₦airaland Forum

chemmerfrank: most of the guns dont work...dont be too worrried...policemen should never show guns to civillian..but in Nigeria everything goes and this is the least of our problems now

mstik: It was horrible trying to read your post. Pls punctuate and correct all error then I might know what your problem is

Danhumprey: Itbomb!!!!!!!!!!! Where are you??
Come see!!!!!!!!

alienware: u are a very attractive woman.... I love that pointed noise of urs in the profile pic.

ammyluv2002: Present Uncle

bhaliz44: root it wen u become a geek.

spyg1: He was poor then, and now he has made money, and now you want him back ko? Ok, first step start following him on social network. 2nd step, start........................... Oh NEPA pple again

smallmadam: Love is a purely logical decision. love is not that butterfly feeling that crumbles in your stomach, that's infatuation/attraction/chemistry, there are different names for that but definitely not love. To love someone you have to decide within you to be with that person come rain come sunshine, in sickness and health. what we call love these days is purely infatuation. That type of love eventually fades 2-3 years into the marriage. People have been miss guided by what they think love should be in television and novels-the romeo and Juliet type of love. Even the bible says 'love your enemies as you love thy self', i want to believe that its a decision/choice left to us and not a sudden emotional feeling.

When you have seen the good, the bad and the ugly of that person in terms of character and personality and yet you 'Choose' that this person is the only person that can turn you on, and you do not see your self with a better person- that is love. Relationship 'love' is different because that is INFATUATION. when you want to marry or choose your 'prison inmate' Love becomes a logical decision, something you enter with your head and heart, and not just your heart.

Dygeasy: First, we're in Nigeria where you have to ask a girl out and work to instil your love into her heart. Do you now mean the 'ASSESSMENT' is before asking the lady out or after asking her out and waiting for her to decide if she is in love with you? You're right though. I just want to you be clear about it.

The rules of assessment in asking a girl out (I for like dey with that girl) is different from the rules of assessment in settling down with her (I love this girl so much, I want to marry her or make her mother of my kids).
So we are cleared and closed on that

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In Nigeria? Well some percentage.

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Are the ladies usually the one making the mistake or men? Or do you mean the ladies mistaking what men mistake for love to be true love. Clarify please.

Most men know beforehand that the caring and affections is to soften the girl's heart and groom the love already there and fulfill the fantasy of whatever attracted them to the lady in the first place. It is the ladies that mistake the affections and caring for true love