₦airaland Forum

bukatyne:
Are you saying "I clean the house, you clean the lawn" kind of thingy?

Still doesn't achieve the 'equality' in my opinion.

Besides, how often do you clean the lawn?

Lemme jor

Keneking:
Time to carry this man upon arrival at Port Harourt (Omagwa) International Airport whenever he returns

The only reason why he is walking free is because GEJ isn't an outlier so no point making an example out of him

NOETHNICITY:
HAba bros, now now like this u don quickly add $50k to the amount. Very soon another person go add him own then b4 u know what the money don reach $7m.

Does the figure actually matter in the wider scheme of things?

omamush:
I miss GEJ

Nothing stops you from following him to Otouke

Nonsense

sakalisis:
Really, We need prove not newspaper trial....

Engage your brain Sir

Would the EFCC go public with their allegations about a legal professional without having solid proofs when they can be countered sued for libel/damages?

Wake up abeg

Kabashin:
So after the media trial what next ?

Awareness is also an effective tool Sir/Ma

It means they have to device new ways to siphon funds as things gets a little more difficult

AmSmart:
the media and fg makes suspect look guilty even £efore trials, its wrong and dats exactly wats happenin to dis woman n it could £e anyne tmrw

The media trial is somewhat effective in this instance since it's almost impossible to get deserved judgement in our already compromised Judiciary

It's up to us to make our own minds up really

I'm no lover of PDP but happy birthday barcanista

Have a fun filled day

jokepearl:

Are rating me or a governor? Lol

Please rate Buhari here: https://ratenigeriangov.com/Rate/MenuProfile/President

I go upgrade am to 1/10

Jokepearl

0/10

I'm still interested bro

Just trying to get someone to have it checked for me

UjSizzle:
Nna okwa 3 and I still don't understand why we have one at Amawbia express

Nne how far

I wan whisper something to you

dondo83:
fayose cant be arrested but one thing is for sure, he will forfeiting alot of properties after he leaves the Government house.

There is also the additional comfort knowing fully well he won't be able to embezzle enough to augment future losses

Na jail sure pass for that rogue

Fayose the crook even kept a large % of the illegally sourced allocated funds for the ekiti state gubernatorial election for himself using Agbele

The atrocities our politicians perpetrate is mind boggling

GEJ still remains their hero

Bunch of morons!!!

Don't they have medical insurance or something?

Genesis2000:
You don't know that most men flaits because of too much money. Lol.

But in a situation whereby you gives account of your spending, you know wount do that. Lol. Unless you want to cause wahala for ur house.

That's why my preference is dedicated responsibilities
I'm not interested in what she does with her money outside of her dedicated responsibility vice versa

icedbeatz:
@jaybee3 my point is this, telling your spouse the amount you earn depends on the type of person your spouse is be it he/she. You can give a successful investor money to invest for you which is a good move but would you give a crack head money to hold or save for you? if a wife can handle your finance judiciously then by all means disclose your salary and brainstorm ideas to make more money together but if she can't handle money and love to spend on frivolities then its a good decision to keep her in the dark about your salary. I hope you understand but if you don't its alright bro.

Thanks for the summary Sir

I think there are two separate issues entirely.

Openness - Honesty falls under this and i encourage it

Empowerment - There isn't a one model fits all for this since all relationships aren't the same. In my household, we have dedicated responsibilities where proportionality of salary determines the ratio of contribution (I don't envisage a situation where i would expect my wife to pay more than 50% even if she earned more than me).

@icedbeatz

Please apply appropriate paragraphs into your rebutal so i can respond accordingly

Thanks bro

Genesis2000:
Thank you so much.

You re actually referring to me. Lol.

Everything that has advantage also has a disadvantages.

My wife knows how much am earning, but not because am righteous but because my salary is not too good.

When i collect my salary i will bring it out completely, and we share it accordingly, you know what i mean? House rent, thought which comes up annually. Light bills, school fees, foods stuff, just name it, will be distributed accordingly.

When it has been exusted, then she will happily start from there. That's how i have been surviving this recession.lol..

But the disadvantage of it is that, no unnecessary spending again, lol. Thank God am not a womannizer or you just help anybody anyhow without her knowledge you must give account of it when you gets home. Lol. My brother it is not easy ooo.

But the funny part of it is that, i don't even care to know how much she has, i don't want to cause trouble in my house.
She is a business woman, had it been she is working, enhe, i would have jokingly or comfortably ask her how much she is earning.

Although my wife is a good manager.

