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Sheisenough01:
I anticipated a comment like this.
The keyword "personal experience" is there for a reason. My view might not be correct, but I speak based on what I have seen.

P.s I never said everyone in Benin is a scammer. That'll be highly inaccurate.

Not meaning to intrude, but your personal experience is one out of 140 million others thus, not a fair basis for drawing conclusions.

maiiilooo:
See What I Found Just Now In My Room(photo)

Thank God I wasn't asleep yet ..
Was just watching a movie then I heard a noise ...
Then I started searching and I found this under ma bag ..

Fumigate your house with sniper. Others may be lurking around.

soundOsonic:
You haven't forgiven her, if at all you have you wouldn't be here posting this.
The only problem I saw here was lack of proper education from your wife.
Now sir, reason this: if she actually knew feeding her salt will lead to this; would she have fed her?
She was only careless and didn't take her diabetes serious.
She acknowledged her mistake and she had apologized already. I know this trying time is enough to pass blame, but blaming her wouldn't make the matter better or worse.

It was a silly mistake, even doctors makes mistakes, you too make mistakes, she had learnt. Go back to your house and clear it from your chest and celebrate the new year with your family.
Happy New year

Modified:
For those quoting me
For those saying it was intentional, you need to have sense. This isn't Nollywood movie it is real life.
The wife was only lazy and took her sickness for granted. This is the most logical explanation. It is still thesame reason why you poison yourselves taking alcohol, soft drinks, and food rich in oil and fats, though you are conscious of this fact this things are not good for you yet you take them, this is because you are not taking your health serious and you haven't seen with your eyes the implications what this things can cause.
The woman was conscious of the fact this things are not good, but she took it lightly because she haven't seen in first hand the implications.
I myself haven't seen first hand the implications of diabetics. I would have made same mistake due to laziness.

How do you like your juice? Ice cold or room temperature??

HIGHESTPOPORI:
Juli you didn't share your Christmas recipe this year why?

My bad!

I would make sure to create a thread for new year.

If you buy her a phone now, you would activate either of the following possibilities:
1. Unlock her eyes to the possibilities of you being her ATM.

2. Disgust her the more because she may see the act as cornish on your own part... Like trying to buy her a phone to win her heart.

3. She may be swept away by your act of benevolence and that may win her heart over.


If I were in your shoes however, I wouldn't...at least not now.

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

I played this out in my head and I am pained on your behalf. Count your losses and see this as a good breakfast. Imagine if you had married her? God saved you from marrying a bad woman and you should be grateful.


Women like this one are the reason why Nigerian women are always dragged on social media, but that doesn't mean that good ones aren't out there.

Take your time to heal and try again. This time, put on your full investigative Regalia, but don't be paranoid so your ex's misgivings doesnt affect the new one.



All the best.

Magnumproperty:
Exactly. I called a junior colleague some hours ago and she said she has finished her December salary that she is sending her younger sister to her immediate younger brother so that he can continue feeding their younger sister. Infact I was dumbfounded. Salary wey never reach one week ooooo

Smiles!!!
I am not surprised. People without financial discipline tend to spend money carelessly at this time of the year.

Magnumproperty:
Our own Naaa until work resume by January oooo. They say naaaa their own tradition here. Christmas bonus for January.

Sounds like a good idea. The bonus should help you live through almighty "January".

Landmack:
I can't wait to resume work soon to blast my manager and in turn he will tender it to HR and Co.

25k shopping voucher for a company as the one i work in. Still couldn't believe it.

Meanwhile,a previous workplace lower than the current gave a ram and half bag of rice last Christmas.

i really want to read gists about Christmas bonuses in ur respective workplace. Was the money/gifts disbursed accordingly? or your boss played office politics and cornered a greater chunk of the money/gift?

Did u receive yours with enough grudge?

or u received with Christmas joy and gladness?

Season greetings Nairalanders!

Be careful, lest you shoot yourself on the leg. Your management might not be completely wrong here. I am sure you know now cra*y this year has been and the global economic crunch. Be grateful!

Divoc19:
Team natural is the best.
Forget about your pimples and skin/cream reactions on your face sometimes ladies.
Some ladies feel incomplete without wearing powder

Funny enough, not wearing make-up clears these skin concerns over time. Acne, except the hormonal, type can be completely eliminated by abstaining from wearing makeup.

helinues:
Sometimes,you can't recognize some ladies without make up.

Just been curious,how many ladies can go out without wearing any make up?

I haven't had makeup on in like four months now. What started as a joke is now becoming a lifestyle. I have come to realize that flaunting a makeup-free face can be refreshing. No excess sweating, nor need for touch ups, nor break outs. I am beginning to have a complete mental overhaul about wearing makeup...and sorry to burst your bubble, op, there are alot of women who hardly ever wear makeup.

Respect55:
They were just close to each other ut started creeping to different directions when we flashed them.

LOL @ close to each other.

Respect55:
Greetings friends. I'm back to the village for Xmas. So I went out today with my friend to catch some cruise. On our way coming back this night, we flashed at the big snakes. I parked, we came down and killed them. Though he did the killing alone. Lol. I was really frightened.

Hmmmm!



Two Snakes at a go? Your friend is the realest MVP. By the way, were the Snakes making out?

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

This is what happens when you are quite desperate. Don't work yourself up nor give yourself a deadline. Focus on building friendship with the opposite gender for now before moving to the next phase.

Orgym:
Probably, because Bosso is a student environment.

You are right!

HitRun:
What if his working environment is Bosso?

