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Take her for regular eye checks, keep her out of too much sun, ensure you feed her with a diet that's rich in fruits and vegetable.

The girl looks very much like you, for the shape of the head, the outline of the face, d nose, the lips even just the color is different.

Albinism is in the gene, u or your wife don't need to be very fair before you have an albino child.

This woman you really need self esteem classes, the other day you was tryna comb ya conscience instead of combing ya hair, now u wanna kill yaself instead of killing ya husband.

What is wrong with you? Why do u hate yourself so much when people hurt you?

KissesandWine:
So done with this topic.I feel like I've said all I can. To the men who've commented so far... the world is your oyster. Yours to rule. Cheat, you hear? Hump every rump that's under a skirt...even if it's a man. Your day of reckoning is just around the corner. I had two of you in my extended family and they both died of AIDS. Full blown blood-dripping-out-of-eyes AIDS. They made it easy for their wives... wives didn't even have to cheat to get revenge. Nature sort of took care of that.

To the ladies... when the bible said, "Christians watch and pray," best believe that scripture was directed at us, female folk. Before you settle down, scar those knees praying. So you don't end up with the ilk of the ones above. Men who think that simply because they are men.. It's now their birthright to play God. Ok. Kontinu.

To those already in such a marriage, I commiserate with you. Take my unsolicited advise and leave before it's too late. Judging by some of the responses on this thread, it's apparent that cheats are and will always be unrepentant. Do not stoop to their level and deal them the same cards they dealt you. Just jejely leave.

If they come back begging as they almost always do, don't go. He's only looking to share the numerous diseases he's contracted and couldn't care less about you. If he did he wouldn't have cheated. Leave. You'll be better for it.
If for any reason you can't, you can follow my mum's advice on the first page.

babe, what you read on nairaland is not what goes in real life, some are blown out of proportion really, so chill ok

Stillfire:
And you are on the other thread supporting that women remain in these marriages and angered at other women telling her to leave her marriage, lmao!



Lol, at least this one here isn't a two-faced idibia.
Your mates are on another thread proposing that women remain in such marriages if they cheat. Hypocrisy to the greatest power. Something they cannot take themselves.
I absolutely agree. Women have REFUSED to set standards for themselves. A woman started the other thread about condoning cheating in men.

yea, at least he is sincere with what he wants, no one can blame him for that.

My issue is women whose husbands cheat yet they come here for advice, what kind of advice do u want? Your heart already tells u what to do yet u keep trying to play the morality card on yourself, cheating yourself.

How many men have you seen come online to complain about cheating wives, they either throw her out or forgive her.

When people don't set standards for themselves they'll take any shiiiitttt thrown at them.

snakebeat:
U won't feel bad after killing & dumping d remains of ur man, just because of cheating!!!! My sister, honestly, boko haram needs u & ur likes....

no I won't, not even a teeny weeny bit of regret. By the way cheating is a deal breaker for me nt just a minor thing, same with domestic violence.

Any other thing I can tolerate, but I can do something really dangerous as regards d above 2.

Lmao, you ladies should let this cheating issue be abeg. Its as simple as ABC, if your man or woman cheats on you, do whatever you like, if you like get out of the marriage, if you like stay, if you like kill the cheat, if you like cheat back, whatever it is that you feel like doing please do is fine. Stop being so hard on yourself.
If I for example find my man cheating on me, I'd do the first thing that comes to my mind at that instance, be it divorce, ignoring it, cheating back, killing him n dumping his body in the lake, yea, I'm that crazy.

The most important thing is I won't feel bad afterwards.

Just do whatever you want to do and damn the consequences.

Also never forget that anybody that cheats on you doesn't value your worth as a person.

Lmao, you ladies should let this cheating issue be abeg. Its as simple as ABC, if your man or woman cheats on you, do whatever you like, if you like get out of the marriage, if you like stay, if you like kill the cheat, if you like cheat back, whatever it is that you feel like doing please do is fine. Stop being so hard on yourself.
If I for example find my man cheating on me, I'd do the first thing that comes to my mind at that instance, be it divorce, ignoring it, cheating back, killing him n dumping his body in the lake, yea, I'm that crazy.

