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Truckpusher:
How can that demonic broom carrying party members do without lies when their foundation to victory was nothing but all lies,deceit and propaganda.



*spreads mat ,while waiting patiently for 1 $ = 1 Naira*

Nigerians are a very gullible lot. So Chinua Achebe was right after all that the only thing Nigerians learn from experience is that they learn nothing from experience. I don't know why Nigerians swallow the lies politicians tell them hook, line, sinker. SMH

coogar:
•forming
•storming
•norming
•performing

you are at the storming stage in your marriage. endure it, persevere it and you would soon get past this phase. at least, she's decent enough to apologise whenever she says things that are bang out of order.

there's light at the end of the tunnel.

I can bet my lunch that Coogars account has been hacked.

coogar:
i understand this bit some wives also hate their MILs for no reason. they have pre-conceived notions about her from the outset and they are all out to isolate the husband from his mother.



very easy for you to say.....
you want to force the western mores on the stereotypical african families. the men in the western countries don't owe their parent's much. he started fending for himself at 18 - there's no intense emotional connection like you would find in africa.

the african man comes with a baggage - his mom. his mother probably invested her gratuity & pension on her son's education to become successful. some sold houses, jewelry, etc to train their sons. you then think she would sit back & let a skinny-legged wifey from nowhere ruin the bond that has been there for more than 30 years?

think again, my friend.



you are sick!
you have a nan that once oppressed your aunts. ask her if she throws slaps around for the ficklest of things.

my granny not going to visit doesn't stop her from getting all the love she needs from her sons, they visit her often enough, they give her all the stuff she wants. The fact that they appreciate their wives doesn't mean the bond between mother and son is broken.

And no, she doesn't throw slaps but she does belittle them. You have said time n time again that there is no difference between verbal n physical abuse so I don't know why you are contradicting yourself.

You are sick if you consider your wifey skinny legged at 30-something.

DIL doesn't go to MIL's matrimonial home to harass her, I still don't see why MIL should come disturbing the peace of her son's new home

quivah:
going by what have read equally(on the original thread) most people didn't ignore the fact that mil was at fault for taking the first strik...but what most argue about it; should the dil retaliate?
so your last question (which I will rephrase) isn't necessary cause-- would a child slap her mum back cause she slapped her over a films excuse?

and yes! she would especially due to the emboldened.. we know African parents will take no shit, a mother would easily slap her daughter over a lesser reason than what it might have been with the original thread.. you know, its quite easy to be disrespected by someone's child than by your own child!

also you can't live your life solely based on how people you grew up with treated you.. that your mum didn't slap you doesn't mean she wouldn't slap another person when provoked.. also her mum felt punishment was a better form of caution than hitting you cause you were young then..but I know pretty well she won't ask you to kneel then at this age when you piss her of.. if you disrespect her, you are not old enough to be corrected..

Alao do note that your mil can never be your mother. .. there are many things your mother can accept from you that a mil can't!! so dont judge the next mother by your own mother... same goes to every potential mils..

you have no right whatsoever to slap back at an elderly person(would you have slapped your mum's sis back if she slapped you?) I'm not relieving the mil of any blame, but you slapping back is a big disrespect to your own parents, your husband, his mum, and his family. nobody in your family and your husby's family will directly tell your mother in law she was foolish for striking first but they would Blame you for;
1. infuriating your mil to slap you
2. slapping her back
3. disrespecting your family members.
I'm pretty sure your mum will feel wounded that her daughter had the guts to soap an elderly person..
they will Shame your mum for a bad upbringing.

nobody will remember mil slapped first. so whats the fuss?

madam, I don't have any problem with your opinion. Truth is going from what I read MIL shouldn't have slapped DIL because she refused giving her pics, and you don't go about slapping adults for whatever reason.

You chose your opinion because in your subconscious you have assumed that DIL must have abused MIL that's why she was slapped. That explains your indignation.

Well after seeing how bad some MIL's can be, I chose to believe that just for declining to give her pic is what makes her receive a slap.

