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NifemiOlu:But the effrontery to challenge someone who is right is more alarming |
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Godmystrength:@ Godmystrength - you have helped a lot of ppl on this thread and so God will surely remember you now that you need Him. First, I feel your husband is a good person, he is not a natural cheat, if he were he would not be confessing to you or apologizing to the nanny. It takes a lot of guts and sincerety to do this. You mentioned they ain't spending much time together. I beg to differ. From the bolded above, they are actually spending too much time together and this is not just okay for men. They are left alone together from Monda to Friday after dropping you, same thing in the evenings - he picks her and the baby and they are both at home alone till you get home every working day. My sister, this is more than enough time being spent together already. Forget the fact that she is a maid, she is a full blown young woman and he is a full blown man. My advice - calm down, ask the maid what truly transpired and the extent to which things went, also ask why she never confided in you. You might need to get an elderly woman instead cuz you can't really do without a help right now. As for hubby, I don't think it was because of any inadequacy on ur part or that he meant to cheat on you. It was just opportunistic. He was spending too much time with this young lady and naturally, intimacy began to set in. This is just a phase and it will surely pass. Many women out there will give everything just to have their hubby confess all his attrocities so they can just forgive and move on. (Pls excuse my typos, using my mobile) |
Pepunis:Epic response! So much conveyed in a simple sentence |
mcdreeezy:I thought I just told you what I believe?? He might have died and he might not have died - inconclusive. I'm sure you know what 'might' means. But for you to categorically say cheating is not the cause of death, why?Because he would still have died anyways (from taking his wife to the park) and berate those who believe he would not have died is kinda senseless to me. If the OP safely assumes he would still be alive, I don't see why you should pick issues with it because your own stand is just as inconclusive. Let people be with their own opinion. |
mcdreeezy:Same way it's also not a good reason to conclude his cheating had nothing to do with his death. Whether he would have died or not will remain technically inconclusive hence the use of 'might' in my earlier comment. Your initial statement implying that cheating is not the cause of death is what I quarrel with. People cheat death by the whiskers so the safest assumption we can make is to say he would have cheated death had he not been plying that road. |
mcdreeezy:Who says death might not have eluded him if he was spending time with his family and not acting as the chief driver for his who.re and her family? |
mcdreeezy:But he died WHILE cheating Little difference btw the two! |
omoajiri:Guy, I ain't judging you, I just don't see the love being shown by men to their wives on this thread from you. What I see is the opposite. Ur woman(amongst many others) nearly lost her life while both of you were forcefully trying to kill an innocent baby, and then gbam! She gets pregnant again the next month. U deliberately sent her to the worst camp in naija so she can lose the baby and probably her life in the process, but alas! she survives again. Somehow, u were forced to make her ur intended and despite all she has been thru, u confirm that she has remained strong in this pregnancy but yet, she still doesn't deserve any compliments from you to her face. Haba! my guy, you wicked small ooooo But you really need to change ur whole orientation abt women and how they should be treated. The good thing abt you I must confess is ur honesty but it still doesn't make a bad thing right. Women are more than punanies, just like a man is not all abt blokos. So far, you've treated the women in ur life esp ur pregnant intended like objects/toys which is wrong. For all ur woman has been thru with you and for you, if you compliment her every hr, I doubt if it's too much.The sooner you start treating ur woman right, like a human with feelings just like yourself, the better and happier ur new family will be. All the best dude! |
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omoajiri:Smh You shuld be evacuated from this thread sharp sharp, u don't belong here. |
carefreewannabe:danke |
omoajiri: I no wan spoil her ni. You know dos people wey dem head be like garri ijebu. Once you let her know you really feel for her, she will most likely swith to 'sympathy/ pity' mode, to work go come be problem.Com'on bro, do you realise she could be hurting badly thinking you don't appreciate her? even if you never used to compliment her in her presence before now, at least, do it now and see how she go appreciate. She needs ur words of encouragement badly at this point. Anything to make her feel good, mbok |
omoajiri: My wife is in her 32nd week we got just abt 3 weeks more to go.But why? |
ayodeleakinadew: ℓ̊ am not anti feminism and ℓ̊ am lover of women. But ℓ̊ have realized that at the cause root of every bad thing is a woman. For example,when a man cheats on his wife,we blame the man for infidelity but he did whatever he did with another woman? If she had said NO, there wouldn't have been ann affair etc.Such an immature and unreasonable statement ![]() |
ukandi1: Show me a man that is satisfied with what he has , and i will show u a failure..I disagree with the bolded though. Some people are truly contented and happy with what they have, little be it or much. Having modest aspirations does not classify you a failure in life. Success is a very relative word. |
