₦airaland Forum

fatjulie:
please help, my boyfriend said it either i get slim or i leave

who is leaving who?
dude is not even married to you and def doesn't have any right to threaten you abt the gadamn relationship.
tell him i said he is a jack ass and should leanr how to communicate.

oya bring your fat ass here to come get a pat on the back

Fine.
save feraz's soul and put some damn sense into his thick skull.
there u go. i said it and it sure came out fine.

^^^^^
why?
chat here. she is happily married

hit the gym

r u very poor that you had be considering robbing banks?

Your level of reasoning needs serious attention

fyneguy:
This judgment may even encourage people to embezzle funds o.

If all you get for embezzling N84 billion is a paltry 2 years imprisonment, then why not embezzle?

He may even get someone to serve the term for him.

LOl. chei see reasoning
do you know what it is to have criminal record?
do you know what it takes to be denied of your freedom?
omo na wa oh

na real wa oh.
use ur hand and rinse with just water afterwards? what abt the germs?

he still got punsihed in a country where anything goes.
kudos to the brave man that sent his ass to jail.

chic2pimp:
Why do so called 'Pastor's Kids' always come out worse if as you said it takes a child being brought up in the way of the lord to shine away from negative things?

Pastors fall in the strict category. They are extreme even.
Was talking abt the regular/norm parents

done it but not again as i need to look buff come nxt yr summer

been to a strip bar

Never

One night stand in a club

done it and enjoyed it while it lasted


party

chic2pimp:
True however disciplined homes breeds more well mannered kids as opposed to terrible kids.
Chei dis wan harsh ooo.

Statistically it appears that way but we all know if you analyse the main reasons for those numbers, you'd see that it takes children been brought up in the way of the lord to shine away from negative things in their surroundings.
And if that's the main reason why can't that be instilled in whatever location they reside?
children from strict parental surroundings tends to end up being the worst culprits cos they normally use the one chance they get to the fullest when daddy and mummy ain't looking.

Super charged Range Sport

whitelexi:
Who is the man of the house My wife will be very well brought up too, she'll know better than to challenge my authority.

being adolf doesn't pay this dayz my guy  

whitelexi:
They can be born here, but they must school in boarding houses in naija until they get to 16!!!

and u think growing up in nigeria this days doesn't have it's own challenges? boarding skool of those days is def different now.

Another familiar doomed marriage story. You def saw the signs but still chose to stay because of comfort. Comfort this days comes with unsurprising headache. It only takes a man with conscience and God's anointing to look away from numerous temptations going out here in the world.
A lot of peeps here have already given you good advices and trial separation might just be the Key to your happiness. No point staying in something that you are going to be forever miserable.

Yes you do need to be bold/strong to take the might steps needed but blv me you, you had better do it now than being sorry later. As long as a man knows he will always be forgiven and most importantly you being emotionally weak, he will always take advantage of it. I am guessing you have a job, start by getting a council flat, government helps single parents with working tax credit. His ass will be taxed as well (child support).
At least with all this threat/realisation of what he could be facing, the chances of him changing/mending his ways are rather high. Stop being sorry for yourself.
Love yourself more and always believe you deserve better.

I just can't believe the stupid mechanic end up costing me £600.
Clear and simple english. Do a damn pressure test

Ebonyeyes:
You have made some rather questionable comments yourself sexiiiii . Its just my opinion. From personal experience, people who get introduced are not always committed.


If a guy really likes you I feel he will at least offer to pay something or[b] reimburse later.[/b]

That's what i av been hammering all along. why don't the girl just tell him she expects to be reimbursed on arrival. If they can't agree on that then he should do the flying or driving over.

I will only have a problem with her if indeed she does have the money but obviously going along Uju's stance that men are suppose to do this or that.

We all go on dates and traditionally the norm is for the men to pay but why do the women do this days? because they want a say in the relationship. No one wants to be treated like a bimbo. And i certainly don't want a woman to think i'm some bank that she can withdraw money from anytime she wishes.