If you got a MIL treats you well, treat her like she's a god. As for wicked MIL's whatever they get is their cup of tea.

coogar:
i couldn't have had if i tried. i remove myself from such pettiness.



i find it difficult to believe a slap just came out of nowhere because the wifey refused to hand over her pictures.



did you ever bother to ask your granny why she used oppression to wear out your aunts?



you can prove her wrong & change her opinion about you. you don't have to lick her arsë too. just keep being you & one day the penny would drop for her.



so if a mad woman gets into a fight with you in public, you would join her in the show of shame cos you are taking control before shyte escalates?

lol, am nt going to try to argue with you cos u have never been in the position,
Reasons range from her family are bad people, to not having children e.t.c.

By taking control I mean, reducing visits to barest minimum, let the couples enjoy their marital life without her breathing down their necks constantly

Again I don't have experience with mad people, maybe you should tell me about it

coogar:
he doesn't have to reel out every piece of information, does he? you can use your deductive reasoning too and draw a logical inference from a disjointed story.....a heated argument must have ensued.

do you think any elderly woman would slap her son's wife just because she refused to give her a picture. the MIL would be in a mental institution(where you should be) if that was how the ish went down.

that means you have never really had an experience with some MIL's.

Its not ok to assume cos you could be wrong. Take every information as it is presented to you.

My granny was very oppressive of my 2 aunts which I consider very lovely women. She would use every opportunity to bully them tho she never went physical with any. I always felt sorry seeing them cower timidly when she starts with her fault finding.

When a MIL doesn't like you, it doesn't matter wether you are the sweetest thing on earth.

We had to take control of situation before things would escalate.

coogar:
you are the one supporting domestic violence. wifey must have verbally abused MIL to get slapped in the first place. she's the primary aggressor. domestic violence is not limited to physical assault alone, verbal assault is also a subset of DV.

educate your mind, village sket!



this is another evidence that your gender could be cursed. since FIL/SIL rarely engage each other in fisticuffs, it then goes to show you have a problem with emotions.



true - i give you that.

stop sitting on your brain for once, the poster didn't indicate that DIL verbally insulted MIL hence the slap, he said she refused her taking pic hence she got a slap. I don't know where your hypothesis of being verbally abusive is coming from.

quivah:
girls are not smiling .. we've taken too much shits, now wrapped into one and thrown back in a ball that hit hard.. but a very sensible, intelligent girl shouldn't rant all over the thread in full glory of hitting her mil in retaliation.. that's very spiteful... we know not every woman has the coolest mil, you don't have to come on here to show to the world your mil (to be) will be as miserable as she makes you, you might not see husby here o ..

ps:
how many times have you returned your mum"s blows?

sweery, you don't get it, not every parent beat their child and mine are such. My mum doesn't slap or blow me, I served other purnishments tho. I was grounded and all that.
If I were looking for a husby on nairaland trust me I'd be kissing every males assss on here n trying not to step on toes, unfortunately I am nt here to feed anybodys over bloated ego.

That said, I am going to go by what I read and not assume anything. The poster didn't say his wife talked to his mum anyhow hence she was slapped, he said she refused her mum taking pics from the album so she slapped her.

Why can't granny respect herself and wait for her son to return then get the pictures?

My question remains would she slap her own daughter who refuses her frm taking pics no matter how her daughter puts it to her?

coogar:
the views of an inbred twät change like the skin of a chameleon. if you don't support domestic violence, why are you justifying it?



says the sket that just said she has never supported domestic violence. i guess retaliating with a slap doesn't count as violence to you. you are dementia's patient zero .




this is what happens when inbreds lose their virginity to their abusive dads. if you think i don't have better things to do, are you not the same as me since your first post on this thread today was as early as 8am?

you are so much a bimbo, if you run away from home in the morning, you would come back home pregnant by noon.............at the animal shelter. the shït from your arsë comes with a bubonic plague - i am allergic to it.

lmao, you r such a moronn, you can't even keep up with your own stupidity. If there is anyone supporting domestic violence its you fool, if not you won't think its okay for a ghetto MIL to slap DIL and expect DIL to go meekly into the room to cry and pray. I'm all for people getting served their own bullshiiitt.

