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I'm still interested bro

Just trying to get someone to have it checked for me

UjSizzle:
Nna okwa 3 and I still don't understand why we have one at Amawbia express

Nne how far

I wan whisper something to you

dondo83:
fayose cant be arrested but one thing is for sure, he will forfeiting alot of properties after he leaves the Government house.

There is also the additional comfort knowing fully well he won't be able to embezzle enough to augment future losses

Na jail sure pass for that rogue

Fayose the crook even kept a large % of the illegally sourced allocated funds for the ekiti state gubernatorial election for himself using Agbele

The atrocities our politicians perpetrate is mind boggling

GEJ still remains their hero

Bunch of morons!!!

Don't they have medical insurance or something?

Genesis2000:
You don't know that most men flaits because of too much money. Lol.

But in a situation whereby you gives account of your spending, you know wount do that. Lol. Unless you want to cause wahala for ur house.

That's why my preference is dedicated responsibilities
I'm not interested in what she does with her money outside of her dedicated responsibility vice versa

icedbeatz:
@jaybee3 my point is this, telling your spouse the amount you earn depends on the type of person your spouse is be it he/she. You can give a successful investor money to invest for you which is a good move but would you give a crack head money to hold or save for you? if a wife can handle your finance judiciously then by all means disclose your salary and brainstorm ideas to make more money together but if she can't handle money and love to spend on frivolities then its a good decision to keep her in the dark about your salary. I hope you understand but if you don't its alright bro.

Thanks for the summary Sir

I think there are two separate issues entirely.

Openness - Honesty falls under this and i encourage it

Empowerment - There isn't a one model fits all for this since all relationships aren't the same. In my household, we have dedicated responsibilities where proportionality of salary determines the ratio of contribution (I don't envisage a situation where i would expect my wife to pay more than 50% even if she earned more than me).

@icedbeatz

Please apply appropriate paragraphs into your rebutal so i can respond accordingly

Thanks bro

Genesis2000:
Thank you so much.

You re actually referring to me. Lol.

Everything that has advantage also has a disadvantages.

My wife knows how much am earning, but not because am righteous but because my salary is not too good.

When i collect my salary i will bring it out completely, and we share it accordingly, you know what i mean? House rent, thought which comes up annually. Light bills, school fees, foods stuff, just name it, will be distributed accordingly.

When it has been exusted, then she will happily start from there. That's how i have been surviving this recession.lol..

But the disadvantage of it is that, no unnecessary spending again, lol. Thank God am not a womannizer or you just help anybody anyhow without her knowledge you must give account of it when you gets home. Lol. My brother it is not easy ooo.

But the funny part of it is that, i don't even care to know how much she has, i don't want to cause trouble in my house.
She is a business woman, had it been she is working, enhe, i would have jokingly or comfortably ask her how much she is earning.

Although my wife is a good manager.

How is the inability to cheat because of scarce resource a disadvantage?
I'm sure it's a subtle humor so no biggie

Moral decadence na, abi what else?

Showing flesh is now an acceptable phenom so no biggie

First and foremost, secrecy in marriage is a recipe for disaster and you need to stop approaching issues with a narrow mindset since it can’t be applicable everywhere.
You are encouraging secrecy because Nigeria’s divorce law doesn’t favour the woman cos if it did then surely there wouldn’t be any point in hiding assets since you will be forced to split it halfway if and most likely when found

Having said the above, I don’t understand why anyone would want to hide assets if one of the reasons for being in a marriage is to provide stability for the family. It’s a disservice for the family when the state have to claim assets that can’t be directly linked because of no known next of Kin.

icedbeatz:
1. There should be secrecy pertaining to certain information about assets/finance from the other party if need be because of various reasons too many to mention. Let me ask you, will you give me a key to your new BMW x6 to drive in a busy traffic area if you know that I can't or don't know how to drive?

What stops you from putting steps in place that ensures I’m able to drive effectively and in turn become self-sufficient?

icedbeatz:
2. Honesty should encouraged at all times is not a good answer but just alright but in some sensitive issues honesty doesn't apply so wisdom calls. I expected better answers from you but rather got questions and an alright answer.

Please list the sensitive issues that will make a man/wife hide finance from each other
Are you working for yourself or the family?
I’d already suggested people deal with issues of unrealistic expectations or financial recklessness. It’s a lot easier to identify issues and explain the rationale for your action so as to ensure sustainable improvement whilst solidifying the base of the relationship

icedbeatz:
3. Revisit that squarely? a wise person should be able to ascertain the personality and behaviour of his/her partner before embarking on the journey of marriage and personality is not something you can change in others, it has no switch! a good scientist is an amazing observer, problem dictator and solver so why embark on a mission that is likely to turn sour 80% of the time? where the other party will see you judging them as unfit to handle this or that. Most people can't handle the truth about themselves so they will despise you for making it obvious to them so in order to save everyone headache you do the needful. Do you give a toddler a corrosive substance to hold for you? hell no because chances are the might destroy themselves with it or you or waste the corrosive for what you initially plan to use it for but if its a fellow competent partner then the team will put two good heads together and handle it.

It’s all about your approach.

