Not true! White women are uglier than black women only that they have perfected the act of makeup. They have microblading eyebrows, eyebrow extensions, botox eyelash, botox lips. Minus the fact that they are constantly trying to look like us, boobs jobs, lips job, ass jobs. Plus their skin is not so nice. Do not forget that white women use hair extensions too. Been around a lot of them and trust me when I say the natural white lady has an ugly skin and is generally not appealing as they age.
I do agree when you say they are more docile and less aggressive than the black woman, but they are more scheming, conniving bit_chsss, pardon my French.
Also the are incapable of loyalty. A white girl is more likely to sleep around for the fun of it or experimentally than the black lady. Coupled with the fact that they are always more open to trying out new things while the black lady is more likely to slide into a routine if it's satisfactory enough.
Someone mentioned Russian ladies, please do not even go there, they are the biggest hoess the world has ever known. They are like the proverbial Nigerian runsgirls who become church girls when it's time to marry and there idea of the black man is domestic slave by day and sexual slave at night. They are just wrong on all levels. They are constantly looking for men outside Russia mostly Americans for marriage because their men treat them like shiit which most of them are.
That said, white ladies don't come close on any level to the black lady.
In the worst case scenario I'd advice a black brother to try Latinos or Asians, they are naturally beautiful with nice genes, more sincere, they have more morals(most have spiritual values) and are more family oriented, they are more loyal too. So in the long run and on all grounds they are better, but whities are HELL NO!!!

Op divorce this woman before she kills you with her sister. Take your child far away from her!
Move on with your life! You will find a good woman who will marry you irrespective of your 2kids or 1 testicle.

Mindfulness:


People go for CS to spice up their s.ex life?
How can a man even suggest something like this? It's utterly disrespectful.

she wants to avoid the lose vagina. No one wants a lose vagina. It would destroy their sex life. So they chose to go for a CS because according to what I can read here it saves you the headache of a lose vagina.
I don't want a lose vagina, not even for myself, how am I going to be able to enjoy sex with a lose vagina. My husband doesn't even have to suggest it to me.
I'll go for it for myself.
Same way I don't mind a boob job, tummy tuck. I do it because it makes me feel good.
So if her husband suggests CS to avoid a lose vagina n she doesn't mind it, then who are we to name him a villain?
Come to think of it, if someone like me comes to nairaland to seek suggestions on the best doctor for a boob job because my husband is suggesting I go for a boob job due to my boobs being flabby you all would most likely call him a maniac without even considering the fact that I might actually want it for myself too.

Mindfulness:


The person who truly deserves my love would not ask such of me. I don't mingle with dum.bos. And the most beautiful feeling is the love I have for myself.

Besides this thread is full of overgrown kids. Millions of couples have fulfilling se.x lives even though their women have given birth to more than a child.

hey! He was only suggesting it to her if I get it correctly not forcing her. She could agree or disagree, that doesn't mean he'll cheat Automatically.
People do stuff to spice up their sexual life.
Same way I could suggest to my husband that he go for a penis enlargement or tattoo my name on his penis.
It's just stuff couples do, depending on how freaky they are.
Can we all relax now? Wheew!!!

Mindfulness:


Love?

In Tina Turner's voice: What's love got to do with it?

when you find someone who truly deserves it and who would do same for you trust me you would give your life without thinking twice
Truss me! Love is a beautiful feeling. Plus if you are not willing to make sacrifices then u r not yet In love.
It goes both ways for males and females.

5minsmadness:


No it doesn't.
We do pfannesteil incisions as a routine in Nigeria, talkless of the U.S. You can actually wear a bikini to the beach when we are done and no one would notice a thing.

yea, thanks for the education

udoka2:


It doesn't leave ugly scar dearie; some like mine you will hardly see where the incision was made. I did one on the 15th of this month....if I take off my clothes you won't notice it.
Some of the reasons some preggers mamas Labour to death ....misconceptions about cs.

well, if it doesn't have any later side effects and it doesn't leave a scar then there is nothing wrong with it. Personally I'm very vain about my body I wouldn't want anything that will scar me.

