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My son once did that at a neighbour's place when he was about that age She runs a bakery and all her kids are grown so she didn't have a reason to keep the eggs crate out of reach. By the time we realised what he was doing he had nearly gone through a full crate I offered to pay for the broken eggs but she refused, even made a light joke about funny kids. It wasn't funny to me o, I was so embarrassed.

I honestly don't understand why everyone is lashing out at this lady. To me its not too much to ask for a little gift here and there from your spouse. I didn't see anywhere she stated that she wanted the guy to feed her or pay her bills, but all of yall are pounding on her like you're so perfect. All these oversabi people sef

I remember my husband was like this during our dating days. Sebi OP got tab, I can count on one hand the number of things I got from him in our 7 years of dating. But I didn't really bother him because my parents my meeting my financial needs in school. Even after he graduated 2 years ahead of me and he got a well paying job, he still wasn't so giving. He knew I had well to do parents so money was hardly my problem. But sometimes just a little gift, doesn't have to be so expensive, can make a person's day. It started to become annoying when he'll tell my to use my money to run errands for him then won't pay back . He did that till we got married in 2010. I practically had to empty my account so he can pay for the flat we'll stay in( he loaned someone the money he intended to use). Note gain that I wasn't working at the time o.

Fast forward to 5 years plus of marriage, there's hardly anything I ask for that he doesn't give. Because of his prudence with money and my getting of good job along the line, we were able to complete and move into our own place last year. So my dear hang in there and be patient. The projects he's working on are most likely to secure a wonderful future for the both of you, so let that be your focus not the petty things he's not getting for you fight now. Cheers

OP while it's charitable to assist people in their times of need, lets not forget that this is Naija. Let me share some personal stories with you.

When we first moved to our place in 1995, my parents saw a similar situation and an opportunity to assist the community so they placed a tap outside of the compound and opened it for public use for just one hour in a day(between 5 and 6pm daily). During that period omo see crowd. Queues would have started forming by 4pm. By 6pm when the tap was shut, the entire area will be filled with messy foot prints, water everywhere, but that wasn't the problem. The major problem was that we were creating big losses for the water sellers in the neighbourhood. They came to threaten my mum on several occasions to beware cos she doesn't want them to have money like her abi? One even threatened that we should face whatever consequences that befell us cos of our charitable act. Let me remind you that the water was only on for one hour daily. Although my mum was a bit worried of all these threats, my dad continued with the water charity. Suddenly our pumping machine started to mal function . There was no week that we weren't repairing it. Even a brand new one malfunctioned after a few weeks, that was when they finally put a stop to this water charity o, not knowing that one sef would cause another gbege. Suddenly we were public enemy number 1 , my mum would want to buy things from the neighbourhood and people would be hissing and eyeing see wahala o! . A neighbour that also opened his water for the community in spite of the threats from the water sellers had his pumping machine stolen on several occasions till he too had to succumb.

Another more recent story. My in laws also decided to open their compound for the neighbours to come get water. their gate was always opened for people to come in. This paved way for petty thieves to have access into their home to steal things lying around in the compound. from generator battery to spare tyres to even the kids' toys. When it was too much to bear, they also had to stop the water supply making them instant neighbourhood enemies.

So OP, my point is this: Don't start something you can't see through properly. Let your sister know the inherent disadvantage of what she wants to do. Your dad's idea to me is the best. The Alhaja has been very charitable to your folks please don't repay her with this.

5minsmadness:

What r u talking about?
I have never discussed story 1 before.

She's talking about a story on this section very similar to your story #1. Even I thought so too for a while there.

@topic,

Na wa o. The kind of things people in the name of marriage sha, really pathetic. A friend of mine also nearly got trapped with pregnancy by a chick. She claimed she was pregnant with twins and they must marry ASAP . Fortunately the whole ting blew up in her face, she had to fake a miscarriage .

