₦airaland Forum

saemmanuel: I have a female friend who has been my friend for the past eight month, i like her and i will like to date her but i dont want to lose her frienship if she says no..she know abt my past relationship And the last one that broke my heart recently that turn me miserable... Though she is older thän me but i dont mind....Giv me advíse house, ihow do i go about ít

[color=#000030]If i were you -which i'm not- i'll Back off. . . She'll only be a rebound. By the way, can you list the reasons why you like her?[/color]

[color=#000030]No. . . There is no need, and you are having second thoughts. Personally, if i have second thoughts about an ish, i stay the hell off it.[/color]

Jojo Armani: That doesnt answer de question. From ur own opinion wat did u think is de main reason for gettin married.

[color=#000030]Answer the question first. . . Who are the desperate girls getting married to? Goats? [/color]

baggy4luv: @kills. your idleness is instrumental in your nairaland mass stupidity.cage your mouth dont become your dad here nau.mabinu bt u nid it

[color=#000030]Fcck you too. . . Bird Brain! [/color]

[color=#000030]Smh @ second girlfriend. . . What else should a guy who keeps numerous girlfriends expect? And to think he's yet to graduate. . . You never start. . . Instead of you to face your books and come out successful, you are whining pitiably. . . Nonsense[/color]

[color=#000030]Bull what? Bullshit!!![/color]

Drlove1989: I have written some articles on the best ways to win a woman's heart in my blog and believe me, she will love you till the point that you will be seeking for help on reducing her love for you. Women are so easy to get any time any day. Just be NICE TO HER. These are five simple ways to win a lady's heart:
cook for her; most ladies love to cook but they love it more when a guy cooks for them.
Sheld tears for her; a woman is very emotional and if you can drop out a tip of tears, she will be dying for you. Try it out.
Kneel down when you beg her; if you can lower your pride and kneel down whenever you are begging, she will be yours, especially in public places and she will run to her nearest friend to gist her, 'can you imagine, he knelt for me at the resturrant'
Just tell her she is beautiful always: Even though she is not just tell her she is. Ladies will always go to guys that knows how to make them feel beautiful.
Lie to her; ladies love lies. They hate truth. Tell her you were hospitalized bcus of her, you almost lost your life becuase of her, that you couldn't eat when she was sick, (may be you never did all these or you did, it doesn't matter, she will be yours for life if you can follow these simple steps)

[color=#000030]WTF is this nonsense? [/color]

[color=#000030]In which country? Nigerian girls can't fall for this sh[i]i[/i]t.Even the ones from the most rural part of the most rural village. . . Polar bears? Crayola Crayons? Blizzard Blue? For real?[/color]

Jojo Armani: De way we Nigerian youth re going about in marriage really scares me expecially the girls. It makes me to ask my self wat is the main reason for marriage.

g[b]irls always desperate to get married[/b] while those dat re in it complains everyday.

[color=#000030]Who are the girls getting married to? Goats? [/color]

y me: hmmmm
what exactly is bs there?
I know my man is intelligent so sorry if you are not
I know he goes for what he believes in
I know he loves showing me off to the world and proud of me, which makes me feel blessed

some of what I wrote are harmless and well written compliments
so its either you read it wrong or I am not getting the picture?

[color=#000030]Very Good. . . This is what i meant when i asked you to speak for the men in your life. . . +5[/color]

cowgurl: ARE YOU DISCOMBOBULATED OR OBFUSCATED DUMBASS?

[color=#000030]Why are you sharing your titles? Cow.[/color]

cowgurl: [b]Unintentional u mean? If yes, then he/she cannot be blamed.
[/b]

[color=#000030]I meant Intentional. You can't blame anyone for being an intentional target of a premeditated heartbreak by a heartbroken person on a vain revenge mission. . .[/color]

freecocoa: Read ke?the likes of that one only look at a book during school hours with a teacher in class ofcourse and they never get what's being said,primary schools are on hols now so free am .

[color=#000030]What tha fcck exactly is Romantic about a deadbeat 70k car for chrissakes? [/color]

y me: Excuse me?
you can see the sarcastic thingy going thru my previous post and the emoticons
and number two whats not nice about my post?
do kindly shut up if u have no respectful or intelligent thing to say
thanks in advance too

[color=#000030]Good girl. . . You were being sarcastic, cos that's a whole lot of bullshit up there so you know. . .[/color]

twinkles286: @ killz how do u suggest i do that, really want to get it rite. at least if he gets scared off i will know i did my best

[color=#000030]Suggestion:
On one of your "eatery" dates, ask him who you are to him, when he's least expecting it. If he stammers while giving you an answer, RUN! [/color]

Fejok01: Is experience the best teacher? Personally,i don't think it is.Nairalanders,what do you think?

