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Makes interesting reading but where were all these people when our land and nation were colonized and taken over by foreigners and invaders!

How I wish you had at least discussed with her first before bringing up the matter here. You also mentioned something about getting physical with her, is it to beat advise or sense into her or what? 32 is not too old or young for marriage, just let your sister know that money and comfort in life are not ends in themselves. Man of the family, your's too is ahead of you, I hope you will make a better example

People like you sometimes worry me! Are you saying that if you are advised by anyone on this forum to go ahead and put your hand in fire, indeed you would go ahead to do so!! Why don't you just take responsibility for your actions. Any man messing around with someone else's wife is messing around with fire and would ultimately get burned. Beware!!!

It is certainly not the duty of honourable members to provide amenities for their constituents from their salaries and emoluments. Their duty is to make laws and facilitate the environment that would prompt government to provide these amenities. However you can see that the "distinguished" got it all wrong. He like many others cannot draw the line between making laws and execution by government. They have appropriated both for themselves, they make the laws and want to execute them at the same time. Former governors who are now senators are yet to shed the toga of the executive and adjust to the role of "merely" make laws and providing meaningful oversight. Unfortunately they have forcefully taken up both roles and are surprised that their constituents keep bombarding them with all manner of requests. Whose fault?

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Any father correcting a 26 year old in that manner has probably failed as a parent. Spare the rod and spoil the child, the good word says but I wonder if the child mentioned here also includes 26 year old adults. Such discipline should have been done like say 10 years before. Where did frank discussion disappear to?

And you reported yourself to the world like this! When the going was 'good', you never brought your matter here, you want to take your girlfriend's life as if she belongs to you. Nobody belongs to you, not even your wife if ever God thinks you are deserving to have one. May He touch your heart with the love of Christ before you proceed to destroy yourself. In saner climes, you probably would be behind bars by now for attempted murder. I hope the lady reads this thread too

My man, some of us have also been through similar experiences probably not exactly the same and we coped well. Why? Only because God's time is best, He knows when to lift one up and bring the other low despite putting in one's best. Your turn shall come provided you remain diligent and focused on the right things. This might help you.
A few years ago 2 of my colleagues and I were on the same rank but I was their senior by virtue of entry point and promotion. We went for the next promotion interview together and they scaled through while I didn't. One of them asked that I should be preparing memos for him which I politely declined while I was instructed to be reporting to the other one. The powers that be expected me to react negatively or leave for some other schedule but I did neither. I chose to eat humble pie and so I can advise you and others facing such indignities today with candor. Do not get yourself pushed out of a job because of the way you feel. Think man!

That's the price boyfriends and girlfriends pay when they start living as husbands and wives before the time. Is it bonding you call it?

He doesn't look happy

Absconds, was her family involved in your union or nothing like that?

REALITY STINKS, WE ALL CAN FEEL IT BUT PESSIMISM KILLS!!

INFLUENCER!! ABI

Can you glance quickly at this to know the time?

Whenever matters go awry, there has to be a scapegoat!

Whenever matters go awry, there has to be a scapegoat!!

They had to wait till the ceremony took place! The matter had been in the news days before the event, invitations probably sent out before then. HABA

Some of the questions from the authorities should be -
How did he get to Katsina? Who aided and abetted his movement? Are they sympathisers or fellow conspirators or are they terrorist moles stuck in the fabric of society exposing our lives to danger?

Sometimes I do wonder at the comments made by people speaking for those in authority. Citizens are mowed down, maimed, abducted, killed and so gruesomely in Nigeria everyday and all we get as explanation are these pitiful platitudes. What happened to our humanity? Is it not blood that runs in all our veins or maybe something else runs in theirs?

It took only 24hours or thereabouts to identify and hunt down this person but people who commit such terrible killing in Nigeria are yet to found weeks, months and even years after!

"AJE KE LANA, OMO KU LONI, TANI KO MO PE........" translated "THE WITCH SHOUTED OUT YESTERDAY, THE CHILD DIED TODAY, WHO DOES NOT KNOW........."

Ordinary life jackets could not be provided by boat operators. Ahh, what kind of people are we? Unfortunately too, when life jackets are available, some Nigerians refuse to make use of them. What avoidable loss of life. May God comfort the families that have lost their loved ones.

DO WE NEED A FOOTBALL MAESTRO AS PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA? ARE FOOTBALL SKILLS A REQUIREMENT FOR ADMINISTERING A GREAT COUNTRY LIKE NIGERIA? BESIDES, WHY NOW!!

IF THE MOB HAD ATTACKED THE GOVERNOR, FOR INSTANCE, WOULD THEY HAVE SUCCEEDED IN OVERPOWERING HIS SECURITY DETAIL?

