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Couples who are still inlove wouldn't be arguing like this. The marriage between the couples in the above post is headed for the rocks if they don't work hard to rekindle their love and restore things before it becomes too late.

How can I be arguing with my lovely wife over things like who pays for what? Unless I married a lady I'm not inlove with for whatever reasons.

You must have married a lady you ain't into for reasons best known to you. If a guy marries a lady who is his spec, he never gets tired of making love to her.

As usual, an Igbo man becomes the scapegoat!!! The hatred for the Igbo tribe in this country is very glaring.

This is a good development if properly implemented. Government should also work towards harmonizing wages in the country such that private and public sectors pay uniform salaries for same job descriptions. This would reduce pressure on government in terms of employment.

After foolishly getting pregnant for some useless Playboys while ignoring and rejecting advances from responsible guys, they'll now come with sob stories and expect me to waste my sympathy on them..... never!

This is one of the consequences of girls jumping after irresponsible playboys while claiming some useless "love"! Stop throwing yourselves at aszholes and wait for responsible men to find you attractive and come for you so you can dictate the direction of the affair and get the man to marry you first before sex, they'll not listen!

It's 21st century were women think they're now woke and deviate from time-tested ways our forebearers used to get things like marriage to last and avoid problems of single motherhood. They have to suffer the consequences alone and stop seeking pity party!!!

Zionmdde:
Nigerians and wickedness

A good business person in this country will put more than 3 layers of security to ensure that no one person can just successfully divert your money. I pity the woman sha

The wickedness goes both ways! The employers are majorly wicked while some employees are equally wicked!

It is only in Nigeria that private sector employers pay staff peanuts despite the huge work they subject these staff to.

There are many evil private employees that really deserve this kind of treatment! As for the woman, if she was good to her staff but got treated in this manner, may heavens come to her help.

There's toxic hepatitis which can be caused by alcohol and some drugs! Hepatitis is not only viral! It's just an inflammation of the liver which then leads to liver cirrhosis.

I doubt this man really loves you! Perhaps you forced yourself on him. When I advised ladies to make sure they marry a man who is helplessly in love with them, cases like that of the op would be avoided when they follow my advice.

When you practically force yourself on a man, he not only turns you into a slave but you'll end up struggling to please him to no avail until you get tired.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Spot on.

Funny enough, that woman that chose you will be playing hard to get for other men.

Unfortunately, most men detest the idea of getting a woman cheaply and believe love is about pain and tears and suffering and sacrifice.

They'll leave the one who chose them for the one who chose someone else, and the cycle continues.

Someone's wife will be stalking them and their own wife will be stalking another man.


I hope our eyes get opened.

This is a senseless exaggeration!

The way marriage is done in this part of the world requires that a man should choose his bride because he's the one to take responsibility of footing the bills for marriage and also providing for the family! Since a woman cannot do the above, she can't "choose" her man like you put it.

Again, don't you ever think that because a woman "chooses" you today she can't get tired of you tomorrow and start stalking other men! Women who do this might have claimed love for their husbands from the get go but because they are low moral women with no values and also no proper upbringing, they soon fall for other flashy or richer men and start cheating on their husbands whom they claim to love ab initio.

This kind of situation is among the things I fear most about marriage! Being married to a lady who is showing me this level of coldness would literally kill me, especially if I'm deeply into her. One-sided love is truly bad but finding mutual love is very difficult.

dangotesmummy:
After tanba na igbara, na igboro they'll now be complaining say good girls no dey again. After them don deceive girls,promise marriage, impregnate and run them go dey look for harvest wey them no plant

Blaming men always as though women have no faults! When would ladies start taking responsibilities for their actions in this life? Every spoilt brats with poor parental upbringing and moral decadence would still blame men for their bad characters!

This incident usually occurs when one of the solvents used in Compounding syrups-- propylene glycol, is substituted with the poisonous ethylene glycol. Therefore, it is important that manufacturers carry out thorough quality control tests on raw materials before using them to manufacture medicines.

This same ethylene glycol was responsible for death of some children in Nigeria sometime ago after taking "My pikin" teething remedy. Nigeria needs to step up quality assurance practices and pharmacovigilance to ensure there's no repeat of such careless deaths in the country.

Also, there's urgent need to step up regulation of all the pharmaceutical value chain in the country and ensure that only qualified pharmacists and registered pharmacies get involved in pharmacy practice. There should be no more patent medicine practice in Nigeria! If incidents like the above happens in Nigeria, it'll be very difficult to curtail because withdrawal will not be easily carried out as the batch of products must have gone into many unregulated patent medicine stores making it difficult to withdraw them!

I guess Wike and Atiku are now happy as they have succeeded in killing PDP and making Nigeria a one-party state!

Selfishness is a very deadly disease.

Flipmac:
I'm not billing him. I want him to support himself.