Interesting thread! I find something strange on this thread though: That the known hard core feminists on NL who I thought were fighting against all forms of gender inequality are the ones with very strong bias for male care givers nothwithstanding their qualification while the non-feminists are the ones truly fighting against this form of male discrimination. Does this mean that feminists are allowed to cherrypick what aspect of gender inequality they want to either fight or encourage? As it suits them? If as a man I run MY company and MY sole aim is to make profit, why should I employ women who are going off work( I don't care if its called maternity leave) for 3 months and even if I am generous to employ them, why should I promote them like their male counterparts? If it's ok to discriminate based on "motherly instinct", why is it not ok to discriminate based on "entrepreneurial instinct"?? |
rofemiguwa: Funny how the ones shouting marriage is not everytin,ur life doesn't end with marriage are the married ones. #justthinkingout# why una no remain single so you could be role models to show marriage doesn't define u as a woman.Hahahahahahhahaha Your post got me falling off the bed. But with all objectivity, I think you have a point, ie it's easier for married peeps to advise that marriage is not everything just because they are married. Fair enough! But take a minute to look at the message and not the messengers, could they really be saying the truth? there is a thread somewhere in family section for peeps esp women with marital issues to discuss their issues. Pls try and go through the thread and maybe you will understand where these married women are coming from. I saw a few single peeps who went through that thread saying they were scared of marriage. My advice to single ladies is to always enjoy that stage of your life no matter how long or short it is cuz once you leave that stage, it becomes impossible/difficult to go back yet the days will come when you will wish for your single days to come back. Also, the challenges of being single esp in Naija are very real and I disagree with anybody who says its all in your mind but as with all challenges, it's left for you to turn them to stepping stones. Challenges abound at every stage of life, just never let them get you down. |
DonOms: CongratulationsMany thanks bro |
Dear all, I submitted my application on the 27th of September at Teleperformance, got an email from Sheffield on Saturday that it's been processed, received tele's mail this morning that a decision has been made, so I went there at mid day to collect. And yes, after about 15 mins on the queue, got my visa. Prayer works! God knows I couldn't afford any more delay. Thanks to everyone for the information sharing. Ikeja peeps, you guys should fear God ooo, the way you guys complain of delay after 3 days of submission ehnnnnn, don't give Tele people hypertension ooo Good luck to all awaiting! |
Haayeyuyah! |
ocman: I quite understand the emotions and reservations but need i add that there is a hit from a woman that is not meant to harm or hurt. It is an emotional hit. Only humane and loving guys can decode that kind of hit (hit not slap). Take for instance a guy says something hurtful to her woman, and it hurts her so bad that she cries and hits u thrice on the shoulder of back, screaming "why do u derive joy hurting me"? Mehn!! would you take that as a hit and go back at her? I would never do that. my point is, it is not all hit from a girl means fight or invitation for a fisticuff or brawl. I would be the last man standing on earth to touch my woman. So, let us not generalize a hit from a woman. Some hits are affectionate. I know such hits and they are also emotional to me cus it gives me a sense that i have hurt her badly....I'm loving this your analysis and Magic Johnson's story readily came to my mind(quoted below). From his story, I'll say there are emotional slaps too... Magic Johnson: After revealing the shocking diagnosis(HIV), Johnson told his wife he would understand if she wanted to leave him. She responded by slapping him in the face for making such an unthinkable suggestion.Back to the matter at hand, I am 100% with Chilli and kanwulia on their quotes below - Chilli - supporting violence against violence makes you a violent person too... Kanwulia - I make a celestial effort to walk away from violent people.... |
BluIvy: This is crazy! Are people watching the same video here? Do people think the club and its lawyers are that stupid to just revoke the guys contract without trying to understand exactly what went down there?1. Agreed, she was walking directly to the lift and barely touched him as she walked past him which must have been in response to something he said - showed me she had no intention of starting a fight and he was probably saying something that was pissing her off. 2. She got into the lift and stayed put by the door, he got in and chose to stay right beside her and must have continued with whatever he was saying that was pissing her off. Whoever hit first at this point is unclear to me and I can't see her spitting on him. At this point, there were exchange of fists between them, but the slow motion which unfortunately everybody is referring to starts from where he moves back and she goes foward to deliver her slaps. The elevator fight didn't start from here. 3. He knocks her out but his treatment of her after is even more disgusting. No iota of remorse whatsoever, instead he drags her out like trash and treats her near lifeless body with disdain until help came from somebody else. This attitude more than the fight itself is what tells you he is the real aggressor and he who thinks the violence meted on his loved one is well justified. Ultimately, it is never right to hit a woman, no matter the provocation, take a walk...it doesn't make you a weakling. At least, that's what I'll teach my sons. That's what JayZ's mother probably taught him, and he listened, he certainly appreciates the lesson right now. If only this dude has listened to his mother too... |

