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Gurgle:
This one is truly impossible

Honestly im not worth the energy lol, youd better find somebody else

You are underestimating me

If only you knew what i do for living


anyhoo... I'm just messing with you... Just kinda curious about Gurgle nothing more

taryour:
yes boss. Our outlet is at 1 Olayiwola street, new oso oba road, by social club road Abule Egba. lagos.
Thanks for your complement boss and good afternoon.

I hope say i no go lost with this abule egba

Is it close to yaba/surulere/ikeja or the Island?

Do you have a website?
I think you should get one ya know... Let's brand your business mehn

MrsChima:
You sound hella thirsty.

Chronicles of da hunter

You know how we do

Gurgle:
Lol im sorry, neither of those answers are going to happen

I will find you out then

I love me a challenge

Mehn you got mad skills gurlllll

I need to organise an owambe mehn

Do you have a shop?

Gurgle:
Ok

I sometimes pass by there

Maybe Ive walked past you before lol

Been here since '03 so i'm sure i must have bumped into you

Back to ya picture

Don't keep a man waiting

BTW: Where do you work?

MrsChima:
Why aren't you a moderator?

I have been good and dodging my husband's growing thirst for "dairy".

Chima na correct goon

so he be fighting wars ontop bobby

I too like that nucca

Gurgle:
LOL until I reveal my rhinoceros face, then you will leave me alone

Are you really here? Where

I work in the City

You can find me around finsbury Square (moorgate)

Gurgle:
Haha oga why are you following me

since morning o

you don tire?

I wan begin dey follow you bumper to bumper sef

Na this same london we dey



Today na friday and i don round up ma meetings so i gat time to stalk you ([size=2pt]The stalking thing na joke ooo before you begin dey fear[/size])

MrsChima:
I see you jaybee!

Hey booboo Q

How you been?

Gurgle:
Lol ok well then we have nothing to worry about

Please do share those coral pictures. I am obsessed with coral

I'm looking forward to seeing your picture

I'm obsessed with pictures

Toks2008:
Yes you are 100% correct. I am an old soul living in a youn mans body.

This is why im so sexually decent and morally sound.

We need to present ourselves in a way that will not be suggestive and if you dont accept this then peace.

Who are the we?

Who made you the moral police?

Her dressing may be suggestive to you and you only but that doesn't in any way shape or form define who she is

naijasaint:
So all those who post dir numbers here have low self esteem, it's just an adventure, trying out new things so bury this ya theories of low self worth cos am happy with what I do. and read my post well.

Why did you remove your number from the original post?

Toks2008:
Lol sorry but your profile pics got me thinking...

I will advice you replace it with a more decent one because you might attract the wrong admirers.My candid take.

Don't ask why i checked your profile pics,most of us are guilty of the act.

Yet again you are going ahead making wrong assumptions even though it's really non of your business

I'm sure she never claimed to be looking for admirers on NL so why can't she be free to post whatever she likes so long as it conforms to forum rules?

You come across as someone very stuck up in old archaic ways

Gurgle:
Well OP said that women are trying to marry using all the ceremonies under the sun without considering whether the guy can afford it, so I was just responding to what he said. Unless youre just telling me what you think. Anyway I agree with you. Except the traditional wedding part; in my place it cant ever double up because there are too many steps. If the guy is serious he has to keep coming

My submission was a response to the OP not necessarily you.

Don’t you think we have to lobby the government to recognise either of the 3 methods legally since it may or may not have direct impact on why eligible men aren’t taking the bold step

Gurgle:
Well if OP is Igbo then I guess so. If hes not then hes looking at it from outside

So the OP can’t really be making assertion of what he has no clue about.