I think the 3 months wait he is talking about is just an excuse to stay idle and depend on my family.

But I need someone who's in Sweden to confirm this.

What makes you think he wants to stay idle?? Jobs for students in most developed countries are regulated so it's very likely the guy is saying the truth!

If your family is capable, you guys should support him until he is eligible to work! I don't believe any MAN would just not want to work if he has the opportunity to. You guys should support the young man until he finds his feet over there if you have the wherewithal unless you want him to have problems with his studies and drop out to enter the street hustling which might not favour him in the long run.

Support him for now while encouraging him to get a job immediately he's eligible. Many Nigerian students are suffering in Europe and America because of this mindset that once someone gets over there, they start picking up money from the streets! It doesn't work that way!

You did well dear. Congratulations!

Go ahead and top it up with an MSc in Environmental toxicology, you'll go places!

Kobojunkie:
1. It was never designed to be what it has almost always been. That makes no sense!

2. Stop with this nonsense! Since before even the time of your ancestors, divorce/abandonment has been commonplace. Almost 50 % of marriages tended towards just that in the end. So, why are you hell bent on putting this on the recent generation?

3. As far back as the 1980s, the official divorce rate in much of Northern Nigeria was over 50% — 80% in parts of Plateau state. However, given that shame and humiliation were mostly attached to divorce in the Southern states, most of the divorces were via abandonment (unofficial routes), and it was just as commonplace as what is obtained in the Northern states.

4. Marriages lasted then, even when historical records show that was never really the case for all marriages.

No need going back and forth with you because I already know you on this forum as someone who never gives up on argument and never accepts correction.

But the truth remains the truth! Marriages were never intended to be ephemeral but a lifelong commitment. Divorce rate today is way higher because women of this generation don't know what they want and many of them can't sustain a lifelong relationship like marriage. This underscores the general loss of values and morals common with youths of this generation!

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is itself an ephemeral contract meant to last for as long as the individuals in the marriage are willing to work towards. It is dependent on the ephemeral efforts of the individuals who are bound by the contract.

2. Last I checked, even during the days of your ancestors — before the 21st century — the marriage abandonment rate(ala divorce) was just as high as it is today, even if unofficial.

3. I don't buy that reasoning at all! Humans will always be humans, and change is constant to us all.

4. Well, the same prescription for people who find themselves in such marriages during the time of your ancestors exists to this day: divorce. Yes, divorce is as old as marriage itself. 😏

Previous generations, including the religious hordes, for so long gaslighted women into avoiding divorce by heaping shame and humiliation on those who chose that way. (All this while menfolk were hailed as good men for discarding what were considered bad women.) Fortunately, the current generation of women is no longer choosing to live in bondage like their mothers and grandmothers before them.

Marriage was never designed to be ephemeral. It's the woke generation with your kind of mindset that thinks marriage is about jumping in today and out tomorrow.

You lie when you say that divorce rate was as high for my ancestors as it is today. That's totally untrue! Marriages lasted then because women knew their place and roles in marriage and played it very well. But 21st century women are totally confused about what they want in marriage and that's why they want to jump in and out of marriage.

MaziObinnaokija:
U married a KID not yet a mature lady .
Well, may we not encounter evil.Leave b4 God leave u.,
Hope she'll be happy if u look outside for a responsible lady wey go satisfy you .


Make i drag lalami3232 and Sonnobax15 come talk their own

A 22years old lady is not a kid!!! The lady in question just has bad characters, is inconsiderate and selfish! It has nothing to do with her age because there are many younger girls who are married with proper orientation from a good home!

Girls from good homes are taught right from childhood how to be proper women and hold their families together. This is why it is important for men to check the family background of a lady before marrying her especially her mother's lifestyle!

Kobojunkie:
. There is no such thing as true love! There are always just two humans working(either together or against each other) in a relationship.

2. Every marriage and relationship on this planet is sustained by exactly those ephemeral things balanced out by the emotional/mental and social intelligence of the couple involved.

Ephemeral things can't sustain a lifelong relationship like marriage! 21st century couples fail to check other qualities that sustain marriages like character, emotional intelligence and selflessness. Rather they get blinded by things that can't sustain marriage as people readily get tired of them due to the "see finish" syndrome. Ladies are major victims of this! It is usually inside the marriage that they realise that the guy is selfish, has bad characters and lack emotional intelligence. They are usually blinded by infatuation to see all the above undesirable qualities from the get go.

Samantha125:
One man is also complaining about his wife on the romance section, are we also going to say he forced himself on his wife?

He probably did. People in this generation don't know what true love entails yet they claim they married for love. They're mostly driven by ephemeral things that can't sustain marriage! That is why the 21st century marriages are failing

This is what many of you ladies get when you rush to marry a man who is not so into you but you literally force yourselves on the men. Some of you ladies do this either because the man is very good-looking or rich! You fail to take other things into consideration but just focus on his money or his fine face! I know know ladies and how they make marriage choices!

