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Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

It is self-respect to leave the stage when the ovation is loud, it takes two to tango, commitment, fidelity and understanding are necessary ingredient to a successful relationship and marriage which is obviously missing in your relationship, it is better you end things with her, it could be painful to let go but you will survive, you cannot force it.

paxonel:
You are simply a stupid Christian, mumu!

Whaat? for 5 years of brain washing?
Mehnnnn!

Sorry, don't be annoyed that I'm using those terms to describe you. It is simply what it is

You are the Mumu here, castigating and insulting someone that seek an advise, it depict how shallow minded you are, in the midst of multitude there are good and bad counsel.

Quite disheartening the complacency of the former president, that can only initiate some positive move but no gut to implement them, why proposing such when you no there won't be implementation, you have big opportunity to turn the country around especially when oil sales was booming, the Confab report, Restructuring.

BeeBeeOoh:
https://punchng.com/progressive-ideas-i-championed-were-abolished-after-my-exit-says-jonathan/

of the futuristic savings, how much he has, I hope no be sabi e wan dupe the girl out of her desperation

muyico:
Why wasting her times? If u didnt need her again? Let her go!! I didnt c any seriousness in U!!

Spokesperson, grassroot mobilizer and fact checker, pls do not lose your identity and focus all in the name of fact checking o

vengertime:
Any fact check from Ibadan expressway news paper is lies.


Obidients don't lie, they go down to the grassroots to confirm their information

I guess you are one Fubara's sympathizer, if not maybe you are the Accountant general of the state to have vehemently denied it. Governors are culpable of highhandedness especially in the affair of council local government finance, reason why many kick against Local government autonomy

Xscape1993:
Lies from the deepest pit of hell.

Namaster:
A 17-year old kid has not started life. Has no reason to take a nascent life still brimming with potential.

His death is a shame.

Effect of moral decadence, poor parenting, dysfunctional society, all these are factors that contribute to the trending social malady. The society metric for success is Money (either legit or illegit)

Testiebobo:
I promised my brother that i will assist him to get a laptop for his design business by contributing half of the money. Th HP system cost 120K, so i should pay 60k.

But it's over 2months now and the money i was expecting did'nt arrive. He called me yesterday to blame me for being the cause why he had already spent half of his contribution.

The last text he sent to me on whatsapp was"thanks for the delay!". And this morning i discovered he had already blocked me. I only saw my messages on his dm and none of his texts were there.

If money is that easy to make, he shouldn't be relying of you for assistance, this is simply an arrogant and entitled mindset, it is good that he already set the boundaries, you cannot die or kill yourself all in the name of being a responsible brother, ignore him as well, he will learn in the hard way, I guess all his needs are been catered for, that is why he cannot relate

SeeWahala:
I bought a can of Guiness Extra Stout for N900 yesterday night

I drank 4 cans

How many agbad0rians can do what I did?

Hope you received an award after your trailblazing accomplishment

Validated:
Leave them to Suffer. When they start selling their children to feed, they will realize Obi would have saved them.

We have all seen that Tinubu is an empty vessel, worse than Buhari

What exclude you from the proposed suffering you envisage for humans as you, Obi or none of this politicians are messiah, only God, functioning society that shun corruptions, stand by justice, not crooked means of survival, promoting integrity and emphasizing it at home, in school, in church, re-orientation of mindset will be the game changer, not your allusion.

Lovenorth:
Someone stole what originally belongs to you, he now come around and give you small portion of it and you are glorifying the person as if he has done you any favor. Ignorance is a disease

Wiseman, beyond your crude analysis, proffer solution on how to get back your rightful inheritance.

yemmight:
The quality of the road is bad.

Engineer talking, abeg share fact, before bad belle ruin you

Mayoisemj4real:
The lies you tell yourself,but deep down inna your head you know you need rescuing from yourself

See this self acclaimed seer, thumb up to your folly

APOPTOSIS:
This CHILD is Innocent...
Never asked or requested for such.
KIDS come into this world to meet Religion
KIDS come in to meet tribes they never bargained 4
KIDS come in and get names they never bargained 4
KIDS come in to meet Parents they never bargained 4.
This is how we shape the future of Innocent kids.
We are basically products of our environment
Who still does such a Rubbish..?
What's this?😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Pls don't cry

Mayoisemj4real:
let me start from you sir

so unfortunate that my emotional intelligence surpasses yours, therefore check elsewhere, good luck

post=128591135:
It will be well with your soul las las.
We will continue to put you and your ilks in prayers 🙏.


Nothing good in life or Nigeria especially makes them happy.
Na there dem damey so.

