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CelebritiesRe: Rachael Okonkwo Scrapes Off Her Hair (photos) by kandiikane(m):
I just like this girl..





iamrealdeji:
She looks like Fat Joe
Lool, she actually sort of does in the first pic.
FamilyRe: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by kandiikane(m): 12:38pm On Apr 10, 2015
5minsmadness:
Hmmn.
It's like I've been misunderstood somewhat.
I advocated compatibility before love and not the absence of love /emotional attachment in it's entirety.

Adolescent love/ Eros love is fleeting and is a poor foundation for a lifetime commitment.
I understood you perfectly well, our reasons are different but love can always come in later. All I am saying as long as all the terms are laid out and adhered to, I do not mind it.
FamilyRe: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by kandiikane(m):
LordReed:
I guess I misunderstood certain parts of your post thanks for clearing that up. However you must consider that while a business style contracted marriage could "make life easier" it doesn't sound like it is the better one the OP is advocating. In my mind I don't see such a marriage providing the kind of home that provides a healthy atmosphere for children and aside from an agreement to have kids what else can provide any basis for joy and fulfilment in such a marriage? It just sounds like a bland business deal unlikely to foster any sense of belonging not to talk of love or any sort of emotional attachment. I'd rather not be married than have to endure such.
It is quite obvious that what the op is looking for in an arranged marriage is quite different to the one I stated. I do not think you get it, kids were an example. Some couples have kids already. Many people are fulfilled on their own so marriage would just be a bonus to them. Obviously, you won't understand because you have not seen or experienced such marriages, same way many won't understand the concept of open marriages. I have had experiences with arranged marriages by two consenting adults and i have seen it work. I have also seen a consenting adult with older kids who became a second wife via an arranged marriage. She entered into it on her own terms and she has been married for 22years now. Not everyone is into that emotional attachment, some just want someone to grow old with, a friend Or someone to warm their beds each night, same way some are comfortable being alone.
FamilyRe: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by kandiikane(m): 10:06am On Apr 10, 2015
LordReed:
Are you aware that arranged marriages were one of the biggest promoters of "the man is the head of the family" paradigm? They are practically married (pun intended), almost impossible to separate. Without those traditionally defined roles arranged marriages will fall apart. You wish life to be more easier by removing the very essence of arranged marriage and still expect life to be easier? You have to be kidding.
As one could clearly see, I differentiated between the two. my last paragraph clearly talked of the kind of arranged marriages practiced back in the day, the one you are insisting on.

You talk as if arranged marriaged marriages only mean where a young woman is forced into getting into a marriage with an older male. An arranged marriage today comes in many different forms. Two people can come together based on what they want to achieve in life and one can choose to have a marriage that is not based on love or lordship and that certainly can be arranged with someone, for example if the person is looking to have kids or someone to be his beard. As clearly stated a contractual marriage Is an arranged marriage and many people do it. It's not all black and white. Many people get into marriages for different reasons and if you are clear about your terms and the partner knows that and adheres to it contractually, life gets much easier that way. If you don't agree with my concept of an arranged marriage that is fine but definitely no kidding here.
RomanceRe: Jeeez! See What Her Fiancee Is Suggesting For Her.....mature Content! by kandiikane(m): 1:05am On Apr 10, 2015
Acidosis:
How have u been sweets?
been oK. Got a lot going on atm. How about yourself?
RomanceRe: Jeeez! See What Her Fiancee Is Suggesting For Her.....mature Content! by kandiikane(m): 12:42am On Apr 10, 2015
Acidosis:
Kandi Kandi smiley
hey
FamilyRe: My Wife Demands Money From Me Before Sex – Husband Tells Judge by kandiikane(m): 7:54pm On Apr 08, 2015
bright007:
chai....this man obviously married a prostitute



if not I do not see any reason why the lady should demand money wen the man wants to muegbesuegbe with her
Maybe, he has not been given her chop money, who knows...
RomanceRe: Jeeez! See What Her Fiancee Is Suggesting For Her.....mature Content! by kandiikane(m): 7:50pm On Apr 08, 2015
So no money for wedding but there is money to have kids?
FamilyRe: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by kandiikane(m): 10:48pm On Apr 07, 2015
Honestly, I do not see anything wrong in choosing an arranged marriage as long as there is compatibility, the partner has what you are looking for and you share the same views. It will be like a contract subjected to both of your terms, not this man=authority many marriages normally deal with.