How is the inability to cheat because of scarce resource a disadvantage?
I'm sure it's a subtle humor so no biggie

Moral decadence na, abi what else?

Showing flesh is now an acceptable phenom so no biggie

First and foremost, secrecy in marriage is a recipe for disaster and you need to stop approaching issues with a narrow mindset since it can’t be applicable everywhere.
You are encouraging secrecy because Nigeria’s divorce law doesn’t favour the woman cos if it did then surely there wouldn’t be any point in hiding assets since you will be forced to split it halfway if and most likely when found

Having said the above, I don’t understand why anyone would want to hide assets if one of the reasons for being in a marriage is to provide stability for the family. It’s a disservice for the family when the state have to claim assets that can’t be directly linked because of no known next of Kin.

icedbeatz:
1. There should be secrecy pertaining to certain information about assets/finance from the other party if need be because of various reasons too many to mention. Let me ask you, will you give me a key to your new BMW x6 to drive in a busy traffic area if you know that I can't or don't know how to drive?

What stops you from putting steps in place that ensures I’m able to drive effectively and in turn become self-sufficient?

icedbeatz:
2. Honesty should encouraged at all times is not a good answer but just alright but in some sensitive issues honesty doesn't apply so wisdom calls. I expected better answers from you but rather got questions and an alright answer.

Please list the sensitive issues that will make a man/wife hide finance from each other
Are you working for yourself or the family?
I’d already suggested people deal with issues of unrealistic expectations or financial recklessness. It’s a lot easier to identify issues and explain the rationale for your action so as to ensure sustainable improvement whilst solidifying the base of the relationship

icedbeatz:
3. Revisit that squarely? a wise person should be able to ascertain the personality and behaviour of his/her partner before embarking on the journey of marriage and personality is not something you can change in others, it has no switch! a good scientist is an amazing observer, problem dictator and solver so why embark on a mission that is likely to turn sour 80% of the time? where the other party will see you judging them as unfit to handle this or that. Most people can't handle the truth about themselves so they will despise you for making it obvious to them so in order to save everyone headache you do the needful. Do you give a toddler a corrosive substance to hold for you? hell no because chances are the might destroy themselves with it or you or waste the corrosive for what you initially plan to use it for but if its a fellow competent partner then the team will put two good heads together and handle it.

It’s all about your approach.

I won’t tell my wife you are bad at managing money hence the reason for me hiding assets or whatever

I will go to her with the issues, implications of the identified issues and suggested action plan to improve status quo.

icedbeatz:
OK dear can you tell me why should a husband tell his wife how much he earns?

Why should their be secrecy in Marriage?
That singular action is highly suggestive of underlying trust issues

Honesty should be encouraged at all times

IF either party has issues with managing/understanding realistic expectation then they need to revisit that squarely

E-money this, E-money that...Geez

tearoses:
You know I will set my cat puddles on you

I kuku know where to find you so bring it

Seun still can't get the cat out of his mind. He asked after you at the weekend using the cat as his narrative

nitrogen:
Well, not really, maybe I should try o, the only issue is that I won't be able to flex well in places like Saudi, Qatar and others. And me want to enjoy life o (COB enjoyment, women and wine ). Only UAE makes sense.

Abeg, we go talk.

Perception is always different from reality bro and you ought to embrace flexibility at this key stage of your career

tearoses:
Maybe this is the wrong place and the wrong topic but just want to encourage someone

I have a friend ( I love independent hardworking women)
She started off baking cakes.
We were her guinea pigs. Cakes spelt happy Birthda......No space for the Y on the cake because the piping distance was wrong

She made meatpies, sausage rolls, chin chin and scotch eggs and supplied local shops and churches etc
She then started catering
Then Moved into hiring out spoons and plates
Then moved into supplying servers and ushers
Then moved into fruit trees
Then moved into chocolate fountains
Then moved into cocktails and mocktails
Then moved into small chops
Then moved into decoration
Sne just got back from India from buying bride and groom chairs and backdrops


Single lady
She is the one who should be asking the man " what do you bring to the table"
I am really proud of her

I swearigad my mischievous self was going to type "That's what she is bringing to the table" before i read your last quote

Phew

Ishilove:


HungerBad, they're already packaging wedding gift for us. What are you waiting for??

Not moin moin gift ooo

How exactly will all of that guarantee a successful marriage though?

People that adhere to such are retarded billy goats that deserves to be shot and fed to the dogs.. What nonsense!!!!!

How about death penalty for looters?

BarrElChapo:
Where is the cleavage

Good question

I don zoom tire

I promise una big gift if una fit walk down the aisle