Gurgle:
And what do you say about this. They still upgrade though, a lot of the time

The top reasons for divorce have nothing to do with upgrade in financial status

Gurgle:
Past can determine the future if you don't deal with it properly and leave it to spoil in the background, thereby allowing the "smell" to leak into your present life

I insist on past not determining the future so long as there is complete honesty between the two couple

You are usually supposed to base your decision to accept your bf’s proposal using the experience gained whilst dating them. That’s the only reliable indicator on how someone will perform once you agree to share the rest of your life with them

Gurgle:
I never said you could be completely anonymous, just that I wouldn't cement it by uploading a picture

I am ok with most of the OPs points but some of them are too general and I have already had long arguments about some of them but anyway:

1. Yeah people should cut cloth according to their size, so women shouldn't be too demanding or if they want all those wedding ceremonies they should be willing to contribute. Personally I am only interested in traditional marriage, and I would try to help fund it since I know the whole thing mostly concerns me

The issue of choosing an acceptable or preferential method of tying the knot largely has nothing to do with women or their inconsiderate demands.

The law doesn't necessarily recognise religion/traditional wedding so court wedding is needed by default in order to safeguard marriage rights

Nigeria is a very religious country and thus guided by holy books. It's not unrealistic to expect the parents to expect their kids to be joined in holy matrimony or whatever they call it

Then you have the traditional wedding ish which usually doubles up as formal gathering/introduction between the two family

As much as it seems excessive, marriage is a one time thing and the couples can cut cost by not making it wholly extravagant. They can also schedule it with enough spread in between so it doesn't become financially draining (Although this is a bit risky if the interval is to much as people are known to change their minds at will)

Gurgle:
2. Not all Igbo ladies are naturally at risk. I hate it when people use this bride price thing against Igbos; everybody knows how decentralised Igbo people are so if you have a custom in one Igbo clan it doesn't necessarily apply to another clan. I agree that some clans are very extortionate but not all are, for example my place is not. And if you know your area is like that, or the area the lady is from will ask for a lot of things then why not prepare in advance instead of coming on here to complain

I don't believe issues of bride price with my Igbo sisters is the main reason why they aren't getting married at the so called acceptable time period.
It has more to do with availability of eligible Igbo men. Igbos have strong cultural orientation and as such almost certainly prefer to marry within their culture

Gurgle:
3. How many struggling men will continue with the same girl after they have made it, and not try to upgrade?

Men don't necessarily dump their wives as they progress in life. They usually just cheat and expect the wives to be understanding

Gurgle:
4. Whatever religion or faith you are you should try and think for yourself, especially when it comes to something as important as marriage. I don't know what kind of church OP is referring to but I guess its one of those "my pastor says this, my pastor says that" ones which I tend to think is nonsense but I may visit one of them one of these days and see if any of them has anything useful to say.

The lady he is complaining about had a belief she was trying to uphold but she could have called OP when he was still sick and explained why she didn't want to visit. Anyway OP was wrong to cut off the friendship because although she explained it late, its still a genuine reason and I think he overreacted

I agree!

Religion and faith is arguably the reason why Nigeria is as bleeped as it is today.

I still wonder how someone can expect another human being like him/her to predict the outcome of a union without having all the needed variables

Gurgle:
5. Rough past is what it is, unfortunately. After conversing with many guys on NL I can see how important it is to keep as clean as possible, though we may slip from time to time. If there is too much in your past it becomes difficult for the man to cope with

Past should never determine the future. It should always be about present with complete honesty

Gurgle:
6. Yeah we should all be working on being good wife material, definitely. Well we should just work on being good people, which makes us wife material by default

I think anyone with good core values will make a good wife/husband irrespective of tribe, ethnicty or religion

You haven't made yourself attractive to them so why should they date you?

A confident man wouldn't be posting his phone number online soliciting for dates

Would you advice your own sister with years of professional work experience to date a graduate with low self confidence AND still furthering his career?

Gurgle:
NL and other social media platforms operate on entirely different bases, so you cant compare them. Except if youre talking about twitter, which I also avoid

You can't be completely anonymous if you have footprints on other social media....That's my point

Anyhoo, back to the topic...

Do you agree with the OP?

Gurgle:
I would never ever upload a pic onto NL

Apart from people with registered usernames there are thousands of guests viewing every thread and profile at any one time

I don't know how people do it, that's too much exposure for me

Except you don't have pictures on any of the social media platforms then your reason for not uploading one on NL is questionable

Not that it matters though!

