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FamilyRe: Our Kids Watch Porn In The Internet by Kimoni: 11:10pm On Oct 13, 2014
NifemiOlu:
Don't be surprised. Some people are glaring examples of failed primary school education.
Singular nouns for singular verbs e.g man watches
Plural nouns for plural verbs e.g Men watch.
I just left the guy to show his ignorance on a national forum.
But the effrontery to challenge someone who is right is more alarming shocked
FamilyRe: Our Kids Watch Porn In The Internet by Kimoni: 10:48pm On Oct 13, 2014
Crocz:
First, the title should read "Our Kids Watches Indecency ON the Internet"


Secondly, it's another phase of development towards maturity at this stage in which our society is...Auguste Comte said so!...never heard of the guy?...that's because his broke as* died long ago, he was a sociologist
huh undecided
FamilyRe: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Kimoni: 10:25pm On Oct 13, 2014
Godmystrength:
She is still in the house. i don't want to take any drastic step yet. besides, it is not that they even stay in the house together most of the time. We leave the house together in the morning when he drops me at the busstop and [b]takes the maid and my son to his mother/my MIL's house. He goes to pick them in the evening before i get back [/b]home. I can't tell him to wait for me to return before picking them because it will be stressful for my baby to be moving him at that time of the night when he should be sleeping/getting ready to sleep......

besides, sending her away is just going to be a temporary solution or what if this continues, how many will i be sending away?
@ Godmystrength - you have helped a lot of ppl on this thread and so God will surely remember you now that you need Him.

First, I feel your husband is a good person, he is not a natural cheat, if he were he would not be confessing to you or apologizing to the nanny. It takes a lot of guts and sincerety to do this.

You mentioned they ain't spending much time together. I beg to differ. From the bolded above, they are actually spending too much time together and this is not just okay for men. They are left alone together from Monda to Friday after dropping you, same thing in the evenings - he picks her and the baby and they are both at home alone till you get home every working day.

My sister, this is more than enough time being spent together already. Forget the fact that she is a maid, she is a full blown young woman and he is a full blown man.

My advice - calm down, ask the maid what truly transpired and the extent to which things went, also ask why she never confided in you.

You might need to get an elderly woman instead cuz you can't really do without a help right now.

As for hubby, I don't think it was because of any inadequacy on ur part or that he meant to cheat on you. It was just opportunistic. He was spending too much time with this young lady and naturally, intimacy began to set in.

This is just a phase and it will surely pass. Many women out there will give everything just to have their hubby confess all his attrocities so they can just forgive and move on.

(Pls excuse my typos, using my mobile)
FamilyRe: Starving Wife, Help Advice Her Please by Kimoni: 9:40pm On Oct 10, 2014
Pepunis:
i will tell him i saw his twin, God bless though chief judge
Epic response!

So much conveyed in a simple sentence kiss
FamilyRe: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Kimoni:
mcdreeezy:
If you say that you're quarrelling with my initial statement, then that means you believe he died cuz he was cheating (my initial statement opposes this), could it be that perhaps, you're contradicting yourself?

As regards assumption, assumption does not equal fact. We should not base our judgements on assumptions, but rather, facts
I thought I just told you what I believe?? He might have died and he might not have died - inconclusive. I'm sure you know what 'might' means.

But for you to categorically say cheating is not the cause of death, why?Because he would still have died anyways (from taking his wife to the park) and berate those who believe he would not have died is kinda senseless to me.

If the OP safely assumes he would still be alive, I don't see why you should pick issues with it because your own stand is just as inconclusive. Let people be with their own opinion.
FamilyRe: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Kimoni: 11:49pm On Oct 05, 2014
mcdreeezy:
That's not a good enough reason to conclude he died cuz he was cheating. It was a car accident, who says the accident couldn't have happened if he was drivin his family to the park?
Same way it's also not a good reason to conclude his cheating had nothing to do with his death.

Whether he would have died or not will remain technically inconclusive hence the use of 'might' in my earlier comment.

