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The man is already 80 years old duhhh

This isn't really about loving one's parent.

You simply have to go with the practical option

An 85 yr old person isn't productive as well as susceptible to all sort of health related issues so why risk all on such?

cdamsel: so when should I admire from near?

phew

Why ask questions that will most certainly be answered with what you want to hear?

Mind really boggles ya know!

How about you teach them how to analyse behavioural pattern of men and in turn arrive at situational evidence based judgements.

Words are simply the easiest thing to engineer!

olu4life: And no one responded on the issue again. Pls can u just verify it and push to the frontpage if TEHN can't be of help to this case? I await ur response. Thanks

As promised, we’ve reconvened in order to review our initial decision as well as consider other option of limited involvement. I’m afraid to inform you that the majority decision by the group is still a NO. Be rest assured that this wasn’t an easy decision as there is nothing more we would have liked than doing whatever we can to help the child get better

We’ve already extensively explained the rationale behind our decision not to accept the case at this time. This is still the case

In considering the option of limited involvement, we carefully thought this through before deciding against it. The rationale for this is as follows:

1) We are also not comfortable endorsing a cause that we can’t control/monitor and/or influence how the donations received are spent. As a group, we always make sure our primary responsibility is safeguarding all donations by making sure they are used for intended purpose.

2) Our tried and tested verification process requires that we sometime seek second opinion especially on medical cases or physical evidence to validate claims. We wouldn’t be able to confidently substantiate the claim without having to seek a second opinion and considering the fact that it’s a complex medical case that will incur some sort of cost as well as adding unnecessary delay before you can get the much needed help. We feel a little bit unease with endorsing something we can’t confidently provide adequate/sufficient assurance

We understand this isn’t the news you hoped to receive but be rest assured this was carefully thought through before we arrived at the decision.

We will continue praying for the child that God in his infinite mercies provide him with the much needed good health.

Regards

Yes why not?
Feedback especially when hindsight leaning is a good tool for re-evaluation.

The key to the prospective conversation is as follows:
1) Make sure you've already accepted that ain't no human being is perfect
2) Make sure you are ready to actively listen
3) Under no circumstances should you have any expectation. Just receive as given
4) The feedback is yours and yours alone so it's your responsibility to address whatever you feel is important going forward

Having said the above, it will greatly help if the breakup was mutual so the feedback can be balanced

cococandy: What did you find?

Zilch

cococandy: Oya check your inbox

I've checked

olu4life: And no one responded on the issue again. Pls can u just verify it and push to the frontpage if TEHN can't be of help to this case? I await ur response. Thanks

As much as we sympathise with the case, we are under no obligation to accept each and every case.
We've already extensively explained the rationale behind our initial decision and as such expect you to exercise some patience.
We agreed to revist the decision process but you need to understand this doesn't guarantee that the initial decision will be overturned.

Our decision process involves anonymous voting among the exec's by which only a returned majority leads to an acceptance.

We will contact you either way once the process is complete

Regards

cococandy: Free MTN recharge card to the person who guesses my age correctly

2 and 2

Basic common sense..... Stronger together weaker apart

softsparkyy: Last night.
No reason... the tears won't just stop.

No reaction without an action

something must have triggered it

"Permit me to say this- If you don't find it demeaning to spread your legs in the east and west direction just to get #5,000 from a man, then you shouldn't find any job too demeaning."


Yes but then again the effort isn't comparable

All the same, you are bang on point.

God knows if i ever have a daughter, i'd definitely drill the "Yes I can" spirit in her from the get go

cococandy: While I'm not a fan of Ayo and his showy type of CAN leadership,if he says he rented the jet out and it can be confirmed that it was actually rented out,wouldn't it make sense to hold the actual people in possession of the jet at the time it was impounded so that they speak up on who they are working for.
Rather than assume that because he owns it,he must know what the renters did with it while they were renting it?

He owns a private jet not commercial Jet. Asside from the obvious implications (Taxation, circumventing normal airport protocols et al) surrounding the wrongful use of jets registered as private to be then used for commercial interest, Ignorance is simply not an excuse.

The Ayo dude is bleeped no matter what angle you might want to view this from

@cococandy

You know what, how about we cut out all these role defining antics and just revist the dynamics of FWB

cococandy: Sorry I don't believe you.

You really don’t have to because your mind is pretty much made up.