@Toks2008

Why are you lamenting for them, are you by any chance unable to fit into their definition of ideal man?

Absolutely dumb on all front

What methodology have you adopted for ranking them or was it down as you were about to climax?

Sagamite:
What if his benefits includes:

- A 2 bedroom fully-serviced flat in Ikoyi that is 10 minutes drive from his office OR N6m a year housing allowance (cash equivalent).
- A Toyota Prado with a driver that is all expense paid.
- Relocation allowance of N6m.
- Full Health insurance and access to top private hospitals.
- 80% bonus potential.

Is the offer still small?

I see your point even though it's almost impossible for him to get such package when he isn't being employed as an SA to PEJ

Fhemmmy:
If they have a bank account, it could be done via online transfer to them, dont you think.... all that will be needed will be name of the bank, account number and the name of account holder

What's the guarantee that it's going to be used for the intended purpose?

You guys need to be careful with introducing money to a family that's obviously in need of money for other things.

Ishilove:
Aunty mi, please read this: https://www.nairaland.com/2489236/new-plan-defeat-scammers-dare

hello

majekdom2:
my point is .....getting a juicy job is not a child's play anywhere.

That's no reason to undervalue oneself

He has experience with relevant qualifications so no point making himself desperate

We are talking about engineering not some social science course

We can only sit on the sideline and restrict our support to hope/prayers after she decided to go alone.

The only respite for me is Inspired's inability to trap any potential customers on nl henceforth

majekdom2:
how many Nigerians/ immigrants get employed in these oil firms abroad ? What are the perequsite? From experience and knowledge , passion come first then experience before qualification. Qualification comes first in the educational sector. I hope am right ?

Your questions aren't clear

However, the oil industry requires specialist skills and there would always be recruitment gap in that industry so it's fair to conclude that graduates with good degrees from recognized/accredited institutions stand a good chance of getting employed after graduation

How exactly are they going to wrestle the power back from the center come 2019 if they are already suffering cash crises?

temitemi1:
Now I know why pple always ignoring u.

What has that got to do with you worshiping your fellow human being?

enygmababe:
My bad, I only mentioned the allowance because of the way, people kept saying 'just 250k'. By the way, 400K is not a bad deal for a young single guy in Nigeria. When considering loving expenses in Nigeria we we should talk naira.

I did emphasis completing his program. In any case, I know Jack about 'iran deal' too. He entertains fears about getting a Job there because of lack of experience and mentioned how some of his friends lost their Jobs but got others within weeks. (Being a newbie there he does not know if he would be so lucky) If that is a huge factor then my advice to come and hold on to this while he seeks opportunities in the form of Job that will take him back.

Let's ignore minimum wage and basic standard of living for now.....
400K isn't a lot especially if he has to live and work somewhere on the Island

Think about rent, cost of generating his own electricity, food, healthcare etc.

Iran being able to sign the nuclear deal means they will be able to sell their own oil. Oil prices are currently falling due to over supply. If the prices have already fallen due to over supply then surely opening Iran to the market will also add extra pressure on prices.

We already have countries pumping extra oil into the market, there is also the rise of shale oil in america and the new beast Iran oil with proven gigantic reserve bla bla bla which will almost certainly affect our ability to find prospective buyers

If the oil company can't sell their commodity then they will start downsizing which obviously means loss of Jobs

Shell just announced today that they are shedding 6500 staff globally

majekdom2:
will he earn more than this in an equivalent firm abroad ?

Fresh graduates in Oil and gas engineering firms in the UK earn as much as £37K in their first year but salary structure aren't comparable as they are expected to earn more in African countries due to obvious reasons (Security, cost of having a good basic standard of living et al)

Extinction looming!

Shows they never had any sustainable plan and lacked foresight.

Just plain ridiculous to be honest... They were in power for 16 good years and have only been out of power for barely 3 months....

Thank God we don't have them running our economy going forward