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bukatyne:
Hahahaha

My titles are growing

Feminist, anti-feminist, misogynist, fanatic, Feminazi, divorce advocate etc.

Some things might be offensive yet objective.

For instance, if you warn a girl to be careful whom she opens her legs for because she bears the burden of pregnancy, it is offensive yet objective.

I love women and would expect them to be willing to face the consequences of their actions.

When they do not like the consequences of their actions, I am all for going back to the drawing board. Let's see what was obtainable before and tweak it to work today.

That has actually been the driving force of most of my threads.

The society outside is different from Nairaland.

Great!
Your tithes can only grow from PSYCHOS!
That is why we have so many ofege-pastors all over Africa.

Please, let me find the BEST REPLY I got from that your “deleted thread rebuttal”.

Baby-doll? You are NO FRIEND to any free-thinking woman. I could write pages, but do not wish to make this personal. Especially as you are now feeling real “fly”.

It practically summed up what I feel like writing.

Here goes:

merahki:
Hello, I read it and found it offensive and wrong
Don’t lose your humanity in a bid to “sound” intellectual
Cheers

This was so deeeeeep, I felt it for you. Please, accept it in good faith. It will do you a lot of good prior to copying and pasting “shyte” all over NL and other social media.

doitforyou:
yes she is!! But she is a sly one.

Only “the blind” cannot see.
This thread just exposed her COMPLETELY.
People cried to have it deleted.


The title alone neither tickles my curiosity nor motivated my fingers to open the thread.

I just felt like . . . *jump am pass*.

It was only after the thread was deleted I realized she actually opened another thread to question why the thread was deleted.

Seriously?
I would rather listen to a “GAGGLE OF GAFFING 20-somethings” PUBLICLY discussing their sexual binges in a movie theater, than click on that nauseating thread about “marital rape”


Look at who is writing about DECORUM?

Muchechecheche

LWKMD!!!!

bukatyne:
She was talking about ladies with decorum, decent and ladylike.

See that she said the men would become gentlemanly.

Men would often put on their best behavior when they see a girl of class they like till they 'catch' her if their intents are not genuine.

There is a reason we have public and private parts. There is also a reason why the public is called 'public'.

Decorum and decency is expected.

And you would be shocked what decent people discuss with their friends and partners in private.

Sure. It should be a private discussion, away from the “prim and proper”! Totally agree.
But, should they be used as examples for mysoginistic outlets and subjectified as “deviants”?

bukatyne:
My message has always been direct.

Yeah, sometimes.
Other times, no.

I pointed out one of your threads that was deleted. I saw it and NEVER bothered to click on it. Even when others were appealing to you that it was offensive, you still stuck to your guns. Till it was finally deleted.

This thread is another one on a less offensive note.

Let me tell you about you and “some” of YOUR THREADS.

In a nutshell, you are a closet misogynist.

E.O.D!

bukatyne:
No where did the OP mention virginity in her comment.

Interestingly, boys who would stoop so low to discuss their sexual contests in public would be looked down upon.

In fact, I have never seen a group of boys or men uncouth enough to discuss their sexual business in public.

Amongst themselves? Yes which often times is 'coded'.

Ok, my misunderstanding then.
Please, explain what “the mystique of feminism abi na femininity” means, so we do not lose it entirely.

I frankly do not understand what the author meant.

Stoop so low. . . ? How? By whose standards?

Interesting that you only felt put off by the contents of their discussion(chopping a HUGE DIIICCK after a good binging party ) ? I found it quite entertaining and HILARIOUS!

I was only irritated they were being loud in a movie theater, where people PAID to have some peace and quiet. I don’t give a ratzzzmatazzzzz what they were discussing. Knowing just “a little” about moi on or offline, . . . . I have done and acted worse EVEN WITHOUT A DROP OF ALCHHOL or a ANY form of DRUG! I still dey kamkpeeee for MY HOUSE with husband and all. Amen!!!! No apologies.

So, do you and Debra McLeod claim some ethical or moral superiority over them, simply because they loudly discussed your “taboos of social decorum or broke your rules of public etiquette” in a public place?