I won’t tell my wife you are bad at managing money hence the reason for me hiding assets or whatever

I will go to her with the issues, implications of the identified issues and suggested action plan to improve status quo.

icedbeatz:
OK dear can you tell me why should a husband tell his wife how much he earns?

Why should their be secrecy in Marriage?
That singular action is highly suggestive of underlying trust issues

Honesty should be encouraged at all times

IF either party has issues with managing/understanding realistic expectation then they need to revisit that squarely

E-money this, E-money that...Geez

tearoses:
You know I will set my cat puddles on you

I kuku know where to find you so bring it

Seun still can't get the cat out of his mind. He asked after you at the weekend using the cat as his narrative

nitrogen:
Well, not really, maybe I should try o, the only issue is that I won't be able to flex well in places like Saudi, Qatar and others. And me want to enjoy life o (COB enjoyment, women and wine ). Only UAE makes sense.

Abeg, we go talk.

Perception is always different from reality bro and you ought to embrace flexibility at this key stage of your career

tearoses:
Maybe this is the wrong place and the wrong topic but just want to encourage someone

I have a friend ( I love independent hardworking women)
She started off baking cakes.
We were her guinea pigs. Cakes spelt happy Birthda......No space for the Y on the cake because the piping distance was wrong

She made meatpies, sausage rolls, chin chin and scotch eggs and supplied local shops and churches etc
She then started catering
Then Moved into hiring out spoons and plates
Then moved into supplying servers and ushers
Then moved into fruit trees
Then moved into chocolate fountains
Then moved into cocktails and mocktails
Then moved into small chops
Then moved into decoration
Sne just got back from India from buying bride and groom chairs and backdrops


Single lady
She is the one who should be asking the man " what do you bring to the table"
I am really proud of her

I swearigad my mischievous self was going to type "That's what she is bringing to the table" before i read your last quote

Phew

Ishilove:


HungerBad, they're already packaging wedding gift for us. What are you waiting for??

Not moin moin gift ooo

How exactly will all of that guarantee a successful marriage though?

People that adhere to such are retarded billy goats that deserves to be shot and fed to the dogs.. What nonsense!!!!!

How about death penalty for looters?

BarrElChapo:
Where is the cleavage

Good question

I don zoom tire

I promise una big gift if una fit walk down the aisle

I sense KWORRUPTION

kahal29:
2) If we assume, without conceding, that such a meeting took place, for a man of Justice Okoro’s standing and knowledge of the law, he ought to have known the legal implications of such a visit, and should have reported it to appropriate authorities immediately. He did not do that, but he is only reacting after the authorities have established a case against him.



http://thenigerialawyer.com/judicial-officers-arrest-justice-okoros-baseless-allegation-against-umana/

Gbam

Excuzeme:
I hate the idea of "sharing responsibilities' with my wife! It is my house, my family, my responsibility.
If her, is part of my responsibility, whether she earns or not

She earns a lot, l know but l dont go around trying to find out.
She can take up any responsibility (voluntarily) she wants to, within the family.
She has no business with how much l earn, that would be trying to 'size me up', resulting eventually in 'see-finish'!

I made the 'operating rules' for my own house, before l married her.
She agreed to live by those rules, hence we got married, and still married. (The day she rebels, then the contract will be invalidated)

Marriage is less about emotions of love but more about 'understanding the T & C of the contract'.
That way, everyone stays cool with the other.
No disrespect, No muscle flexing.

Your wife is effectively your property right?

Na real wa

No be una fault sha, i'm sure your views will be different if divorce laws becomes favourable to women and judges aren't compromised

zicoraads:
It's the other way round. If she knows everything that comes into your account.

She does and she is entitled to half of everything we own so no biggie

nitrogen:
Well, my current route is pure investment banking/corporate finance, and I wanta try and use CFA to cross to PE or even Hedge fund, but then we are just emerging so only few PEs and HFs are on ground. I really don't mind moving to Europe or Asia or even subsaharan countries like SA.

I guess you have figured out the difference between CISI and CFA, you are actually after financial planning or wealth management/advisory which makes sense, less work great pay and huge bonuses.

As madam wey you be, you can write CFA later so you can fully understand finance and become more exposed to various products that will benefit your clients (wealthy individuals, families and even foundations) both in terms of risk and return.

Takes time and dedication, but it's worth it.

Have you considered middle east bro?

zicoraads:
Erm, I really don't know. I'll just observe the married ones and see what they say. Where is Jaybee3...coman comment

I remember my last girlfriend, funny girl wanted to play with my emotions and find out how much I was actually earning. I dodge her pass

I know how much she earns
I have access to her accounts
She has dedicated financial responsibilities
I don't question what she does with her money but that's probably because she is good with money

What else do you want to know?

tuniski:
Marrying wives is choice never trend just. Like polygamy!

Hungerbad's issue was the alarming divorce trail following him about so it's a trend Sir

UjSizzle:
Someone is watching you

Just say the words

Do you have a problem with the clarity,cut or color?

naijababe:
Oya o. I just want chop some more money for like another 5 years come face other things. Same NEBOSH as in HSE?

Same health and safety ooo