PinketteDawn:
Excuse me dear. You don't know me from Adam. How can you be so sure I grew up with both of my parents? Did you grow up in a home where your father was constantly degrading your mother? Ask people who have been in that situation and compaRe. Issues are only sorted out when both parties want to. It is not right for a woman to be constantly begging her husband to marry her. Is he doing her a favour? You can never beg anybody to marry you that is reality! If his heart is somewhere else, then let him go.You can beg someone to forgive you if you have wronged him but if he chooses not to forgive, you cannot beg him to love you. True love should not be begged for. How long will you keep begging? For the rest of your life?

You nailed it right there. You can't beg or force someone to love you. I feel so sorry for the OP. This is the same man that gave her T fare to go back to her parents' house, even taking her keys, after she made an idle threat. From what I can see the man doesn't want you in his house any longer and he's looking for the slightest excuse to be rid of you.

From your past thread, your previous relationship ended in 2013, you married this guy in 2014, I don't think you guys got to know eachother really well before tying the knot.

On the issue of conception. I hope you know you have a ticking biological clock. Why do you want to waste your youth on a philanderer who doesn't want to have kids with you? It may be because he doesn't want you to have his kids that he's not paying attention to his motility.

I see you want to do everything to save your marriage so maybe you should listen to those that said you should try to be the best wife you can be, but just remember if he REALLY loves you, he won't want you out of his house at the slightest provocation.

All the best.

dominique:
So many fraudsters in this country, God help us

In case Google has not gotten the memo,

http://ngimmigration.org.ng is a Fraudulent website.

http://ngimmigration.org.ng is a scam site

http://ngimmigration.org.ng is a website set up by thieves to dupe poor job seekers

seems they haven't gotten the memo as the site is still fully functional. More annoying is that the actual immigration site has not bothered to inform the public about this.

Nigerians, please and please ignore anyone asking you to pay for a recruitment. There are lots of gainfully employed people who didn't have to pay a penny to get a job. I know its not easy but its best to just ignore these crooks. useless bunch of mofos. e no go better for them.

Wow. To think I passed that road around 1.30, nothing out of the ordinary just the usual heavy traffic. I can imagine the chaos. Hope no fatalities sha.

DonCortino:
Its not late for you yet, God has just used her friend to expose the type of wife she will be. Read the handwriting on the wall!

Abi o. OP, you have not found a wife. People like that hardly change. People with wives like that hardly succeed in life. Don't be surprised that you'll still be living in your rented 2 bedroom flat by your 30th wedding anniversary. REAL wives support their husbands financially and otherwise.

Oga run fast now before its too late.

Siena:
[color=Blue]Again, I will respectfully point out, at this point this is all pure conjecture.

We only know what the wife has posted, and how she has portrayed her son's father. Her airing her grievances on Social Media will NOT get her custody of her son. She is better off using the same Nigerian Criminal Justice System to fight her son's father.

As for joint custody, how will that work? Is her French ex going to move to Nigeria on a permanent basis?

I find it really funny how you can criticise the Nigerian Criminal Justice System. Like it or not, that is what exists in your country. You either live with it, fight against it (if you have unlimited funds and time) or migrate to a country that has a legal system you feel is more just. If this case had gone in the mother's favour, you would be rejoicing, and there would be no mention of what a joke the Nigerian Criminal Justice System is.

As it stands, it favoured the father, it's all turned sour, and the man is suddenly a criminal and kidnapper. I don't blame him, he used your legal system to his advantage, it's up to the boy's mother to do the same, rather than rant on Twitter and the like, coming across as a bitter, twisted and irrational being.

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I never called the father a criminal or a kidnapper, the article did. However, we must admit his method of getting the child leaves more questions than answers.

Why would he go to his school with armed police officers rather than his home.
Who issued FULL UNCONDITONAL custody to a parent without a court hearing? like I said earlier, a woman would have to be stark raving mad, a danger to society for a Judge to grant such.

People keep mentioning the story is one-sided, he hasn't told his side. Well, BXB has been going on social media for months now, he has plenty of opportunity to tell his side. A simple statement through his lawyers will do.

As for joint custody arrangements, he's a foreigner working in Nigeria, They should be able to work something out. This is not the first time separated parents stay across the pond from each other.

Siena:
[color=Blue]Dude, relax, and keep your emotions in check.