*btw, there is nothing that needs to be coded when talking about vaginas and penisees or getting a “real hump” in the real world. the women like those ladies in the article love to keep it real with their binges and orgies. no pretence necessary. my kind of women and men. if you don’t like them, leave them alone. they finally left the theatre right? no need to use others as examples for not meeting the “holy-nwenhe-standards of st. debra mcleod. . . . just saying, it is ok to phock, let phock and talk about it. i find such traits in men or women very refreshing from the perspectives of “sanctimonious prudes and emotionally-constipated hypocrites. -. . . . .

please dm dr.-st-debra-mvleod in her any of her in-boxes or “blogs” to stop writing about “we women”. i find it extremely patronizing and terribly all-inclusive. . . . . as a “woman” too, she should never speak for moi. . . . thanks.

Too bad.
Whatever the “relationship or marriage basket” holds, just carry it as light or heavy as it is as you go through the “market of life”.

Just as women all over the world wake up one sunny morning or rainy night to realize too early or late in their marriages, that their ogas are raising children by other women, living double/triple lives, while spreading diseases as “extra gifts”.

Na so life be o!
Oga, sorry o!

AstralBody:
Only God will deliver us from this lying demons

Still on YAHOO-YAHOO NEXTLEVEL?

*death*

ornicus:
Finally. I don tire for all the emotional blackmail women have been pouring out in these issues.how do I abandon a child I never wanted in the first place?

You can’t blame them.
The checkered domestic environment in which strong parental/family ties are severely lacking is to blame. This is a typical case of raising YASEF OR, BY CAMPUS BOYS!

There are some BASIC THINGS ALL GIRLS SHOULD KNOW from age 5!

1. When it comes to pregnancies, wanted or UNWANTED. . . . There is ONLY ONE PARENT. The GIRL OR WOMAN. Males will always have choices, females DO NOT!

In this case, the woman started phocking before KNOWING HERSELF! A Major disgrace!

Her papa, mama OR GRANDMAMA nor whisper some MAJOR “tins” to her ears before she begin divide her toto about ke!

She should have been my younger sister or daughter.

This na domestic matter between the parties involved abeg.

If na my man, I know wetin I go do am.
No be Facebook matter. Na “terror- cell” we go visit to reset im “coconut” kia-kia!

You attract what you are.
Shikena.

We go report JAGBA and OMO-AJEGUNLE dia too?

About time too.
So proud of you!
Time to do what the Nigerian government and the police cannot do.

Time to know who the real Nigerians are. Enough of this Fulani Herdsmen CRRRRRRAP!!!

Especially in the NORTH!!!

Time to enlist Nigerian YAHOO-YAHOO boys and girls in BORDER PATROL DUTY in NYSC too!!!!

crackhaus:
We agree on this 100%, but it seems your fans from the other thread do not appreciate this unpopular opinion and won't call you out from fear of your usual everywhere-belle-face rants.

Nairaland is too funny.

Come on now.
Only mediocre minds will stick to a one-sided approach to life ALWAYS.

Haba!

See as young man take drugs finish imsef!
See bags under his eyes.
Cute my butt!

crackhaus:
Blogs?

I asked how many of her books you have read, and you're talking about blogs.
How can you claim to know the mind of someone you have never met in person, whose works you have never studied?
Na so dem teach you to understand people from the school you go?

As for every other thing you're ranting about, I leave you to your demons.

Thank you sah!

crackhaus:
You did no research, don't kid yourself.
You're talking to crackhaus.

How many of her books have you read?
Have you even read one?

Yet you know how her mind works.

Calloti you're seeing things that aren't there, simple.

Ok. Let NL be the judge.
I can NEVER subscribe to such blogs written by Debra McLeod for MANY REASONS.

#1. I am an authority in my own sexuality, relationship, psychiatric and emotional health. I don’t need her blogs or BOOKS from ANY relationship/marriage coach. Dat na for those wey need “help”! HA! DEM BOKU-BOKU. Every problem need “pastor” o. Even that which can be EASILY FIXED by the individual.

I know you very well ke, like I know MOST old posters. From the title of their threads, you can figure out what types of messages they send.
Na dis kind of “wayo” topics dem go see you.
Especially with your philosophical affiliation with some of the OP’s peculiar topics relating to male-female relationships.

The reason this thread was deleted.

https://www.nairaland.com/5222572/reason-why-thread-marital-rape


I am glad most can see through the real intentions and messages of some threads and those who post them.

Not everyone is an illiterate on NL.