The most important thing is I won't feel bad afterwards.

Just do whatever you want to do and damn the consequences.

oseod:
You know i've always wondered how someone cheats ''mistakenly
Like the man landed on you by mistake, and his hips started moving by mistake....and you enjoy the thrill of the moment by mistake

Besides if you keep cheating on your spouse by mistake
And he nabs you by mistake
He might mistakenly break up with you

.........even if you occasionally feel sorry for wat you did....you make it sound like 'its just infidelity..nothing serious...I'll probably try my best no to do it next time,'

errrrmmmm, nairalanders taught me that someone can cheat mistake Do u mean to tell me I have been taught the wrong thing

charles316:
How do you mistakenly cheat? you mean you can mistakenly remove your pants,still mistakenly open your legs and mistakenly take the di,ck?




I`m happy you asked. I will make you understand.
Why do you think people ask for the mileage of a vehicle before they buy it? They do that to evaluate the wear and tear the car must have undergone and to know its true value.
So baby,a smart guy will want to know `where and how many times you`ve been there` to evaluate your true worth.
A new car and a fairly used one are not of the same value.
Have I been able to educate you ?

can I knw d mileage of ur own d.icck too? Of what use is such info to me

Depending on the kind of man u r with. Had a friend who cheated on her man n got pregnant, she confessed and was truely remorseful. The guy forgave and today they are married.

As for me if I happen to cheat mistakenly I aint confessing nada
The only kind of info I'd be confessing is if I have HIV, a kid somewhere, been a prostitute or a damaged womb. Apart from the above mentioned, what the hell u want to know my body count for Wanna use it to withdraw money in the bank

Some info are not necessary unless it has a potential of damaging the relationship. If u cheated, but u r sorry and u r sure there r no loose ends in d affair u had, STFU please unless u are not interested in the relationship anymore.

Summary of the whole gist, weigh whatever info before letting it out

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] [b] Lie Mohammed at his propaganda best,now instead of him and his paymasters to analyze and isolate the issues with a view concerning finding solutions.The old goat is about bleating in the wrong bush and pointing fingers, if not he would realise that most of the workers owed salaries are chiefly from APC states thus in his biased reasoning GEJ is at fault for owing Osun state workers 7months salary...he would also realise that shylock cabals are the devils behind the artificial scarcity, but would you blame Lie Mohammed for throwing blames about when his party in the opposition decieved Nigerians into occupying Lagos during the 2012 oil subsidy protest thus tying Goodluck's hands in these matters?If GEJ had gotten his way,we don't see the existence of any petrol cabals how much more thieves that are always seeking to maximise their petrol profits via exploiting power vaccuum such as we have now.In retrospect,gullible Nigerians are to be blamed. You protested your way into one chance,now you voted in Baba one chance....It couldn't get any worse.[/b] [/color]

seems GEJ is on a revenge mission, they used the north to sabotage his government right from when he was announced the winner of 2011 elections, seems he too is using electricity n fuel scarcity to sabotage the incoming government before he even hands over. I am beginning to enjoy this

Lmao! Hell hath no fury like a scorned woman!
I can't judge her cause I have not been in her shoes and so I don't know what she was going through emotionally when she did what she did.

May God not allow us experience such.

nelsonoba:
Let's pretend you've never read about the story of Apostle Paul in the bible, a man who was so notorious for jailing and killing innocent christians until he had an encounter with Jesus Christ while on his way to Damascus to persecute the christians there.

This same man repented and turned away from his sins and later became the greatest Apostle we know of today. He was used by God to do a lot of great things that even people like Apostles Peter and John who were with Jesus as his disciples didn't even accomplish.

Moral: God does not run a democracy where popular opinions determine what is 'right' or not. God killed His own beloved son Jesus on the cross for just one reason - so that sinners can identify with the punishment/death of Jesus and be saved.