No pessimistic mind ever succeed in life. In case you dont know, you are bearing and reflecting what is inside of you, which is negativity and failure

Mayoisemj4real:
Thats generous but you should keep some for the raining days,you gon need it

You need to utilize your skills properly by venturing into counselling

BucketMan:
Hello guys, please I need your advice. I'm currently in a dilemma on what to do with my life presently. I'm a lawyer called to the bar in December 2022. Afterwards I practiced in a law firm for 6 months before resigning due to the meagre salary and harsh work environment. I just couldn't keep up, Although I can confirm that legal practice was very terrific but it's something that you can only enjoy if you're well paid at the Law firm or company you work with to effectively maintain the standard expected from you.

I've been jobless for 8 months now as all the efforts I put into securing a job ended in futility. I'm thinking of going for my masters degree(LLM) instead of staying idle at home with my parents. I think by doing this I can keep myself busy and improve on my career academically while also trying to find a good job in today's Nigeria.

Serious advice needed please

You can venture into tech skills, Project Management etc. Be dynamic with your career

Mayoisemj4real:
Am sure you must have bought your own garri on time and cheaper for you to be advising someone so the price no go cost for am

I can afford to part away some for you, you don't have to be indirect with begging

phorget:
Cooked up story!
So what exactly was the woman doing in the lions den?

It is not wise to oppose without coming up with fact, I guess you are there to narrate what transpired, not sheeply talking

franchasofficia:
Of course Tinubu made it obvious to all Nigerians that he doesn't have any blueprint or plans on how to govern Nigeria when:


1.) Tinubu refused to show up for Presidential debate to sell his agenda to Nigerian voters


2.) Tinubu went to Chatham house in London and when the anchor asks him questions on how he planned to govern Nigeria if he is elected President of Nigeria, Tinubu instead of using such a rare opportunity to showcase his leadership skills rather assigned various APC members in the room to answer each of the questions while he formed boss of a narcotic gang before the whole world


3.) Tinubu rejected all invitations by journalists and different Nigerian media houses to come and tell Nigerians how he plans to govern Nigeria differently from the calamitous Buhari.



Nigerians knew all these but tribalism and religious madness didn't allow some sections of Nigeria to reason well. Instead they went ahead to vote for a clueless, confused old man called Tinubu in the name of its Yoruba turn even after Yorubas produced Military President in 1976, Interim President in 1993, an annulled President in 1993, another civilian President in 1999 to 2007 and another Vice President from 2015 to 2023. Their conscience and voice of reasoning didn't tell them that they ought to tell their son Tinubu to step aside and allow their Igbo Southern brothers to try for once since 1970, and you guys think nature and God will be happy with Nigeria and Nigerians for such injustice and inhumane treatment of Igbos in Nigeria?




Worst off, the criminal, corrupt INEC Chairman helped some of the deluded heartless Nigerians that gave Tinubu the few votes he got legitimately by switching off the IREV viewing portal to enable Tinubu and his evil APC gang to carry out an electoral heist that led to the foisting of a clueless, drug trafficking criminal as Nigeria's President. Now take a look at where we are today?



Naira is becoming worthless by the day, tell me which other country's currency loses almost 15% of its value everyday?


Kidnappers, terrorists and foreign fulani herdsmen terrorists have taken over all Nigerian forests, rural communities and farming communities, wrecking havoc, molesting women, killing farmers, kidnapping road users and travelers, crippling our economy and rendering Nigerian children parentless and turning many to orphans on daily basis yet the man we call President doesn't care instead he is busy telling Nigerians an imaginary story of how to endure temporary for an unrealistic better tomorrow that even the failed Buhari promised during his own calamitous 8 year regime that never came.




Construction sector that employs majority of Nigerians is already crippled by exorbitant price of cement, agricultural sector that also employ most Nigerians in rural areas have been completely crippled by insecurity caused by rampaging foreign fulani terrorists imported into Nigeria by same APC politicians still Tinubu doesn't care.


Whatever Nigeria is going through today is self inflicted out of hatred and dislike for one another, especially unjust hatred for Igbos that have lasted for decades.


The hatred Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas have for Igbos when it comes to national politics and development is the reason Nigeria will never develop the way we desire. Until Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas genuinely repent of their evil mindset towards Igbos when it comes to national politics and economic development, Nigeria will continue to remain below par, it's not a curse, its scriptural.


You cannot cut off one of your hands and still expect yourself not to be handicapped?


Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas don't want Igbos to produce President of Nigeria so that the evil policies and hidden traps they set against Igbos after the civil war ended in 1970 wont be dismantled by an Igbo President, for this, they are happy a mad man from any other tribe becomes the President of Nigeria instead of a competent Igbo man becoming the President.


Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas want Igbos and Igbo region to remain underdeveloped to teach Igbos political lesson they had been teaching them since 1970 the civil war ended, and because of that they kept the entire Nigeria on the floor thinking they will destroy only Igbos and their 2x2 shop businesses



Nigeria make una brace up, the future of Nigeria as a nation looks so bleak

This write can earn you some dollars on upwork through writing, stop wasting your skill on unproductive things, don't forget that you will buy garri tomorrow

AqualinaXYZ:
Na una favorite line be this




“What would have Obi done differently”




Now my question is if Obi and Tinubu would have done the same thing so why were you guys bragging Tinubu was a master strategist




If Obi & Tinubu would have done same thing that means Obi is a master strategist too



Y’all should hide your faces in shame and accept the fact that Tinubu is a non living thing



Tinubu is a disgrace to Yoruba race

Obi would have sold his properties to salvage the economic woes, ohhh he would have saved his salaries till it accumulate lot of interest to combat the economic crises. It is easier to resolve the complexity of this country by mouth. I thought is disciples in senate would have led by example of revolting about the luxury vehicle

Starships4u:
Make uhna nor dey give our Presidents anything related to soccer before our National Team play... Let it be after ahbeg...

They shouldn't even relate with the players right before a match ahbeg....

Seems there's this bad energy around...

You deserve Special Adviser slot, if only you can keep your momentum in your fictional world of illusion perhaps you can be lucky

santopelele:
The dumbest man ever, your country is burning and you are in another man's country shining your teeth like ekuke

You must be the most clueless person to have allowed dumbest man ever to rule you, it is easier to criticize than bring logical solution, can you proffer one solution for the "burning " nation, maybe by acting responsibly as you ought to especially in the area of communication analysis

EreluRoz:
I'm sure as young as that boy was, he was already having dirty thoughts towards her else he would have gone to someone else and not his co flower girl.

Those that married their agemate try sha, it can never be me. If you are less than ten years my senior, I'll forever see you as a small boy 😆

You are entitle to your opinion. No one will flog you for that. Principle defers as well as thought pattern though huge age gap do not equate maturity which is essential not just maturity but Emotional Maturity

babaYIBO:
Just saw a thread where a guy is complaining about his friend not telling him about the fact that he was building his house, and I see a lot of comments complaining condemning the said friend.

https://www.nairaland.com/7892469/he-completed-house-without-uttering

Funny how people exact same thing happened to me last year, this time it wasn’t a from a friend but a blood sister who I thought loved me the way I do for her.

This woman was building her house while pretending to everyone that she was broke.

Funniest thing is, few weeks to moving to us getting to know about the house, she was asking me to lend her 300k as she has plenty debts to pay. Almost sent her 100k, but then I remembered how she prefers to party with her women associates more than she’s willing to buy anything for my parents. This is someone that my dad built and opened shop for.

If a friend do this to me now, walahi I won’t be surprised.

Such is life, good deed some times are not always reciprocated, as much as family bond and communication is essential, it is necessary to know that privacy also matters, you dont have to be bitter about her decision, learn to live with people's action

Peter532:
Don't let peer pressure tension you.
I am 36 entering 37 few month from now and I still live with my mother.
My dad is late and my mum is aged, I see no reason going to rent an apartment when the one I am living can easily be mine.
I just need to refurbished it and I am good with my wives and kids.

I know some negative people will come to catch me witch saying I am for the death of my parents and so my kids Will wished for me too when I am aged.

That's where you are wrong no one is praying for anyone's death.
It's contentment.
I am planning on taking my relationship life serious and bring an offspring next year. Just a mini introduction my fiancee family that should do till we are ready to tie the knot.

Happy new year in advance.

No one is crucifying you for staying in your parents house, however since you want people to poke nose into your private affair by bringing it to the public, your post lacks foresight, dreams and aspirations to be independent, you sound as a comic person that you might be, you don't sound serious with your life!

[quote author=vanbonattel post=127595556]This will be okay in the eyes of many biased bats

If adeboye were to be an Igbo pastor, a lot of people will say he has no respect for traditional authority.

Na tribalism go kee Nigeria [/quotes]
Now that the deed has been done, what is the next line of action aside sounding bigotry and helpless?

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Do not mind those headless people ask you to turn to father Christmas all in the name of pleasing people, there are other period you can extend your arm of love, not necessarily festive period. These set of people will come back at you if you cant provide for your home, aside the baby items, hospital bills and drugs is there, naming ceremony is there, utility bills is there, moreover you have plans of getting a Car, do not sacrifice your goals for someone else pleasure

Pls what is empowerment? You can't just criticize without giving an explicit view. Since you have a better idea, it will be good to learn from your wealth of wisdom

vibbb:
Well, I don't think our senators rilli understand what empowerment means - anyways, at least she did something - but it's a pity.

indeed you need more information

Taylor92:
Where dangote wan buy crude oil from sef

South South abi the imaginary oil found in Gombe and katsina


Because Ondo oil is not even enough to power I pass my neighbor generator

Anyways be like na Edo Delta and Akwa Ibom go sell for him

Make he no near PH shaa