I wish the OP will be more direct in his/her messages. No need for “politics”.

If she want virginity and love-letters, fine. Men like you are available. Make una nor venture near my gate.

Shikena!

Madam failed to protect herself and got pregnant for a single/married/divorced/widowed BABY DADDY and is crying for help?
She made a reproductive choice and must deal with it ALONE.

Na who send her message?

See wahala o?
Dem wan kill am like dem kill Abiola?
Na by force to attend?

Skodiswayze:
My Mom was a year ahead of him during secondary school days, my Dad was a grade II teacher then bro
Muslim grammar school Ede.

We need to check ya mama and papa own too!

Skodiswayze:
C'mon pipe the fvck down
Adeleke get waec, e nor just complete (which makes it different)

Forgery!

MicroBox:
Tinubu worked for all these American companies with primary school certificate abi? Arthur Andersen, Deloitte, Haskins & Sells, GTE Services Corporation and Mobil Oil Nigeria.
Abeg get your facts right..
Don't be educated illiterate and don't reason like one

Forgery!

crackhaus:
I didn't want to, so I'm glad you typed that yourself.
You're just reading meaning to something that isn't there to be read, while ignoring the fact she actually did state it has nothing to do with feminism.

You may to do some research on the author.
I did. You might just have a better understanding of how her mind works. I know her type.

The ones with WAEC certificates holding offices nko? Are they better?

Buhari nor get.
Tinubu nor get.
Adeleke nor get.

This is the TRUE standard in Nigeria.

Make we hia word abegggggi!

crackhaus:
Kai..

But isn't that what the writer noted too?

Indeed! The writer was only trying to be “mischievous”. She was only playing the devil’s advocate to prepare her readers for her real BEEF. The perfect manifesto for “brain-washers”aka pastors, swindlers and yahoo guys/dolls.
She knew she would find an audience by mentioning “feminism”, so the usual feminism-bashers would answer the call to war, even without understanding what they are reading.


I ask you again:
What has feminism got to do with a group of ladies experiencing some kind of psycho-sexual “hangover” in a movie theater?

Why did the author even mention feminism in her article? To settle her own wahala with the nostalgia of “virginity”. You already know.
She finally landed by talking of how women used to be “enigmatic” and “mystical” to MEN! Ha! In this age of same-sex unions?

Anyone can just wake up, pick a particular behavior or lifestyle he/she does not believe in and find any way to sneak the word “feminism” into it.

You find this all over NL.
If people understood that feminism is purely subjective, they would never discuss it.

This is a classical case of the logical fallacy of ASSOCIATION. You should be familiar with how con-artists operate. They start by appealing to your weakest emotions, then finally land to rip you off with their true intentions.

But because the word “feminism” has been misused by most, it brings out the worst in the most shallow minds. Why? To create unnecessary “beef” amongst emotional intellectuals devoid of any sense of understanding.

This social media sef?
They only way people can solve their problems or live up their fantasies?

Good luck to them.

crackhaus:
You missed the point of that article by a long shot, not least going by all you typed, but most from the fact that the writer in fact noted this, yet it eluded you:

Some people blame or do not blame feminism for ?
I just had a hard time relating any iota of feminism to what the writer was trying to share.

Who are the “some people” blaming “feminism”?

That is the danger of using one’s viewpoint to speak for others.

It is her opinion ONLY. As a woman, I do not share or subscribe to any portion of the article, hence there should be a correction. She should have written from an “I” perspective, not a “WE WOMEN” one.

If “some” or “dem say” peeps are complaining, where are “they”? “They” should speak for themselves.

Why the “busy-body” woman nor get up from her chair go begin preach to the “akulas”? Dem for WOZE am DORTY, HOT SLAPS ke.

Feminism is like religion.
Practice YOUR OWN without PREACHING to others.
Every woman has her own meaning of feminism.
The ones that use MEN as their “pastors” to preach feminism are the very WORST kinds. I avoid them totally. But like I earlier stated, their choices. Free world. Feminism should not speak for ALL WOMEN. That is my point.

This article is quite misleading.
We are dealing with a public disturbance, not feminism. I do not care if the ladies chose to narrate how and why they were “wasted and over-sexed”. Not anyone’s gaddem buzz! They should have taken their “noise” to a sports bar or their home. . . . Far away from awon “me and my husband” PLCs.