The punishment/payment for Shina Rambo's sins have already been taken by Jesus Christ when he died on the cross for all who will choose to believe in Him, and that is why IT WILL BE A MISCARRIAGE OF JUSTICE FOR GOD TO REFUSE TO FORGIVE HIM THE DAY HE REPENTED AND ASKED FOR FORGIVENESS.

God is a just God, and He will not demand double payment for an offence. Jesus paid for our sins, and that is the ONLY REASON why we don't have to pay for them again IF WE GENUINELY REPENT AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS.

If a man refuses to accept the payment made on his behalf by Jesus Christ on the cross, then that person has to pay for his own sins by himself......and the ultimate place to pay for your sins is in Hell. The sad thing is that if you choose to pay for your sins by yourself in hell, you can never finish paying for it, that is why Jesus said the fire in hell never goes out and those who go there are damned forever.

The choice is simple; take the easy path by accepting Jesus' payment on your behalf, or pay for your sins by yourself. I know Shina Rambo took the easy path.

God forgave Paul but he paid for his crimes, same with David and all. God forgives but that doesn't cancel out your punishment

Madam your over-sabi is too much, get a grip of yourself. Your husband says he can take care of his kids n u r engaging him in fisticuffs, you should be glad he didn't take out your teeth with one blow.

By the way how did your MIL enter into this issue? She is minding her freaking business n you r busy trying to invite her to poke nose. Tomorrow you will be the one to come open a thread on nairaland about how your MIL can stop meddling in your affairs.

Stop trying too hard to play the perfect wife, its disgusting and reeks so much of desperation. Your husband doesn't give 2 fucccksss about your parents and look at you striving so hard to lick his parents bum.

Avalon316:
" do what they want to do if they have to" ....what does this mean? if that your skull is too strong ,marry an Edo man and cheat.
you women love to make mouth here.
bloody cheats

mr man I don't make bogus claims, I have seen some Esan women who are great cheats including some bini women who are still very much alive and well with their husbands and kids. Do they have to cheat for a maximum of 20yrs first bfr their husbands will die?

Do note that I am not saying all esan or bini women cheat on their edo husbands but I have seen some who cheat n r still very much alive and well. Even in Ewu where they say that belief works very well, I know a woman whose husband is in abuja but the woman herself is a chronic adulterer.

Wetin my eyes no see, my mouth no dey talk am.

Truckpusher:
I will love to have a ticket and see for myself.

These days, ''seeing is believing'' with these too many false prophets that are roaming all over Nigeria swindling people of their hard earned money.

Op ,get me a to and fro ticket please.

just go to the expressway nearest to you, jump infront of an oncoming truck and u'll go to hell straight. Free of charge, thank me later

oluwaseunla:
Funny, I'm trying to think if someone can get married for the sole purpose of frustrating his/her partner. Is that even possible? Maybe something went wrong along the line. Most happenings have some reason of sort.

About being happy, I think it's a combination of the two things you wrote: being good and getting married to a compatible person.

A good partner is relative because, who is good to me may be bad to you. And even if you are blessed with a good partner and you refuse to work on yourself, your angel may just become the devil. Remember we are humans and we all have our limits.

thanks for educating his mind, we need a lot more saner individuals like you on this section.

A vast majority of these unmarried nairaland boys have been taught they can be the nastiest of individuals and still get the best of women.

babygirlfl:
So true. It is really disturbing that somebody can be saying something horrible so callously and then while I thought he is just one sick person, you realize that he is not alone. You realize they are another potential 160+ people like him.

In addition to women praying, they have to realize that they are men that will treat them nicely, without putting them through that horrifying ordeal. Women need to start loving themselves first. Just like these men go through such length to pick their prey, women need to go to lengths to pick a good husband. In this section for example, judging by what they write, if I was still single, I know those I would consider for a date.

for real! Just when we are advicing women to stop putting men through nasty test cause we humans could be very deceptive, then some men are still applauding such.

Where do women meet these kind of men in real life?
Are these the kind of men that are in vogue now?

Damn, I need to bow down and worship my man then kiss his feet every morning I wake up.


