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[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=843025.msg9935425#msg9935425 date=1326207135]Op

Are you asking why men prefer non-virgins more than virgins regarding marriage?   You have to take in consideration that being a virgin is like finding a diamond in a pile of poo in today's society.  I am not saying there is something wrong with being a virgin or non-virgin, but we are in an era where we can choose to be with whomever we want to be and some people are stuck in the era where society used to dictate who should marry whom.  

There are more non-virgins in this world than virgins and most likely non-virgins will have the highest marriage rate.  Now, some men have professed that they prefer virgin women and often seek virgins to "devirginized" but many of these men are interested in being the first guy to break the cherry.  

Many of those non-virgin girls were virgin girls who were victims of Cherry Busters.  We need to find out why those girls had or have multiple sex partners, many girls are victim of sex abuse and often time replicate that behavior out of trauma.  

As much mess most men talk, they prefer a wild woman in bed and lady in the streets.  If they can get that they are sold.  Maybe it is a stereotype that "good" girls are boring in bed and in life.  Who knows but let thank God, they are marrying instead of humping around![/quote]

freecocoa:
Okay dear I think you've stayed away far too long,you need to come back home.

Where did you get that redeem won't wed you if you aren't a virgin? That's absolute,pure,blatant,big,fat and outrageous LIE,in this our very nigeria? that's the best joke I've heard or read this year. Tell me they won't wed you if you are pregnant,I'd agree not the former.

And no I'm not saying churches OK sexx before marriage,I'm saying that churches don't term girls"promiscuous" because they possess the characteristics you listeed.

ain't no rumour but it will be hard to substantiate my claim as well

freecocoa:
Who the F is Dr firearm? Is his church the only one in nigeria?

That's the problem with believing everything you see on the tv and especially NL,yes nigeria is a religious country no doubt but that doesn't mean everyone in it has lost his\her common sense,believe it or not many people do things their own ways,the so called preachers this days have even realized that people are no longer that naïve and nigeria is certainly moving ahead with the world in certain areas like religion,many churches have come to accept christianity the way a white man sees it.

Let me get this right, Are you saying it's now OK by the church for the members to practice sex before marriage?
Do you know you can't get married at redeem churches if you aren't a Virgin?

freecocoa:
Now if I clearly understand what you wrote up there I'd say that's a LIE ,it would be acceptable to say some nigerians(very few these days) believe that any girl who possesses the listed characteristics is promiscuous,believe me the listed is not even a criteria to know a promiscuous girl anymore in the present Nigeria cos you have girls flaunting what they got in churches,you see churches match making people,you have sexx educators in church who teach how the koko is eaten etc.

I still maintain that the only reason to term a girl"promiscuous" is if you are certain she shares sexx indiscriminately not because she is out spoken,exposed,out going or has a great fashion sense.

Are we talking about traditional churches or the likes of Dr Fireman?
I hope you know Nigeria is still a very religious country whereby things are usually done not by common sense but by what the pastor or Imam teaches in the respective religious houses

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=843052.msg9934783#msg9934783 date=1326201321]He is right. Do the math.[/quote]The maths is only right when used in conjunction with population.
The statement in it's entirety is also right as we are rich in that natural resource.

It's just like saying the Congo is a mineral rich country


Would you say brazil or russia isn't oil rich if population is going to be the key determinant factor?

damola1:
Yes, I am ready!!!,  that's why I will begin the: SAVE MY LOCAL GOVT. GROUP,

Fab, these are the things that should naturally spill out from the various occupy groups. The main aim of the occupy groups should be raising awareness and how best to tackle the rot within the system.
Let's all do our bit starting from our daily live and then see our the trickling effect will transform the nation to where it ought to be.

Jesus/Allah/whatever we all call aren't going to come down to work wonders. We all have a stake in the nation so let's do our bit no matter how small it may seem.

freecocoa:
Haba jay you don fall my hand o,well a promiscuous girl in the most common sense of it,is a girl who mingles indiscriminately especially by having sexx with multiple partners on a casual basis.

Now why I said "promiscuous" isn't the right word to use is cos a girl can possess all the characteristics you listed without having multiple sexx partners or don't you believe so?

I believe so but in Nigerian standards and point of view, it's almost certain for those tagged as non promiscuous to be born-again.

