while I don't believe that the report as a whole is false, I do believe that there are indeed holes within this report. |
@OP: Just wondering, why did you label this as a national emergency? Women all over Africa are being abused at a much higher rate than their male counterparts so why was there such a need to label this as a national emergency? pendo89:Please ask her because this is starting to look one sided--not that I'm saying domestic violence of any sort is acceptable. |
dommfa:Eh ya, just post more and make yourself known. With time, people will talk to you. Remember, you did say that you were passive member ![]() |
Lmao, did you just refer to KFC and Chicken Republic as an expensive dinner? ![]() Nice exchanges though ![]() |
Daresh:Although I think it would be nice tear the "other woman" to pieces, I think you should let her be. If it were I, I probably would have told her husband about the whole thing so she can have a bit of drama in her marriage but hey, that's just me. It's good that you told both sides of your family, that way they won't say the news came out of left field. Like I always say, children aren't stupid--they can tell when somethings up even if you don't tell them. Ultimately the decision is up to you. You know what kind of man he is so tread lightly my sista. |
[quote author=Ch@nges link=topic=868086.msg10169475#msg10169475 date=1328908709]@OP Don't worry babe, mimi will snatch your unwanted pregnancy from you. Trust me[/quote]lmao ![]() |
flash11:OP, listen to this guy. Even the guys are telling you to leave that sniveling creature you call a husband. |
@OP: You know sometimes I can't help but wonder what kind inbred stupidity that leads African women to stay in such situations. It's no longer a matter of marriage having challenges. He has clearly demonstrated not only does he not respect you, he doesn't care how his actions affect you. If he has done it in the past, he will surely do it again. As a woman, what you choose to do about it will determine the quality of life you will love. |
[quote author=TroyJay. link=topic=868086.msg10169190#msg10169190 date=1328905703]The clincher was when Peter metamorphosed to henry, and story ended as Henry. . . This movie would need a better director. This kind of mistake is totally unacceptable![/quote]Hahaha ![]() |
[quote author=TroyJay. link=topic=868086.msg10169059#msg10169059 date=1328904598]This story is faker than Nicki Minaj's Backside. [/quote]So very true. Glad to know I wasn't the only person that felt that way. slimyem:It probably is ![]() |
Metalgoong:LOL LOL ![]() |
I don't use lotions much. If I do, it is usually on my feet but I don't use it often in my feet. I usually stick with oils and my homemade body and hair butters. Just the idea of putting lotion on my body feels nasty to me ![]() |
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Let him:
We need Peter and Mimi. 