I'M A LUCKY WOMAN!

nairalife2013:
no matter how desperate the woman could be, she couldnt hav passd my observation without breaking down to her realself. Some women are what the are. U are what u are, thatz why u are bitter and red-eyed. U are a lady, calm down yur eyes are not supposed to be as red as yur cun-t innards.

its unfortunate that as old as u claim to be, you do not have any scruples! Imagine an old man using such words as CUN-T on a public forum. What more can I say other than you and your wife deserve each other.

Fortunately, I am not part of your lowlife, pyschopatic, masochist bullshyte and I am lucky to have a man who LOVES me, TRUSTS me and RESPECT me, a self confident man who believes he has what it takes to attract the right kind of person.
He didn't have to test me to know if I am the right kind of woman for him because he is a highly intelligent individual whose 6th sense is functioning.
Cest fini

Our nigerian brothers should be 2nd in the world after our latino brothers, I feel cheated

lezz:
I read his whole posts. What I did was sift the weed from the grain. and there's so much positive emotion to take from his experience.

If nairaland females will find for themselves husbands half the man the poster is, maybe we would have less traffic with females who have taken up permanent residence at the romance section.

Good thing you seperated the wheat from the chaff but, I can tell you if you conducted a nairaland poll right now, 97% will never want to be associated with him while the other 3% who wouldn't mind having him might do so because he is rich or she is very desperate.

My advice to you, do not let any lady torture you in the name of testing you, if she doesn't trust your genuity and sincerity, then she doesn't have any business being with you.

Same goes for you, do not torture any lady in the name of testing them. If you don't trust her enough to be sincere with her emotions for you, then its stupidity to be dating her.

nairalife2013:
haha. Like ihuomadinihu, the other aimless antagonist, u are a Little girl. Yur type are controlled humans. In africa we call such ladies possessed. They are the last to know they need help. They are the last to run when others have smelled danger and have taken to their heels. Your type rain curses on thier father cause he has spanked them a little for misbehaving and leave home cause thier mother chastised and reprimanded them with the rod. My wife was my girlfriend before she became my wife. I took her as my dota and did all I would do to my daughter to her without malice or ill will or prejudice. I would do that even in the presence of her own father. The last thing I would do is to lay a hand on my wife! Calm your restive head down and begin to live like an elder eventho u are young in age and see what life would bring in heaps for you. Besides, u read without comprehending the essence or an exposé. People like u let the teacher talk too much, cause your minds are set on fooling the teacher and thinking yur self worthy and smart. I told u I needed an uncommon partner u are here taking pills over our own painful sacrifices. Did I say I needed som1 like u?!

Cc: Ihuomadinihu

hahaha, as old as you claim to be you lack discernment enough to know that age has nothing to do with wisdom.

You should be thanking your stars that you got a good woman not preening like a peacock on nairaland because trust me, a desperate devilish woman will pass those childish tests of your's and then give you a full dose of your own medicine when she becomes your wife.

Old man, let me tell you what gives in this 2015, you do not test people by torturing them unless you are CIA or FBI.

Same advice I give to you is what I give to every other male or female out there. You should not test anyone with stupid stuff, there are other ways to know the genuity of your partner without having to put them through stupid, nasty tests. Its plain stupid

nairalife2013:
I took on the rough skin of a demon when I was single and in search of a True companion. Am a man now. Am home to peace presently. I killed my heart back way then, to keep it alive, like a seedling buried in the soil to die then grow. Chose yur path. I av chosen mind. I knew what I wanted. I always know what I want and how to painstakingly get to it. We all hav our ways, no matter how easy or hard we device them. Most men have the route to the shortcut in their brains and just walk down straight to it. Most dont. They discover thier own shortcut by long wandering, or die trying. Men are the last creatures that will ever grow up. To survive a tumultuous world of marriage and endless misunderstanding inherent in the day to day union with a stranger, he needs a partner that loves him like his own mother. Only calm feminine minds will ever understand this. Narrow and zigzag, Paths of the Outwardly Virtous maid with Rebel's innards, the cool dude sees it from afar and avoid it without a fuse...the collected man doesn't look when others are looking. He knows when to steal a glance and grab the whole image in one stealthy stare. He could go the distance by throwing an invective into an assemblage of viragos...or he could throw a light jab with a dunlop fist for a start, just to tell who amongst them really has the ghoul in her.
I am the man. I know what I want and what I need. I act first and apologize later, for the good of all, including u. Cos I know, like myriads of other ladies, u dont know what u are saying nor what u are doing.

