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TOYNEX:
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I saw your mail and have taken note. You can modify the post.

Velocitron:
If I work in a job that pays £6 per hour, and I work from 9am to 3pm, and my coworker works from 8am to 6pm. Who do you think gets paid more? Do you see what I mean now?

I saw what you meant and majority is bull. Refer back to my first comment to you. If it is because of mothers, how about the one between black males and whites?

Velocitron:
On average, women- especially mothers - work fewer hours so they can care for their families. It's one of the major reasons, among others, for the wage disparity. If an employer pays a worker less or more based on their sex, religion etc, it is illegal and can be reported.

So do you think it makes sense for someone else's wages to be more just because you work two hour less than them, doing the same exact job? Does this excuse really make sense to you?

Velocitron:
I'm honestly confused

Did you not say the wage disparity is because women refuse to work longer hours?


If I quoted the wrong person, pardon me.

Velocitron:
You could either prove your stance with unbiased scientific studies or you can cling to your victim complex. The choice is yours.

Get out of here with that fake rubbish. How will women work more hours when they refused hours. There is still that mentality that the hours are better given to a man than a woman. I have seen it with my own korokoro eyes, where the male are given longer hours and when the female ask, they give a bullshit excuse about how it's no longer available. Abeg joor! Are you blind to see the women working two to three jobs just to make up hours? Forget major companies, how about everyday small small jobs, i.e bartending, where they will mostly teach the male folk how to work behind the bar which would require longer hours most days but keep the females to do waiting or back of house. Who will refused extra cash, who are they, BIll Gates' daughters? Unless, the women are those with small children with stable partners those statistics are null and void. An excuse.

Bayelsea and gombe

Idrismusty97:
English please .

Sun and citric acid on skin do not mix.

The sun with react with the lemon, I won't recommend lemon. It can even cause phytophotodermatitis

Chillisauce:
at bolded, not having the weed on time is where the problem lies. Maybe scarcity of supply will trigger the violence .

The op said he has been violent since she was little, how can there be scarcity since she was little. He is a violent man, weed or the scarcity of it, has nothing to with him. It most likely even reduced his violent tendencies. But if people want to make excuses for human wickedness then fine. Weed is not cocaine.

hensben:
I believe/know you are a lady but why using 'm' as your gender identity, isn't that inferiority complex
How about we stop using M or F as identity, H=human will be cool

Have you looked up my skirt to know whether I am male or female?
Obviously, a simple mind will think it is inferiority but a great mind gets it.

TV01:
...One structural impediment.Please...just one..


TV

I do not want to believe you are a stup!d individual, I reckon you should stop playing about and be honest for once.

TV01:
Ah, Kandi sweetness personified - bless !

Quoting me blind or otherwise is not the point - neither is debating me. Simply refute, or closet your discomfort if you are unable. Lots of emotion but no answers ? Typical.


TV

yeah yeah

thorpido:
Why are you upset about women who do that too?

are you ok in your head?

TV01:
Kandi, Kandii, Kandiii (see what I did there ),
Instead of greeting me with an emotional outburst, why not refute my assertion? If you can !

Pray tell, what structural impediments exist - much less supportive initiatives galore - to hinder the graduands of Wellesley College from accessing any opportunity they so desire? Or indeed any Western based woman.

I'm sure they were thinking "Who is this spear chucker trying to teach us - from the early bastions of womens lib - about feminism" . What next? Teaching the Tutsi how to dance the Watutsi dance? Or perhaps the Yoruba how to do owanbe . I scratch my butt in Arapahoe!


TV

TV, as you can see I did not bother quoting your name because I have decided not to get in anymore debates with people like you. It's like arguing with a brick wall. In fact, here, scratch your rectum with this:
https://img3.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20130927015151/finalfantasy/images/d/d0/FFX_Weapon_-_Spear_2.png

thorpido:
You're the one who wrote this above.

You're the one who started taking a jibe and that is why I said you were getting emotional and rightly so.You are the one that needs to grow up.
Go through my posts from the beginning,it's right there.Everyone can see it.It puts a question on the so-called intelligence you speak about if you can't see it.I said I agreed on any sex taking up roles but disagree with a woman saying she won't do something just because it has always been a known female role.
Inferiority complex?I laugh!

Let's stop having the discussion like you said.
Goodnite.

Talking about manhood was not a personal attack towards you but men who feel like they lose their "man-ness' when they wash dishes or cook. You had written that you cook and clean, so?

Moving on, bye!

There are now no structural impediments to women accessing or availing themselves of opportunity in any arena one can think of]

what nonsense?

thorpido:
You haven't said anything here that I have not agreed with.It seems the confusion is on your part and you are getting emotional about it.
I have said roles can be reversed and that is all you have also written here.

Oh wow, you see why I hardly argue with guys like you anymore? It is because when you have someone teaching you life lessons, your inferiority complex starts flaring up and you start stating that, one is being emotional-obviously because I am a woman. Grow up please.

