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MsDarkSkin: Hey Jallow.

I see you lurking.

Lurking and liking. Lol.

Have to keep myself updated, but I aint answering to nonsense

Dasparrow:

I am sorry. For you feeling like this, I mean, and for your experiences.

One of the reasons I wish to move to Africa with my hubby, is because, like you say, the subtle racism, the judging, and ignorance.
I feel like I always have to defense my marriage to an african muslim man, for both africans and norwegians. And why is that needed? If I married a norwegian, white dude, nobody would ask if he beats me, control my clothes, makes me do everything around the house, wants to perform fgm, etc, etc.
But, my husband also get it from africans. They ask if I want him to turn away from Islam, if I make him go to church, if I want to deny him of his african culture, if I deny him to speak his language around the house, etc, etc..

So, I dont know yet. Our kid gets more "accepted" in Africa, mostly because she look the way she do.

Mr. Him:
@Jallobah, with a back side like yours, i wouldn't mind any type of racism with you...no disrespect

Lol.

I guess I should say..thank you?

feature11: @Jallowbah, marriage comes with lots of responsibilities. I can't risk it. I understand what I am saying, if you guys don't umderstand me. I will rather wait.

Then we probably see it different. For meg, marriage is about taking care of each other, in every, single way. Sometimes financial, sometimes just by cooking or cleaning, other times just by agreeing do disagree.

But why not get married even though he is in school?

feature11: Full time study means he will not be in any employment...how will I get married to a guy that does not have a job?

Though, I'm gainfully employed, I can't afford to be the "husband" while he becomes the "wife".

Lol.

Is`nt marriage about supporting each other, in sickness and healt, rich and poor?

Try to think more than 2years ahead..

A man should "babysit" just as much as the mother, as soon as the baby starts eating, unless the mother is a housewife.

I love the beads.

In fulani-culture, the only one to see your waist-beads is your husband, and other females. It is also okay that other men see it IF you are with your husband, f.ex at the beach.
The married women tend to wear up to 8-9, so that when she walks, they make a lot of noice People know she is a married woman. They call it Lamposchema.

I dont babysit my own kid, neither does my husband. Its called parenting.

Even if I go to dance at the club, he is not babysitting his own kid, he is home with the child.

And I would not settle down with a man that expected me to do everything around the house..

MsDarkSkin: Sis be careful.

Fulaman is not the open minded character he pretends to be.
Truth is he loathes people like us who he views as "westerners studying his people like lab rats".

It's nice you are into Fulani culture but again, make sure you know who is for you and who is not a pretender.

I have seen some of that later on, yes.

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Maybe you should contact some goverments about this.

Lol. Glad I am not the only one seeing that..

Its all HOW you say it. I LOVE black people vs. I HATE black people.
You dont see that..?

Mrs..Chima:
The African chicks that have called you a White ho doesn't hate you because you are White....they called you a White ho that have taken their men because if your White skin was the only reason then they wouldn't have called other non-White women hoes either.

White women aren't the only group of women that are dating and married to African men. You have other Africans, Asian, Hispanic, Black Americans, Arab, and Native American women that are dating and marrying Africans and they too have been called hoes taking their men.

Just because someone called you a white hoe doesn't mean they are racist....You are white and to them you are a ho. Not saying you are one per se....to clarify if someone doesn't serve you in a cafe, perform hate crime on you because of your skin color, and discriminated against you because of your skin color then they are too can be racist, bigot, prejudice, and hater.

The fact that those same African girls called other non-White women hoes taking their men doesn't sound racist to me. Hell...they even call other African women hoes taking their men.

And yet, if I was saying "that black hoe took my man", it would be considered racist in my culture. So why is it not racist the other way around??

There will NEVER be peace if people to learn to forgive history. Not to accept it, not to forget it, but you can NOT blame new-borns for what others have done.

On topic: I was standing in the area in the capital in Norway where there as most immigrants, called Grønland. There are about 45% immigrants, rest is norwegians, and the place is filled with immigrant-shops. I was living there for some years. This day I was waiting the bus, and there was some somali-celebration going on in a mosque nearby, so there was many kids, men and women dressed up, happy and smiling, etc. This drunken fool was standing at the bus-stop with me, and MUCH people around. I would dsay maybe four-five white people and about 20 africans.
He started saying "Bleep these black people, coming to take over our country. Damn monkeys. Fucking ugly nig`s, blablabla. Im gonna find a big knife and chop somebody head". Nobody said anything.
I jumped in and told him "keep your mouth closed, there are a bunch of kids here, take your hate somewhere else."
"gad damn nig`r lover, shut your ugly mouth, you and your ugly half-breed kid ( sounded like pagan here, right? ) can go to helle, you look like a damn horse".

I was just happy he started talking to me instead of the kids.

