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cyril83:
You are talking like one of those ladies who turn their husband to errand boy.

You argue and if you can't argue, you get the phuck out of her way blablabla. My question is, why arguing with your husband in the first place ?

You argue, argue and keep arguing and you expect not to get boxed.

LekinsRibirth:
That woman must have done something despicable to warrant such beating. Maybe she was trying to hold ground with the man as what most women would do.
If you can't fight don't run your mouth! No man would beat his wife if she doesn't do something wrong. You know your husband is an animal yet you'll keep on exchanging words with him.
Sorry!

chibic:
so she's a thief? Even a thief does not deserve such beating. They should have handed her over to the police.

EbolaParasite:
Those tales about ocer washing your vjayjay will cause bacterial vaginosis don pass. Unless you use velcro or scrubbing brush to wash your private part, your point is moot. Personal hygiene is the number one factor. You'd be amazed at how many naija women reuse pants without washing

EbolaParasite:
You have bacterial vaginosis. When you have sex, it will smell like fish. Your personal hygiene down there is not on point. Clean properly and don't ever repeat pants without washing.

EnlightenedSoul:
I was gonna say...

Interestingly, men are generally asymptomatic to Trich. If it is indeed Trich, her partner may not even be aware that he has it (and that of course heightens the potential for spreading).

I've had the opportunity to see that microorganism on positive swab under a microscope. It was grossly astonishing.

LBTY:
I doubt if the gynecologist will be able to treat her while she's on. I'm sure he/she would need her pee and all that without a trace of blood in it. I think it's an infection but the period pushes it out the more then.

I might be wrong, just making a suggestion though. All the best!

blaizze:
Please what can cause foul smelling menstruation blood. I just noticed it last month on the last day of my period. The smell was so bad that I felt everyone could perceive it. I took some antibiotics and it stopped. but yesterday my flow started and this time it is worse!!! its really so frustrating.
has anyone experienced this before and what did you do. I cant go to the hospital right now cos I don't have enough money. maybe next week. Please I need help urgently. Please help me.

MizMyColi:

No person who believes in the finished work of Christ should subscribe to the concept of Karma

blublahd:
all this oyinbo tradition, what happened to bathing with your mother in-law?

yuncka:
But how the girl take reach the hostel? Abegi o, girls make Una no dey follow man go house or room, there is every possibilty that his body will not be a firewood.

Smh, CUMander in Chief of Man O F*ck.

bookface:
Nigerian girls hardly socialize in the UK, so I am not surprised at all by your dilemma. Like someone said, networking is your best bet. If you are a christian, attend local RCCG churches, you should also consider the bi-annual festival of life event. That said, you may need to lower your expectations a little.

aflyingbird:
kandiikane, can u answer my question, pls?

aflyingbird:
yup, agree with all of these.

yurubaajejiiyaw:
thank you for your advises. she wasn't the one who cooked it. however it never occurred to me that giving him advises in front of others may not be rude, although I did speak with authority it may sound like it to who doesn't know me.
I can certainly take her advises like from my mum but my mum would never talk to anyone like that unless she's really mad!

ephemm:
This is my opinion:
You were wrong to ask him not to eat amala late at night in the presence of the mother, mine too won't take it:

Reasons:
1. The mother had taken time to prepare the amala and she wants some appreciation for her effort from both of you by way of eating the food and giving some complimentary remarks afterwards.

2. She is probably sad and angry that you think she no longer know what's good for a boy she nurtured for 3 decades and U now know how to take care of him better.

3. You shouldn't have attempted to correct your husband in her presence - to her it means "you are controlling him"

4. She's naturally territorial like lots of MIL and as the older women in his life, her opinion should stand first.

I have used the 'amala' scenario to form my opinion, she may be wrong at other things o; but to truly be at peace with her, you must first love her as a mother and take her criticism as if it's coming from your mum.

In Yorubaland, a new wife is a new child in the family and they believe she must be trained to know the values of the family and would not hold back from chastising her if they perceive she has done something wrong.

At such instances just say "e ma binu ma" - "pls ma, don't be offended". You may be right, don't claim to be, but let your eyes be on the prize - your husband.

It will soften their hearts towards U.

Minemrys:
That's n0t quite true. Girls d0n't kn0w what they want. We guys determine if they want us or if they d0n't. Mznelly, can u be attracted to s0me0ne u d0n't want? Thats impossible. Re read my write up and its inner meaning. Its all about psychology. Again, gals d0n't kn0w what they want.

pretydiva:
Married 2 ur ancestors n u fink ur living a fulfilled life..smh 4 dis generation

TV01:
Asked and answered already - https://www.nairaland.com/2199777/thread-nairalanders-hate-marriage/2#31715506


It is relevant to marriage. Firstly, it's pivotal to why we have marriage and secondly and consequent to the first point, it's the certified best way to raise children. No one said procreation requires wedlock, what we are saying is wedlock optimises procreative outcomes - ATBE.


You mis-ascribed what the Bible prescribed regards marriage.


A marriage advocate cannot rightly have a male vs. female mindset. Marriage per se did not afford men the "benefit" you describe; even if certain men/cultures ascribed that "benefit" to themselves.


Indeed, I will vehemently deny it . Please show me where any man has stated his aim of getting married to "oppress his wife"
Breakdown? Which statement??

As stated; asked and answered already.


Yawn. The investment in children via birth and nurture invariably places a heavier toll on women. Think of the gestation period alone. A mans effort is minimal and limited to the point of conception.

A man committed to a woman and any offspring they may have "equalises" things somewhat and additionally, provides the best setting for those children.


Goodnight if you are going to keep "roundabouting" .


TV

However, I believe it's fair to say that it benefits women more

sampete:
can't post them here...these girls get thier lives to live nau! The fact dat I got hold of thier nude pics and videos does not mean I've the right to upload them online

TV01:
I did read you post actually - and again just now before responding to this one - just to be sure !
And no, I didn't quote you merely to argue against you, but because, I disagreed with your publicly aired statement. Although I whole-heartedly affirm I always find you worth "debating" !


Firstly, we'd have to agree on what the biblical presrciption for marriage really is - sas opposed to what people may believe it is. Then we'd have to see if it had been correctly adhered to, in correctly implemented or bastardised.

And believe you me - I am the "marriage man". I understand it in it's raison d'etre, it's dynamic and it's benefits, anthroplogically, religiously and culturally. None of that changes the true essence of marriage and it's purpose. I champion it "aspirationally"


Primarily as it means she and her children are invested in by a man commited to their well-being. In a sense, women have more to lose given what they contribute to child-bearing and the fact that even after birth the burden of child-raising typically falls unevenly on them.


Like I said aspirationally. I am not distracted by ill-founded cultural norms. Nor do I lose focus on marriages true essence due to abuse of it.


A proper understanding of marriage will enbale one to see the centrality of children to it's existence and childrens benefit from it.

Like I said, I focus and champion marriage on it's true essence - you appear to be railing against abuses. Hence my earlier comments. You also seem to be pursuing a male vs female line - although that may be in reaction to OP.



Marriage is not primarily about the self-actualisation of the two individuals within it - more the synergistic outcome of the two and any offspring.


My take is that you both yourself and OP fail to understand it, it's benefits to both sexes, or appreciate it for it's beauty and simplicity.

I'd love to see you well married !


TV^MIC