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[quote author=WinkWrld post=51125782][/quote]But you said women are to be seen not heard na? Why can't you say amen? Fvcking hypocrite.

Taryur3:
Lol,and when he beat hell out of her in public,you most not run o.

If he beats her, it's just a confirmation that he is the wrong man for her. Good riddance

WinkWrld:
Tell yourself the truth. What tone do u use to talk to him or rather how do u speak to him. Descently like a woman or how? When you talk to him, do u talk like u mrs know it all or do u speak to him like u think he doesnt have sense.

My dear he shouts at u, then keep quiet. U can settle that on the bed.
If u were in school and he shouts at u, will u shout back?
Marriage is a classroom. Respect ur senior. Even when u think he doesnt get it right, just be patient with him and speak intelligently in low tune.
A woman is not heard but seen.

Most atimes the women find out they are wrong at the end.

Your daughters shall only be seen and will never be heard. Amen

yoged:
don't even try this shit or else ready to pack your things.. Sit him down, talk to him. .cry in front of him and let him know you don't appreciate such attitude. Talk to an elderly person that knows him very well maybe his mom. On no account should you shout at your husband. Please don't use your hand to spoil all things you have worked for. .satan is a liar.

Pack her things my azz. All the times he has been shouting on her nko. She should give him a taste of his own medicine. If he doesn't like it, he should cry to God about it. She ain't going nowhere

lakamua21:
I AM YET TO SEE ANYTHING LADIES OFFER TO MEN BESIDES SEX. ASK THEM TO NAME JUST ONE THING THEY FEEL MEN BENEFIT FROM RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM. WAITING FOR ANSWERS

And you will never see a woman to offer you anything more than sex. Amen

firstking01:
See, i dnt want to bash you, the next time you qoute me and mention my mum you won't forget what i will tell you in a haste, be warned…say whatever you want to say to me here and steer clear my mum

Isn't your mum our role model?

Everybody has freedom of choice. If a woman wants a guy who earns above 200k monthly, that's ok. It's her life and her business. Doesn't make her wife material any less.

warmachine:
Lol....u make me laugh....ladies this days...I smell mental bankruptcy (no offence intended)..but Sha kontinue...nna eh I wonder what my son will get married to?....

Keep smelling whatever you like dear

Lmao! These boys are here nodding their flat heads. Don't go and hustle and become successful. Be looking for the girl who will embrace poverty with you with both hands. Good luck to ya'll. The rest of us...... We got standards. You either shape up and meet up or BOUNCE

Viking007:
She will also marry herself. it should be a joint decision between both parties. Though the final decision remains with the husband.

[size=2pt]puts on my nairaland helment.[/size]

The final decision remains with her. You're talking about an adult female here not a child. How will you take a final decision on a name you're not the one to bear. All these should ne discussed b4 marriage sha.

Viking007:
@Bolded is not Your decision to make. What happens if Your husband refuses?

Errrr.... oga she's the one bearing the name. IT IS HER DECISION TO MAKE

raumdeuter:
Have the foreign ones been something to write home about? In the US the divorce rate is in the region of 50% Maybe they are copying the Nigeria marriages

They are definitely happier wives abroad. It's not all about the length of a marriage

oloyede252:
I agree with you that your parents marriage is nothing to write home about,but they are in the minority so no problem.

wait How many Nigerian states have you visited? later you will say it's bad to generalize.

Where did I write about my parents marriage? You must be blind

oloyede252:
older people in your family are miserable and they are advising you and your sisters to endure anything and be submissive enemy when they are dying. I think they want you to continue your family heritage.

incidentally ko accidentally ni.

Keep denying all you want. But the reality is that most nigerian marriages have never been and still are not anything to write home about.

If feminism can destroy the whole African family unit then not much other than the oppresion of women held it together then.

(I would not love to add anything to the above. Read that late last night and it kept me awake. It is one of the most powerful things I'll read this year)
If speaking out against oppresion makes you uncomfortable, defensive and afraid, then I am not sorry to say this; you just proved yourself as the oppressor.

"The enemy is fighting marriage and the home by teaching our women feminism". This was said to me by a married man, an elder in a church, who sees nothing wrong in sleeping around and mistreating his wife and then telling me he is entitled to his actions because he is "the" head yet, he is blaming feminism because his wife now knows better than to accept such disrespect.
Feminism is not destroying your homes or the 'illusion' you call marriages. Forgive me or not but I am feeling stung and I can't water this down.

You refuse to partake in your home and then turn around to blame feminism because you are called upon to truly be a partner?
You breed children and then dump their entire training and grooming on your wife and then turn around to blame feminism when she asks for your participation?
You made vows to dedicate your life to this one woman yet you chase everything on skirt, endangering her physically and healthwise and then turn around to blame feminism because she won't take such from you? Just pick a struggle. You want to rely on the bible to be the head but still pitch tent with saying "you're polygamous in nature" because culture says so when your bible clearly forbids adultery. You'll hang onto anything from anywhere that gives you excuse to oppress another human.

You use a religious manual to trample upon another human like you and hide behind the altar of 'headship and submission' and then blame feminism when she knows better?
No sir. Satan has nothing to do with this one. This is all you. Stop pretending to be mad at Feminism. You know who the problem is. Or do you?
You are praying against the spirit of Feminism in me? LOL.
Feminism is not your problem. Your inhumane and inconsiderate actions (wrapped up as culture and religion) is the problem. Fix that.