I don't blame you anyway, I blame the illiterate women who give you nitwitted halfmen something to get high on after all how many times to you see FIL going to their daughters matrimonial homes to slap their SIL over the most stupiiid stuff.

Good thing girls are not smiling, dealing with each pest one at a time granny would never try that shhit even in her next reincarnation.

Here's a question for you all screaming how high and mighty, old n frail she is, would she slap her own adult daughter or son if they refused her anything?

Is that how she goes around slapping her kids in their matrimonial home

coogar:
she should have waited for the hubby to come back. she's educated - probably trained in this century & yet she managed to stoop so low to engage in fisticuffs with an old frailed elderly woman.

and frail old elderly woman didn't consider herself wise enough to respect herself and wait for son to return so she could ask for the pics from him, the next line of action was to start throwing slaps?

Well, frail old lady learnt her lesson the hard way, she won't be quick to slap the next DIL.

If you are being sincere to yourself do you think frail old lady would slap her son for not giving her pics she asked for?

coogar:
why did you bring it up if you don't give a fück about it? why are you getting emotional & letting my reply get to you if not for the fact that i have just hit the nail on the head?



i know your crooked views....
it changes from one side to another depending on what suits your agenda. you have been exposed as a hypocritical twünt.



you don't have a mother - that was why you could justify the slapping of someone's mom. you were belched out of the cünt of a village witch. a woman that was raised by a mother would not justify any sort of violence against an elderly mother.



you are the one justifying violence against an elderly MIL. i bet you slap the elderly folks in your house for changing TV channels.



you are a stinking swine!
let me ask you - if your MIL slaps you, would you slap her back & leave bruises on her face?

answer that question so i can psycho-analyse your issues. it's either you are a product of incestuöus marriage or the woman that fed you via placenta was meth-addicted.

your answer would tell us which is which.

at this point you just confirmed that you r a slowpoke , you know my views n views are I support a man tolerating domestic violence from women??
In which of my posts did I support domestiic violence?

If anybody who is not my parent slaps me, I'd slap the mofo right back. My beloved momma doesn't come to my matrimonial home to slap my hubby so my hubby's mama should respect herself and not come to my home to slap me else she will get treated in the same measure.

By the way you strike me as someone whose mama raapped you, any post about women seems to get you all giddy. Don't you have better things to do with you already useless life apart from getting high on shit from every females asss?

coogar:
of course, it's generally expected that a man should control himself in the face of brutal assault from a woman but a wife should fight back if assaulted by her MIL.

21st century women - they can't practise what they preach & they don't want any responsibility. you can smell hypocrites from thousands of miles away.



if the reply was on this thread, it doesn't count. what has been your stand previously when men retaliated against women that abused them? i am sure a cursory glance at your old posts would reveal a different stand from the point you are trying to prove here.

and stop having erëctions about my balls. they can never get into your leprous hands. stick to the argument & stop having wet dreams about my balls. if you are hörny, go find a hörse to make your dreams come true.



this has always been your stand in domestic violence. a real man must be the bigger person and walk away....why can't you as a wife apply the same logic?



the reason you haven't been slapped by a mother is because you don't have one. if you do, you would never raise your hands to slap your husband's mother no matter the level of provocation.



says the bastard that is justifying a wife beating up her MIL. if you weren't raised from a dysfunctional family, you would know it's abnormal to put your hands on an elderly person. however, you were raised in a family that lacked scruples - you probably grew up watching the people who raised you get into fisticuffs.......little wonder you are glad that this story turned the way it is.

you r a bigger fool than I tot you were, who gives a fuuucck about your shrunken pinis n testicles?

You do not know my views so your dumb brain would rather assume you know what I think even without any proof. How dumb can you be?

My mama has self respect unlike you unfortunate fellow who was raised by a harrllot in a whorrreeehouse.

You are used to seeing you mama getting into fights with her customers so its not surprising to you that an adult would slap someone else because of mere pictures.

