₦airaland Forum

Dtruthspeaker:
That means you support polygamy?

I'm not referring to polygamy. What I meant was a man marrying a girl 30 years younger

If the husband had proposed to marry the side chick, some people will not let us rest about age difference between them. They prefer being a side chick to an OLDER man instead of marrying one. Confused generation!

Dtruthspeaker:
Ok.
But do note children grow and tight kittys, loosen

Thank you for your concerns even though I never told you I'm marrying her because of those

Dtruthspeaker:
She's 20 and you want to marry her?

You are not serious. Its clear that you are joking

That's my preference and if you had read my posts here you would have seen me mention that I am not marrying any lady above 22yo. Believe it or not, it doesn't change anything

Samantha125:
The age gap is too much, but at least you're not her sugar daddy.

It's not too much. That's the age gap for most couples in this part of the world. In fact, our fathers were 20-30years older than their wives yet they had great marriages. Marriage is better when the man is way older because at that age, the men have seen it all and are wiser than their younger selves, so they're ready to make their marriages work.

Samantha125:
Still, this is a faceless forum, what do you think I'd do with your age? Harm you?

What's your age group then?

Okay, 30-35yo

Samantha125:
But you disclosed your girlfriend's age, why?

Because she's not on this forum

Samantha125:
Yet you disclosed your girlfriend's age...🤔🤔🤔... Are you that old?😅😅😅

I'm young dear. I don't disclose my age for personal reasons.

Samantha125:
How old are you? if you don't mind me asking... I want to check something...🤔🤔🤔

Sorry, I can't disclose my age on a public forum

pocohantas:
You did actually advise people to marry teenagers and said the only people against it are bitter old women. Why didn't you marry one since you think it is right? Why do you encourage what you do not prefer? You never preferred marriage, but now you are so excited to be married that you created a thread. Even simps haven't done this.

Anyway, I knew this day will come and I am happy to witness it. Hopefully your mentees can learn as you update us more.

If the law on age of consent had been modified to reduce consent age to 16, I would have reduced my preferences to between 16 and 22yo but it has not been changed. If I wear a lawyer and I'm to handle a case where a man is being prosecuted for marrying a 16yo, I'll definitely discharge and acquit him

pocohantas:
I asked if she is 16yo and you say she is 20. 20 is an adult and of legal age. Why did you decide to get married and to an adult after advising men on Nairaland to do the opposite for years?

I never advised anybody to marry 16 years old. My opinion has always been that girls of 16years old can still marry and that age of consent should be reduced to 16yo. I've always said here that I prefer girls in the age range of 18 to 22yo. I would have said 16-22yo but that would mean going against the current law on age of consent.

pocohantas:
Naso! I hope she is 16yo and uneducated as you advise young girls and men here. Or she also made you change your mind on that?

She's 20 years old and still within the age range I wanted.

"Honour your parents so that your days maybe long"

pocohantas:
This one in particular is always online telling us men don't benefit from marriage. But he has left his fellow Ministers of Bannies to go do introduction, even open thread to tell us. I pity his colleagues on here.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Lol....poco my poco!

I finally found a good girl who made me change my stance. I really love her and will never mistreat her!

And the yeye lady would be rejecting serious suitors claiming that she has a man!

Dtruthspeaker:
See how she is wishing you evil.

Do I not keep saying that women hate men?

Also as you said, there is nothing like sharing of property in Nigeria.

Modified
She is saying all these because a judge in her country just rightfully deprived one lazy wicked husband from sharing what they call community property

Abi o. I was already racking my head about the meaning of "community property" not knowing it's a term used in her SA community

Honestly the thing is mind boggling! Despite the astronomical increase in house rent in Enugu, they'll still make you pay huge sums for the so called agent fee and legal fees. It's too much!

Enugu state government really need to act swiftly and put a stop to the activities of those criminals calling themselves 'agents'.

Samantha125:
What if she then decides to claim half of your assets in case things don't workout between the two of you? Because I believe traditional marriage is automatically ruled out as marriage in community of property, meaning she'll still be entitled to claim half of your assets if she wants them... I mean your case might be different from the rest of those Nigerians who got lucky.

And I hope she's a nairalander so that she can starts taking notes...

Sharing of properties can only be enforced if the marriage was contracted in the court. Traditional and Christian marriages do not support sharing the man's properties.

Meanwhile, my marriage would definitely be successful so there won't be need for dragging properties.

Samantha125:
So you haven't considered the idea of maybe getting married OUT of community of property?

