₦airaland Forum

Fiscus105:
And you? Have you ever contributed to any issues outside man and woman issues before? Are you not sleeping and waking up only on relationship stuffs? Are you not dreaming the day one guy will come to ur life to rescue you from jaw of economy deprivation that zoo had subjected into? Are you not feeling helpless with absent of quality" man in ur life?

hehehe wicked comment

big head is attractive, I have one

SharingIsLife:
You will blame that guy outrightly if only you have never been in love. When you are truly in love, you act like mad. You can't even believe yourself. It happened to me once after many years of acting macho. Now, I really wonder if I was actually the one.

I am married already, but I pray it never happen to me or my son

This year seun and the mods should find a way to stop this non-sense, I am in the IT industry for more than 12 years now, and I can tell you for sure, that those of earning through our skills DO NOT HAVE TIME TO COMMERCIALIZE DIGITAL SKILLS. This thing this hungry boys do is nonsense, if they are actually earning they wont have the time to be teaching people.
Let me debunk the nonsense above.

1. Digital Marketing: You need to pay for paid adverts to see significant result, which may not yield commiserate result.
2. Amazon Kindle Publishing: I have a book on amazon it is exactly 1 year old today I have not made a dime off it, though I am not promoting it.
3. Ghostwriting: You will struggle to get gigs, its a "winner takes all game" the already established guys keep getting gigs while new comers will suffer
4. Facebook Advertising: Same as digital marketing
5. Google Advertising: Same as digital marketing

saasala:
The major reason the marriage of our parents lasted till eternity is because our fathers were the sole or major breadwinners of the family.

The reason marriages nowadays crash easily is because women now bring something tangible to the table. This is the major reasons marriages in Western countries don't last because women now have a say.

I just laugh when I see Nairaland guys saying "Nigerian women don't bring anything to the table" Like can you handle them when they start bringing something to the table?

I will rather not want my wife to bring anything to the table or bring something very small to the table. I only need her to be a good wife, take care of the home, the kids and be submissive. That's all a woman needs to do.

Nature has not designed a woman to be a leader. The moment they earn more than you, then they become the leader which is abnormal, and since they are not wired to lead, they will crumble the ship and scatter the building.

As much as people get divorced in Nigeria, we are still among the least divorced countries in the world but the numbers are climbing up because a lot of men are asking "What is she bringing to the table?"

I understand that the economy isn't helping matters and the make up of the 21st century generally has made it possible for both men and women to work and anyone can earn more than the other, and this is a pandemic.

Women are designed to worship their men, respect them, take care of the home and the kids.

As a man, you are a king and your wife is the Queen. Queens don't work, they only look beautiful for the king to admire and they don't have any say in the house. And they dare not question the king for having concubines or taking more wives.

Men, work hard, work very hard so you can take care of your home and stop waiting for your wife to bring something to the table. You can't handle that table.

My wife is just here enjoying herself. She is respectful and takes care of the home and when she catches me cheating, she can only cry. I will pet her and beg her and go back to my cheating. And the day she cheats, she is going back to her father's house while I take another wife.

complete answer, The different between me and u, is my wife is not a static queen, I let my wife work and brings in something, I have girls, I want my wife to be a model for them and my plan is working, though my wife is very bold and confrontational because sometimes she gross higher earning than me, but she is the best mother and wife...there is always trade offs

This is my advice:
1. Negotiate remote or flexible working conditions with the new company.
2. Take the offer while still maintaining ur position in the old company. juggle them both for a month and if it works fine continue that way.
3. Start honing your skills, because when a ship is capsizing it is not the captain that is thrown in the sea, it is baggage. What I mean is remain relevant to both companies and even other companies that may be interested in your skillset, and everybody would want to have you and keep you!

Thank God I watched the video before I comment o, some of you on this platform are so toxic, why do you people HATE APC and Sanwolu so much? from the video I watched I support the action of the state governor 100%. I am not a supporter of APC but what is right is right.

Talkisneeded:
Every country with her own Achilles heel, but nothing is worser than hardship bestowed on humans by fellow humans..
Na humans dey deal with humans for naija.

I sell herbs for sexual enhancement tho

I tell u, most painful, idiotic humans causing good humans pains

I only respect these people because of what they have been able to accomplish, but when it's comes to God, make Dem go sidon

Foodqueen:
Mind your business.

I can't imagine that u actually went to say that to her mother. Isn't she aware about what's going on before

No matter how much you try, that girl no go ever look your side, there are some girls that are destined to date bad boys, she's one of them.