Well, its a good thing ghetto mama like yours got ghetto treatment from DIL, next time she won't be quick to raise her hands on someone

[quote author=coogar post=324784
what a hypocrite!
meanwhile, when men get physically abused by their partners, you expect him to be a man & not retaliate. "a real man" must not use his hands on a woman no matter the level of assault. kindly use that logic in this scenario[/quote]if you bufallo hadn't been so busy looking for your balls you would have seen the reply I gave to lilmax.

A real wife shouldn't lay hands of MIL but a real MIL should lay hands on a real wife. You have no right to talk about hypocrisy when you are the chiefest of hypocrites!!!

By the way my mother doesn't slap me and more importantly she doesn't go about slapping peoples daughter.

Its unfotunate that despite the slaps you have gotten from your parents you still don't have a brain rather they slapped the little brain you had out of your head

crackhaus:
Exactly!
I made this suggestion on the other MIL-DIL thread and it didn't seem to go down well with the women.

I don't expect any woman to marry a man whose mother she doesn't get along with - she either tries to win her fiance's mother over or take a respectful walk. . .that's if she's not desperate for marriage.

Any nincompoop who goes ahead and marries that man deserves everything that's coming to her.

you hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately they never listen

Ladies if his mother hates you on first meeting get some self esteem and walk or be prepared to swallow loads of slaps and bullshiit from her.

Avoid men whose mothers treat their own kids like eggs but are quick to slap another person's child for not kissing her ass.

Do not think she will change, it will only be hell till either of you drops dead.
Am all for treating people with respect and all but every nerve in body hates asssslicking.

coogar:
so much shyte comes outta your mouth, your shyte is jealous. look at you displaying the emotional maturity of a tooth brush - the thread talked about MIL & wifey fighting, what has that gotta do with a hubby being slapped by FIL. you would be hard pressed to see 2 men haranguing each other cos of photos. such pettiness are known to brainless animals.....like yourself.



if nigeria was an ideal society, the 2 of them would be in jail. if nigeria was an ideal society, you would be a permanent resident of a mental institution.



two women fought each other according to the OP but it's somehow the fault of the men? you have to be the most idiotïc member of this forum. white men see you as cannibals - as in, white men don't commit violent crimes? jadelyn or fückever morönic name you call yourself........if you marry a man like you, oki would produce cretins.



disgusting cünt!!

You are a slimy bastard. Did you do comprehension in high school or you spent your school time smoking cow dung.

He said wifey got into a fight with grandma because grandma slapped her for not give her pics from the album. This was the sequence of event dumbasss negro, granny slapped wifey FIRST, that was what made wifey get into fisticuffs with granny n gave her scratch marks. Thk goodness as nitwitted as you are, you know a pic is too petty to be slapping someone over

Now u big dunce tell me when last you got slapped because you didn't give something.

When last did granny slap her own kids for not giving her stuff and what makes her think she could slap/bully someone elses child and get away with it.

She got served what she deserved!

When next you big fool decide to throw a punch at someone else first like an uncivilised ape instead of expressing your displeasure verbally like an educated human, don't be surprised when u find yourself in the hospital with broken ribs.

When you behave like a civilised human, others will treat you like a civilised human, but you behave like an animal prepare to get the same treatment in equal measure.

By the way how many times have you refused people stuff and how many times have you being slapped for refusing to give someone stuff? Goat!!!!

coogar:
you are a serial wankër!
so the bruises on the MIL's face was self-inflicted? how some of you vagrants manage to complete daily activities with your sübzero IQ baffles me.



i fear you have reached the zenith of moral & intellectual bankruptcy. you stupidly compared a husband that felt undermined because of the fact that his FIL bought the wifey a car without his consent to a wifey that got into a fisticuff with her MIL? you are a disgrace to the citadel of learning that graduated you.



your stupidity in wattage would solve nigeria's electricity problem entirely. just kill yourself cos your foolishness might be highly contagious.

Your stupidity is classic, your father-in-law slaps the shit outta of you everyday I believe. You are a product of a failed society where you think its ok to go violent on someone who doesn't give you what you want.

FYI the fact that your DIL refused to give you pics from an album doesn't warrant a slap.
If nigeria were an ideal society, old woman would be chilling in prison by now for assault. How many times has grandma slapped her own erring adult daughters n what makes her think she has the right to slap someone else's child?