Consider the parents that have the most expenses. And also the parent who has support from other of their kids.

Please do not send that child home, she'll turn out worse than she is now. Train her the way you would your child. The only problem you have is her nosey father.

What people would do for love.
You have to weigh the pros and cons of your own health first.
Also CS leaves really ugly looking scars.
So would you chose a scarred body over a slightly lose vagina? I'll chose the later anytime, any day.

You think if your dad wanted you, he wouldn't have come for you all these while? You think if you were some rich young guy your dad wouldn't come claiming you?
Better mind your business and better your life, don't go looking something that doesn't exist.
Better to assume that he is dead than deal with the agony of rejection when you eventually meet him

There is nothing wrong with traditional roles in the family, in fact it was very ideal back in the days when women did nothing other than bread and care for the home. But in today's society it's impossible considering the fact that the economy is not helpful at all.

misreal:
its not the wwoman's fault that a man has to pay so much for her,i agree but you cant blame the man for thinking he owns the woman after paying so much..me think abolishing this idea of brideprice will go a long way to curtail this possession mentality.

you think so, let the change start with you, when your daughters are getting married do not collect anything. No be mouth we go use abolish am. My tribe takes 250naira as bride price.

PresVA:
My sister, these young men complaining today are the fathers/uncles/elders who turn out tomorrow to 'kill' their in laws with huge bride price/demand...
Ask any of these men complaining on nairaland whether they would reject their daughters' bride price tomorrow, all of them will go mute

All they do is blame the woman without knowing the solution lies with them. .. Most women know nothing about how bride price is fixed or collected. ..

the rate at which they blame women for every damn thing is amazing. Even when you die, they will still blame you in death

PresVA:
You're a clown ... Can we also say that women who sponsor their weddings own their husbands

Talk about bride price, who fixes the amount Who collects the money when paid No be men?
You men are the one that fix and collect bride price, so why complain? Also, For bride price to be scrapped, men (the elders) must be in support ...

So why all this fuss about bride price as if na d woman dey chop d money

if you say men are the head of the home, I agree..or say couple own each other as a virtue of the marriage institution, I agree too... not the property-owner thingy you just described...

Better still, I will even say they both have 'bought' each other life

I tire o! Very childish thing I tell you!

misreal:
gbaaaammmm!!!i like this response so much..truth is,when a man spends a million naira on a woman's bride price he owns you.if you want to be a modern lady,please be a total modern lady and stop the collection of bride price,if possible sponsor your own wedding.

like it's the brides that actually collect these dubious sum of money for bride price. A male friends sister got married the other day and when I asked him why they didn't object to this ungodly bride price amount knowing he would eventually go through same, he said he didn't have a say in the matter. It was actually his uncles who decided.
You men perpetrate this exorbitant bribe price, how you turn around and blame it on the brides is totally beyond me!

This man is telling lies, show us proof of her cheating or bad behavior!

spacefreak:


You are aware that no one on this forum cares about who you choose to spend the rest of your life with.

please stfu! If nobody cares who anybody spends the rest of his or her life with then what's the point with this stupid thread and the other numerous stupid threads advising ladies on how to behave?

delishpot:


If reverse was the case would you say the same thing? If they reject a guy because he is poor, you come here to cry foul and say they don't see potential. If they follow the one with money, you cry that they are gold diggers. If they hang with broke on who finally gets rich, you say it was a gamble and they should not expect any reward for staying with him when he was poor rather they should have worked on themselves. Na wetin dem go do wey boys no go cry foul?
If a woman does this same thing, una go rain abuses on her.

preach sister! Preach! I keep telling my babes, naija guys are the most confused set of people on the earth plus they will go at any length to see that you remain under their chains!

50calibre:


Of course you see black men with ugly white women, it cut both ways however the black men aren't with the white woman for their colour. There's always something else, either she's more loving, takes care of him financially or he's looking for a visa

With black women it's solely as a result of their inherent inferiority complex. They want kids with softer hair

If you're trying to tell me that black men don't have as much control over white women as they do black women,.. Then you're not on this planet

please stop with all these lies! The only reason black women marry white men is because of soft hair babies?
That's a lie from the pit of hell against black sisters.