BY ENWONGO CLEOPAS
*just had to share this. So apt*

5minsmadness:
But how can u see something bad about this story?
The man was in the wrong. The woman was the hero. This a story extolling women. What do you want??

If you have any story on decent husbands and evil wives pls post it for your enjoyment. If I do it you will say i am attacking women.

I wont answer any question on this line of reasoning again.

This is a story about a foolish woman. Let her have a terminal disease in future and this same husband will take to his heels. The is no lesson to be learnt here

5minsmadness:
But how can u see something bad about this story?
The man was in the wrong. The woman was the hero. This a story extolling women. What do you want??

If you have any story on decent husbands and evil wives pls post it for your enjoyment. If I do it you will say i am attacking women.

I wont answer any question on this line of reasoning again.

This is a story about a foolish woman. Let her have a terminal disease in future and 5 his same husband will take to his heels. The is no lesson to be learnt here

2dugged:
let me paint you a scenerio, a man called family meeting and accused his wife of denying him sex and said there was a possibility that he was having an affair, but during the meeting, the woman later said she refused to have sex with him because she found some medications in his trouser pocket, and upon making enquiries online she found out they where treatment for STI, could you believe at the end of the day,she was blamed for not asking her husband about it and it was resolved that she goes back to meeting his sexual needs without any one asking the husband how he contacted the STI or why he went for treatment without telling his heifer whom he had probably infected already, and you say women are weak?

Nigerian women are weak. You sound weak yourself. Why should a woman let herself be pushed to and fro. Hold ur partner accountable for God's sake. Screw family. Screw society. Do the needful

2dugged:
and let me guess PhD holders, masters holders that get cheated on are not self sufficient and have low self-esteem abi? your assumptions are flawed

You sound as if you have no say in ur life. If it's not Urr husband dictating to you, it's his family, or your family, or society or church. Smh. Better learn how to take a stand on issues that concern you

2dugged:
do you also know that in some tribes, women are not allowed to return back to their fathers house after marriage?, do you also know that society tends to shame a woman who leaves her husband for what ever reason?,it's not about being independent, down here, most women are the bread winners of their family, but end up putting up with nasty husbands because culture/religion has made it seem like husband is the crown of a woman, another reason why you see people quick to shame unmarried ladies as if it's a medal, and when one decides to speak against it,she is tagged a feminist

Stop living your life for society or culture. Who them epp? My dear who says you must go back to your father's house after living ur matrimonial home? Can't you get your own apartment? This is why women MUST be financially independent

2dugged:
I am not encouraging it, but can you tell me exactly how society has discouraged it?,a man cheats on you,as a woman you move out with your children only for the same society to tell you that you are over reacting and that all men cheat.In Nigeria a man can cheat on his wife,when she speaks up she will be the one to get thrown out with her children, with nothing, maybe if divorce laws were reviewed to atleast cater for the woman as obtained in developed countries that could curb it,but for now, both our culture and religion has placed the woman at a disadvantage

First of all, it's not every woman that can get thrown out. Secondly, are you aware you can claim financial damages from your husband for adultery and esp. If he infects you. You need to do ur research o. Our women are perishing for lack of knowledge

2dugged:
they are both unacceptable, but considering the Nigerian factor, what else can a woman do than to keep forgiving, or you think the 95% of the cheating husbands don't know about their husband's exploits?, maybe an introduction of condoms on the part of the wife for her own protection will be better but watch it as the Nigerian man will call family meeting on your head and turn it around in his favor, and trust Nigerian culture to favor him too

You sound like a dunce, forgive me. 'Watch as a nigerian man will call family meeting on your head and turn it around in his favour', sheybi you are a mumu that can't talk? Mstchewww. My dear many women are refusing to put up with philandering me these days
The ball is in your court

steppin:
*yawns* you're boring as fvck. Run along.

Hope you liked the taste of my ass?

steppin:
Face me? In your dreams. Do I look like those small boys in Nl, who kiss your ass all the time?
Take your time.

Sheybi una dey see this rabbit. Oga abeg waka pass. Like your not one of them small boys. Now kiss my ass and move along

steppin:
"Oga do you have sense at all"? This question should be directed to your father, if you have any.

Better just go your way jeje before I decide to face you

PierreDeFermat:
so,you will kill your future husband too?

Not physically. There are many ways to 'kill" a man. That being said, my future husband won't be like the many idiots we have in naija that call themselves 'men'.

ucsparks:
can you put up your dp so we guys can knw you and try to avoid you

Lolz. Just treat your women right and there will be no need for you to be afraid

Orkpekyandega:
Sonofananimal coma see another Jezebel spotted right here.

Yes I'm a jezebel. I wear that tag with pride

FortuneTeller:
They expect women to suffer although the man may have beaten them and cheat on them with various runs girls. Haba!

Leave them! They think women are robots with amnesia

steppin:
Women like are you exactly like Carol Ekanem Danjuma. They don't mind going through crap just to avoid poverty.
Are your folks that poor?

Story for the gods.
Don't know why mumu guys marry ladies like you, when they know it's gonna end up in divorce, if they go broke.

Oga do you have sense at all? All you could deduce from my comment was that I'm from a poor family?
How does your comment relate to mine?

Who know what he did to her? Many nigerian men deserve painful and slow deaths

Not all men deserve loyalty. If you were treating me like trash and sleeping around when you had money, and then expect me to stand by you when you're now broke, hahahahhaha ha I laugh in Spanish. The misery I will put you through no go get part 2. Loyalty my ass. By the time I start, na you go pack your bags comot from house. Yes, I'm a very vindictive person and I never forget