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I just like this girl.. iamrealdeji:Lool, she actually sort of does in the first pic. |
5minsmadness:I understood you perfectly well, our reasons are different but love can always come in later. All I am saying as long as all the terms are laid out and adhered to, I do not mind it. |
LordReed:It is quite obvious that what the op is looking for in an arranged marriage is quite different to the one I stated. I do not think you get it, kids were an example. Some couples have kids already. Many people are fulfilled on their own so marriage would just be a bonus to them. Obviously, you won't understand because you have not seen or experienced such marriages, same way many won't understand the concept of open marriages. I have had experiences with arranged marriages by two consenting adults and i have seen it work. I have also seen a consenting adult with older kids who became a second wife via an arranged marriage. She entered into it on her own terms and she has been married for 22years now. Not everyone is into that emotional attachment, some just want someone to grow old with, a friend Or someone to warm their beds each night, same way some are comfortable being alone. |
LordReed:As one could clearly see, I differentiated between the two. my last paragraph clearly talked of the kind of arranged marriages practiced back in the day, the one you are insisting on. You talk as if arranged marriaged marriages only mean where a young woman is forced into getting into a marriage with an older male. An arranged marriage today comes in many different forms. Two people can come together based on what they want to achieve in life and one can choose to have a marriage that is not based on love or lordship and that certainly can be arranged with someone, for example if the person is looking to have kids or someone to be his beard. As clearly stated a contractual marriage Is an arranged marriage and many people do it. It's not all black and white. Many people get into marriages for different reasons and if you are clear about your terms and the partner knows that and adheres to it contractually, life gets much easier that way. If you don't agree with my concept of an arranged marriage that is fine but definitely no kidding here. |
Acidosis:been oK. Got a lot going on atm. How about yourself? |
Acidosis:hey |
bright007:Maybe, he has not been given her chop money, who knows... |
So no money for wedding but there is money to have kids? |
Honestly, I do not see anything wrong in choosing an arranged marriage as long as there is compatibility, the partner has what you are looking for and you share the same views. It will be like a contract subjected to both of your terms, not this man=authority many marriages normally deal with. I believe life will be so much easier that way. Note: This is quite different from what women had back in the day. Many of them did not have a choice, be it via compatibility or sharing the same life values. Many were like properties that wer acquired or sold in exchange for something. It will be impossible to have an arranged marriage like your grandfather's because women now have a voice and rights. If you are the type that goes by the "I am a man therefore, i have authomatic authority over you" nonsense, it will be quite hard for you to find a woman that doesn't have a voice and even if you do, you have to shield her from the world for your marriage to last. One day, one day, she could just meet someone who educates her on her rights and that's when she will turn to the type of woman you were trying to dodge. Someone who knew herself, knew what she wanted out of life and wanted more for herself than just being a weak man's "property." |
kennygee: ![]() |
kennygee:You have been wearing weave for so long that you have forgotten how easy it is to manipulate afros into any style you want. It is called a braid out with probably some water and oil. |
kennygee:Is it because of the colour or you saw the tracks? |
Dangotepikin, that will be a long and useless journey for me to make but all in all, you could post some pictures let me see whether you're right. |
lordthree:Best way..... If possible, get those sticky note pads and post them all over your house so as you walk pass doing your day to day business you will read what you need to know over and over again |
This is how you will go ra.pe persin. |
MzNelly:Why can you not argue logically without using any reference from the bible? Use your brain to figure out why you feel you aren't "worthy" to be on the same pedestal as a man. The Bible can be used to justify almost anything, even promiscuity and slavery. |
falconey:yes, people should just go do whatever they want to, sleep around if they want as long as they come home to their partners at night, probably bring home with them some stds to dash give their partners. I gats you man. ![]() |
Lol the way you just kept on coming across this girl and the way she just take off her clothes for you, it could be that all your cross signing has paid off. Who knows whether she be spirit or has a bad energy that will suck you dry. Thank your God, it could be that he covered your eyes so you won't see signal. ![]() |
tsdarkside:this is quite stupid. Fun or not, tattoos are not a white man's culture, get that right. |
tsdarkside:What are you saying? https://www.folkculturebh.org/en/imgs/issue13/a4/2.jpg |
Wait they actually released him? They did not have him checked by a professional to determine whether he needs to be in a prison or mental institute? |
meh! Everything in life comes with possible side effects.. |
naijaboiy:Did you share this yourself? |
sinaj:lol.. |
sinaj:Very!! 300pound just to do checkup in a private clinic because the public ones were closed And person nor fit wait until Monday. |
Afam4eva:Right ok. Black women are more confrontational because they are the race you are use to and it's constantly thrown in your face, so you assume any burst of anger or stand-offish behaviour to be more of a black woman trait. You are being fed a lie by tv and internet that black women are aggressors. They have been painted to be this in such a way that even if someone picks a fight or argument with them, people will always feel sorry for the one who started it. The confrontational behaviour exhibited on youtube videos occurs in every race. I have seen more people calling black women animals in fight videos than I have seen(if any) in white women videos. I normally just see a couple of comments saying how it seems people are ok saying horrible stuff about black women for fighting yet say nothing on the video of another race fighting. The idea that white women or other races of women are docile and quiet is a lie being fed to you just so you can look down on black women. Expand your search on youtube and you will see what I am talking about. If anyone wants to go for other women, that is perfectly fine(free world) but do not insult black women along the way. |
Afam4eva:No afam, we are not saying the same thing. You watched a couple of videos and made an ignorant statement that black women have issues. Yes, blacks tend to live in poorer neighbourhoods because they are a minority in these countries but compare the minority to the majority, you will have more of the majority living in those same neighbourhoods with the blacks. By your statement, you have clumped together all black women, even the average black woman who lives in better neighbourhoods in the same box. |
Dheartless:in the end, it all comes down to the environment....I still don't see why you quoted me. |
Dheartless:That's because if you are comparing two races, you have more blacks living in poorer environments than their white counterparts in certain countries. If you have those same white people, hispanics and asian living in that same poorer environment, they will have similar attitudes. Go to poland or these europeans countries that hardly have much of a black society and see their behaviours. Your ignorance only allows you to be bias and see black women as the devil. Bring up a black person equally in his richer counterpart's neighbourhood and see whether he will behave in that same mannerism as those in the poorer neighbourhoods. It was stup!d of you to quote me because if you were going to quote me at least quote me with an answer that negates my claim rather than actually acknowledge the point I made, which is, it is the environment that plays a role in the way a group of people behave rather than the race itself. Even in Africa, amongst blacks from different backgrounds you can differentiate those that come from poorer neighbourhoods and those that come from richer neighbourhoods by objectively looking at their behaviours and attitudes. There is no "angry" gene in a black woman's genetic makeup. Why is it that when black people in Africa break bottles on each other and fight we don't mention the race but when a black woman in a white man's country shows some anger, the ignorant black man will be the first to scream, " the black woman is naturally aggressive" yet keep mute when the women of other races act in a similar manner. Is it only black women who quarrel and fight? You find yourself watching videos of just black women fighting and screaming at each other because you want to use it as a yardstick to paint your whole race of women as rotten. |
Stelvin101:Taa! Should it not be the man of 32 who should be castigated for following an 18year when his intentions are not genuine? Abeg joor! Many 18years in Africa are naive and would believe someone actually has good intentions for them. It is a shame that there is no such thing as good intentions anymore over there. |
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