You say the father is a criminal, a kidnapper. How do you work this out? He IS the boy's father, and he WAS awarded custody by a court. He has gone by the book. Does a father have LESS right than a mother to be a parent?

As for saying he may be assaulting the boy, that is pure conjecture on your part. If the Nigerian mother had done the same, she would be supported, even if she did NOT go through the legal system. The mother is quite within her rights to get a lawyer to fight the father of her child for custody, and get the original court order overturned, but unless she can prove the man is an unfit father, she is unlikely to succeed, and WILL be wasting her money.

Father's have the right to be full time custodians of their children too. And just so you DO know - mothers have also been known to abuse and kill their own children too. It's not a gender issue, it's a personality trait.

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Who awards custody to a parent without a full court hearing with both parties present. Our legal system has turned to a nasty joke. What evidence did the court consider before handing FULL CUSTODY the father. The mother would have to be a lunatic drug addict before such an can be given out. There's nothing wrong whit having joint custody of the child, but full custody? Without a court hearing No no no

erico2k2:
Don't get too drawn into this.the woman is at fault not the man.she must have been asked to come to court and ofcos the Nigerian factor took over her.he has the right from the court and he is entitled to the child. If she wants him back she has to go fru the courts simple.

You must have skipped the part where she said she was never served any papers neither was there a court appearance. The foreigner must have bribed some paralegals or so to quickly rustle up the court order for full unconditional custody.

I've said it before. There's an unavoidable curse for anyone who deliberately tries to sever the mother-child bond. When God Himself has placed the rank of a mother to her child higher than anyone else on this earth, one yeye man wants to go against that. He will surely face God's wrath both on earth and the hereafter.

Baroba:
If these clowns can't run a zoo, then they should sell these animals to countries that actually care about wild animals.. I won't be surprised if someone is busy embezzling money meant for feeding these animals..

Very true. same thing crossed my mind. People are probably embezzling the money meant to feed the poor animals. Poor lion. I don't think he's even alive sef

LordReed:
Can someone explain to me why bulldozers would be bought for agricultural use instead of tractors, harvesters or combines?

Thank you o. Same thin crossed my mind. What has bull dozers got to do with rice production Aren't those meant for demolition?

Even animals have the common sense to see that rather than attack the side chick, face the man! Ladies learn

See the side chick looking like 'warris all this nah'.

FabioPeter:
No you don't have to include receipt, some companies have standard rates all you need do is attach the memo.

Hmmm. Not my company o. You have to attach d receipts, flight tickets and a claims form to the memo. Then you wait for ages while audit dept ascertain if your ticket is real or fake before you can smell any money o.

I don't get it. Even if your boss drew up the memo for you to travel, shouldn't you still include the flight tickets and other receipts before such payments can be made? At least that's how it works in my company so as to avoid the type of fraud this OP's boss is trying to perpetuate.

Walahi I only opened this topic to read the comments and see my gals bash the op.

I wasn't disappointed


Some clown up there even added winches in tue village to the list hehehehehe

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cold:
Adeboye to fork out money for road repairs? That must be the joke of the century. These con men think of nothing but themselves and their families. They're like the dead sea. Keep taking from water other tributaries but never giving out.

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That was uncalled for. I'm not a christian, but I can testify to the fact RCCG repairs major roads leading to their church at least twice a year. Anyone that plies the mowe- simawa- likosi area can also testify to it.

IlesanmiG:
ogun state govt gas never tried to repair a federal road

But the report stated they repaired the ikorodu- ogijo- sagamu road. That's a federal road. Abi someone isn't telling the whole truth here ni

But on reading over the story, why will the governor rush over to the construction site in the dead of the night? Is it some kind of emergency? I also heard from various people that its RCCG repairing the road, it could be a joint effort but why will the State government try to take all the glory?

“It is also on record that the Ogun State
Government had carried out similar palliative
measures on the Lagos-Abeokuta Expressway,
Sagamu-Ogijo-Ikorodu road and other federal
roads within the state because the state is
strategically located in such a way that goods
and passengers going to all other parts of the
country have to pass through the Gateway
state,” the statement added.

