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RomanceRe: Guys Whats Ur View On Gals With Stretch Marks? by InkedNerd(f): 9:43pm On Oct 10, 2010
OP: Where did you get your number's from?
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 9:04pm On Oct 10, 2010
maedan:
He should be ashamed for bringing up such a stewpid topic. So your girl demands for sex too much? Big freaking deal. It's obviously not a serious issue but an attention-seeking ploy. You can keep humouring him if you're so jobless. But I'M not.
Look, all I asked was a simple question. You didn't need to be so rude. Anyway, even if it is/was s.tupid, is that not what the romance section if for? Just because you didn't like the question doesn't mean that its irrelevant. If it bothered you so much then you shouldn't have commented.
FamilyRe: Is It Wrong To Have Right In My Husband’s House? by InkedNerd(f): 8:59pm On Oct 10, 2010
kafikac:
I don't know am even afraid of spoiling any thing in the house because if I do it will be hell.I don't know what to do, I want to give my children the best of life but I feel so much headache because i think so much, nobody to help me he separates me from my family and friends. he still call me a loser.pls somebody help me and tell me what to do. every little thing I do pisses him off .
My dear, this is an abusive relationship. The best thing to do is to leave him--quickly!!! Its only a matter of time before his anger escalates. You wanting a good life for your children is no reason to become his physical and verbal punching bag. What sort of example would you be teaching your children if they see your husband beating and belittling you? And suppose he starts to abuse the children as well? Please for your safety and the well being of your children, you MUST leave!!! The things you have described are the characteristics of an abusive partner. I truly fear for you right now. You need to find some way to get out of this and reclaim your life. I know often times things like this are taken lightly in Nigeria but you must do something immediately. Please use the information that tjskii has provided and please take a look at this link as well if/when you decide to leave:

(1) http://www.valueoptions.com/suicide_prev/html%20pages/What%20Can%20I%20Do%20If%20I%20Am%20in%20an%20Abusive%20Relationship.htm

(2) http://www.ehow.com/how_5092072_escape-relationship-middle-night-unnoticed.html


Please take a look at this link. It has a LOT of the characteristics that you have described:

(1) http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
FamilyRe: Invention Of Polygamy by InkedNerd(f): 8:44pm On Oct 10, 2010
Can I please watch this video as well?
RomanceRe: Switching Roles/Shoe On The Other Foot by InkedNerd(op): 8:29pm On Oct 10, 2010
omohwunmmy:
@topic:
If my bf cheats,I wont walk out of my relationship if it is a one time thing and it wasn't deliberate. But if d man feels its his right to cheat;then he can go date a hooker.
Wow, interesting. Hmmm, i'm startrting to notice that some girls would let it slide just as long as there was not emotion attached to the cheating partner

IyaBasira:
I think women are partly to blame for this. Some women spoil their sons rotten, not with clothes or flashy cars, but with lack of moral training which eventually deadens their consciences.  They make them believe that they can do no wrong and they grow up with superiority complexes that turn them into their own worst enemies as they grow older.


The effect it has on me;

I read a lot of blogs and stuff so to me this is a never-ending question. It's like the question of "Why is there so much evil in the world?" and we all know that is one question that can't really be answered. This is one of those questions. It's like some sort of unspoken code amongst guys that you don't  really become a man in the true sense of the word until you've cheated on at least one of your girlfriends. I cannot count how many guys I know who have cheated on their girlfriends. And it makes me extremely paranoid, to the extent that I have realized that I feel happy when I hear of a girl who cheats on a guy, just because I'm tired of hearing how many guys cheat on their girlfriends.
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IyaBasira, you bring up some very interesting points in your comments especially with the part where you mentioned feeling happy when you hear about a girl who has cheated on her boyfriend. It reminds me of an episode on ABC's "20/20" where they were exploring various scenarios in a social setting and how people reacted to it. In episode that you reminded me of, it was an episode about abusive couples. They showed couples in a park arguing and fighting. Every once in a while, they'd switch it up based on race and gender. What I noticed was that when the male actors in the experiment would hit and berate the women, people came to the women's rescue but when roles were reversed and the woman was causing major damage to the men, many people seemed to turn a blind eye. As a matter of fact, there was actually a woman that walked by and kinda egged them woman on with a supportive yet silent gesture. Anyway, please don't let the idiotic ways of some men interfere [in a negative manner] with you how you perceive and interact with men. As for women enabling their sons to think that they're rulers of the world, that one on its own is a whole different issue/discussion. Hmmm, you've given me an idea for my next topic.
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:33pm On Oct 10, 2010
ZIM DRILL:
becoz you are a woman you wouldnt know what goes in the man's head

this is reverse of a man telling you to go through abortion

but he doesnt know what is going  through your head
Hmmm. . . Interesting.