You did not say roles can be reversed you said you have a problem when a woman says they won't do something just because they are a woman. I educated you on that, now you want to start taking jabs. Why do you still keep on disagreeing when you say you agree? Abeg, jor! I am even insulting my own intelligence by staying here to have this discussion with you. Have a good day!

thorpido:
Don't get me wrong,i don't have a problem with equality and i do not support gender discrimination.
Like you said,it's a question of what works in each person's marriage.

@bold.There can never be role equality in marriage.There's always going to be percentages which could swing in any direction.

Like I said you are confused. You still do not get it, the whole point is not to do something just because you are a woman, one can still wash dishes but she should not do it because society has said that is her role but she does it because she is not a dirty human who wants her home riddled with cockroaches and mice. When you both work and come home late tired, you will not expect her to go in the kitchen and cook just because she is a woman. When you finish at 2 for example and she finishes at 7, it's common sense for you to say ooh, my wife will be tired, I should maybe run a bath for when she comes home and make something for her to eat. Same goes for a woman if it was the other way round. It does not matter who it is, whoever is at home more should make more of an effort for the tired spouse coming home, be it male or female. There are instances where the woman's job might require longer hours, so you should be considerate and realise she is human and not a donkey that has to do everything just because society says so.
Even if both of you are home, you help each other out. There is nothing wrong in your partner saying, "hunny, please can you wash the plates or hunny, I feel like eating stew, can you make some" without you feeling like your manhood has been detached from your groin.

thorpido:
I agree with you on the issue of rights.A woman actually has the right to choose not to marry.
If she does however,i just don't see how this right in a marriage will help the union.There will always be roles.

That's fine, let there be roles but for those who are not interested in such roles, they can live their lives without conforming to such roles. Is chidinma not married? Just like you believe it is wrong for roles to be changed, there are men who are not bothered with the roles and they do what works for their marriage. It's simple be with someone who share the same values with you but know that many of our generation will teach our children male or female the same roles equally, without any gender discrimination.

thorpido:
I'm only using a timetable as a reference.There is nothing confusing here.
There are roles a man takes up in the home and there are some the women take up too.However,those roles are flexible and can be taken up by anyone at anytime.What I'm trying to point out is that you can't say just because you are a woman you wouldn't do certain things just so you don't fit into the perceived roles of a woman.I only used the cooking part as an example.

Yes I can say I should not cook because I am a woman. unless it is naturally in you like child birth and even that you can choose not to give birth. Any woman has the right to not want to be part of the societal structures put in place. We need to break this gender norms as cooking or cleaning is not gender specific anyone can do it. Same way, you have the right to not pay for a woman's meal just because you are a man or a man trying to impress, you do it because you are generally that kind of human and would do it regardless of who it is. I have a right to choose not to be allocated to something just because I am a woman.

thorpido:
You cook because you are hungry and I already said the cooking could be done by the man sometimes.Having a timetable for who should cook or not would be ridiculous to me.

Who talked about timetable, are they children? You are saying the same thing she said. Like I said earlier you have confused yourself. It could be done by a man at anytime because he is human and he needs to eat so can a woman.

alphalpha:
hush up so that your lot would go on deceiving yourselves and innocents?
for a know-it-all, you should know better

I know better that is why I am telling you to hush up and read more.

mathdiva:

How dare a woman say she is not in the mood...hehehehe...is she not a woman!!!

bigfrancis21:
The guy was clearly obstructing the pathway. Common etiquette demands that when you board a bus, you shouldn't be an obstruction to another passenger. The guy had his legs clearly sticking out into the pathway, and the old woman had a trolley which she could not move through the pathway because the guy's left leg was in the way. She didn't need to say 'please' to have him take out his leg, because the bus is neither his house nor his parlour he was sitting in. The bus belongs to her, as it belongs to him and everyone else on it. Second, clearly seeing that the woman's age and she being old enough to be his grandmother, he could have simply paved way for her to pass. Even when she tried to move through the small space still left for her, he used his hand to obstruct her and pushed her trolley backwards towards her. Ultimately, he should never have laid his hands on her. For no reason.

Nigerians, at least the ones born and raised in Nigeria, are the last people to intimidate in this world. I have noticed that other Africans and blacks often tend to get unnecessarily aggressive when in contact with Nigerians. Some Africans on knowing that you're Nigerian will want to 'prove' that they are smarter than you, this Nigerian. It is as if they acknowledge that Nigerians are a smart indomitable bunch but they don't want to admit it. After the very first day I moved into my new rented house, my African roommates (2 of them) started trying to 'prove' they are smarter than me. I felt like they were trying to intimidate me for no just reason - reverse feeling of feeling intimidated but you want to intimidate the other person instead to hide your insecurity. It was as if they felt threatened by my presence. Then they tried to ridicule Nigeria for no just reason. Many times I come back from work, this particular Congolese is trying to 'update' me about the recent bad news in Nigeria and make jest at me and Nigeria for it. Trust me, I dealt with him accordingly. Ordinary Congolese kwa from small Congo of yesterday? Using statistics, common sense and reasoning, and positives about Nigeria, I belittled him and his ordinary congo, and gave him his level. It was as if he forgot that he was from ordinary Congo. When a Nigerian is talking a Congolese is talking too. Imagine the likeness. Ekwensu ma nkilika akwa. In Igbo, e nyelu m nya oche, nya nodu. Ever since, the guy has calmed down.