Its so good to know that road has been renovated. It was one of the worst roads I've ever passed through, especially during thr rainy season. The long bridge, warewa potholes too has been causing serious nightmares for commuters, imagine people spending over 2 hours on a 4km bridge!

Double thumbs up to the ogun state government.

I remember seeing the number 9 story on an episode of 1000 ways to die. Also that of the Siamese queen.

Edunwa302:
Op even you that drove behind the fallen truck ain't save, you are as guilty as those people, the location should have been condone off both for human and vehicular movement though I don't if it's pms it might be kerosene

That's the job of the road safety officials, not the motorists. they should have cordoned off the road so people won't get too close to the imminent danger. But then again this is Nigeria *sigh

That's not lagos state. Nasfat is in ogun state, so i don't know why people are screaming Ambode . I asked around and was told what they're scooping isn't petrol. All the same, this kind of behaviour should be discouraged in every way.

This is so wrong. In a saner society, that club would have been shut down with it owners facing charges. Paedophilia is so rampant these days, these shameless club are simply trying to attract a new set of customers, the paedophiles.

cococandy:
I've seen their types before during my nysc days volunteering in a health center.
Some ladies will come there pregnant and only find out then that they are carrying the virus.
Meanwhile the hubbies have been in drugs for long without informing the wives.
Maybe their hope is that the wives will die first so that people will think she's the one who infected him.
There were many such cases especially with those oil workers that hardly stay in one place.

How can you one hide such a thing and knowingly make love to someone else?

. That's so horrible and evil!

bece:
fastest wedding cake i ever made. baking plus decorating under 36hrs.

Fastest wedding cake took 3 whole days? . How long then does it take to bake a wedding cake on a normal day?

Your cakes are really amazing. you're quite a talented cake artist. More grease to ypur elbows.

How come so many people dine know Tyrese Gibson? Na wa o.

He started off as a model and R' n B singer in d 90s, then moved on to acting. He was in fast and furious, Transfomers amongst other films.

As for Stella and hubby. What's with all the hashtags on top a Skype call? You had to waste money to buy 20copies of an album to get the call and you're here rejoicing as if he's some kind of god. No dey fall hand o.

keep em coming. Read all 5 pages in one sitting. Nice remedy for a boring Saturday.

Margarine is actually the healthy alternative compated to butter cos of its presence of poly saturated fatty acids. Butter is more likely to clog the arteries.

ozycy:
where are you? Guess na vigilante tins,kpele. now wey d story begin sweet you con take light. come back and give us the full concert , anxiously waiting for the main action

Thanks dear, na vigilante tinz plus my fone is doing one kain.

Now to part 2

Labour ward wasn't funny at all. First they had to burst d membrane. Nasty shi. Pushing wasn't as easy as my previous baby. See me begging for episiotomy . After like 5 pushes, out came her head . The rest of d body no gree comot. They had to twist and pull d lil angel before she agreed to come out at 5.08am. Can't thank God enough. At 3.4kg , she's d biggest of all mr babies.

Other July mamas. Time is running out o. Hurry up make we pass baton to d August mamas. They're becoming too anxious .

Na wa o. The way this thread flies ehn

Congrats to all the new mamas. God bless them for us.

Anyways, my birth story is kinda short. Surprisingly short sef. I've been feeling weird and funny all day on Saturday but I didn't think much if it. By midnight I woke up with my usual urge to pee, but this time it felt different. .... the Braxton hicks was more aggressive than normal, so I started to time it. By 1am I was convinced it was Labour but was feeling reluctant to wake DH cos I know he'll rush us to d hospital kia kia.

By 1.15 I changed my mind nd woke him. Expectedly he started hurrying to get dressed. I wss like but its past 1 nah, what's d rush lets still wait till almost dawn nah. Story he no hear o. So by 2 am we were at d clinic.

I could have sworn the pain wasn't as sharp as that of my previous baby, the nurse that checked said the cervix shud be fully dilated by 5a.m. Didn't believe her o. True true around 4.45 , they came for another check and I was sent straight to d Labour room .


woah see epistle. watch out for part 2