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Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

tanigororo:
I don't know what to say, if you see how guys sleeps with this girls all in the name of marriage, you will pity them.
But yet, they can't be pity because:
A guy who told you he only wants to sleep with you and you start telling him you want marriage, he will promise you marriage to sleep with you.
When you are tired, you will run for your sanity. It's no more chop and run, it's now chop till she runs.

UDOKABESTLUV:
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UDOKABESTLUV:
Source: https://leadership.ng/just-in-fg-approves-n70000-monthly-transport-allowance-for-workers/

doggedfighter:
Lies
This is nothing but lies.

A dick is just a dick.

No dick is sacred or holy so nothing abominable.

The only important thing is let the genital meet and greet be CONSENSUAL.

DeOTR:
PDP spent 16 years in power, Atiku spent half of those as VP, but couldn't implement his own blueprint?
Do you these even listen to themselves while speaking at all? I mean, this doesn't sound like a statement that's coming from someone who should be allowed to lead a team of 5 laborers talk less of a country with 200 million people.

GOFRONT:
Wow......See sweet Milf.

When will Regina celebrate hers this way??

We have been patiently waiting for her to be returned back to street for those of us that are interested in having a taste of her cutie pot

Rapmoney:
Desmond Elliot as an actor is talented and exceptional, but as a leader, he really disappointed so many of us who cherished his personality.

It was Desmond Elliot who kicked against social media at a time people were using social media to fight injustice.

It was Desmond Elliot who called adults children at a sensitive time just for using social media to protest.

Today, injustice has come to the same Desmond Elliot and he is running to the same social media to protest and complain.

Today, he is going back to the same children to protest and complain. The World rotates and so does the table. What goes around must surely come around. Wetin happen for goat house fit happen for fowl house too.

We must always remember that no matter where we go, we should never forget where we are coming from for the sake of tomorrow.

Dilijingsly:
I was about making out with her when I discovered greyish hairs, at first, I thought it was the juice from her but as i kept banging i discovered it was greyish hairs.. what could be the cause. Abi her kpomo don make gbim

CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?

Count y teeth with y tongue 👅 dont ever overlook red flag..e get y


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

Lovelink1991:
another disgraceful incident has hitted the catholic church and the Christian body as a whole as a Rev Father was caught pant down with members wife.

Watch the video via this YouTube link


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CYlM3ixAO3A?si=6RIXXFwh4HaY4LL_

Jokerman:
Can you prove Obi is a thief?

Faith0:
https://dailypost.ng/2026/01/26/borno-2027-i-dont-know-who-will-succeed-me-zulum/

insidelife22:
Let's be real Wizkid stopped making good and quality music a long time ago

He beefs people to stay relevant.

Old cat in new house.

CyynthiaKiss:
One year ago, everything changed.
The return of strength. The return of America First. The era of winning is here — and it’s just getting started.

MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN 🇺🇸

Nlfpmod Nlfpmod

MarketDispatch:
How will they steal? You select how many litres you want to buy, pay first, machine will give you green light and stop at the exact amount you purchase.

I am sure it will not be like UK own that you will dispense petrol first before paying.

Hamachi:
Remote Work Is Not a Joke – Learn the Game Before You Enter

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madridguy:
The man is destined to suffer

Thundafireseun:
I believe I speak on behalf of all sane Nigerians when I say we are tired of Regina and her husband’s news

Thundafireseun:
I believe I speak on behalf of all sane Nigerians when I say we are tired of Regina and her husband’s news

Sonnobax15:

I won't be surprised if Ned should release those tapes , with the way the whole saga is going......

If not for f00lishnex,why would a married man,an old man like Ned allow his legally married wife to be filming herself during intimacy? @

Cha,lemme reserve like 1gb for corner wey I go use rush download am anytime Ned Nwoko feels like empowering his constituents with clips of the tape

Neddstark:
Sammie that was bragging on breaking Ned's jaw.

AqualinaXYZ:
Till u hype people sons and fathers enter wahala u no go rest



U don dey run mouth like abandoned Ajaokuta steel





Comparing ekuke Nigerian soldier to USA

ThroneNGamez:
https://x.com/instablog9ja/status/1985047334598934531?t=tJxIKR08QepMbPIdN9_foA&s=08[/quote]I can't stop laughing my ass out

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dS5oS7iu-bg?si=IE7pAUOU_gefVA0o