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=528891.msg6912786#msg6912786 date=1286713557]Yikes!! But yeah, it has happened here too. Some women choose it that way, some babies just come in a hurry too. Your grandmother is one strong lady!!![/quote]Yupp, she's a tough cookie grin

Specialist900:
sometimes complications do during child deliviery, all he will be wishing would be safe delivery.
Hmmm ::raises eyebrow:::
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:24pm On Oct 10, 2010
ZIM DRILL:
am not against it but i think man are being conned emotionaly to be there in the devilery room

you might think it will make people bond but it up to an individual to bond whether through a rough time or not
Hmmmm ::[/b]raises eyebrow[b]::
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:21pm On Oct 10, 2010
[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=528891.msg6912762#msg6912762 date=1286712958]well he was there to put it in so why not coming out! Its normal here. The guy is always with the woman, by her side, helping here through. I think its important, helps them to bond together from the start.[/quote]Hey Tink_sh, wanna hear something funny? My grandmother delivered my aunt by herself. No doctor, no husband--All on her own. Wither her own two hands.

Specialist900:
will it be more than wishing that both the baby and the mother sail through the delivery process.
What do you mean?

ZIM DRILL:
i know

i want to hear your view would you want your man to watch your p$$$y bursting giving birth
I wouldn't mind.
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:14pm On Oct 10, 2010
ZIM DRILL:
you want them to be in the delivery room by her side watching the baby coming out
there are men that do that
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:12pm On Oct 10, 2010
xxcarolxx:
You mean to say 9ja guys don't go into the delivery roomhuh They wait outside,
Hmmm, perhaps some still have the pre1960's belief about men being outside of the delivery room.
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 1:10pm On Oct 10, 2010
190:
sweetheart im a Nigerian guy but lets face factz

Nigerian men love sex more than their women~
Abeg, speak for yourself. No offense babe but you don't speak for every Nigerian man.
CelebritiesRe: X Factor Reject Gamu Ordered To Leave Uk by InkedNerd(f): 1:08pm On Oct 10, 2010
She's racist? huh How so?
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 1:04pm On Oct 10, 2010
OP : Can you post this question in the family forum as well? You'll receive more responses there and I'm really curious to see the answers.
RomanceRe: Switching Roles/Shoe On The Other Foot by InkedNerd(op): 12:57pm On Oct 10, 2010
Specialist900:
I Like the sound of that.there is a word called repentance, the fellow could repent and then you forgive, forget and move on.
undecided
RomanceRe: Please Help: I Love My Naija Man by InkedNerd(f): 12:42pm On Oct 10, 2010
No problem wink
RomanceRe: In The Mind Of A Man by InkedNerd(f): 12:40pm On Oct 10, 2010
Oh my, good question. High five for you wink
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 12:38pm On Oct 10, 2010
JewElan:
@Inked_nerd Many nice Nigerian men?! Where?? Last i checked almost all want sex,
Exactly, keyword is "almost all". Just because there are a lot of wor wor men out there doesn't mean that there's aren't a lotof ood ones left. Its like when people say all Nigerian girls are cheat on their boyfriends. We all know its not true. There are still those who are faithful. You can't always let rumors or social perceptions get in the way of things like this.

