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Mine is, I sent his nudes to everyone on his bbm contact list - his dad, mum, siblings, church members, colleagues. Not proud of what I did tho

Y was he keeping late nights? A married man 4 dat matter. These men sef.....

nobosaba:
I read all your post in here.... you neither made any contribution or advice... all you where able to do is attack people.. .. ... Oyinberibe

Just answer the question I asked.....can you do same to your cheating wife?

nobosaba:
Stupidity na dey worry you. if you can't comprehend go and die... In fact why not suggest yours and leave others along Bunkafool

Oga the question is can you do same to ur cheating wife? NO. Hypocrite! But u can happily type that rubbish and call it advice. Anuofia!

nobosaba:
Woman start saving... Open another bank account give the papers to your or any of your trusted family member. Do not cheat on him as a pay back, never never.... Put it in God's hands he will do the trick... And lastly let's say when he his leaving the house say tomorrow morning run to him, kiss him and put a comdom in his pocket while smiling and tell him be safe and you go inside... Don't worry about the rest

Thunder will fire you if you know in your heart you will not be able to smile, kiss and give your wife a condom if she's cheating on you

Adiwana:
am not a relationship Expert or marriage Counsellor but this my advice
Committing Suicide will be the most foolish and stupid thing you would ever do...it will simply give Him more room to do his thing..neither suicide or anything Out of the ordinary will change him..remember that highest 6 months you are a forgotten issue and guess what,life goes on..Nobody will miss you esp him who does what?moves to the next available thing.
You are an exposed woman and should know that on killing yourself you will be losing at both ends..
From your story you've achieved a lot as young woman..you are exposed,good family background,educated,married at a good age,blessed with kids.what else can one ask for?.the thing you need at this point in time is SECURITY.you need a job..it will enable you to build your career and carter for your children..remember that your husband may have kids outside..so all you need is secure a job and build everything in their name...your money should be given to them....you also need to start up projects when you've Saved Enough to give them a place..am saying this for you to know that this kids are looking Up to you and not their father..this will help take away the pain and make you to be more focused..
Try as much as possible to be independent..dont depend On the guys money..in fact try get that Job..this will make you to need less of his money..[b]cos remember that you seeking for a divorce or anything right now means his going with his kids..[/b]so get a job and build a future for the two kids and pls and pls again,Don't EVER GIVE IT A THOUGHT.if you are a christan,read your bible and know what God says about suicide..God has not abandoned you

Who says getting a divorce means he'll go with THEIR kids? As long as she has a good job, there's an 80 percent chance she'll get custody of her kids esp where the break down of the marriage was the man's fault

Gguy4real:
Wow this story is very sad i'm sorry to hear that, but at the same time you caused it yourself i'm not expecting you to be checking his phone or go through is messages or is chatting with other people, i think anything that's meant to be private should remain private so why checking his whatsapp chatting don't you know that its going to cause a problem for you or what do you expect you think after your wedding he will remain like that and he won't be attracted by another woman outside, see my advice to you is that just take care of your self and your little children and let your private be private since he didnt invite them home so you should respect his private and stay away from his phone if you don't want to commit suicide because something like this we always happen since both of you are still young so just keep on praying to God to change his heart thats all

My friend shut up. You sound like someone who was born without brains. What's that trash you typed? Don't worry eh, your wife will cheat on you and I'm sure as long as she doesn't bring them home you'll not mind ba? Note: women get tempted too

bestestgirl:
It will be so easy to say "Op forgive him, OP think of your children, OP Men are not worth the stress" but the truth is that, when you are hurting and in such deep pain, those cliches actually mean nothing. Don't take any concrete decisions now OP, you need to just concentrate on getting thru this period of deep emotional distress, first of all you have to surround yourself with your friends so that you don't overthink. finally, pray for your husband, just call out his name and say things like "you are blessed, you are favoured, you will live and not die", it really helps to pray for the person you are trying to forgive.

My dear there are different types of prayers o. Someone like me eh, if I open my mouth and say I wanna pray 4 a cheating husband, omo, ma curses go comot

Darkrebel666:
hehe
you are already seeing yourself as a sex object, or why else would you rush to conclude males like a female's photo because they want to gain access to her jackpot?
see the way a woman has totally debased and degraded her kind ..

and how sure are you about the house chore thing?
Males grew up doing house chores.. or is sweeping and tidying up the room not a house chore?

you wanna compare that to going out daily and working from 6 to 6.
so primitive to say that.

I asked bukatyne before and now I'm asking you.
would you rather prefer if the system operates inversely i.e women go out to work from 6 to 6 while men stay at home to do the so-called 'strenuous and difficult' house chores?

I didn't debase my kind. I debased your kind. We all know how you guys think. When you see comments like....'baby, your so sexy, I love your boobs etc...' please tell me what else is in the minds of those guys apart from sex.
My dear, women go out 6 to 6 and still come home to do those chores. How many males were taught to do chores? Extremely few. Besides,a man could go out 6 to 6 and do maybe just paper work as opposed to the woman who'll be home washing, cooking, cleaning etc. Which is more strenuous then?