Your initial statement implying that cheating is not the cause of death is what I quarrel with. People cheat death by the whiskers so the safest assumption we can make is to say he would have cheated death had he not been plying that road.
FamilyRe: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Kimoni: 11:21pm On Oct 05, 2014
mcdreeezy:
That he died while cheating does not mean cheating was the cause of his death
Who says death might not have eluded him if he was spending time with his family and not acting as the chief driver for his who.re and her family?
FamilyRe: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Kimoni: 8:36pm On Oct 05, 2014
mcdreeezy:
I hope you're not tryin to say he died because he was cheating
But he died WHILE cheating undecided Little difference btw the two!
FamilyRe: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by Kimoni: 12:15am On Oct 05, 2014
omoajiri:
...but WHY?

This tread isnt about how you start your family but for expecting fathera to share their experience sir. If you have to judge me den u shld be just abt it.
I may have a very faulty footing on starting my family but the fact is 'my family' is so far my greatest investment till date and my unborn child is my greater future and im taking it as that.
Not every1 of us will have a 'mills & boon' or nollywood fairy tale affair but how we manage it is what really matters.
My not 'complimenting' her dsnt in any way affect my relationship adversely sir, so your point of view is appreciated but thanks, no, thanks.
Guy, I ain't judging you, I just don't see the love being shown by men to their wives on this thread from you. What I see is the opposite.

Ur woman(amongst many others) nearly lost her life while both of you were forcefully trying to kill an innocent baby, and then gbam! She gets pregnant again the next month.

U deliberately sent her to the worst camp in naija so she can lose the baby and probably her life in the process, but alas! she survives again.

Somehow, u were forced to make her ur intended and despite all she has been thru, u confirm that she has remained strong in this pregnancy but yet, she still doesn't deserve any compliments from you to her face. Haba! my guy, you wicked small ooooo

But you really need to change ur whole orientation abt women and how they should be treated. The good thing abt you I must confess is ur honesty but it still doesn't make a bad thing right.

Women are more than punanies, just like a man is not all abt blokos. So far, you've treated the women in ur life esp ur pregnant intended like objects/toys which is wrong. For all ur woman has been thru with you and for you, if you compliment her every hr, I doubt if it's too much.The sooner you start treating ur woman right, like a human with feelings just like yourself, the better and happier ur new family will be.

All the best dude!
FamilyRe: Are You Satisfied With The Life You're Living? by Kimoni: 10:09pm On Oct 04, 2014
FamilyRe: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by Kimoni: 10:07pm On Oct 04, 2014
omoajiri:
Bros, there are several ways to compliment person & I go tell you how.
I never for 1nc feel I will have a stable relationship even in the next 3 years. I was the type that feels the world owe him as many punanis as available. As at January this year I was seeing 4 babes steady but surely enuf 1 of em got pregnant.
We tried D&C and we had to evacuate 3 times before everything normal. She bleed for 5 weeks & I was very afraid she may die but thankfully enuf she survived that. 1 month after her recovery guess what happened?
She got pregnant again! We no fit do abortion again & na for us to carry our cross. She went to NYSC camp with a 2 month old pregnancy (I influenced her posting to the most rugged camp I was told & dats d Kwara state camp) hopping that she will lost the baby due to the rigorous exercises but she spent d 3 weeks & the belle still tanda 4 dia. Na so we come blow d alarm quick arrange introduction. I rush go secure an appartment, bought her a car, engage her in biz, got a maid, infact I do d needful except say she still dey disturb me for wedding but dat 1 go b next year after she don born ooo.
My brother make I come dey play mr carring for her onto say she get belle nw go kill whatever effort she has on her own.
Smh

You shuld be evacuated from this thread sharp sharp, u don't belong here.
FamilyRe: Are You Satisfied With The Life You're Living? by Kimoni: 9:58pm On Oct 04, 2014
carefreewannabe:
Very well said!

Some people are rich and unhappy.