It is after marriage that many of you would start demanding what was never there ab initio. This is one major cause of marital problems and divorces in this 21st century

Nairalander248:
But how Una dey marry person you no even love? How?

Many people don't really know what love is! They marry for infatuation and mistake it for love!

They focus on tall, dark, fair, nyash, b00bs and all the other physical attributes and once married, "see finish" would make them to lose interest in those physical features and reality checks comes in. So, they'll now start looking for those attributes which are not there in the first place. Ladies at this point would start demanding fidelity despite knowing that many women flocked around the man and she had to "fight hard" to win him over.

Men on the other hand would start fighting for submission which was never there when he was busy begging the lady and all her relatives to marry her.

True love is different from what we call 'love ' in romantic relationships. True love is typically seen between a mother and her children and sometimes between siblings.

Samantha125:
AI chicken.

Abi o...I was already thinking they're real chickens and perhaps nature made them that way to evade snake predators.

Cum4me:
If the guy the snip of a human was still very broke and poor will you ever think of reconciling with him. I just dislike soft hearted men I just don't like soft men at all. Next please

Soft-hearted men didn't create themselves! Many of them have tried to become hard hearted but it didn't work! Some guys even resort to drugs and substances in a bid to toughen up but it still didn't work for them.

Me I believe nature didn't make a mistake in her creations. He created the Soft-hearted people to balance up the hard hearted ones. Life is a duality!

Kobojunkie:
Life never do you tube-&-tire is why you're mouthing off that bullsheet! You'd better ask the millions of lonely Nigerian men roaming the campuses and streets of that country, some of them married(even some to more than one woman).🥱🥱🥱

Keep deceiving yourself with that exaggeration Kobo. There are many happily married men and women in Nigeria!

Stop projecting your frustrations for not being able to find a husband on everybody by this thinking of yours that others are not happy in their marriages!

Your condition might have nothing to do with the ulcer meds you took especially since you didn't take the meds for long?

I'll suggest you see a urologist to rule out other possible causes.

Parents would suffer and send their children to the best schools both locally and abroad, then some ragtag nonentities with zero values to the nation would murder them in a twinkle of an eye! This is the reality of Nigeria where human lives are no longer considered valuable!

This also underscores why every Nigerians must shun corruption and do the right thing always!

I guess Wike and Atiku can now rest having succeeded in destroying PDP due to their selfish interests!

A one-party state is not good for any nation!

I have this problem guys!

Please is it normal for a guy not to love any other girl once he's inlove with one

I have noticed that immediately I fall in love with one girl, all my heart and being centres around that particular girl. I find it very difficult to love more than one girl at the same time!

Some people say that such cases as mine create a lack of "abundance mindset" which worsens heartbreaks should the girl dump the guy eventually.

Please, I need OT on how to accommodate more than one girl in my heart at the same time. It is really difficult for me!

Meedon:
We are free from bandit attack. This culture keeps women on their toes and cure simpism in many men in our village.

Your ancestors must be jobless for them to sign up to monitoring people's bedroom activities!

I'm sure if one investigates one could find many married women who cheat on their husbands without the husbands dying.

Such tales are also told in my own village but I know many couples still leaving together even though the wives cheat and birth children with other men yet their husbands are alive.

Also, in that same village of yours, I'm sure that there are many men who give head to their wives and are still very much alive!

Kobojunkie:
1. So you say!

2. From the time of our ancestors who made it noncriminal to simply abandon wife and children whenever they pleased, marriage has always been about infatuation and selfishness. There is nothing 21st-century about any of that.

3. According to stories I have gleaned, the woman is apparently not in jail for the heinous crime many seem convinced that she committed. I only moments ago learned of this particular story and from the fact that the major rumor that she murdered her husband comes from a Facebook post... Since when did Facebook become a reputable source of news in Nigeria?

4. It is not easy to clear one of murder if there is no evidence that the person is in fact responsible for the crime in question? Huh?

Before now, marriages were never built around infatuation but mainly around strong family ties and genuine love. Women never insisted on marrying bad men with the claim of "love" like they do today. Instead, parents looked for suitable partners for their children! Ever since ladies started marrying for what they claim to be love(which are just infatuations), marriages have become a tug of war! Just few months after the wedding, the lady sees all the things she was infatuated about, gets tired of it and then begin to demand what was not there in the man ab initio. Before you know it, hatred and quarrels replace the so called 'love' and the marriage collapses.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Like this, here, does not describe the vast majority of marriages out there. Come on naw!

Anyway, I heard the woman has been cleared of the crime. So?

There are many cool marriages out there! Agreed that marriages in this 21st century have become so tough as many couples build their marriages on infatuation and selfishness, there are still those built on true love and strong family ties!

Who told you the woman has been cleared of the crime? Like it's that easy to clear one of murder case just like that.