Wow! He's cute!


Waiting for nairaland association of religious people to come chop my head off

edwife:


This is not a healthy way of thinking. Just like rich guys can also dump you in a snap of his fingers because you add little or no value to him, he will get another you in a minute!
Just like an illiterate man who is financially sound trains a girl in university, sacrifice everything to make her happy and comfortable get dumped by the same girl who after attaining education and exposure realise that they are not of the same class.
Life is all about risk!

Physical appearance is no big work to anyone, you were born that way. You didn’t have to slave or spend sleepless nights trying to look beautiful. (Exclude plastic surgery here because I am talking of the average girl).

The fat Bank account took years to build, sweat, brain, sacrifice…name it. So if the fat bank account demands loyalty, control, and power it shouldn't be a problem.

Just don’t nag no one! Don’t nag a guy who wants to feel superior when you go for his fat bank account.

I don’t think people go religious on women for the fun of it. We all know women choices are limited unlike the male counterpart. It is easy for a guy to get his specs than it is easy for a woman. Women most of the time settle for the available, as long as he possesses two or three qualities in your ideal man, you can settle.

A 50 years old man can marry a beauty queen as long as he has the money and even if he doesn't he can go to his village and get a pure beautiful well trained maiden.(dabota lawson,caroline danjuma,amara kanu,adaeze yobo etc...)

A 50 years old woman has slim chances getting her dream man, it is either a toy boy or an old rich man who had his own share of life and in need of companionship. (Gloria and Elvina Ibru,Orie Kalu,Oyin Adenuga etc..)


I don’t lie to myself or walk around in denial, I say things the way they are not because I am against my gender but someone needs to say it like it is. Who am I fooling?

I love strong,resilient,hard working,passionate and feminine women. I live in a society who has rules and if i want a change,i will make it happen myself and not wait for the society to make it for me or change what the society thinks it is the norm.There are many accomplished women making it without blaming anyone.I don’t have to be loud just to appear strong. Just like my mum usually says, empty barrels make the loudest noise.

that you married for love doesn't decrease your chances of failing at marriage, a lot of people married for love yet divorce is the order of the day so we can as well all marry for money, or looks or cooking or cleaning activity. Marry for whatever you want. Marrying for love guarantees nothing so it's pointless. Marry for whatever makes you happy. Nobody should decide what anyone should do because that's what tradition or culture says. Do what makes you happy. All these talk about chances of happiness and stuff don't mean anything sorry, your happiness should be paramount. So if marrying a pot bellied man who is rich makes you happy, please go for it. If marrying a slim girl with big batty makes you happy go for it. heck even guys today are gold digging like the world will end tomorrow who am I to judge them? Or tell them how their clock is ticking and how they don't don't want to get married in their old age to a young girl who doesn't have an iota of love for him, who is only with him because of his money, who will likely have a toyboy to satisfy herself while she pampers the toy with his money.

raumdeuter:
Apples and oranges

big ass light skinned and big boobs are physical appearances like tall dark and handsone and people need to be physically attracted to who they'll spend their life with

those big boobs will fall, skin will be wrinkled. What makes physical attraction more important than financial stability in selection of spouse? Physical attraction versus financial stability which is more vain?
it's even more stupid to chose based on factors no one has control over. God who made them skinny and dark-skinned knew what he was doing. The God who gave one person a flat ass and the other big ass was not stupid. So why should you be selective over something no one has control over?
Having a 6pack tummy or fat bank account is something you can achieve if you work hard.
So which is more stupid?
Yes, apples and oranges. But one is more stupid than the other and please don't ask me which criterion is more stupid.
I still maintain that I won't judge nobody for their choices.

cococandy:

Such a dude would get his moth smacked if he dares utter this level of nonsense out loud.
He can only vituperate online.

they cook all the time, clean and babysit for their white wives while the women spend time in the spa, massage or gym and come here to brag about how white women are the best since sliced bread. Not that I'm against doing that for your woman, but if you can humble yourself and do all that for a white woman why can't you do it for your black wife? Are the white women more deserving of it than the black women? Why would you condemn a black brother and call him less of a man for doing all that for his wife who is black? But you say nothing when he's doing it for a white girl? You call it civilization. I need to open a thread on this topic for real.

anonimi:


Based here?
Where is that?