Some people have little and are grateful and satisfied.
danke
FamilyRe: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by Kimoni: 10:26pm On Oct 03, 2014
omoajiri: I no wan spoil her ni. You know dos people wey dem head be like garri ijebu. Once you let her know you really feel for her, she will most likely swith to 'sympathy/ pity' mode, to work go come be problem.
Thats why sir.
Com'on bro, do you realise she could be hurting badly thinking you don't appreciate her? even if you never used to compliment her in her presence before now, at least, do it now and see how she go appreciate.
She needs ur words of encouragement badly at this point. Anything to make her feel good, mbok
FamilyRe: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by Kimoni: 9:55pm On Oct 03, 2014
omoajiri: My wife is in her 32nd week we got just abt 3 weeks more to go.
The experience has been so far so good. Luckily my wife doesnt puke or get drowsy, she only suffers from insomnia and general weakness but she still drives around and few household chores are done with minimal assistance. Very strong woman but I dont compliment her except in her absence.
We do have sex as often as we can because it is essential to aid delivery. But the frequency & intensity is greatly reduced.
Im really looking forward to welcoming our baby to the world. This is our first.
But why? cry
FamilyRe: Behind Every Evil Is A Woman! by Kimoni: 9:11pm On Oct 03, 2014
ayodeleakinadew: ℓ̊ am not anti feminism and ℓ̊ am lover of women. But ℓ̊ have realized that at the cause root of every bad thing is a woman. For example,when a man cheats on his wife,we blame the man for infidelity but he did whatever he did with another woman? If she had said NO, there wouldn't have been ann affair etc.

Let us contribute to this with maturity and reasoning. Thanks
Such an immature and unreasonable statement undecided
FamilyRe: Are You Satisfied With The Life You're Living? by Kimoni: 8:57pm On Oct 03, 2014
ukandi1: Show me a man that is satisfied with what he has , and i will show u a failure..

No, i am not satisfied. I am not were i want to be yet.. Though, i am not overly disappointed at were i am. I still thank God cos to many its a reasonable height but to me, i am not there yet..
I disagree with the bolded though. Some people are truly contented and happy with what they have, little be it or much.
Having modest aspirations does not classify you a failure in life. Success is a very relative word.
FamilyRe: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by Kimoni: 12:53am On Sep 30, 2014
Interesting thread! I find something strange on this thread though:
That the known hard core feminists on NL who I thought were fighting against all forms of gender inequality are the ones with very strong bias for male care givers nothwithstanding their qualification while the non-feminists are the ones truly fighting against this form of male discrimination.

Does this mean that feminists are allowed to cherrypick what aspect of gender inequality they want to either fight or encourage? As it suits them?

If as a man I run MY company and MY sole aim is to make profit, why should I employ women who are going off work( I don't care if its called maternity leave) for 3 months and even if I am generous to employ them, why should I promote them like their male counterparts?

If it's ok to discriminate based on "motherly instinct", why is it not ok to discriminate based on "entrepreneurial instinct"??
FamilyRe: Single Ladies: Let's Share Our Experiences Here by Kimoni: 9:40pm On Sep 23, 2014
rofemiguwa: Funny how the ones shouting marriage is not everytin,ur life doesn't end with marriage are the married ones. #justthinkingout# why una no remain single so you could be role models to show marriage doesn't define u as a woman.



Aiit am out!!!
Hahahahahahhahaha

Your post got me falling off the bed. But with all objectivity, I think you have a point, ie it's easier for married peeps to advise that marriage is not everything just because they are married. Fair enough!

But take a minute to look at the message and not the messengers, could they really be saying the truth? there is a thread somewhere in family section for peeps esp women with marital issues to discuss their issues. Pls try and go through the thread and maybe you will understand where these married women are coming from. I saw a few single peeps who went through that thread saying they were scared of marriage.

My advice to single ladies is to always enjoy that stage of your life no matter how long or short it is cuz once you leave that stage, it becomes impossible/difficult to go back yet the days will come when you will wish for your single days to come back.