I told him I would call the police on him, and that he should get the hell out of the town if he had problem with immigrants.

I have seen things like tht on buses too, ut its always a drunken/junkie who starts badmouthing. Trash-people.

kandiikane: ^^lol, it just doesn't sit right.

He may have had some bum chums, who knows?

Oh snap!

kandiikane: lool! Touche!

Come on now, look at 2pac. Dont tell me he dont look good with his lickle nose-stud..woooh!

CAMEROONPRIDE: can you prove it? i guess no ..don't get me wrong i don't talk like that(white this/black that nahhhh) . i was just pointing the ignorance of a biotch here because in front of judge you have no case.

If you look at all the other threads he write in, you will know why I say its because of that. The man is racist.

CAMEROONPRIDE: yoo that's easy from a white man/woman ..you can't understand. Anyway there is a difference between what's right/true/should happen and the reality . no one can prevent the effects of something it's easy to say they shouldn't blame all the white people but the truth is different ..the human mind doesn't work like that what you did/are doing affect us differently some will be more tolerant and others will be more aggressive

Honey..you are just trying to row a boat right now.

I have been bullied. Did I walk around and took revenge on other people for that? No.
My best friend was raped. Did she walk around and took revenge on other men for that? No.
My husband was almost killed by somalis, two times. Do he walk around and hate ALL somalis for that? No.

Why cause more hate? Why not educate instead?
What good for the history will a black man do by hating on white people, and the other way around?

I have african women calling me a damn white LovePeddler who steals THEIR men, because I am married to a african. They hate me because I am white, nothing more. Thats is not racism, to hate someone because of their colour?

elimokhai: The gun(dikko) is meant to be kept inside the holster(titto). GAY? Not for 1billion naira, even though the offer is BIG and tempting, need to run, its barbaric, unhealthy, dirty, disgusting, satanic, inhuman degrading treatment punishable by law. I have 200 reasons why I HATE gays

No one is asking YOU to be gay, right?
Again; why bother about what other people like? Why waste energy on hate?

CAMEROONPRIDE: you might be true if you know pagan personally b like i said nothing is racist in his sentence ..even if some fools will say the contrary ...just to play the pseudo intello ...

Again; why bring colour into things, at all? What does the colour of someones skin have to do with it?
The only reason he tell her to get awa, is in fact because she is white. Even you know that.

I love it

CAMEROONPRIDE: maybe i haven't been enough clear ... REVERSE RACISM IS NOT RACISM the same with fighting back someone doesn't mean that you are a violent person ...those blacks who called you all the words u listed aren't/weren't racist they are angry because they suffer ,because even in 2012 Africans are treated like poo ..it's aint racism ...it's compression-explosion

Thats like saying I should treat every damn German person bad if I was a jew. There is NO logic in it.
There is NO excuse in it.

To fight back at the people who have DONE something to you? Go right ahead.
To fight back at people who LOOK like someone who did something to you? Bad.

You dont see that?? If my daughter gets racism, from blacks or whites, I hope she takes her anger on the person that GAVE her the racism, not every person who look like the one who did it.

PAGAN 9JA:
its understandable. you are a true white after all.

Yeah, no africans does any of that, right?

PAGAN 9JA:
we are Afrcans and strictly against men sticking their things into other peoples backsides. we are moral peoples and have values unlike you, so dont spread your fake ideology to us.

Lol at you.

Dumbass. Look at the animals, even they have gays. And humans are animals. We Bleep, we kill, we fight.
Why worry about what kinda intimate things other people enjoy? Its not your business.

CAMEROONPRIDE: let me teach what we call language:: when someone say go away white woman in which language please tell me it means that he kicked her out because she is white......and you dare call me fool ..girl go back to school. cause and effect : come here black boy doesn't mean that i called you because you are black? same with go away white woman how can u know that the reason why pagan said that is because she is white except if he told her i don't see how you figure that.. furthermore i don't see the racism in that little biotch .if someone say "damn this white man pisses me off " is it racist ? no ..those it means that it's the man's race/skin color which pisses him? againno ..i wonder where you schooled but you can't teach me something. nice try

When it comes to Pagan, we all know HOW he means it. He IS racist against whites.

And, further more..why the need to put the colour on someones skin in the sentence anyway? If a black man makes me angry, I dont go and say "oh that black dude made me wanna slap him". I would say "that damn fool made me want to slap him."

Why do you need to bring colour into it?

CAMEROONPRIDE: let me ask you a question if someone bully your girl will call your girl a bully the day she stand up and fight back? if you answer no ..you cl;early understand that those blacks aren't racist they are frustrated by what you do .period

How can they be frustrated about what "I do", when I, myself, have done nothing wrong?
You are supposed to take back at the bullies who did something, not people who look like the bullies.
Are you just acting dumb, or did you just choose a damn wrong theory?