From the lady's accent, the guy sensed she is Nigerian and that is what, I believe, caused him to remain adamant not to pave way for her, as if paving way for her would mean she successfully 'intimidated' him. No, he would never accept it. Especially not from a Nigerian.

Some other blacks have often expressed resentment towards Nigerians for no reason. The hate is real.

Don't flatter yourself....

You are doing the same thing you said other countries are doing.

thorpido:
I agree with her words here.I don't agree with every statement of hers though.

Isn't it contradictory that women shouldn't do some things because they are women,yet they want political offices in Nigeria because they are women and should be given the opportunity.
As per doing some things because you are a woman,well who should stay with a breas.tfeeding baby?The woman because she is a woman or the man?
I believe man and woman are equal,they are just not the SAME.Like some silly girls (and men) started the free the nip.ple campaign.

Ladies should be taught to aspire towards their best and deserve all that men can get too.

I believe you confused yourself, it was quite straight forward.

thorpido:
I'm for equality and i support the movement that empowers women, protects them and ensures they have a voice in the society.
What I just disagree with is the movement that wants a woman to do whatever a man does.An example is the free the nip.ple movement that some are promoting.Just because some men do not wear a shirt in public(not that it is right), a woman also should do the same.
Another example;in the home,if it's time for dinner and food is to be cooked,should there be a need to throw a dice to pick who should do the cooking?I'm not saying it has to always be the woman who should do the cooking or that she should even cook if she is not in a good position to do so but to say because she's a woman she shouldn't have to do it will be ridiculous to me.

She is right, you do not have to cook because you are a woman, you cook because you are human, you guys are hungry and need to eat. If you don't feel like cooking and the guy is at home, he can do the cooking because he is equally human, hungry and needs to eat. What exactly is ridiculous here?

chibic:
Women and sex!

Well, I'm not surprised. This is what divorced women normally turn to. They easily become free sex givers. The condom shows that she doesn't want to get prgnant another man, and she is carrying it becuase sex may present itself at any point. Divorced women are more promiscous than any other type of women.

Ehn, and so?

How is it your business though?Why would you feel a burning rage? All this spoilt kids of nowadays. I hope she gives you a resounding slap if you ask her such a stup!d question, if not she can send you over here and I will help her out with it. Nonsense, I am even annoyed for her.

You nor go ask your father such a question, na your mama you get mind ask? How old are you sef? After asking her what the condoms are for , also ask her how she uses them. Cow!

weed does not really make users violent. It gives more of a sedative effect, it makes you chilled out, ever heard the phrase, "couch lock" so I don't think the violence should be blamed on the weed.









As for the topic, my contribution is not needed as many have written my thoughts down already.

alphalpha:
Some people just come here to claim all knowing, but in reality they are poor deluded fellows. Come here to claim that sex with someone who isn't your wife or husband isn't immoral? the height of self deceit. I've read books that tell of history that even before the white man came to Africa with his religion, sex before marriage was a taboo in villages, not only in Africa but also in the rest of the world. These guys are just being mislead and abused by this "I think for myself lunacy."

Oh hush up, you read books but you know nothing. Maybe you should read abit more.

haibe:
Let the person I asked answer. I want to fully understand his stance on this subject so I can kniw whether to see it as his opinion. . Everyone has a right to his/her opinion

I actually wrote a whole essay for you but got caught up so could not post it and just did not bother in the end..

If you still want my answer, I will just open the tab as it's probably still there.

DrGroove:
Her mum is right
There is nothing like serious girlfriend
I once uploaded a picture I took with a colleague, just a friend at school on my whatsapp. My parents saw it,all hell broke lose


It's shameful for a girl to be associated with a guy who isn't her husband in public

Relationship should be a secret till it materializes

A man can flaunt 100 girls as girlfriends, another 100 girls are waiting to marry him

But for a woman,once you have been identified with one man...sorry! Other men run away from you and if the relationship ends,nobody gon approach u..nobody wants a leftover.
moreover, It's not just nice to showcase who you are having premarital sex(That's what people do n call it relationship ) with to the world.

Nonsense. One can't take photo with even a friend again? Change your mindset mehn, it stinks.

Revolva:
Oya see knife n cutlass start cutting...

Look women r just a tool for co lateral damage....just bang dem dats all....do u know how many b***s I ave banged inface dis babe here is dying to give me Mouth Gig doggy and anal...omg olosho level my mission is to bang many gals cos they r way too money loving n many of dem r turnin into co operate hoes harlot these days #trustnogirl...d holy gal u keep as ur babe wey no wan give u punny....someone may be slaughterin her..for some upkeep money...kai e good make man hold bar o if not don't enter a cerious relationship wit a naija babe....they r way too hungry no love they don't inspire anymore

What a bloody child! Grow up and focus on your goals rather than coming here with lies about a random girl you probably have never met. Bloody overgrown baby with peas for brain.