Everything depends on how committed they are with each other. If it's just child's play then it's a no no but if it's going to be something serious then Why the heck NOT.

20 yr old graduate from a Nigerian higher institution
You are 2 young to be entagled in all this love triangle. Stay focused by first getting yourself a good job and all the good things shall come willy nilly afterwards.
are your hormones jumping uncontrollably around

Ebonyeyes:
I agree with people saying the man hasnt stated his intentions. I feel he just wants a hole to stick it in for the weekend

Wild assumption and i'm shocked   it's coming from you. They got introduced by her sister or something like that which means at least he must have some sort of commitment to do on his side (you know how we generally don't like letting people down).
I also don't believe men are that heartless to make a girl come all the way from lagos to the east for the sole purpose of chucking. I hope you know their are single/ready to mingle girls all over Nigeria

Ujujoan:
So what if she goes and there's no re-imbursible! You see it goes both ways . . .  if you can't trust me with a few Ks, how am I supposed to trust you! Whatever his intentions are, he should spell it out to her . .  how about  ' ' Pls come with your money, I'll re-imburse you''   That's not so hard you know.

Besides the OP said the guy said he was broke, he paid for a 3-year rent bla bla bla . ,  that's wack. How is she supposed to start bearing his burden when they've not even started going out sef! Please let's not forget that this is the first time they are gonna meet each other. If he dosent have , he should go and borrow. Guys do that you know!  

Omo u harsh oh. the girl doesn't seem like she can't afford it and i honestly don't see anything wrong with her using her money for the trip.
Now she might end up loosing the prospective husband just because of the silly lil few K's she had be spending.

sweetpie23:
for me I cannot wait! I know so many men seem to dread it but I love the idea of choosing a lovely dress and having all my bridesmaids, experiencing married life and having cute little kids.

Ain't that the fairytale we all dream of
R you mentally prepared for the what if's and what not's?
Marriage is a long term commitment and should never be rushed into.
Rush in without knowing the devil inside out and you had def zoom out like it never happened.

Ujujoan:
Exactly! I ask you if I'm fat and you tell me my dress fits! When I know I need to loose that extra pound. I'll just say in my mind . . . 'this guy's a sissy'

Lie lie pants on fire. If i answer the question by being honest then the rest of the day will be spent answering all sort of questions.
From;
So you don't like me anymore,
you probably don't find me attractive now since i have put on extra weight
If i look the wrong way whilst driving it'd be a big problem

Girls are generally emotionally fragile and the only way to deal with them is not by lying or being blunt but being generally aware on how to structure such difficult communications.

@Uju
Which kind of courtesy r u talking about madam? common sense tells me the girl pays then get reimbursed double once she gets to mine.
What happens if i send the money and she decides to cook up stories?
what if the guy had intention of reimbursing her back bountifully?
I'm sure we are only talking about few K's here so i don't see anything wrong with the girl paying for her fares.

POSAKOSA1:
If investigations find that Obsanjo stole money, will he be prosecuted ? a big FAT NO.

Atiku ? NO

Igbenedion ? NO

and co-------no, no, no,

u r getting it all so wrong.
them big wigs will not let any investigation see light of day. all i'm saying to you is in order to prosecute someone you need valid evidence and the only way to get that is by forensic accounting or proper auditing.

POSAKOSA1:
There are many people in Nigeria who KNOW that they are untouchable. The fact you don't know that they confessed doesn't mean that they haven't. When they say godfathers are real they are.

No doubt but will they go on TV and say i diverted this amount of money into my private account? a big fat NO
people orchestrate fraud everywhere and clean up (in their own opinion) the act after having been successful.
It is now the job of foresinc professionals to uproot the truth.
Why do people burn memories of pc even after having wiped things off it? they do because forensic analysts can still use software widely available to resurrect those data you thought they are long gone

It is for real but i guess it's been blown outta proportion. Human beings are born survivors

Fhemmmy:
Lol.

abi, babagida will still tell you today that he never stole a dime from Nigeria