₦airaland Forum

You had already made yourself his wife long beforehand enjoying all kinds of benefits you were not entitled to! I wonder what you expected

It breaks my heart to see Nigerians left all alone to lick their wounds and bury their dead

Would you feel the same way if your own mother had been the person who expressed her displeasure at the sounds of your enjoyment? Would you be considering asking her to leave? Would you have brought the matter to this place for advice?

Question 1: Are the issues with your spouse irreconcilable?
You mentioned the fear of God and staying clear of sin so I presume you know the word of God. Highly commendable but it leads to the second question, Was your marriage established upon the foundation of Jesus Christ? If yes, then your issues with your husband can be sorted out with proper counsel from the word of God. If no, then you still need God's word and counsel to lead you to re-establish things or to move on in the right direction. God is willing to help you if you let Him

I think you needed to be taught a hard lesson and that is what the One who sees and judges all things has done. Suddenly your conscience has begun haunting you because you know the damage you did to your wife. You better use this opportunity to learn humility and enjoy the goodness of a woman you obviously do not deserve

NovesaTillie:
The parents who abandoned their 12 year old in a boarding school have failed woefully in parenting and should be arrested and charged for negligence and murder
People are in a hurry to marry and have kids but want to do parenting part time. How about not having kids at all if you can't pay attention to them?
The ones that have turned out as bullies and are now acting like possessed demons are also products of modern day parenting.

SOMETIMES I DO WONDER AT THE COMMENTS MADE IN THIS FORUM SUCH AS THE ONE ABOVE!! I REALLY WONDER!

I wonder whether Abraham or David allowed themselves to be misled like this. Adam did and see where mankind is today

Is this a prediction? It sounds like speaking from both sides of the mouth!

This makes interesting reading however we are keen here on having on at least 2 round meals a day, a few good roads, some reasonable electricity, freedom from terrorists or bandits and a little bit of good governance!

Some person somewhere was quoted referring to these "bandits" as "simple criminals" because they don't have a "flag". God is the judge

It appears this self-appointed crusader has been handed a platform to trivialise a serious issue that continues to visit grief, sorrow and hardship upon many. The amnesty being sought for murderers of helpless men, women and even children is beyond me. Repentance without justice leads to nowhere pleasant and general negotiations like as if with some umbrella union of bandits is an obvious exercise in futility

On who's instruction does your salary go to charity or whatever? Your's or somebody else's

Church organisations led by women, church congregations led by women, households with husbands and fathers led by women. Oh God, where on earth are we being led to?

I really wonder the kind of husbands and wives our society breeds today, I mean the ones that choose social media to sort private marital issues. Even if it's good advice that's needed, is it platforms like Facebook, Instagram and all whatnot that would provide

Great, you do well but when shall fathers benefit like this. O how I pity fathers oh!

I wonder why she chose to settle down with this piece of s---! So sad to lose one's life like that

Nigerians would love to rejoice over this news if true but can we?

What sort of marriage is this? You discover your husband is cheating and decide not to mention or bring it up with him. Next, you seek out 1 of your exes for emotional support. Haba, where do you think that would end up especially as you say he is now a free agent, conveniently divorced and 'away'.
It's obvious you and your husband went through minimal or no marriage counseling, it's also clear that God did not feature much in your link-up or day to day life. I humbly suggest you go back to both so you can move ahead. Making vows to live together for better for worse before God and men should no longer be trivialised!

I knew it would be only a matter of weeks before we got to this part of the SCRIPT in this relationship

Thank God for sparing the man's life and more grease to our security operatives, it's just that letting kidnappers escape without getting caught is somewhat scary

I really feel for people like you, you think marriage is something you can just manage by yourself and on your own terms. I wonder where you put the Living God in all these. The counsel you need is God's and probably not the Babel you requested for from a forum like this. No marriage yet and already you are living as husband and wife, you now choose to ask for counsel! Haba!!

You said, "My belief is that Christ ought to be the ......". Can your belief be established from the Bible? If yes, it's taken but if no, then it remains your personal belief and nothing more!

Are these reasons tenable before God? Is this what the Bible teaches? Is this the sort of counsel you or the G.O would offer to couples in this sort of predicament? Remember, there is God oh!

All muscle but poor health!

Is it the bride price that makes the marriage union legitimate? Or maybe it is the tithe or offering that makes the altar sacred! People conveniently forget and toy with the judgment of God

I really look forward to the minister of God's explanation about this, I pray for his sake and the institution he represents that this story is not as it has been presented here

This kind of public announcement is beyond me, I thought the right hand did not need to know what the left hand was doing or did on occasions like this!

I'm afraid this platform might probably not be the ideal place to obtain such life-reaching advice. Do not return here to share tales of had-I-known! I wonder where you put the author of marriage in all this, His name is Jehovah, ever willing He is to offer guidance to those prepared to receive from Him

Is the man from South Africa? Land of confirmed looters!

You refer to your parents as "rich" but "stingy". They do not default in sorting your school fees and stuff yet you choose to lie to collect money you feel they should ordinarily give you. I think from your narrative, they were probably right in depriving you of all you ask them for since you have also chosen sometimes to spend such "hard-earned" money on GAMBLING!! The wise book says that "Stolen bread is often sweet to the palate but afterwards it turns to gravel in the mouth of the eater". Beware of deception and work hard at earning the respect and trust of your parents. Remember one day, God-willing, you too shall become a parent oh!

Madam, since you have chosen to live your life in the public eye, please do not complain when the chips come crashing down; again. It's obvious you are yet to learn your lesson

Some of the sections of law quoted mentioned coming along to effect such instructions of arrest with a proper SEARCH WARRANT. I do wonder whether such document was provided?