Nigeria being an overly religious country with tons of followers leaving their daily life according to words written in their chosen sacred books will most certainly not have any of the characteristics I outline in my earlier posts else they are had just be sorry pretenders

manny4life:
Yeah I can understand why you failed economics in school, but it's cool,  Use the multiplier effect theory in this scenario, NO it's not only 9,600 jobs probably 3x of that amount when you consider all the factors from manufacturing  (i.e. if the cars was manufactured in Nigeria by IVM), to inspection, Quality, delivery/logistics, Driving, periodic Maintenance, etc.

Nigeria is not a structured country Mr, Them things just don't apply when you talking about multiplier effects. If anything providing more cars on the road will only continue to contribute to the fast decaying state of federal/state roads.

Corruption can't be fought from the top as policies will only be efficient if and when the common man decides to adhere to them.

Are you ready to start fishing out your brother/sisters/uncles/neighbours living above their means?
Are you ready to start recalling your councillors/reps/senators that aren't performing?
Are you ready to start making your vote count and stop being bought for the petty Naira?
Are you ready to stop giving and taking bribes?

freecocoa:
And any girl with the above characteristics is promiscuous? Before we go any further,how would you define promiscuity?

Most certainly
You tell me cocoa

freecocoa:
And you are clearly in agreement with that belief,in as much as I'd love to say I understand what OP is saying or trying to say,I don't think"promiscuous is the right word to use.

It depends on the angle you are looking at it.
I'd say yes if as a man i was looking for a girl with the following characteristics:
Above average sexual experience,
Great fashion sense and not shy to flaunt the assets if she got it,
Not overly religious and somewhat free spirit
et al

duhhhhh
we are definitely oil rich with testament to our proven oil reserve.
For crying out loud, Nigeria owns 3% or there about of world's total oil

however, Nigeria is not a rich country due to her population and over reliance on oil.

Dubai had how many reserves and how have they managed to transform the kingdom with the little they had/have?

freecocoa:
so if I'm not promiscuous I can't ooze of self confidence or know how to hook a man?

My assertion wasn't meant to be highly exclusive

The OP's general believe is that the group stand a better chance of getting hooked

They ooze self confidence and most probably in the know on how to hook a man

How about your village so as to gain valuable experience.

stiyke:
What percentage of ibadan and lagos came out for the protest??

You joking right?

https://i51.tinypic.com/33ts8li.gif

Did you see fat ronaldo?
Is he sick?

Life commitment needs even greater scrutiny hence the birth of prenup et al

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For real?

toba:
Jaybee, she isnt any kinda Sugar mama.

shes young. its oyel money that made her look old. I heard she's 38 just about your age

Do I look 38? I need to start using anti-ageing cream.
I'm way younger than that. Besides what has she got to offer other than her wallet? Dating someone for the wrong reasons is about the worst thing you can do oneself.

Using your Pareto's analogy pendo, he still has to determine which ratio will provide him with the best return/satisfaction.

Would he as a grown up man continue going to his dad to choose his bride for him or would he rather just follow is heart as most well informed people do.
Would he continue dating the girl knowing fully well the family has reservations and potentially can provid them problems in the future?

If we all believe the general saying that love conquers all then it's a simple decision for him to go with the girl as long as he ain't doing so because of the guilt he had be dealing with if he didn't.

IMO, parents should only be there to give blessings not to be a determinant factor when choosing a bride as they won't be their 24/7 throughout the marriage

I can't and won't do a sugar momma

Cos I'm still waiting on you to give me the green light

Nah cos my third leg will frankly refuse to get up.
Money ain't everything

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=841910.msg9928523#msg9928523 date=1326128530]^^^
I never knew UNILAG was offering degree courses in women engineering[/quote]He has two lingering scenario weighing on his mind so the best thing he can do is weight the risk of whichever action he decides on and offcorse chose the one with the lowest risk.

You are an engineer so you are supposed to be able to weight risk appropriately and in turn apply it to make informed decision.

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Don't you even try any revolution whatsoever. It's not your fight, you weren't there when they was humping and doing lovey dovey. I'm sure you don't ever want to be in the middle so please let her deal with the man and if she ain't brave enough then advice her to go via the court

Not necessarily has leadership skills doesn't have direct correlation with certificates but having said that, having a well educated/eloquent leader is more beneficial as they had be able to get their message across effortlessly

You can only make a fair comparison if you know Nigeria's monthly payroll data
However, USA can't even be compared because they have a much larger GDP