190:
^^
Not in this country,

A man would deny his GF sex,

except he's impotent!
Look, you can't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch. Just as I defend my Naija sistas, I will defend my brothers.
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 12:08pm On Oct 10, 2010
190:
Is this real  shocked shocked

Is this Genuine

A guy denying his GF sex,

Poster u aree a rear GEM,

Your type cant be found in over 2000 nigerian men~
Yes, he is a gem but that last part is untrue. There are still many nice Naija men out there wink.
RomanceRe: Please Help: I Love My Naija Man by InkedNerd(f): 12:05pm On Oct 10, 2010
I personally, don't think that there's anything wrong with you. Give it another shot and see how it goes. If you you still get nothing then perhaps you should move on. Hope all works out wink
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 11:50am On Oct 10, 2010
okenwa:
|^^^ the guy is starving the girl, why wouldn't he be ashamed?
do you know what it takes for a lady to ask for it?
aahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I never said it was good that he's depriving her of s.ex. I no, I don't know what it takes for a woman to ask because I see nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know that she wants to have s.ex. No offense but I was curious to know maedan's reasons for saying it.

ladej:
inked, wetin dey? u are on point here.
Hi ladej, and thanks.
RomanceRe: Please Help: I Love My Naija Man by InkedNerd(f): 11:43am On Oct 10, 2010
waterfall1:
Thanks for responding! I really have no justification for what I did going through his mail but see, what happened is last year when I started communicating with my boyfriend this girl went into his phone and computer and got all my details and that is how she started calling me and telling me that how he was her husband etc. When I went to visit that is when I found out that even after my boyfriend claimed they had broken up she kept coming by using excuses to stay over and she kept calling him and texting him etc and he claimed they were just friends so i started nit trusting him and when I got into his mail I saw all the mails she was still begging him to take her back and quoting my name that I was lying about her calling me. But what pained me was that he never told me all this.

I do not keep any secrets from him and yes I know that I had no right going into his mail and I apologised and one of his sisters also begged him to forgive me because distance was playing its part in me getting frustrated. But I do not understand why after all we have been through he is not willing to give me another chance and is instead connecting with her publicly on social networks and totally ignoring my calls!
Hmmm, well if that is the case then you guys [you and this Nigerian man] REALLY need to have a talk. Both of you need to explain yourselves and your actions to one another. Try writing him a letter expressing how you feel about the situation and continue to maintain communication with his mother.
FamilyRe: Is It Wrong To Have Right In My Husband’s House? by InkedNerd(f): 11:31am On Oct 10, 2010
Dyt:
Mayb dats cos u rely on him in everyth u do,get ursef a job
And what if he doesn't "allow" her to work? Then what?

sms4health:
Two of you can't both be in control.

Learn and understand what sets him off and avoid them
Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Yes, they both can "be in control" but it doesn't mean he should control her. She shouldn't have to walk on eggshells in her their own home.
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 11:24am On Oct 10, 2010
maedan:
Poster, u should be ashamed of yourself. Who cares??
Why should he be ashamed? huh Its not like he's tryin' to mount the girl. Are you telling him he should be ashamed for trying to have her repress her sexual desires?
RomanceRe: Please Help: I Love My Naija Man by InkedNerd(f): 11:19am On Oct 10, 2010
Hmmm, I think you should stay in contact with the mother. She may be the key to you getting back with your Nigerian man. Ummm, just wondering why did you go through his mail?
RomanceRe: Switching Roles/Shoe On The Other Foot by InkedNerd(op): 11:05am On Oct 10, 2010
Hehehe, I try not not judge. If that works for you then so be it wink
RomanceRe: Sex Addict by InkedNerd(f): 10:57am On Oct 10, 2010
Hmmm, I'm gonna keep an eye on this thread. If/when I come up with something, I will throw in my two cents.
RomanceRe: Switching Roles/Shoe On The Other Foot by InkedNerd(op): 10:54am On Oct 10, 2010
Ok o wink
Nairaland GeneralRe: Who Is Your Favourite Nairalander And Why? by InkedNerd(f): 10:48am On Oct 10, 2010
citizenisb:
SHAME ON YOU NIGERIANS, YOU ARE ALL COWARDS, AND HUNGRY ONES AT IT.

A COUNTRY DESERVES THE LEADERSHIP IT GETS
NIGERIA- THE COUNTRY OF RETARDS.
Wrong forum sweetie. Take that over to the politics forum and so you can join that Nigerian basher MorpheusII tongue. And FYI, we are not a cowards!!!
RomanceRe: Switching Roles/Shoe On The Other Foot by InkedNerd(op): 10:37am On Oct 10, 2010
Ok, I see. Are you in love with him? Once again if you don't feel comfortable answering, I understand.

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