The earlier you cavemen learn to put your barbaric violent attribute which makes the white man see you as cannibals in check, the better for all of us.

Imbeciiiile!!!!

pickabeau1:
OK and you think this is the best way on this issue?

I don't know what you expected to hear but I have told you how we handled the situation and the arrangement worked perfectly well since no one had to go through hell just to please a fellow human. Life's too short to live miserably.

Its a win-win situation for everyone. Uncle doesn't have to settle quarels between wife n mum but still get to see mum n take care of her, wifey doesn't have to be bitter about grandma's presence, grandma doesn't have to feel irritated about wifey.

N.B: when you have a FIL that alway undermines your role as his daughters husband, feels n makes it obvious to you that you r not good enough, feel free to grovel and kiss his asssss all you want, nobody in the world has a problem with that. C'est fini

coogar:
so which of the guys bringing down the roof suggested the husband should have slapped his FIL for buying a car for the wife? you people just bring up daft analogies that does not advance your point one jot.....



seeing shades of wrong when a father buys a car for his daughter is different altogether from slapping a father in law. stop muddying the waters and talk straight. no one said MIL & wifey cannot disagree every now & then, why should she even think of slapping her hubby's mother?



it then begs these questions - if the wife had been slapped by her own mother, would she have retaliated with a slap? if her mother had slapped her husband, would she have been happy if the husband had retaliated?

you need spiritual deliverance.......

its not my fault you lack basic comprehension skills. The guy didn't say his wife slapped his mother, he said his mother slapped his wife because she refused him taking pictures of their baby dedication from the album.

Its surprising that your manhood feels threatened because your father-in-law bought your wife a car, what if it was a sound slap your father-in-law gave you like the second scenario I guess it would have been another story entirely.

Your hypocrisy stinks to the high heaven's

pickabeau1:
OK..let's go along on your tangent
So how was the issue resolved

she doesn't visit, n even when she does (that is like once in 2 or 3yrs) she doesn't spend more than a week. That way the women don't have to tolerate her excesses for more than a week in 2-3yrs.

My uncles do all the visiting. She has other female kids she can visit as many times as she likes to.

lilmax:
patiently waiting for you to say the same when it involves a man and a woman

yes, the same goes for a man and a woman, if the woman threw the first punch at the man and she gets broken teeth in return, she asked for it. If the man threw the first punch and then gets a knife stab in return, he asked for it.

God gave humans the ability to communicate by speech, if you cannot express your displeasure verbally and therefore chose to go violent, then don't be surprised when the other person goes violent too. This isn't a gender issue, stop making it gender based

pickabeau1:
I watched one film

nnem onye Olu n I now see why the stereotype of wicked mil continues to thrive

This film n many like it have shaped the mind of many to just harbour hate for their mil

Nollywood n telemundo.....affecting women's minds since 1960

movies are not responsible for the hate most people hv for their mil, it happens for real n I hv seen it life, the onus is on the spouse whose parent the inlaw is to put his/her offending parent in check.
Its not only MIL that are insufferable, some FIL are like that too. Sometimes its nt only the Man's mother, it could even be the woman's mother that is constantly a thorn in the flesh of couples.

Their was a time my maternal grandma was having issues with my uncles wife constantly. I am very close to the said woman and I've stayed long periods with her severally, we got along fine.
This same woman who seemed nice to everyone couldn't get along fine with grandma cos my grandma will always find faults.
Mind you, I have only 2uncles, granny doesn't like any of the wives. Is it a mere coincidence? Or are both wives bad? I have visited these women severally and I don't see anything wrong with them.

Some MIL's are just like that, no woman is ever good enough for their son, but their daughters are always the best thing that can happen to any man.

If my memory serves me correctly there was thread where a father bought his daughter a car and guys were bringing down the roof claiming buying a car for his own daughter is disrespectful on her husband.
The man in the other thread said his mum slapped his wife first and you guys don't see anything wrong with it but you see all shades of wrong when a father buys a car for his daughter. Talk about the height of hypocrisy and double standards. SMH severally!!!