[color=#000030]To those who stubbornly refuse to learn from another's bitter experience, it is the best teacher. . .
To those who choose to learn from another's bitter experience, it is NOT the best teacher. . .

So, to which group exactly do you comport yourself into?[/color]

twinkles286: @killz , such naughty thots going on in ur head. but seriously on that issue my fear is i am might scare him off because really that statement is kind of vague.

@deniyor my issue is as regards the time frame and i cant imagine hanging around six months for him to decide what he wants . if after six months he becomes overly interested i would assume his first choice didnt work and i am d fall back babe.

he is due back in town dis weekend and i hope we get to hang out , but really he is such a different person from guys am used too. answering queries with monosyllabic words or in short sentences. the only reassurance i have with him is dat well he hasnt made any move towards the physical cos i tend to think most guys re so fast and forward about irrespecctive of the time u met . anyway thanks will keep u posted.

[color=#000030]Scare him off? Then so be it. But at least, you've tried your best in trying to get to know him. Guys are not stereotypical. What works for one may not be applicable to the other. He may truly be shy, but then, how would you know?[/color]

y me: They are good at sweet talking
They love being in charge (its in their gene)
90% of them are intelligent
Some of them love attention
They [/b]go after what they want
[b]They love their women no matter how much they bash them
They love a good cook
The s*x must be off da hook
Some of them want a full time housewife
They spend on their women (those wey get sha)
They pose with their women and make it known to all that she is for him and him alone (when there is love tho )
and many more

[color=#000030]Could you kindly speak for your boyfriend or those men you've come across? Thank you in advance. . .
[/color]

metaldude: Killz,Isn't relationship meant to start from somewhere?

[color=#000030]It's not about where it starts from, but your mental maturity. . . Believe it or not, your mother knows you more than you know yourself. Just take it as a motherly advice coming from her. Mind you, she never asked you not to date or whatever the blah, but she's only asking you to wait a little. . . Remember, your mother was once a 22 year old, therefore, she knows what you are going thru. . . [/color]

Jasmine Jetz: Hello! excuse me guys welcme to d 21st century where women married or nt got d rite to do wat they want wit their OWN BODY.so gve us a break!

[color=#000030]Will you shut up and go and read your books? [/color]

cowgurl: And for the records, am open to CONSTRUCTIVE criticisms, so if u can't stick 2 dat, GTFO of my face!

[color=#000030]Shaaaaarap! [/color]

cowgurl: But seriously guys, heartbreaks has it's own lessons, y don't we learn 4rm it n quit being slaves to it. We are meant 2 v control of our emotions, not d other way round. And if ur heart has been broken mor dan once, den u seriously nid 2 check ursef up.

[color=#000030]Now you are making some sense. . . I see you took the advice to stop smoking

Yes, heartbreak has it's lessons. Lessons that can only be learned if you sit and meditate on your current situation, what led to it, and how it could have been avoided. Taking a revenge mission against innocent ones who have no prior knowledge of you or what transpired in your life is not the way to go. The time you would have used to rediscover yourself and your priorities, would be used in chasing thin air, all in the name of a revenge mission. . . In the end, you are even more hopeless and pathetic than when you first got your heartbroken, and worse still, you are STILL heartbroken. In the process too, you might have intentionally broken the heart of a potential lifelong partner due to stupidity and simplemindedness!
Being heart broken more than once is not a yardstick in measuring the pathetic and dismal state or lack of it, in an individual. Some people might just be pitiably unfortunate. What do you say of a person who is intentionally the object and target of heart broken ones, who are on a revenge mission? How is it the person's fault that people choose to toy with his/her emotions, leaving it in a catastrophic state?[/color]

SAFO: Mehh, my personal opinion is irrelevant. I always try to evaluate things purely from a scientific basis devoid of sentiment thought.

[color=#000030]When it comes to morals, science knows sh[i]i[/i]t! You know what is wrong and unacceptable, but because science says it's Good and acceptable, you accept?[/color]

twinkles286: killz its not about being desperate its about getting to know him as a person so a decision can be made. like i said i only like him on d basis of our little interaction and would want to know more about him .note that the decision to be made is noy marriage but if i actually want a relationship.

[color=#000030]I get you. But since he claimed to be shy and asked you to take the lead, what are you waiting for? [/color]

dazzle37: eyencalabar, Affo edi idad, uyom ke mkpo ofon ye eyen awan emi, nsi nam odgoho de enye aka nam akpara ke flour mill ?

[color=#000030]Ok, i'm lost![/color]

[color=#000030]Angel? [/color]

[color=#000030]Maybe he's really shy. . .
I guess you should just ask him, tell him what you want from him, wait for an improvement, and if it's not forthcoming, you walk. Not all guys are hot and cold. By the way, if i was the guy, 4 dates is not enough for me to decide if i want a future with you, i'll prefer to take my time, but since you are kinda desperate, i guess you ask him and get it over with![/color]