Europe

cococandy:
Moronic idiot

sometimes I come on nairaland and wonder if these same lions I see here are the spineless cowards I meet everyday in real life .
Why don't I meet these men in real life?

anonimi:


Thanks for debunking his feel-good lies.

99.9% of the guys on this thread have never stepped foot in togo. And the one percent who live outside the country who are supporting this man's lies are one of those who can't get a black sister to look their way so they would give you home based sisters the impression that they are the best since sliced bread so that when they come home y'all flock round them.
I will never marry a Nigerian man based here because of the dirty lifestyle they have lived. From gang bangs, sleeping with dirty hoes, sleeping with other people's wives. God forbid!!!

50calibre:


Word!!! You hit the nail at the head. Most black guys couldn't care less about colour, it's about who's most loving, caring & tolerant to them.

When you see a black dude in a relationship with a white woman, 9 out of 10 times he's in control and the woman is totally submissive to him, something black women find very difficult doing for a black man.

With black women it's the other way. Black women place white men so high on a pedestal, you could see the most aggressive & disrespectful black woman become very docile once she starts dating a white man.

Countless times I've seen black women with ugly looking white men (which isn't by business anyway) but you could tell by the black woman's attitude and composure that she feels on top of the world being with a white man

Black women don't feel comfortable with themselves, they don't like their hair, their don't like their skin and the opportunity to breed a mixed-race kid with soft looking hair and pale skin is one most black women would jump on

and you have never seen good looking black men with ugly assss white women Nigger puhlease!!!
And to ice the cake you added another lie about how 9 out of 10 relationships between the white woman and the black man, the man is in control
A black man controlling a white woman, the way he domineers over a black woman, this the biggest lie I heard this week brother

This slowpoke should please shut up! Look at the mindless fools on this thread supporting him.
Black men are even more struck with white women than a black woman with a white man.
How many times have you seen you naija sisters marrying a white guy? They all want to be with the black sisters but we don't want them!
The dude is pained!

We should please stop judging women for making choices and reminding them how they will be single at 41.
Men say they want a light skinned chic, big boobs, big ass, slim, cook, clean, classy and all that shit requirements and we hail them and applaud them. When they find a girl who can't cook or clean we advice them to dump her, what use is she. We do not remind them how they are going to turn 45 single and lonely.

But when a lady says she wants to be Married to someone with a fat bank account, with 6 packs, tall dark and handsome. We become very religious, reminding them of why they shouldn't aim so high and why the average Joe is good enough.

Why is that, I just don't get it
Someone please explain this to me

edwife:



Long ago it wasn't a big deal starting from scratch with your man and making it. Not today. If there are women doing it,there are few.
Females tend to marry men of higher social rank more often than men tend to marry females of higher social rank.Facts!

I don't blame these women who don't want to start from the scratch with any man. You stay with a man who has nothing, help him build his dream and visions, encourage him, assist him financially and once he gets to the top, he starts cheating with those same girls who wouldn't have given him the time of the day when he was broke.

I won't nag a guy who doesn't want to marry down or a girl who doesn't want to marry down.
I won't nag the guy who wants to marry a light skinned chic with big boobs and I won't nag the girl who wants to marry a guy with a fat bank account.
If it makes you happy, go for it! Life is too short to live by rules all the time.

SirShymexx:


Loool.

I guess you've never had a partner higher than you.

A chic with power is a control freak and any time you get into any tiff, she's going to remind you of everything wrong with you and ya life.

My Ijebu chic won't turn into that type of monster cos we're from the same background, and I would've vetted her properly before getting involved with her. Yes, folks do change but she definitely won't change into a control freak.

they are a lot of women who were imported into the western world, trained and groomed, but they later turned into beasts. It happens a lot of time with control freak men and imported women. Unless that man is the type who isn't seeking to tie her down to the African way of life and culture.

I don't want that to be your case Shymexx since you are a control freak, find some girl where you are , and stop being a control freak!