I believe life will be so much easier that way.

Note: This is quite different from what women had back in the day. Many of them did not have a choice, be it via compatibility or sharing the same life values. Many were like properties that wer acquired or sold in exchange for something. It will be impossible to have an arranged marriage like your grandfather's because women now have a voice and rights. If you are the type that goes by the "I am a man therefore, i have authomatic authority over you" nonsense, it will be quite hard for you to find a woman that doesn't have a voice and even if you do, you have to shield her from the world for your marriage to last. One day, one day, she could just meet someone who educates her on her rights and that's when she will turn to the type of woman you were trying to dodge. Someone who knew herself, knew what she wanted out of life and wanted more for herself than just being a weak man's "property."
CelebritiesRe: Genevieve Nnaji Vs Yemi Alade Vs Nse Ikpe:Who Rocked The Natural Hair Beta(Pics by kandiikane(m): 2:11pm On Apr 07, 2015
kennygee:
I won't argue with you.
wink
CelebritiesRe: Genevieve Nnaji Vs Yemi Alade Vs Nse Ikpe:Who Rocked The Natural Hair Beta(Pics by kandiikane(m): 10:20am On Apr 07, 2015
kennygee:
Look at the tips my dear.
You have been wearing weave for so long that you have forgotten how easy it is to manipulate afros into any style you want. It is called a braid out with probably some water and oil.
CelebritiesRe: Genevieve Nnaji Vs Yemi Alade Vs Nse Ikpe:Who Rocked The Natural Hair Beta(Pics by kandiikane(m): 10:10am On Apr 07, 2015
kennygee:
Nse then Genny.

Nse's hair is just Shinny and looks cared for.

By the way, Genny's hair is a weave, it is not her Natural hair.
Is it because of the colour or you saw the tracks?
FashionRe: Fashion On Campus.. by kandiikane(mod): 10:01am On Apr 07, 2015
Dangotepikin, that will be a long and useless journey for me to make but all in all, you could post some pictures let me see whether you're right.
FashionRe: Fashion On Campus.. by kandiikane(mod): 10:42pm On Apr 06, 2015
EducationRe: Pls I Need Help In My Studying by kandiikane(m): 10:09pm On Apr 06, 2015
lordthree:
in my first year i got an F i was disturbed so the next semester i put in more work i crammed and i got high grades but i didn't like forgetting what i crammed after exams, so i found another way that suits me, and after exams i remember what i studied, fast forward to final year im the second best student in the class.

Anyway the method is;
while studying make sure you jot down important points, jot them down over and over. it Might seem like a waste of time but when you're in the exam hall You'll see that you will remember those points. read what you jotted down over again then jot it down again, repeat this the night before the exam.

i use this method and it hasn't failed me because i always remember what I've read
Best way.....

If possible, get those sticky note pads and post them all over your house so as you walk pass doing your day to day business you will read what you need to know over and over again
RomanceRe: 10 Thing Ladies Do That Shows They Want Sex When They Visit Their Boyfriends by kandiikane(m): 1:39am On Apr 06, 2015
This is how you will go ra.pe persin.
FamilyRe: Read A Lady's Take On Woman Claiming Equal Rights With Men + Photo by kandiikane(m): 1:34am On Apr 06, 2015
MzNelly:
Staying at home and cooking and cleaning for my husband doesn't make me less of a strong woman.

The woman cannot be equal to a man in so many areas and the Bible concurs.
The Bible states that the females would long for her husband. It also states that the female should keep quiet in the church.

Going by this, it is divinely stated that a man and a woman can never really be placed on the same pedestal.