Also, the challenges of being single esp in Naija are very real and I disagree with anybody who says its all in your mind but as with all challenges, it's left for you to turn them to stepping stones. Challenges abound at every stage of life, just never let them get you down.
TravelRe: Uk Student Visa/tier 4 Pbs - Your Questions Answered Part2 by Kimoni: 6:44pm On Sep 16, 2014
DonOms: Congratulations
Many thanks bro
TravelRe: Uk Student Visa/tier 4 Pbs - Your Questions Answered Part2 by Kimoni: 2:46pm On Sep 16, 2014
Dear all, I submitted my application on the 27th of September at Teleperformance, got an email from Sheffield on Saturday that it's been processed, received tele's mail this morning that a decision has been made, so I went there at mid day to collect. And yes, after about 15 mins on the queue, got my visa. Prayer works! God knows I couldn't afford any more delay.
Thanks to everyone for the information sharing.
Ikeja peeps, you guys should fear God ooo, the way you guys complain of delay after 3 days of submission ehnnnnn, don't give Tele people hypertension ooo
Good luck to all awaiting!
FamilyRe: What Was Your Baby's First Word? by Kimoni: 9:08pm On Sep 14, 2014
Haayeyuyah!
FamilyRe: Violence: Again The Double Standards by Kimoni:
ocman: I quite understand the emotions and reservations but need i add that there is a hit from a woman that is not meant to harm or hurt. It is an emotional hit. Only humane and loving guys can decode that kind of hit (hit not slap). Take for instance a guy says something hurtful to her woman, and it hurts her so bad that she cries and hits u thrice on the shoulder of back, screaming "why do u derive joy hurting me"? Mehn!! would you take that as a hit and go back at her? I would never do that. my point is, it is not all hit from a girl means fight or invitation for a fisticuff or brawl. I would be the last man standing on earth to touch my woman. So, let us not generalize a hit from a woman. Some hits are affectionate. I know such hits and they are also emotional to me cus it gives me a sense that i have hurt her badly....
I'm loving this your analysis and Magic Johnson's story readily came to my mind(quoted below). From his story, I'll say there are emotional slaps too...

Magic Johnson: After revealing the shocking diagnosis(HIV), Johnson told his wife he would understand if she wanted to leave him. She responded by slapping him in the face for making such an unthinkable suggestion.

Johnson: We just cried and held each other. The greatest thing that ever happened to me was that she stayed. I think that's why I'm alive today.
Back to the matter at hand, I am 100% with Chilli and kanwulia on their quotes below -

Chilli - supporting violence against violence makes you a violent person too...

Kanwulia - I make a celestial effort to walk away from violent people....
FamilyRe: NFL Player Knocks Out His Fiancee - What Do You Think?(Viewers' Discretion) by Kimoni: 9:39am On Sep 11, 2014
BluIvy: This is crazy! Are people watching the same video here? Do people think the club and its lawyers are that stupid to just revoke the guys contract without trying to understand exactly what went down there?

the video clearly shows that the guys was the aggressor and the attack was pre-meditated which makes the case very serious but might have mis-calculated or forgotten that there are also cameras in the lift. If one watches the video carefully you will see the following:

1. The guy pacing obviously pisssed-off waiting for the female to arrive
2. He intentionally chose to hide from the foyer camera by standing next to the pillar
3. When the lady arrived, he got into her face in threatening manner and could be seen saying something (might be insulting her or provoking her from her response with her hand, but barely touches him). He might even had touched her because we cannot see his two hands when he was shoving his face on the woman.
3. When coming out of hiding in the view of the camera he acts normal and gets into the lift.
4. He is obviously still pisssed they exchange words and the lady responds by reopening the lift door so he could get off but he attacks her
5. The lady tries to retaliate but he knocks her out.
6. He tried hiding his actsoon as he realised people are going to come in.Well, how he dragged the lady still showed he was still angry than sorry.

Now, where the he'll are some people seeing a vicious attack from the lady? She barely touched him outside and that was response to his threatening in your face verbal assault.

I think people see the guys brown part of the cap and mistake it to be the girl attacking the guy first in the lift and that is not so.

This fvcken guy deserved the punishment because he tried to play the system and was caught.
1. Agreed, she was walking directly to the lift and barely touched him as she walked past him which must have been in response to something he said - showed me she had no intention of starting a fight and he was probably saying something that was pissing her off.

2. She got into the lift and stayed put by the door, he got in and chose to stay right beside her and must have continued with whatever he was saying that was pissing her off. Whoever hit first at this point is unclear to me and I can't see her spitting on him. At this point, there were exchange of fists between them, but the slow motion which unfortunately everybody is referring to starts from where he moves back and she goes foward to deliver her slaps. The elevator fight didn't start from here.

3. He knocks her out but his treatment of her after is even more disgusting. No iota of remorse whatsoever, instead he drags her out like trash and treats her near lifeless body with disdain until help came from somebody else. This attitude more than the fight itself is what tells you he is the real aggressor and he who thinks the violence meted on his loved one is well justified.

Ultimately, it is never right to hit a woman, no matter the provocation, take a walk...it doesn't make you a weakling. At least, that's what I'll teach my sons. That's what JayZ's mother probably taught him, and he listened, he certainly appreciates the lesson right now.

If only this dude has listened to his mother too... cry

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