NOTE: both MIL and wife in the other thread are disrespectful by the way and if the wife had thrown the first punch I would have been in support of throwing her out, but in this case, old mama threw the first punch so she got served what she deserved.

I do agree with doing your very best to please your MIL but the burden of maintaining peace does not rest on the shoulders of DIL alone. If you've seen the movie JUMPING THE BROOM you will understand the angle I am coming from.

Sabrina is a sweet little girl who means no harm, but Jason's mother is on the edge always thinking she wants to snatch her son from him.
Jason's mother almost succeeds in ruining his sons marriage and happiness till Jason has to put her in her place by HIMSELF.

That said, the man bears majority of the work if he wants peace, the wife must know her place and the mother must know her place without bringing his marriage to ruins

As a man, if your wife and mother can't get along amicably, its your fault.

Is his teeth to big for his lips? He can't seem to close his mouth. Anyway, nothing spectacular about him, just your regular guy with loads of money

Chigold101:
lolzzz
What truth? U want to stampede me into accepting that all men cheat? No ma‘am all men doesnt cheat.
85% of men out there are not interested on any woman outside their woman.

the truth that 99.9% of nairaland men/boys claim all men cheat

Chigold101:
all men cheat... All men are the same... Etc are what most women & girls say. I doubt if a man will say all men cheat unless that man who is trying to justify his act.

for real? Do you just deliberately decide to ignore the truth or what?

Chigold101:
i dont know how u come to this conclussion. I have never encouraged adultery and i can never encourage it both here in Nigeria or anywhere else.

I openned this tread so that we can talk about the disadvantages & advantages of legalising adultery.

ok. Since you said we r discussing adv n disadv here let me share my opinion;

Disadv --- Nil

Adv ---- 1. Reduced divorce rates in the sense that no one will divorce a spouse because of adultery

2. Reduced adultery rates in the sense that if you know you will get same dose of the same medicine you give your spouse, you will more likely not commit adultery.
Again adultery seems very enticing for most people because as they say 'stolen meat is usually very sweet' considering the thrills involved.

3. If you know your husband can cheat on you without any repercussion when you start slacking in your responsibilities you will buckle up, If you know your wife can cheat on you without any repercussion when you start slacking in your responsibilities you will buckle up

4. It will save couples all the heartache that comes with infidelity considering that when you don't over-expect from anyone, you don't get disappointed


By the way, adultery has never been a crime and will never be a crime. Its all just religious restrictions.

Chigold101:
adultery is not a norm in Nigeria though some Nigerians engage in it.

Why eyebrows are being raised when a woman indulges in adultery more than men is because, a woman cant be in another man‘s house carying another man‘s baby in her womb.

When someone oppose adultery it doesnt make that person a hypocrite. Believe it or not, more than 85% of Nigerian men are not adulterous. But as always, the bad few are always seen everywhere and people tend to think that evrybody is doing it.

Our constitution is silent about adultery but our socio cultural and morality even Bible is not silent about it.

lol, so you do not condemn the adultery going on around you everyday in your immediate environment, you'd rather go condemn the act of adultery in far away korea. If that isn't hypocrisy, then what is?

MarvellousGod:
You really sound so hurt..does your husband cheat on you?

Again all men don't cheat..Some men are too busy with career, business, etc to be looking at every thing in skirt.. They are disciplined, have self control, have utmost respect for their wives and children..To these people, sex isn't everything in life...Besides, it's so disgusting to some men to be inserting their di*k into every vg....

lmao! @ my husband cheating or me sounding hurt, in your dreams! Are you not among the same people that chant the mantra 'all men cheat'?

Better get used to it now and stop living in a the land of fairy tales

MarvellousGod:
Nne, you're the only one deceiving yourself here. Stop seeking company, everyone isnt adulterous. ..

lol, as usual, the hypocrisy of Nigerians come to play. Even chronic cheats and those who shout "all men cheat, just keep fasting and praying for him to change" will criticize the korean government. I repeat again, keep deceiving yourselves. As if adultery is not already the norm in Nigeria. Who even raises eyebrows at adulterous people these days unless they are women?