U thought cos u are a cool guy, she should av been chilling with you ba

If u like part with your money cos u av the hope that she might start dating you. OYO.

Mind your business before them naked you for that house.

complete advice, if u like ignore this advice

franchasofficia:
Her problem is her taste and standard.

It is the same problem with single successful ladies of her age; they want rich, successful handsome men since they believe they are successful, but unfortunately life doesn't favor women in that regard because naturally, men don't marry based on a woman's financial or material worth, except for financially struggling men and men looking for a woman to assist them come up in life.


A lady doesn't need to be rich or successful to attract a quality man, she just needs to be good looking, homely, friendly and respectful, and some atom of divine favor.



But for a man, what he needs mostly to find his desired woman is financial success or financial stability and a good sense of reasoning to decipher good from bad.



Men of her marital age range (32 to 40) who are financially buoyant are all married or seriously engaged, making it difficult for her. So her only option right now is to:

1.) lower her standard and go for a financially struggling humble man within her biological age range

or

2.) go for younger guys who are still struggling to stand financially

or

3.) go for older divorcees or widowers

or

4.) codedly share a married man with his wife

super correct

mistacoco2:
Hello guys,

For some days now I have been on a serious dilemma whether to resign from my federal government job that pays me above N200k for my current position and migrate to the UK or stay in naija and set up a business to augment my salary. I will be 34 years next year, I feel traveling to the uk for studies next year September will delay my chances of getting married, as I have planned not exceeding 34 years without getting married.

I belong to the school of thought that believes can make it in Nigeria despite all odds. However, considering the economic realities of the country, I have recently contemplating of japa and maybe get a Nigerian lady for marriage after my studies.

Please I earnestly need matured advice from you guys to know how to start the coming year.

since you said you want to get married, next year then no need travelling

Olarewaju89:
Na waoo 4million, how bro

Na long story o

dontrulee:
Dem no lock you for prison?

It doesn't work like dat

ImoleNaija:
Crossing over with ₦90k debt.

Thank God for life sha.

wey me I get over 4m debt, n forget to count it as regret, such is life

Zonefree:
Who brought this idea of kneeling to beg a woman to be your responsibility?

The first sign of an unstable marriage is "kneel and propose."

My two cousins that went on two knees to propose to their wives are single fathers today.

hmmm I agree with you. It's so unmanly and unafrican... Forming my English

Some news are not for everybody, when I realized that I had better peace of mind

As a married man let me advice you:
1. Now start pretending you are broke.
2. Love and treat both your wife and mum with care.
3. Invest your hidden money in your career or business.
4. Be extra prayerful, draw your mum and wife into prayerful habbit.
5. Don't stay home too much, less sex with your wife.
6. Allow God and time to take care of the rest

Nchoje34:
It is better to embrace some certain truth than ignore it in life.
After all the initial gragra from the youth all across the country..... Where dem dey now

The same set of people will still dance to the music of a man that they wanted to prosecute months ago.

It goes to show you that people never truly love him....justiceformohbad was just an emotional exercise triggered by what they perceived.

Watch how people will rush to listen to the two singles released by naira Marley on all streaming platform.

Chop ur money while you are alive oo

I said this that time, some idiots wan chop me, Nigerian youths are mostly weaklings, see what they are doing in rivers, make noise then run to apologize or hide, and it same nation wide, they are mostly spineless, people wey get mind no dey talk too much e.g arabs, russia etc.

Na the deceased fkk up pass. The girl seems to be alpha, the other 2 males are just bitches

Nazgul:
Lol...you go wait taya.

They know that the 50% discount is a scam that's why they're all silent. Most of them must have secretly gone to these parks to inquire just for propaganda purposes, on hearing that the buses are still charging their normal inflated prices, they left in shame and kept quiet.

If the 50% discount was real, Tinubu's e-rats would have painted the who social media with videos of passengers confirming that they paid 50%. This announcement is as fake as the Nigerian air that was unveiled few weeks to the end of Buhari's administration. Just lies upon lies. That's what APC has been feeding us with since 2015.

I have come to realize that most people who supported and still supporting Tinibu, are people who are not moving forward and has vowed not to let others move forward as well, crab mentality, but as usual, it results in them getting lost in oblivion

Nazgul:
I don't get this.

8k to sleep with a total stranger when she has a fiance she's living with and who's probably shouldering all her financial responsibilities.

Like what is 8k and what exactly can such amount of money do for her in this economy?