There is no equality between a man and a woman, and never will be. Either sexually, physically, socially, even spiritually.
The faster we come to terms with this, the better for all of us.
Why can you not argue logically without using any reference from the bible? Use your brain to figure out why you feel you aren't "worthy" to be on the same pedestal as a man. The Bible can be used to justify almost anything, even promiscuity and slavery.
FamilyRe: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by kandiikane(m): 8:23pm On Apr 05, 2015
falconey:
leave daddy alone, don't tell mummy.

It doesn't matter where daddy is geting his motor running as long as he park in the right garage.
yes, people should just go do whatever they want to, sleep around if they want as long as they come home to their partners at night, probably bring home with them some stds to dash give their partners. I gats you man. wink
RomanceRe: Could This Be An Invitation For Sex??? by kandiikane(m): 8:17pm On Apr 05, 2015
Lol the way you just kept on coming across this girl and the way she just take off her clothes for you, it could be that all your cross signing has paid off. Who knows whether she be spirit or has a bad energy that will suck you dry. Thank your God, it could be that he covered your eyes so you won't see signal. cheesy
CelebritiesRe: Yinka Bode George Puts His Eggplant On Display As He Celebrates Birthday by kandiikane(m): 10:49am On Apr 05, 2015
tsdarkside:
what you dont understand is that...africans just dont write on their body ,just because of fun,,

you dont know the tribe,this black-woman in the photo is from...first learn history...before you want to prove something with images...

the time of the white-race,is over...and that is fact...you are even helping me self,to prove that the white-race is useless...KEEP ON THE GOOD WORK... grin grin grin
this is quite stupid. Fun or not, tattoos are not a white man's culture, get that right.
CelebritiesRe: Yinka Bode George Puts His Eggplant On Display As He Celebrates Birthday by kandiikane(m): 10:26pm On Apr 04, 2015
tsdarkside:
idiat...3 years later,he will say,he is gay...TADA... angry angry angry

why is he writing on is body... huh huh huh

stvpid idiat...

get white-people,out of your mind,or else,you will end up messed-up.... angry angry angry
What are you saying?

https://www.folkculturebh.org/en/imgs/issue13/a4/2.jpg
CelebritiesRe: Yinka Bode George Puts His Eggplant On Display As He Celebrates Birthday by kandiikane(m): 10:20pm On Apr 04, 2015
CrimeRe: Man Rapes 6-year Old Girl by kandiikane(m): 8:41pm On Apr 02, 2015
Wait they actually released him? They did not have him checked by a professional to determine whether he needs to be in a prison or mental institute?
HealthRe: Before You Get That Tattoo by kandiikane(m): 1:02pm On Apr 02, 2015
meh! Everything in life comes with possible side effects..
RomanceRe: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by kandiikane(m): 12:02pm On Apr 02, 2015
naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Lol,,i always drop a thread with care.

And it's always a hit grin

As for the disagreement,,the ladies will have to explain to us I guess. cheesy[/color]
Did you share this yourself?
RomanceRe: Photo; April Fool Prank, Message A Guy Sent To His Gf by kandiikane(m): 2:02pm On Apr 01, 2015
sinaj:
cud dix b a rap line huh
lol..
RomanceRe: Photo; April Fool Prank, Message A Guy Sent To His Gf by kandiikane(m): 12:00pm On Apr 01, 2015
sinaj:
jeeez... Sarah?

daz my name undecided

nd dat joke iz quite xpensive huh
Very!! 300pound just to do checkup in a private clinic because the public ones were closed And person nor fit wait until Monday.
FamilyRe: Why He Only Dates White Women by kandiikane(m):
Afam4eva:
The comment i made was actually a snide comment and should not be taken seriously. I actually don't think all black women have issues or let's say this issue is not necessarily bad. it's just a perspective. Black women tend to be more confrontational than women from other races and it's not necessarily a bad thing. it only becomes bad when exibited like seen in those youtube videos.
Right ok.
Black women are more confrontational because they are the race you are use to and it's constantly thrown in your face, so you assume any burst of anger or stand-offish behaviour to be more of a black woman trait. You are being fed a lie by tv and internet that black women are aggressors. They have been painted to be this in such a way that even if someone picks a fight or argument with them, people will always feel sorry for the one who started it. The confrontational behaviour exhibited on youtube videos occurs in every race. I have seen more people calling black women animals in fight videos than I have seen(if any) in white women videos. I normally just see a couple of comments saying how it seems people are ok saying horrible stuff about black women for fighting yet say nothing on the video of another race fighting.