Perhaps you might have some assets that you'll like to protect in case things don't work out between the two of you, because with marriage out of community of property, the couples keep their own separate assets and liabilities in cases of a divorce... You don't automatically share everything upon divorce like you'll do if you were married IN community of property.

I didn't consider that because in my country, couples hardly share properties upon divorce. Maybe if we are traveling abroad, we could consider a prenup or something like that. For now, it is the traditional cum Christian wedding we are going to do

Chummynoni:
Little piece of advice for you . Marriage is different from dating . For a successful marriage , you and your spouse should adopt the calmness of a dove . Dont ever raise your voice on your spouse to the hearing of next-door neighbor . There is no way you will live with someone without misunderstanding sometimes , even your siblings born of the same parent . So , misunderstanding must come but try as much as possible to reduce it to the barest minimum , don't be too quick to talk , and don't ever pass aggression onto your wife . This is life and storm might hit at a point in your marital journey i.e sickness , loss of job , business , don't because of that see your wife as badluck or maltreat her , instead hold each other's hands and survive the storm together . Don't make your wife jealous , and to you , your wife should be the most beautiful woman on planet . Take care of her . People do believe there is no manual to good marriage, which is a lie . There is actually a manual that if you follow , your marriage will be smooth except you marry a bad spouse . Good luck to you , and I hope you are marrying your friend ? Cheers to a blissful marital journey 🥂

Thanks for the advice...

Samantha125:
What's yours is hers and what's her is yours... You share everything.

Okay...of course that's how our relationship is

Samantha125:
Aww... How cute... So have you guys decided whether you'll be getting married in community of property or out of community of property?

What is 'community of property'please??

Samantha125:
Is she that one that you'd sometimes accompany to the salon to have her hair done?

If she is, I guess all that waiting and dozing off at the salon finally paid off, I don't think I'd have that type of patience as a man, I'd have just dropped her off and tell her to call me when she's done...

Yeah, she is. I love her very much and accompanying her to the salon is not a problem for me.

Yesterday 26th January 2026 marked the beginning of my marital journey as I made first contact with my prospective inlaws. The reception was warm and signalled the start of a great relationship between the two families. I'll continue to update you guys as the journey progresses.
I know some of you might be curious about the girl I later settled for but trust me, I made a great pick and in line with what I have always posted here about the sort of woman I wanted to marry.

So, keep your fingers crossed as the journey progresses.

Op, how old are you? If you keep up with this blame game of yours instead of working hard and smart to change your family's financial situation, I assure you that you'll wake up one day to realise that you're old with nothing to your name and even worse than your dad. Dust yourself up and start working!

Aside the basics, your dad owes you nothing! It is even wrong in my opinion for parents to be so fixated on making wealth for their children because most of the times the children turn out to become only CONSUMERS with nothing to their own names! Imagine living one's life only as a CONSUMER without making impact and creating a good name for oneself!

I'll make wealth for my children but I must ensure that they've got their own lives and their own wealthy before inheriting mine. That's why I like the Adeleke family! Despite his father's wealth, Davido has made a name for himself and lived a life of impact outside what his father has! That's how it should be!

Ladies! Men understand the fact that we are meant to care for our women and provide for them and our families, but when you start telling us or setting unnecessary standards for us, you kill our desires to take care of you!

What annoys me most is the ugliness of the girl in question! If a pretty hot girl said this, at least we'll consider her looks a yardstick for such demand! But when a "worworiwor" is the one spewing the gibberish, one is left with no choice but to marvel at such level of delusion!

While the university of Benin will always rank higher in Pharmacy not only in Nigeria but the whole of West Africa.

iukpe:
Marriage for a woman should be between 18 years to 25 after that you're late and a risk to any man who wants to make a family.

You dey mind them? The number of married couples desperately trying to conceive these days is on the high side while pregnancy-related deaths and complications are also growing so high! The reason being that girls no longer marry as early as their bodies were designed to. If I have female children, I'll definitely encourage them to marry between the ages of 18 and 23yo. Even if they're not done with school, I'll be sponsoring them from their husband's houses if need be.

She's too old for my liking, so I'll pass!

If we lose five million jobs to save ten million lives, then we're on the right track!

To hell with "modern marriages"!

Marriage is mostly about raising a family in an organised environment. Any woman going into marriage should have it in mind that her major responsibility in the marriage is birthing offsprings. Some people try to deceive themselves about the so called companionship but we all know that marriage is about carrying and bearing children. Any lady who can't carry pregnancy shouldn't get married at all