pDude:


When you marry, come back and read this post.

lilmax:

ileobatojo:


Jadelyn no go kee person.

cytochromeC:
See as babes dey represent, wives and girlfriends. The same naija babes that have been badmouthed on this same nairaland since we entered feb as if the only thing they buy is boxers or nothing. Diariz God o.

mutter:


The family also played a role.
My mum was in a comma for years and my dad was busy trying to pick up his life. I did not even want to add to his problems. My siblings were no longer in the country. My dads family was pretty small and very educated, I just think that they could not start anything with the situation.
When I eventually told my family, my grandfather who was the head of the family said I should come home. They said I was not equipped to deal with the marriage.
What made them take that decision was also because he kept bringing charms and other strange objects into the house. -Amongst others some leather wrapping tied with a red rope and when you un fold it, it was full of bloody daggers

richyblink1:


My dear, it was difficult at first but thank God I applied wisdom.

Initially I was bothered on how she is going to flow with my folks, siblings and neighbours because she barely want to raise any topic of discussion and is not willing to contribute either. But when I realise her environment and up bringing shaped her that way, had no other option than following her gently.

The following steps helped.

1. I paid attention to find out things that intrigues her and ensure I equally get involve or show interest in them. At first it was difficult because she is someone who will hardly even want to tell you what she wants, likes or need.
For instance she is not keen to seeing movies or really pay attention to gadgets etc. But at the same time she love watching TELEMUNDO. So I had to start following the series (Lola, my heart beats for Lola, where is Elisa etc). By so doing I will pretend not knowing the acts so she can fill me in thereby creating an atmosphere for discussion.

2. She is good with animals and their various specie's. So whenever we are home I will intentionally tune Natgeo-wild and pretend I am interested in knowing their various species which will make her open up and start teaching me. By so doing discussion will follow.

3. She is not comfortable with crowd, so I reduced the number of people visiting the house so as to create a conducive environment for her to feel free and discuss with me.

4. Haven noticed she likes Oscar (Chelsea's soccer star) I always ensure she is aware when Chelsea is playing and ensure we don't just talk about just Oscar, but other players which will lead to more topic of discussion.

5. Since she dislikes going out (staying indoor is her best form of relaxing) I will always use her love for SUYA to lure her out. And there is no way we will not interact while strolling to get SUYA.

It is just a personal thing. Once you are committed to making your union a happy, fulfilling, fun filled and interesting one. You will go extra mile to making your partner feel at home.

mutter:


I am still looking for the answer to that question.
I was young, full of life and grown up in the east with a german mother. I am not claiming my parents were madly in love but I had a different idea of love and marriage.
He was older grew up in the north, a polygamous home and the youngest, the bread winner of the family. He was the only one with any education in the familly and his family had a great influence on him. Perhaps he was under that pressure.
However that does not explain all the terrible things he did. I asked his other wife`s after me if he ever did that and they all told me he never hit them or tried to dominate them that way but he was constantly comparing them to me. At the end he just grew cold and distanced himself from them. He was also very cruel to them but he never really hit them.
Perhaps because they all came from the same place and their families were influential there.
He keeps apologizing and tells me till today he was jazzed but that is just a ridiculous argument.

mutter:


I was in an abusive marriage. I left my husband finally on the 2nd of June 1995.
Came to Germany and started a new life with my kid`s. Got married again three years later.

I am a survive and I am so proud of myself.
Also so grateful to God.

God has showered me with so many blessings.
A saint of a husband that loves me and the kid`s.
Lovely kid`s even though they can be challenging too!
Happiness and peace of mind...

When you and some others make such comments you remind me that I once was married to someone as inhuman as the comments you make and it gives me every reason to be grateful to God.

carefreewannabe:


Men are the leaders, women are the followers.

Why are they still complaining, they should rejoice. Their dreams have come true.
Women are submissive and following them as they lead by example.

onila:
the dumb man made an Hour video talking rubbish

get over it son, its just a dick

SirShymexx:


In as much as I believe cheating is part of the game, and subconsciously, everyone (both male and female) going into a relationship/marriage, or in one, should always expect it - I don't think there are legitimate reasons to cheat. It's normal for folks to cheat cos that's part of the imperfection that makes us human. However, legitimising an imperfection is problematic.

I don't think anyone is worked up on the thread...I think it has more to do with the shock-value of how brazen naij women condone cheating these days, when folks have been lied to that Africa women are the most decent/cultured women out there. They sold folks a dream about African women, but the truth is somewhat bitter for the men to swallow.

SirShymexx:


So, why are you always on cheating threads, defending shameless cheats?

Tell the truth and shame the devil - don't be lucifer!

SirShymexx:
@jadelyn007

Why are you always on cheating threads?

You must be a serial cheater!

username792:


First of all, I have never justified cheating but you wouldn't know given that you are as dense as they make them.
Secondly, why are fvckers like you ALWAYS CHASING WOMEN? I have seen another misogynistic pig like you yestetday who wouldnt leave women alone. Talking about potential wives as if women are asking you shiiitt. Almost all the women on this thread agreed with me. Dunces like you should start considering your felow man for mariage or better yet mutter. She likes being beaten up and will even feel thankful if you beat her slow ass to near death. Apparently she lives in Germany but has kept all her village ways with her. You wil make a great backward couple, but please don't claim Nigeria.

cococandy:
lol I already gave up. Totally agreed with him

alutacontinua:


jennykadry, scratch that, jadelyn007-where are you?

EfemenaXY:



Oh lordy, lawd!

We've opened Pandora's box here! I feel you sister. I really do.

A sharp babe will go ahead and have their kid, abeg. You know, as in having a little piece of heaven to look upon every day of your life. With that kinda child eh, you won't see any problem holding down 3 jobs just to make sure the sun doesn't scorch his Ajebutter skin. Serious blessings from heaven, I tell you...

carefreewannabe:


LOL

I am not mean, I am just showing them what it takes to make a woman submissive.

carefreewannabe:


Exactly!

This is what I was thinking too.

I would even make a lot of money out of it. Revenge is sweet, indeed.

EfemenaXY:


Don't worry where we're fishing them out from. Just grab one for yourself before he's taken.

Re: the bolded...before nko? I'll say good riddance to bad rubbish.

slimmax:

Finbank to fcmb staff were shared around branches and tellers were paid some cash(170k plus). Do you work wit mainstreetbank?

slimmax:

By july you will have your answer.

ammyluv2002:
He was with his wife last night so what's dis news all over the place? Annie is so smart! She just cleared the air in a mature way by telling us the hubby was with her last night. #ILoveAnnie#