I just need you to understand that there isn't really any hard/fast rule with relationship matters. Life isn't really clear cut and decisions made in relationships are always dependent on various factors that are usually outside of ones control.

No single person that truly and genuinely loves the other person will go out and cheat but having said that, there is the big humongous issue of temptation.
Even the best fall for this singular most important cause of the act of cheating.

What some men do is avoid temptations but I can assure you it will be hard to find a man that will say no to some big bouncing naked booty with 100% assurance of secrecy.

“Madam cococandy or whatever you fancy yourself, the men that don't cheat are the men that don't get caught.” <= Touché

Nuff said

hazekctravels: Lol

So true

MadCow1: Your friends case is being reviewed.. Keep calm...




I will await r231's comment and then make a decision. I pray it sails through..

This was the official response to his request:

Thanks for your email. We’ve now had the chance to deliberate on your request as a group and our official response is that we wouldn’t be able to provide any assistance with this case at this time.

We are currently in the project closure phase of a case that we’ve been involved in since last year July (Ms Folake). The thread is on NL, the lady lived with a goitre around her neck for close to 16 years up until we stepped in and managed to finance her surgery through donations from Nlers.

Unfortunately, this lady died of complications 4 days after having had a successful surgery and our stance since then is not to take on any more health related cases that we can’t really guarantee success since we are at the mercy of both incompetent health service workers and dilapidated health system as a whole in Nigeria. We are aware that the plan is to have the surgery done in India but our verification process involves us having to get expert opinion on health related cases.

As you can imagine, this has been a traumatic period for every one of us involved with this woman’s case so taking up another risky case would be a step too far at this time.

Sorry we are unable to help but be rest assured you will be in our prayers

All the best



The rationale:
1) Timing - No matter how much effort and time we put into these cases, one thing that shouldn't be forgotting is our emotional investment. As you can imagine the bond we shared with Ms Folake (may her soul rest in perfect peace) all through the 20+ months we were involved with her case. It was a wrong time to take on board a case as delicate as that knowing fully well how the previous medical case went. We are human and thus expected to be a lil emotional with these sort of cases considering the close relationships our field workers establish with our recipients.
As much as we do not to cherry pick cases, we as a group can only move forward/evolve using lessons learnt so as to be the best we can be as well as serving our stakeholders as expected.

2) Policy - I did mention that we were in the closure phase of Ms Folake's project and thus we couldn't really take on new cases at the time. I duly apologise for not elaborating if this point wasn't made clear. We are now revieiwing our policy to allow us work on concurrent cases.

3) complexity of the case - The case looked complex on the surface and since we couldn't really make an informed decision using an expert advice at the time as well as not having the luxury of time to carry out due diligence as expected, we just felt it was best to give it a pass at the time.

We have never promised to accept all cases as we simply cant due to obvious reasons. Our promise is that all cases received will be looked into before making a decision to either accept or reject.

Regards

MadCow1: R231..

The reason given is a bit worrisome.. Late Folakes case should not stop the group from undertaking cases of medical needs..

Brb with the rationale for that consensus decision

r231: Yes!

Not restricted to care homes

We want to hear from each and everyone of you If;
you know an elderly person that is in need of any help they can get,
and we can easily verify

softsparkyy: Jaybee tell me what you have to offer make I direct my spirit your side sharpish.
Until then the spirit dey on chilling mood

Def not captain dick cos every dick and harry can offer you that
Def not cash cos 1) you can get that yourself and 2) that doesn't separate me from the other pretenders
Def not going to be promise of love cos love isn't meant to be proclaimed but rather shown via verifiable/undeniable actions
Def not going to be all sort of gifts cos the best gift is myself, my time, my soul and my all

softsparkyy: Babe that's why I do my things now as the spirit leads.
Imagine one Okoro wey I accept his pm they ask me if that's how I accept other guys pm, that I should have waited for days before replying his pm ....WTF.

Abegi, allow your spirit lead you come this side na

Me i be okoro Yoruba Yoruba but i get some kind thing wey i fit offer you

^^^
Just glue it together

Rooney is shyte!

softsparkyy: Guys hating tomatoes. ..hmmmm

181 likes and counting

Na u oooooo nne

cococandy: Jaybee3

Ma

cococandy: Sir?

Join my cult. We have mid night meetings every wednesdays
You won't be disappointed

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sweettease: How can your eyes not water?

Make i bring bucket?

Loretta_u

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Some guys are just lucky mehn