Darkrebel666:
• Yes, I said I believe in equality of the sexes, but i strongly disagree that women are being discriminated against in Nigeria. you are given equal platforms, sent to school and can secure jobs as well.
I also don't think Nigerian feminists know what they really want. I think they are pretenders that just want to feel westernized, because I still don't know what they are vying for.
How can a free man be lamenting all day and begging for freedom?

• The "likes" and social media aspect was an analogy to prove to you that women(Nigerian) are shown preferential treatment and favoured and aren't discriminated against.
Why should a woman get 100000 likes on Facebook just for saying "she's thirsty online" and why should a man get 10 likes for his picture that's been up for 2 months?
. Isn't that gender discrimination against men? But are we crying. Yet we continue to like your photos cos unlike you we aren't nagging or cry babies. or you think its the Seraphim in the 7th heaven that likes the photo?

• Don't even include the house chore thing. its totally irrational and without a droplet of logic
How can you compare mere house chores to venturing out daily to face the asperity and harshness of the Spartan world to source for bread?. even if its not a manual job, house chores isn't close to that. Don't include it at all

• You said the inequality and discrimination is a mental thing?... correct. That's what you should have said sincr.
In as much as it isn't manifested physically in Nigeria here especially, its still ingrained in the cerebrums of every male in the spiral galaxy that we are superior to these people.(women)
I accept and agree. but I'm sorry you can't change that and I don't think that mentality is changing anytime soon.

(I'm not a believer) but even the Bible said youknowwho took from Adam's ribs to create 'b1tch'
The same bible said women should submit to their husbands.

• My point is: feminists should apply the animal farm theory which is: All animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others

In this case we males are more equal, no matter how equal the society may seem or you want it to be. that utopian society feminists want is never gonna happen.

We are biological animals and its all about survival of the fittest. Why would you think you are equal with someone you are physically stronger than, faster than, emotionally fortified than, and most times more smarter than?

If you really want equality then I should be able to slap a woman without being called names.

Lalai Ali should be ready and able to get into a ring with Floyd may weather or Vitali klitchko

Venus Williams must be ready to play with Rafael nadal

women and men should also play soccer together and compete. I.e Lionel Messi play with women and against women etc

That's when its gonna be equal, but why are we deceiving ourselves though.? no matter what , we(males) would still come out on top...
.feminists/women would never own a phallus or be men.
Cheers.

As for the whole 100000 likes thing? My dear u have ur fellow men to thank 4 dat. Out of that 100000 likes, I'm sure 99999 likes will be from guys. All in the quest for free pvssy perhaps.
Secondly, if you've never spent a whole day doing chores, you have no idea what it entails. Thus you have no right to call it 'mere' house chores

Abegi! I don't pity guys like you. I'm sure there was one good girl somewhere that you could have dated but maybe because she insisted on no pre marital sex, u dumped her for an ashewo. Well you got the sex you wanted.....enjoy it and move on.

bellong:
When you introduced the dimension of being a Christian, I want to assume that she should have been guided by the Holy Spirit in her state of anger not to further complicate things.

However, she could have been a Christian for many years but not have grown past a "babe still sucking milk". I understand why she could descend that low.

The fact that she is blessed doesn't mean God supports her action. Earthly prosperity does not equal divine approval.

Yea I agree

bellong:
It may not be true and it may be true.

No matter how well she is enjoying now, her action is not excusable. This is not to say the husband was right.

If you think the path she took was honourable, then no point arguing further,

Well, I don't support what she did. But I equally understand being hurt to such an extent that u do what u never believed you were capable of doing. The man certainly deserved it. I would rather walk away cos I aim to please God otherwise eh.....

bellong:
You used the word "was".

It is right to say that she did the abomination when she was no longer a Christian.

Under no circumstance should erratic and stupid decision be taken. How is she enjoying herself now after her silly act?

She's still a christian. Anyways she's rocking her life now. She married again and her new man worships the very ground she walks on

Emaprince:
if you are like your aunt, then speak for yourself. Not all women are like you. I wonder when aultery became something to brag with or threaten one with by women. Women that speaks this way are the loose ones. They know what they are capable of. So quit the bullcrap about the do me I do you shiit. No genuinely decent woman will turn to a who.re overnight like your aunt. She's been that way and only came out to open up to her type- you and your sister because she has excuses to make and also because she trust you guys to keep her secret. You are birds of the same feathers. If not, I don't see why she should leak such secret which can be exposed to anybody. You all are the same and you thought you could come here to get support. No, some women here are not whor.es.

Truth is that, any woman that does this have been promiscous even before the betrayal. Your aunt is a who.re and you and your sis are her type ,that's why she confided immediately in y'all. Any woman in her position could have kept the secret to herself. So I'm. Not surprised.

