₦airaland Forum

otokx:
Is d guy a yoruba guy? Did he think u are under a spell? Do u hav clean hands?

menachem:
I'm saying that what we are practicing now is "forced monogamy", it is a scam. In the olden days, marriage was not this torturous. In solving the problems arising from polygamy, we created a monster!

I remember a story i read about a particular rodent that became uncontrollable in Australia. This rodent constituted a menace as pest. So one day some smart dude thought about introducing a particular snake that feeds on these rats. Well, one day the population of the snakes boomed and became more uncontrollable and more dangerous than the rats!
Same with marriage here.

In igbo part of Nigeria, the problem of female abuse in marriage which monogamy was introduced to solve, was easily solved by the woman simply packing her things and moving in with another man who would then pay her bride price again. No need killing a fly with a sledge hammer.

Today, some oyibo people de marry up to 8 times before dem die! Abi dat one no be polygamy?

all4naija:
From your previous comment I can deduce your trust was on her being a virgin, which is where you miss it all together.  trust is based on understanding not attached to something in a person. The truth that you were able to spend 6 years together doesn't prove anything beyond we are human. Things can get sore any time and there are many conditions to that. There is nothing like perfect relationship but real relationship that goes with understanding and respect for each other. Even if any of you were fed up certain things in the relationship and want to quit, it can be done it a better and open manner that cheating. I can tell you have being monitoring her after see some changes in her character. Man women are  human who need to be understood and loved and anything beyond that should be treat her to let you know you are always open to all ideas in not matter the condition. I being in relationship is open to anything unexpected.

thank you!

Adebisi33:
I was quite shaken over the experience this morning, but I'm hoping that I will be able to see the funny side of it one day.

Adebisi33:
Thanks for your encouraging words.  Although I sympathise with his desperate position, I found his intentions really scary.  

I agree that I wasn't asking for too much.  I really appreciate that you acknowledged that.

Pennywise:
Obviously this guy wants money. Does it matter if the money comes from a white woman or a black one. Hhhmn. Nawao. The way pple dey reason for NL

Pennywise:
There is nothing typically Nigerian about the guys attitude. The whole picture suggests a guy who thinks he is entitled to certain priviledges bc he is dating OP. This kind of behaviour is rampant, when the guy feels she is not pretty enough. Of course you have called his bluff by turning your back.

Either that or he is just a professional dupe who happen to be Nigerian. He lies his way into a circle he doesnt belong, has no intention of investing in a relationship with you and he sees you as a mere object to attain a selfish end. This kind of thing happens everyday, everywhere in the world. From Russia to Nicaragua

Sometimes the ploy succeeds when the girl falls in love and she ends up being at the mercy of the crook.

It is wrong for non-Nigerians to think they can situate every Nigerian or assume there is a common bond holding all together. There is none. The common denominator you will find is country name. Beyond that, very little or nothing. We are as cosmopolitan as the US which puts us ahead of conservative UK. A few decades ago the influence of traditional African religion, ethnic culture etc was an issue. The new generation are mostly ignorant of these.

Pennywise:
^^^These kind of Nigerians who are mostly victims of our harsh economic realities will abound in the UK. Often they lie their way

into the UK anyway. Pretty girls like u who are ready to settle down should come home and mingle. You have a much more

substantial population of educated, handsome and responsible Nigerian men back home that u can chose from

obowunmi:
Inked Nerd, **muah**