ASUU - Academic Staff Union of Universities, the umbrella union for university teachers in Nigeria has for more than a decade become synonymous with industrial disputes. Their prolonged strikes and absence from academic activities have stemmed largely from perceived inadequacies in fund allocations, emolument, allowances, infrastructure, teaching aids and all what not. When you hear them out, the position presented by them sounds plausible. Their grouse according to them is with their employer, GOVERNMENT.

The question we need to ask is this, "WHO IS ON ASUUs SIDE?"

I am a parent, I have a child in one of the state universities, I am not on ASUUs side and I stand to be corrected. I struggled to pay the school fees for a session Year 2021/2022 and did same to secure a room off campus for my child since the institution is non-residential. Another rent is due in September 2022 and yet 5 months or more have been wasted with no chance of reimbursement!

My child's contemporaries in private universities are privileged to have a regular calendar of academic activities devoid of consistent disruptions due to disputes with their employers, as such their graduation in 4, 5 or 6 years is guaranteed. The parents of these ones can then have a breather and face the responsibility of bringing up their other children. I do not have this grace and I fear what would happen when my other child dispenses soon with secondary school and comes to join her brother. On this too, I am not on ASUUs side.

I was a student at the University of Ibadan (UI) from 1984 - 1988, I put in for a 4-year programme which was concluded within the academic calendar provided despite a number of industrial actions during the period by ASUU, NASU and other associated unions. It appears the unions then had a breed of special people quite different from the ones we now have today. They were obviously more considerate and conscious of the future of the wards in their care, they would not allow a 4-year programme to extend to as much as 5, 6 or maybe more years with all the frustrations that come along. Besides they may have figured out that the grass need not suffer always when 2 or more elephants are fighting! On this too, I am not on ASUUs side.

Lecturers take pains to teach us that whenever we have a project, constant reviews and assessments are required from time to time to achieve our goals and objectives. This gives us opportunities to effect strategy changes where necessary in the pursuit of the project. Is it not amazing that ASUU has chosen not to apply this in the struggle to achieve whatever their objectives might be? Why is it that going on strike seems to be their most important weapon in their engagement with their employer, is it not obvious to all that the strategy has not worked? 2009 to date is 13 whole years, can it be that the same strategy of strike every now and then since then is still expected to produce a different outcome? ASUU should apply what they teach us and stop this hypocrisy. On this too, I am not on ASUUs side.

ASUUs employer have a whole lot of issues of governance to contend with and if the weapon of strike is employed by every facet of employee to achieve improvement in working conditions, I really wonder. Education is very important, a real pivot in the wheel of any nation's development but I think the end does not always justify the means. The strike strategy in my opinion has been over-utilized by ASUU without counting the damage to students, their parents or benefactors and the effect on the economy. On this too, I am not on ASUUs side. Please let them read and hear our cries of despair, maybe just maybe their eventual change of strategy might achieve a better outcome in deliberations with their employer. I rest my case.

A WHOLE MONTH HAS GONE BY!!

You had already made yourself his wife long beforehand enjoying all kinds of benefits you were not entitled to! I wonder what you expected

It breaks my heart to see Nigerians left all alone to lick their wounds and bury their dead

Would you feel the same way if your own mother had been the person who expressed her displeasure at the sounds of your enjoyment? Would you be considering asking her to leave? Would you have brought the matter to this place for advice?

Question 1: Are the issues with your spouse irreconcilable?
You mentioned the fear of God and staying clear of sin so I presume you know the word of God. Highly commendable but it leads to the second question, Was your marriage established upon the foundation of Jesus Christ? If yes, then your issues with your husband can be sorted out with proper counsel from the word of God. If no, then you still need God's word and counsel to lead you to re-establish things or to move on in the right direction. God is willing to help you if you let Him

I think you needed to be taught a hard lesson and that is what the One who sees and judges all things has done. Suddenly your conscience has begun haunting you because you know the damage you did to your wife. You better use this opportunity to learn humility and enjoy the goodness of a woman you obviously do not deserve

NovesaTillie:
The parents who abandoned their 12 year old in a boarding school have failed woefully in parenting and should be arrested and charged for negligence and murder
People are in a hurry to marry and have kids but want to do parenting part time. How about not having kids at all if you can't pay attention to them?
The ones that have turned out as bullies and are now acting like possessed demons are also products of modern day parenting.

SOMETIMES I DO WONDER AT THE COMMENTS MADE IN THIS FORUM SUCH AS THE ONE ABOVE!! I REALLY WONDER!

I wonder whether Abraham or David allowed themselves to be misled like this. Adam did and see where mankind is today