. Sorry to say this, but you are not as smart as you think you are, you are just fortunate enough to meet a good heart.

Now if you were really as smart as you claim you would have discerned how real she is without having to put a fellow human through such torture for your own selfish interest.

That said, I go with the previous explanation you gave for your actions which is; YOU WERE A SICK YOUNG MAN who was FORTUNATE enough to find someone who cured you.

Smart people can easily tell the kind of person you are given a week with you.

lezz:
Wisdom and intelligence is what you possess. God bless you for this naration.

you aren't just a good husband but you are a leader too. and your wife.....what a lady of character,rich heritage and wisdom.

wish you guys the best. what you have is rare.

. Lmao! Did you read the post where he said he was a sick young man then? So u want to be sick too, please note that unlike in his own case you might not find someone to cure you.

RealAlfranco:
Damn man, why did u do dis to me. While reading this, I felt my eyes fill with tears. The tears didn't drop,but mehn u got me numbed to 0. I don't know who u are or where u are from, but u jst inspired me. Thank you, Good sir. God bless you

he just inspired you to be what? A psychopath? How about some lady u love treating you like trash all in the name of testing you?

Do unto others as you would like them to do to you!

Ralphlauren:
You are SICK!

You need help. Asap !

thank you dude, I thought I was the only one who saw that and to think almost 300people liked his post. Too many psychopaths in the world, things can only get worse

Royver:
What if her lesbian mother sexually abused her and her lesbian fatherfigure was a drug addict?

Adding all the what-if's in the world does not discredit her story.

@5minsmadness, from your link, you didnt post the rest of her write-up. I think it makes a very interesting read.

pardon me, I actually meant to type what if her dad were dead. I was expecting her to highlight some real issues not some minor stuff. By the way what if she had a father who sexually abused her or emotionally abused her, or a father who was a criminal or junkie. She had better be careful what she wish for

What if her dad were dead and her aunt or some other female had to live with them.

Silly child, I thought she was going to bring up really concrete supportive arguments, seems what bothers her is that other kids have a dad n she doesnt

Not all african men r bad please. There r some really good ones. I'm nt going to say like my dad cos that will sound cliche.

Beetle:
And you're aware of many things. You're cussing out someone who you felt cussed out a fellow human being. Don't you think you're doing exactly the same thing. Correct the person and move on. Seems to me you have a vendetta against Bukatyne.

To be honest I still think some of these ladies here are hypocrites. The common denominator here is an evil MIL. The difference is the other MIL attacked the wife, in this case she sent her sons to do the work cos it's a man. So at the end of the day, an evil MIL is exactly that; evil.

I don't understand MILs to be honest, you've gained a son/daughter and yet they let envy take over their heart. What happened to live and let live, the world will be a better place without all of these wahala. Life is difficult as it is without bringing all of these in-law business into it.

exactly my dear, I hate double standards for what ever reasons, both mother-in-laws are evil only that one is using her foot soldiers instead of doing the dirty work herself. If she had her way or d strength she would have flew herself to op's house to give him a dirty slap for saying no, n I would never blame the op if he slapped her right back.

Op lock up those in-laws n make sure they r not let out until they pay for damages to the last penny!!!

If you don't agree with my decisions as your inlaw there r other ways to go about it without resorting to violence but since u have chosen that path, expect my humble self to go all out with you.

Its a tale told to scare their women, it doesn't happen. Only the uneducated ones believe that bulllshiiit, the educated ones knows its not real so they'll go right ahead to do want they want to do if they have to

Nothing absurd about ur soon to be mother-in-laws request. Maybe she is suspecting something wrong with your lineage that's why she is insisting.

Try to convince your dad to come to nigeria. If he refuses, you come to Nigeria and get one of your mums brothers to represent him.