Look at you. You don't know what a scorned/hurt woman is capable of doing. I had this friend who got married as a virgin, good christian girl and everything. Her husband was her first and only boyfriend. She told her husband several times that infidelity was something she would never tolerate. The stupid husband not only cheated on her but impregnated one of her colleagues. What did she do? Don't 4 get that this girl was a good christian virgin girl o and was beyond faithful 2 her husband. She slept with her husband's best friend on their matrimonial bed and made sure that the husband caught her. To say the man was speechless is an understatement.

truthlegend:
with due respect to women world over,if anything is to be known about women is the fact that they love money whether single or married

Oga you don't love money?

She should insist he cuts off that closeness with her. Ahn ahn! Which kin rubbish b dat?

She shouldn't have bothered since she was just a gf. If she was his wife I would have said well done. God forbid my husband should cheat on me, but if he does, I'll do same to him o if not worse. And if he dares say 'pim', he will know he married a mad woman.

See all the guys raining fire and brimstone. That's why I can never advice any woman to forgive their cheating husband's cos they themselves wouldn't think 2ce b4 throwing them out. I say, he cheats once? Take ur kids and leave his ass. These men don't deserve forgiveness

lilmax:
then only strong men allow women beat them up smh

Is that what I typed? SMH

lilmax:
your uncle is weak

Yea I agree. Only weak men beat up women

These guys feel it's every woman that can be beaten. Una neva jam. That's how my uncle ended up with a broken kneecap. Till today he limps. After that, no one told him that his wife is not a goat that should be beaten to submission. If you feel I should be corrected with a slap, be rest assured that I will equally correct u with 2 slaps. I be ur pikin?

kennymacaulay:
Now..i dnt get d n0 3.. re u saying married ladies shud deprive dia hus of sex?? Wen dey re legally married...if itz me sef..i will rape yhu"" # wat nonsense# ur even labelling d guy as a fool cos he beats his wife for wat is rightfully is...wat den shud u label such ladies hu deprive dia hus 4rm sex??

Common sense should tell you that your wife cannot always be in the mood for sex when you are. She's not a robot.

wristwatch:
Bro, not only insecure girl. All girls do that. Haba u must be tested by them nah. See u

All girls do that? Really? Generalise much?

wman:
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2good:
It doesn't cost much to divorce so whether there is registry marriage or not, the man can walk away when ever he likes. Separation for 3 years is automatic divorce in Nigeria law whether the woman want it or not, so I don't know why women make so much noise about registry marriage like the man cannot just move out of the matrimonial home and live alone.

As long as he moves out and leaves the house 4 me. No wahala naw. But he definitely cannot bring another woman into our house as his wife

NifemiOlu:
2011
THISDAY can report today that the state House of Assembly has silently amended the Lagos State Criminal Code and expunged bigamy from its statutes. The state Attorney General and Commissioner for Justice, Mr. Adeola Ipaye, confirmed the development, saying the old law was no longer useful.

Ipaye said it became necessary to remove bigamy because the state government found out that there was no need to criminalise the offence.

He nevertheless said bigamy would now be treated as a civil offence and such a marriage would simply be dissolved without any criminal proceedings being instituted against the offender.

My submission is, if bigamy carries no criminal offence but a civil offence, how does court marriage deter men from taking another woman outside the legal marriage?

That's just for lagos isn't it?

NifemiOlu:
Na wa o. Women, get the right knowledge. Court wedding doesn't prevent a man from getting a second wife. It prevents him from getting a second 'legal' wife under the law. He can choose to marry her under traditional law. Court marriage also prevents the woman from being manhandled when certain things happen as long as she is the legal wife.

If he marries another woman traditionally, he can still b sued 4 bigamy

KAYD007:
These women won't kill us oo! You my friend should be arrested and prosecuted for what you just wrote above.

In the realm of marital infidelity and as far as this case is concerned, forgiveness is a sin!!

Why is forgiveness a sin in this case? Because a man is the victim? I'm sure you'd be screaming "for better, for worse" at the top of your voice if a woman was the victim.

fellis:
hahahaha

this is so funny

its a typical hypocrite Nigerian man response to getting caught cheating.
fools.

Lolz. A taste of their own medicine

1miccza:
Can you please go through the write up again and modify some of your points?Thank you....

I will stick to my points. Thank u very much

First, let your friend check himself. He might have 'pushed' his wife out. Maybe he stopped satisfying her in bed. Maybe he stopped paying attention to her. How about his appearance? I'm guessing the young bobo she cheated with is trim and fit. Maybe her husband added a lot of weight and stopped grooming himself. Secondly, he's the head of his home. He should get on his knees and pray for his wife and show her more love. Sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. It's for better, for worse o. Besides what is the guarantee that the next woman he marries will be different? He needs to forgive her and make it work.