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benedictac:
you are wrong. I was only trying to let her know the divorce is never an option. she should work harder for her marriage to work. there is one thing u have to know about men, they love to be cared for and pampered they are like children. a little of this will sweep the man off his feet. it takes only the grace of God for men not to cheat.

as u can see, this man cheats and doesn't even respect his wife, he flaunts his cheating why is that so, becoz the other girl probably does what the wife doesn't. instead of complaining and nagging see how u can be more sweet to ur husband. when last did u send sweet text messages to him I.e "Honey are u coming home soon, I'm missing u" " I love u, can't live without u" and stuffs like that. How do u show ur appreciations. this is the secret of the other girl that makes the man go wild. You need more?

benedictac:
and I also said it takes the grace of God for any man not to cheat, and no it is not enough to stop him from cheating but will make the man respect and know he has a wife. The only one that can make any man not to cheat is genuinely having Jesus in his life.

leb0gang:
Thanks for ur replies. I just needed to talk to someone, a stranger, coz now the only person I was close to betrayed me. Your views made me realise the pros n cons of my relationship and that of my aunt. I dont blame her, but would've expected her to handle the situation better. Otherwise I love nigerians. Yal people are different and lovable.

benedictac:
I will never suffer in my marriage coz mine is built on the solid rock that can never be moved. You won't understand.

Funny enough my marriage is 6years and some months. I have never had any reason to doubt my husband. Our family account is in my name and I am the sole signatory he only has the alert. Can u do that? I know u can't coz u feel u're wise.

We are still trusting God for the fruit of the womb, but u know what? My 12yrs old son stays with us and bears his name. Everyone calls him my son's name. And he loves the boy as if is his. You see I could never had gotten a better gift after my salvation from God. I know u can never understand becoz u don't have such heart.

I've paid a big sacrifice in my marriage that my friends, families, in-laws and people like u think I charmed him.

you must pay a price for anything u desire. be it good or bad.

let me stop here for now. Smiles

crackhaus:
Right after ya, or would you like to come into my man-cave for some good humping?

coogar:
i like you kandii but you are an apple farmer.

coogar:
and you would be very correct.
kandii is always on heat.

crackhaus:
A goat on the same internet as you are, one which you quoted and unnecessarily shinning your teeth for.

I guess this means you're a nanny goat/doe on heat.

freecocoa:
C'mon now that's different, we are talking about a young single woman here and assuming you could have $ex around their schedule, what would it be like having to schedule when to be intimate with your boo?

Have you made passionate hot love before?

benedictac:
take it or leave it my husband has never cheated on me and so are many men out there.

back to op, before my wedding I made up my mind that my marriage must work and for that to happen I will have to use his bad characters as cream ( u can't see cream again after rubbing it) and to use his good characters as my clothing. my dear marriage is not bed of roses but remember u are what u make ur marriage .

Though it looks men are the head of the marriage, but in real sense God has handed the marriage in the hands of women that is y He said the wise woman builds her home why the foolish woman uses her hands to destroy hers. Also remember men hate nagging women the bible says it is better to live under a licking roof than to live with a nagging woman.

Pls @ Op stop questioning him, my father has more men than women so i know what i'm saying. this is Africa and not the Western world. pls save marriage and do whatever godly is possible. You do ur part as the good wife not unto him but unto God who judges all things and weighs all actions. I know it is not easy, but the grace of God is made available. Wish u the best.

freecocoa:
Someone asked what the consequences of living with one's parent as a young woman are, I laugh at him.

So y'all will be cool having $ex in your parents house? Yes I said $sex.

crackhaus:
I find my man-cave quite cozy and warm with an endless supply of gorgeous women and cold alcoholic beverages - do you have a problem with that?

crackhaus:
I know how much you long and desire to be a man with a working c0ck..

News flash: It's never going to happen

Tallesty1:
I said "too much freedom".


And try read the comment that I quoted.

crackhaus:
Thank you for this post, every single bit I put in bold is/are valid reason(s) - your peace of mind, the nature of your job, and the persistent rows with your mother.

I was expecting you to mention the 'job' excuse, and you went even further to include your tense relationship with your mother... so I'm impressed. These are valid reasons.

Now for the bit in italics, I take exception and do not co-sign on it.
Those are all things any/every young woman can learn living under her parents', especially when she already attended a tertiary institution and experienced/acquired some decision-making and self-sustainment skills.

My point so far leads here:
Freedom is a desire every young girl longs for at some point...but unless her home is run like a military boot-camp and noting your valid reasons as the exception, I don't expect any young woman to live outside her parents' on the excuse of wanting freedom.
Any freedom other than the limited one she already has living with her parents, is unnecessary.

It's a different ball game for young men though

However, I gotta ask - without the nagging, tirades, and criticisms of your mother, would you have considered moving out?

sassygal:
I'm certain his reason has to do with the archaic thinking that all single girls who live on their own are promiscuous. That's why I asked him again

Mondisweets:
If she is still living in the same city as her parents she might as well stay with them, it will save her a lot of money she can actually use later on in the future.

crackhaus:
My reasons why an unmarried young woman can live outside of her parents' only if she resides in a different city, state, or country?
Just one reason - because she resides in a different city, state, or country.

As for the second part of my post, I said "I see no reason" .
You are to give your valid reasons why any lady should live away from her parents' when she lives in the same city as they do.

Please don't mention freedom, it makes the supporter of such an excuse seem rebellious.

Tallesty1:
Too much freedom has alot of consequences ma.


And talking about choice?


What if she made a bad one?

babestell:
He may not be cheating (yet)

Sometimes it is possible for opposite sexes to form close bonds, that may seem like cheating. what kind of guy is he? Are you guys so close that you talk about everything? That maybe what he has with the other lady. A close friendship

I have a married male colleague who am close to. We go for mass together, enjoy the same activities, laugh at the same jokes, talk about everything. One day I asked him if his wife knew I existed and he said no, apparently he was pulling the same kind of moves your hubby did. eventually he did and the wife confessed that she had heard about me from other people and she didn't say anything because she kinda trusted her husband. madam and I are cool now not friends but we are cool.

For your peace of mind, don't start suspecting or reading meanings into his actions as that is a recipe for high blood pressure, rather work on becoming friends and realize that people will always have secrets, even toddlers have secrets not to talk of adults whose past we cannot verify. Of course this is just me presenting a different angle to the story

Stillfire:
It's unfortunate when good people get entangled with people who have mastered the art of playing mind games. Such people would frustrate you and soon you will learn from them and begin to act like them.

olorimadam:
He actually kept quiet for a while, then responded that i shd get help cos am mad. Shuoooo on top outside woman?

Daresh:
Me I've reached realization that I cannot kill myself for any man. If he wants to follow mistress, odabo, good luck to him.

UjSizzle:
Funny thread and people

Men have a lot of problems really. If saying what the OP typed here is enough to earn a woman a wedding ring, then most of you will be running out of your houses in no time

In other news, why is it ok to call a woman an asset if she can go beyond being a domestic appendage, to holding up her end in providing finance when her man is down, and a taboo to even suggest that a man helps on the domestic end
Or shouldn't that be part of what makes a man an 'asset' too?

All these partiality you people are sharing eh, it's not good oo.

Gorgeous58:
Seriously, some women do the later. As for the former, taking care of house chores won't cut it if the man becomes financially handicapped tomorrow. The woman should at least have something to offer when trying times come around. What if she becomes widowed? What then?

pcguru1:
Can't both partner share responsibility, obviously maybe not giving birth part,

Idowuogbo:
Thanks! Ok maybe later.

Idowuogbo:
March

teeo:
Hi Kandikane.

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