We, as women, used to be something of an enigma to men. We used to have feminine mystique, an inscrutable and alluring "something" that men wondered about. And boy, did they try hard to figure us out. They used to trip over themselves trying to impress us with their charm, kindness and wit.

Na who be “we”?
Na who be “they”?

Na who dey look for who to “trip”?
See freak show!


FEMININE MYSTIQUE = VIRGINITY?
What is the mystique in feminism?
You live your life to be validated by others(men or women) and you call yourself a feminist?
There is no “we” in feminism. I don’t do labels or “gangster-philosophy”. Do your own, I do my own.
Abeg no be “WE” matter!
Shikena!

Like lipsticked versions of the typical unruly kids at the back of the bus, their antics were soon in full-swing and their volume was set to maximum. Here's what we -- and every single other person in the theatre -- heard.

"I shi*t you not, I was so f*cking wasted I can't remember how I got home!"

"You were like SO f*cking hilarious! You were like dry humping that guy so bad...he probably went in the can to jerk off..."

"That guy sent me a pic of his dick!"

Just as one young woman was launching into a fairly graphic description of the aforementioned "dick," a theatre employee -- oh how my heart went out to this poor chap -- approached them and asked them to keep it down. After finding several ways to argue with and insult him, they finally piped down. And then they left halfway through the movie.

Sooooo, na wetin cause wahala be dis?
Interesting the narrator did not emphasize on the fact that the ladies were being loud. Women should not discuss the almighty DICKK in public o, but should only HIDE in secrecy/hypocrisy to discuss and share their experiences. If men discussed the female anatomy in such terms or worse, women would accept it as “boys will be boys talk”. Women have to learn to CHOP DICKK and pretend to be “coy” to “trip” men.

The only problem here is that the ladies were in a movie theater. I don’t see anything strange in their behavior. Glad they left the theatre, so as not to disturb others.

Awon me and “my husband” group of feminist-mystiquettes! These ladies are not married and have every right to demystify their own “feminism”!

Kudos to them!

I was sitting in the movie theatre this past weekend to see The Imitation Game with my husband Don when a gaggle of twenty-something gals walked into the theatre, continuing past us to sit in the very back row.

What has this got to do with feminism?
THESE ARE ADULTS LIVING THEIR LIVES.
If they are public nuisances, they would be dealt with as such. If they had such conversations in the privacy of their homes, would anyone care?


I personally believe in the right to self-determination and autonomy.
Feminism is defined by subjective standards. One size does not fit all.

Being a feminist is about more action than words.
If women decide to express their sexuality like men, POWER to them. I personally love women who are in control is their game.

I am not the kind that loves the “love-letter” mode of chivalry. My needs are very few and there is not much any man OR WOMAN can do for me right now.

If I decide to BLOW a guy at the back of his car, my business. If it manages to surface on YT, FB, IG, WU, SC or TT. . . . YOUR BUSINESS.

Bottom line, speak for yourself only! If you can find people to agree with you, fine. If not, please don’t cry for another woman’s right to behave or misbehave. Free world.

Like GBAJA-JAGBA, like OMO AJEGUNLE!!!!

Yet Onnoghen is CORRUPT, and Atiku is a thief!

Muchechecheche

Tramadol!!!!

Ignoring the source of the anger.
I have learned to take the time to find out WHY I AM ANGRY in the first place.

When I ask my self why I am angry, I often have absolutely no reason to be.

I just ignore the source of agitation to something more positive.

All these “go-fund-us” marriages sef?

Instead of tripling his hustle, he is busy crying at home to a “God” that is smiling at his tears.

And the woman is so touched by the “golden tears” of A MAN!

WOW! EPIC!!!!

What exactly are you ashamed of?
Typical of a BLACK, RELIGIOUS HYPOCRITE!

You are an adult with no control of your life or impulses.

Did you commit any crime?
Are you in a committed relationship?

If you were sure of your “boyfriend-of-four-years”, you would have at least protected yourself from any diseases or unwanted pregnancies.

You have only 2 options.

1. Keep the child.
2. Kill the child.

Either way, you will have to deal with the emotional consequences.

Next time, use your head. . . . above your waistline.

You do not have any problem. The men are not thinking about YOU! You think about YOURSELF FIRST!