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[quote author=LOVE.4BUG link=topic=816328.msg9905373#msg9905373 date=1325838711]Jenifa, I dnt think so, cause I know she over trusted the husband. [/quote]she seems to me like someone who doesn't have a good marriage. there are many women who are most happy when their husbands travel out.
she's trying to start a new life IMO.

all she needs is a divorce

^
this is the first time i'm hearing that some people chew their solid food.
nothing will happen to your throat as long as u don't swallow a morsel the size of your fist.
try it.

ps: are you igbo? 'cause igbos r d ones known for hard and "rough eba"
awon aj'okuta ma mu omi

shilling:
I'll post a more detailed skin regimen in a bit. Meanwhile, I would love to hear what you've done to maintain/improve your skin's condition.

I can't say I have glowing skin. but the best advice you could get is to eat healthy and drink a lot of water. fix the inside and you will see results on the outside.
for starters, try getting yourself on a daily multivitamin.

in terms of facial products, anything that performs a miracle is probably dangerous or has a ton of chemicals in it.
but if you do really want immediate/miracle type result try retinol at a doctor's prescription strength.

ultimately my advice is to go simple and natural. oils like coconut oil or jojoba oil (shea butter broke me out). you will see changes over months period but it is worth it!!

deols:
depends on the city u live in for I av seen it in d city of Ibadan and of Ilorin as well as Abuja!!!!

somehow I thought of Ibadan as a rural area. never mind me.
I should have specified Lagos.

but yea, you can try asking local people. esp livestock farmers.

SAFO:
Don't mind wonderful Jenifa, she hates all AA's.

hate is a strong word my friend.

Claus:
Clearly in the Naija setting, the propensity for arrogance rests with the one with the power.

Pre and during toasting, the power rests with the ladies so that's the likely source of arrogance.

Post toasting/marriage, the power rests with the man which is where the arrogance has come from in this post.

what an insight!
very true

he should be impeached for gross incompetency

@ Chaircover,

that's the typical marriage relationship in naija for you.
but the folks in question are so conditioned to this kind of dynamic that most of the women don't see anything wrong with it until they move abroad and maybe see how their oyinbo counterparts are doing it. combine this exposure with financial freedom and katakata don burst.

BlueDiva:
Most people here have been abroad. Don't you see that whites are generally warmer than us?
Nigerian men are not saints but i tell you, most are generally warmer than the women.

the oyinbo warmth is mostly superficial to me (maybe because of cultural barriers?). but definitely welcome. I've had tons of experiences similar to the poster who was helped with her luggage by the post man. no naija man will do that for you.

I think both genders have their serious issues.

disgusting. how can someone be chewing solid food
why not eat rice instead.

I think you need to move to a rural area or village.
I've never seen it in the city.

[quote author=Missy_B link=topic=836628.msg9876839#msg9876839 date=1325454722]'Wara' does not ring a bell. Some of us will need you to describe it or post a photo, if possible.[/quote]it's like cheese but naija style lol

I don't hate cooking but i don't love it either. so I feel your pain@ op.
but the more you cook, the better u get at it.
and for cleaning, clean as you go so it doesn't feel overwhelming in the end.

jay bee:
You just have to marry a cook if that's the case 

best case scenario 

Actionleap:
Being a husband to woman of this day is a full time job of balancing act. Hear them; we don't want a domineering man and we don't want a submissive man. Woman are attracted to domineering men and they try to "beat" them to submisiveness when they are settled already.

nobody wants a domineering or submissive partner.
you should try to be a "best friend" to your partner. not her" oga" or her "omo odo"

Deep Sight:
Here is the thing. the cost of fuel subsidy was actually less than 300 billion NGN previously. How did it become N1.3 Trillion? ? ? ?

Some one is telling a profound lie here.

lol.  nigeria could never afford to spend trillions on its citizens.
I even question the N 300 billion quote. which kain subsidy. there was never a subsidy! at least I don't believe it.

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beneficiaries of Nigerian wealth have always been a few rich.  
even as the mass are now paying double (or triple) to buy fuel. the rich will continue to get richer in naija.

this is an example of what might happen to the supposed "subsidy" money
our whole surplus federal reserve was depleted in a period of months!!!
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-807631.0.html

mg215:
I am going mostly for the culture and i would love to meet some beautiful women also. But i had an interest in the culture for a long time.

you are going mostly for "culture". but you mention nothing about culture in your original post. all you keep rambling about is curves and skin.
I hope you have plenty money for your pocket. because seems to me you are going for whoring.
typical black american male.

Fhemmmy:
Sorry for my ignorant question, but why the Daily Champion newspaper?

it was probably the least secure and easiest to hack.

NO.

a partner should be your best friend. not your dominator.

turn off the caps-lock and learn to type like a normal human being then I will read your post.

[quote author=~Bluetooth link=topic=837292.msg9884643#msg9884643 date=1325575409]Lmao @ [b] ebi loko yin.[/b]this man wicked o anyways there is no need wiping them off,they are not just worth it.[/quote]abi o. Kunle doesnt need to wipe out the millions of igbos at all.  he should preserve his superpower energy for better purposes.
ex. satisfying his wife at home. that's more worth it.

go and siddon for corner jare.

only God knows what comes out of your mouth about yorubas and hausas behind closed doors.
hypocritical fool.

how can a Ojukwu worshiper be calling for Kunle's head on a platter. who is worse. bigoted fools.