The idea that white women or other races of women are docile and quiet is a lie being fed to you just so you can look down on black women. Expand your search on youtube and you will see what I am talking about. If anyone wants to go for other women, that is perfectly fine(free world) but do not insult black women along the way.
FamilyRe: Why He Only Dates White Women by kandiikane(m): 11:08pm On Mar 31, 2015
Afam4eva:
Of course we're saying the same thing. It's the environment. And this is not a comparison with other races. We know it's a general phenomenum but it's more common in poor neighborhoods which black unfortunately dominate.
No afam, we are not saying the same thing. You watched a couple of videos and made an ignorant statement that black women have issues. Yes, blacks tend to live in poorer neighbourhoods because they are a minority in these countries but compare the minority to the majority, you will have more of the majority living in those same neighbourhoods with the blacks. By your statement, you have clumped together all black women, even the average black woman who lives in better neighbourhoods in the same box.
FamilyRe: Why He Only Dates White Women by kandiikane(m): 4:35pm On Mar 31, 2015
Dheartless:
this article to what end?

there are more disorganized. black communities compared to that of the white.

its either the constituents(black people) of the black community are poor, uneducated, violent..........you name it.

in all, they are responsible for the state of their communities, and since they have a more scattered communities then they must have more disorganized amount of persons, and that is nobodies fault but Thiers.

it's truly indeed stup!d for anybody to quote a black woman grin
in the end, it all comes down to the environment....I still don't see why you quoted me.
FamilyRe: Why He Only Dates White Women by kandiikane(m):
Dheartless:
well there are more disorganized environment in black communities than in white.
so what's your take?

seems the phrase "what ignorance!" applies mutually among.....errr.....well I....
That's because if you are comparing two races, you have more blacks living in poorer environments than their white counterparts in certain countries. If you have those same white people, hispanics and asian living in that same poorer environment, they will have similar attitudes. Go to poland or these europeans countries that hardly have much of a black society and see their behaviours. Your ignorance only allows you to be bias and see black women as the devil. Bring up a black person equally in his richer counterpart's neighbourhood and see whether he will behave in that same mannerism as those in the poorer neighbourhoods. It was stup!d of you to quote me because if you were going to quote me at least quote me with an answer that negates my claim rather than actually acknowledge the point I made, which is, it is the environment that plays a role in the way a group of people behave rather than the race itself. Even in Africa, amongst blacks from different backgrounds you can differentiate those that come from poorer neighbourhoods and those that come from richer neighbourhoods by objectively looking at their behaviours and attitudes.

There is no "angry" gene in a black woman's genetic makeup. Why is it that when black people in Africa break bottles on each other and fight we don't mention the race but when a black woman in a white man's country shows some anger, the ignorant black man will be the first to scream, " the black woman is naturally aggressive" yet keep mute when the women of other races act in a similar manner. Is it only black women who quarrel and fight? You find yourself watching videos of just black women fighting and screaming at each other because you want to use it as a yardstick to paint your whole race of women as rotten.
CrimeRe: Teenager Kills Boyfriend For Attempted Rape by kandiikane(m): 12:13pm On Mar 31, 2015
Stelvin101:
Imagine the gal's age and that of the deseased. Why will a gal of 18yrs old be friends with a man of 32yrs? This generation of gals is really something out of this world and the next generation coming will eventually lead to the end of mankind if nothing is done to build the psychological and mental state of teenage children, especially the female species. undecided
Taa! Should it not be the man of 32 who should be castigated for following an 18year when his intentions are not genuine? Abeg joor!

Many 18years in Africa are naive and would believe someone actually has good intentions for them. It is a shame that there is no such thing as good intentions anymore over there.

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