Then he should do the obvious as I have advised.

blinkz4real:
Go to minna and get a house in Bosso area, London Street if you can afford the rent. Water and light is relatively steady and safe too. Don't try working from suleja pls, its dangerous travelling that road regularly and n d road is kind of bad.

Bosso is overpopulated and a tad bit insecure due to those local miscreants. London street is more decent, but I think op should settle in an area close to his working environment.

efficiencie:
I just got a good job offer in Niger state but before I leave my current job I would need to get some information about Minna and Suleja. My office is located at Minna and I have two options to getting an apartment in Minna (close to the office but far from the nearest airport) or Suleja (close to Abuja but far from office). I would need the help of persons who know Niger state well.

1) What is the power supply situation in Minna and Suleja? Which is better?
2) Is the journey from Suleja to Minna (a 2hr journey) a safe one to make regularly?
3) What is the internet connection in Minna and Suleja like?
4) What is the maximum rent cost for a comfortable self-contain apartment with water and good amenities?
5) Is the security situation in Niger generally too bad for work?

Please guys your feedback will be highly appreciated.

I can't say much about Suleja, but I can chip in a few tips on Minna because I am resident there.


If you need a standard studio apartment with water, your budget should be around 150k. For a room and parlor, your budget should be around 200 or so.

You are entitled to 8 to 10 hours of power supply daily from the distribution company.


I won't advise that you do the Suleja-Minna trip too often.


Niger state is not safe, but Minna is safe, provided you don't move around at night and you don't "show yourself"


You may have a few worries being here, but internet won't be one.

nonny400:
You won't allow another woman disrespect your man na

That woman has not been born yet.

pocohantas:
Try take anti-malaria. Seems you don’t know it is very painful when another woman desrespects your man. E dey pain ehn.

You dey mind him?

gmacnoms:
I really don't know you, but you are a very intelligent and patient person. Please don't be offended, I mean no harm at all, neither do I mean to sound rude or offend you. The way your fiance reported the response to you, it shows a lot how the future will be o

Ah!!! Why are you foreseeing doom, where there is none actually? That is low, bro.

Joey4321:
Hello guys, So this thing has been bothering me for quite a while now and I would like to have someone else's idea on it.

In my mid 20's currently undergoing a masters program at a Russian University (Somewhere around Moscow). Online because of the pandemic. The masters is a full scholarship with a little stipend calculated by your grades.
Now the borders are open and I have the opportunity of being there physically. Its kind of mandatory right now even. The scholarship is supposed to last 2 years with a mandatory third year where you will have to work for the school as payment for your scholarship. While studying you get paid, little money though, lets say 200k in conversion to naira. While working (On your third year) you also get paid but this depends on the role you interviewed for and your skill level. The masters is in Data Science and that is also my field.

But the only problem now is I just got a really good job here in the country that pays lets say about half a million. With my current projections, I could level up a bit more and settle down in 2 years

Now this current amount is more than what I will get paid in Russia both as a student or as a worker for the next 3 years (According to my projection). However, the school will cover accommodation, so the stipends are just for feeding, coffee, movies and dates, etc.

Do you think the masters is worth me giving up such a opportunity in Nigeria for the abroad?

In a nutshell, do you think having a foreign masters certificate is worth it?

If this was 6 years ago, I would have advised that you to take the job.... 500k might seem like a good deal (it actually is if it's the only offer on your plate). However, the scholarship still stands as the better offer.

thesicilian:
I've had similar experiences also. Baba saw me struggling to inject him and took pity on me (according to him) and asked me and the nurse to leave the room for some time. When he called us back in, injecting him including the subsequent procedure went smoothly.

But my question to him was why he would fortify himself against needles and sharp objects (which seemed to work) and still get lacerated by a sharp object during a road traffic accident. No answer.

Fortification may have been against metals. Laceration may have been gotten from shattered glass.

odimbannamdi:
What was wrong with his choice of words? I interpreted it to be a simple harmless question. Or did I miss something?

Talking about dishing advise that he needs to take. Classic gaslight, if you ask me.

Omicron007

Fornication is an avoidable sin...but let me assume that you are asking this for futuristic purposes (marriage)... Reports have shown that PTSD can naturally be ameliorated if the person suffering from that condition is surrounded by love and trust is built. If you love this lady, your focus should not just be coitus, because subjecting her to that and later dumping her would make her condition worse.


Your focus right now should be on how to help her overcome this. Help her keep an open mind, reassure her of your love and affection, put coitus back on the shelf and most importantly, always keep your ears and heart open to listen to her, especially if it relates to this trauma. Infact, encourage her to talk about it(but do not bring the topic up on your own).

Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting. You for kukuma snap the to.,to show Nairalanders

For those quoting me, I have no response for you..

Thank you! Its really disturbing.

Congrats to you and yours. Your home shall be a bliss.

nonny400:
Yes darling

Da-da!!!!

brownemmanuel43:
Oremi biko what's CSB?

nonny400

brownemmanuel43:
Thanks, just give me hug ejoo or efo niro

Eweyyyyy!!!! Don't let my CSB catch you.

brownemmanuel43:
I did some Google search and I found another moniker she's using, from my background checks, she is not a straightforward human being. Today she is at ikorodu, tomorrow ejigbo.
Then I checked access bank account number she posted, the account number is not valid.

You deserve 10 crates of Gulder. You are smart, my brother.

brownemmanuel43:
Pls which woman is that, bcs I want to buy gas cylinder for a friend, a number mentioned me, when I did a Google search of the number, it now brought me here. Pls help with the moniker and any details u hv about her

Please abort mission sir.