Onlytruth:
Any Igbo man that shows up at any of these so called "occupy" rallies is on his own.
We have more important issues facing us in Nigeria.
Let the "owners of Nigeria" go and shed their own blood.

Onye obula norokwa n'ulo ya o! 

Ubochi nta, anyi ga achu na owerre nchi! 

typical only-truthlies. couldn't find a SE state on the list and declared the protest to be anti-igbo.

I don't believe the story. fabricated lies. imagine the author couldn't quote him plainly without inserting his own words. no where did the guy mention igbo. he was probably referring to MASSOB or even boko haram for all I care.

made public the unrepentant and anti-Semitic (anti-Igbo) position of the federal government of Nigeria

anti-semitic?
this guy is truly deluded that he is jewish.

@laid back,
me i'm not a sugar mommy.  olorun maje.
but I feel u on the price hike. wonder how ppl are surviving that.

I find the whole occupy movement to be ridiculous, pointless and [i]stu[/i]pid.

laidback:
Yeah, I guess you're right. But I'd really prefer a lady more extroverted than I am since I'd rather listen more often than talk.

By the way Jenifa, you introvert?

haha that's cool. you just have to find a lady who is a bit more extroverted than you.
men tend to be generally more introverted than women anyway.

introvert of course

[quote author=ekt_bear link=topic=836855.msg9883003#msg9883003 date=1325540036]If the prices of oil isn't cheaper in Nigeria than its neighbors, then there is zero profit in smuggling. Hence no incentive for anyone to do so.

If the prices at the McDonald's in my town are higher than that of the next town, nobody will trek over from there to here when they want a Big Mac.[/quote]of course price of oil will be naturally cheaper in Nigeria because we are a major oil producing country. subsidy or no subsidy.
there is no reason that the price of oil should be more expensive in Nigeria than in benin or togo. If that is the case then what we have in our hands is an unfair price hike.

it's cheaper and more efficient to monitor the borders. keeping in mind, it's not only oil that's being smuggled from the country.
besides raising fuel price will reduce domestic demand and affect the economy worse than smuggling does.
or is there something i'm not seeing or understanding? I don't get it.

the funny thing is that in the past few years, we have been having surplus accounts due to high price of crude oil. and this has account still gets wiped out due to corruption. we can't save money for nothing. what makes me believe that the so called "subsidy" exists or that we will manage the money well?

@laidback,
yes it really is all relative.

so I am wondering how you are when you are with your girlfriends. who is usually the more introverted one? who is usually the more extroverted one?
when you say you are more attracted to introverts, does that mean that you prefer to be the extrovert in the relationship? or do you prefer yourself to be the more introverted one in the relationship.

if you want an extrovert,find one who is just a little bit more extroverted than you. so you can cope with each other.
if you want an introvert, I think you should be fine. you just have to be a little bit more extroverted than her.
there has to be a balance.

kinda like identical twins, one is usually more extroverted compared to the other. even though they both might be introverts.
or a married couple.
or any relationship in general.
it's all about balance really

this band aid cure makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. once people get adjusted to the new price hike, smuggling will go on as usual.
aren't they supposed to control the borders to solve the problem?

I predict there will be more more oil thefts in the months to come. If we can't protect our borders, how can we protect our pipelines.
http://fuelfix.com/blog/2011/11/02/shell-says-unprecedented-oil-thefts-target-nigeria/

laidback:
Yep. I have like 3 really close friends, been great friends for years now. One of them is introverted, but occasionally you'd mistake him for an extrovert. The remaining 2 are completely extroverted. my other good friends are a mix with more being extroverts.

As for female (romantic) relationships, I find it difficult to hang on to the extroverted ones. But basically I'm a one at a time kind, only move on to the next if the present doesn't work out - if you get my drift. I tend to really like the introverted ladies who seem to prefer the extroverted guys. It's confusing!

On a 1-10 index, i'm a 6.5 introvert

what makes it difficult for you to hang on to extroverted girlfriends?
how do you mean by you tend to like introverted women who prefer extroverted guys? do they tell you that?

about the opposites attract thing, what I would assume is that when two introverts are together, one of them will be more extroverted than the other. ex.if your gf was 8.5 introverted, you would be the more extroverted one. or in her eyes, you would be extroverted.

she is beautiful. even with a sad face


congrats to her and her work.

laidback:
I couldn't agree with you more.

No it's not about whether the Introvert can get the girl. I usually don't have problems getting a girl I'm attracted to reciprocating that interest. It's just that as introverts we tend to over analyse a lot. So instead of just going with the flow and watching how things pan out. I want to know upfront if it is worth it.

Also I somehow just like the opposites attract theory. My closest friends (for years) are the very smart and witty extrovert types - so i think my romantic, (opposite-sex) relationships should mirror this particular trend. but it rarely does, in that I till find myself liking introverts. infact I've noticed most of these same introvert ladies seem to prefer the extroverted guys. However if I really like her i'll still go ahead and score some great points. do you understand my ish?

do you have any introverted close friends?
how introverted are you on a scale of 1-10?

na wa o