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OP: Where did you get your number's from? |
maedan:Look, all I asked was a simple question. You didn't need to be so rude. Anyway, even if it is/was s.tupid, is that not what the romance section if for? Just because you didn't like the question doesn't mean that its irrelevant. If it bothered you so much then you shouldn't have commented. |
kafikac:My dear, this is an abusive relationship. The best thing to do is to leave him--quickly!!! Its only a matter of time before his anger escalates. You wanting a good life for your children is no reason to become his physical and verbal punching bag. What sort of example would you be teaching your children if they see your husband beating and belittling you? And suppose he starts to abuse the children as well? Please for your safety and the well being of your children, you MUST leave!!! The things you have described are the characteristics of an abusive partner. I truly fear for you right now. You need to find some way to get out of this and reclaim your life. I know often times things like this are taken lightly in Nigeria but you must do something immediately. Please use the information that tjskii has provided and please take a look at this link as well if/when you decide to leave: (1) http://www.valueoptions.com/suicide_prev/html%20pages/What%20Can%20I%20Do%20If%20I%20Am%20in%20an%20Abusive%20Relationship.htm (2) http://www.ehow.com/how_5092072_escape-relationship-middle-night-unnoticed.html Please take a look at this link. It has a LOT of the characteristics that you have described: (1) http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm |
Can I please watch this video as well? |
omohwunmmy:Wow, interesting. Hmmm, i'm startrting to notice that some girls would let it slide just as long as there was not emotion attached to the cheating partner IyaBasira:. IyaBasira, you bring up some very interesting points in your comments especially with the part where you mentioned feeling happy when you hear about a girl who has cheated on her boyfriend. It reminds me of an episode on ABC's "20/20" where they were exploring various scenarios in a social setting and how people reacted to it. In episode that you reminded me of, it was an episode about abusive couples. They showed couples in a park arguing and fighting. Every once in a while, they'd switch it up based on race and gender. What I noticed was that when the male actors in the experiment would hit and berate the women, people came to the women's rescue but when roles were reversed and the woman was causing major damage to the men, many people seemed to turn a blind eye. As a matter of fact, there was actually a woman that walked by and kinda egged them woman on with a supportive yet silent gesture. Anyway, please don't let the idiotic ways of some men interfere [in a negative manner] with you how you perceive and interact with men. As for women enabling their sons to think that they're rulers of the world, that one on its own is a whole different issue/discussion. Hmmm, you've given me an idea for my next topic. |
ZIM DRILL:Hmmm. . . Interesting. [quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=528891.msg6912786#msg6912786 date=1286713557]Yikes!! But yeah, it has happened here too. Some women choose it that way, some babies just come in a hurry too. Your grandmother is one strong lady!!![/quote]Yupp, she's a tough cookie ![]() Specialist900:Hmmm ::raises eyebrow::: |
ZIM DRILL:Hmmmm ::[/b]raises eyebrow[b]:: |
[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=528891.msg6912762#msg6912762 date=1286712958]well he was there to put it in so why not coming out! Its normal here. The guy is always with the woman, by her side, helping here through. I think its important, helps them to bond together from the start.[/quote]Hey Tink_sh, wanna hear something funny? My grandmother delivered my aunt by herself. No doctor, no husband--All on her own. Wither her own two hands. Specialist900:What do you mean? ZIM DRILL:I wouldn't mind. |
ZIM DRILL:there are men that do that |
xxcarolxx:Hmmm, perhaps some still have the pre1960's belief about men being outside of the delivery room. |
190:Abeg, speak for yourself. No offense babe but you don't speak for every Nigerian man. |
She's racist? How so? |
OP : Can you post this question in the family forum as well? You'll receive more responses there and I'm really curious to see the answers. |
Specialist900: ![]() |
No problem ![]() |
Oh my, good question. High five for you ![]() |
JewElan:Exactly, keyword is "almost all". Just because there are a lot of wor wor men out there doesn't mean that there's aren't a lotof ood ones left. Its like when people say all Nigerian girls are cheat on their boyfriends. We all know its not true. There are still those who are faithful. You can't always let rumors or social perceptions get in the way of things like this. 190:Look, you can't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch. Just as I defend my Naija sistas, I will defend my brothers. |
190:Yes, he is a gem but that last part is untrue. There are still many nice Naija men out there . |
I personally, don't think that there's anything wrong with you. Give it another shot and see how it goes. If you you still get nothing then perhaps you should move on. Hope all works out |
okenwa:I never said it was good that he's depriving her of s.ex. I no, I don't know what it takes for a woman to ask because I see nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know that she wants to have s.ex. No offense but I was curious to know maedan's reasons for saying it. ladej:Hi ladej, and thanks. |
waterfall1:Hmmm, well if that is the case then you guys [you and this Nigerian man] REALLY need to have a talk. Both of you need to explain yourselves and your actions to one another. Try writing him a letter expressing how you feel about the situation and continue to maintain communication with his mother. |
Dyt:And what if he doesn't "allow" her to work? Then what? sms4health:Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Yes, they both can "be in control" but it doesn't mean he should control her. She shouldn't have to walk on eggshells in her their own home. |
maedan:Why should he be ashamed? Its not like he's tryin' to mount the girl. Are you telling him he should be ashamed for trying to have her repress her sexual desires? |
Hmmm, I think you should stay in contact with the mother. She may be the key to you getting back with your Nigerian man. Ummm, just wondering why did you go through his mail? |
Hehehe, I try not not judge. If that works for you then so be it ![]() |
Hmmm, I'm gonna keep an eye on this thread. If/when I come up with something, I will throw in my two cents. |
Ok o ![]() |
citizenisb:Wrong forum sweetie. Take that over to the politics forum and so you can join that Nigerian basher MorpheusII . And FYI, we are not a cowards!!! |
Ok, I see. Are you in love with him? Once again if you don't feel comfortable answering, I understand. |
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They wait outside,

. And FYI, we are not a cowards!!!