If the money the op was offering was like 500k - 1m, I would have understood. But 8k? Haba, that girl is nothing but a parasite.

Wrong as far as you have a price tag, you are cheap, and yes people pay that much for sex(500k). I was bargaining 10k vs 20k with a hookup girl sometimes ago, the next thing she ask me was "what do u take me for?" I quickly reminded her that my mechanic can afford that 20k. She got angry and blocked me, but I am glad she got the message that as long as you have a price tag anybody can afford you. This is why we men value and respect virtuous women.

Persephone1:
You are not different from her... Someone is also going to end up with you who have no respect for yourself or pride in your body to patronize sex workers.

Phew!

you are very wrong, its not equal, equitable whatever word u want to use, its never the same for both sides

You still sound tribal, abi e dey blood?

Faiththatworks:
I was saying in another thread that the doom messages by some so called experts are nothing but scare tactics to discourage Nigerians,and this wonderful thread has confirmed my assertions.
The story confirms my belief that the so called food scarcity in 2024 is only in the imagination of these false prophet of Baal.
Even though the reporter did a wonderful job trying to report what he considers an imminent increase in the price of grains in Nigeria,I refuse to see the cup as empty but rather as half full and half empty.
There's a particular paragraph that talked about the bumper harvest of grains in the North,that's what I call wonderful news.
Infact I daresay the Almighty God will bless the foreigners who are empowering our Northerner farmers.
Despite the report of incessant farmers-herders clashes,banditry, kidnapping and killing of farmers in the North,the news of a bumper harvest should really bring Joy to the heart of any patriotic Nigerian.
Once again,God bless these foreigners bringing in foreign exchange to buy our grains.
I end by saying although Nigeria isn't Eldorado but at least I can testify I bought a tuber of yam for 1000 naira in Ajah, Lagos.
I have lived in that Axis for 3 years and last week was the first time I actually bought a tuber for 1000,it seems there's a bumper harvest of yams in Nigeria.
God bless Nigeria.

Definition of delusional

Nazgul:
What still baffles me is how people still manage to defend Tinubu's policies since May 29th.

Every achievement Tinubu has made since resuming office has been on paper. We're yet to see even one policy that has made life easier for the masses. On the 50% discount on travelers going to the East, myself and two friends went to Chisco and God is Good parks at Jibowu on the 26th to confirm. They told us clearly, that they're charging their full price and if we want to book for a seat we should pay. Of course we didn't want to travel, we just wanted to confirm what Mr President said.

Nobody has benefitted from the so called 50% discount, yet everywhere is silent. If you talk his e-rats who can't even afford a day's meal would attack you.

APC has been lying to our faces since 2015, yet they keep defending Tinubu and his Party. Africans truly have a serious problem.

I am waiting for somebody to prove this comment wrong...I am still on my wait

Pootle:
you right. yesterday my wife said some was following her around the mall all i was waiting for was when she will tell me she told the MF she's is married, if she no talk that part i for too change am for her, fear woman but i still dey fear to check my woman fone maybe the day i go check na that day my marriage go end lol but she dey always check my fones

dont go snooping around, but have access and always take permission before you do anything, if she is clean she will let u have it, u both have to have access to each others phone nothing must be hidden

Scamburster:
Man, can you give me a little guard too, I'm into this now and it worries me a lot.

As preposterous as it may sound, pray ask God for a wife, before you go toasting the next woman, emphasis woman not girls most girls aren't ready, when I say woman I dont mean in age, but in behaviour, then follow the tips above

GVTAsiwaju:
I hope I can be like you... That slap go be factory reset

When u remember how much u have invested, u no go know when u go slap person daughter, I don't even mean money here, I mean time, reputation etc.

TheFinesseKid:
sure. I dey even fear to enter inside. It's scary the kind of women society dey breed these days.

I will give u tips:
1. Want it badly, like how u wanted admission to the university, or how u wanted a job or a car(but this is only applicable if you love children and love having a family, otherwise remain single).
2. Look for a woman(not girl, girls thinks girlish) with motherly character. Atleast make she no wor wor, but no put too much emphasis on looks, she should be enterprising as well.
3. Let her wants to settle as badly as you.
4. The rest install God fear/love in your new home, things will be going on smoothly.
5. Marriage is continuous keep learning, amending and loving.

TheFinesseKid:
guy you no get joy o

My brother, na so e suppose be, marriage is a huge investment and it concerns lives, so u don trivialize things