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When there is life there is hope. Don't give up on your life because life has not given up on you.

At 23, you are very young. A bright future awaits. No need to despair over the errors of the past. It's time to move on.

Kudos to your parents that forgave you. You disappointed them the first time by dropping out of school, but don't disappoint them a second time by doing something nasty in the situation you have found yourself.

It is good that you went back school, now in 200L. That alone is progress. I will beg you to follow through till you graduate and make your parents proud again.

Despite all you have said about God, He remains the only One that can transform your life. Believe it or not, He still loves you. And wants to help if you ask Him to.

God's love is available for you to take if you put your faith in Jesus Christ. Just ask Jesus in to your heart, ask Him to help you, because you can't help yourself.

There is a reason you are alive. There is a reason God brought you to earth. You can't find that reason outside of God.

Since school is not open yet, find something useful to do with your time. Help your parents. Talk with your siblings. Away with suicide thoughts.

Find a job around your house to bridge the gap. Volunteer if you have to...being idle contributes to personal misery.

Don't be ashamed before your old classmates who have moved higher than you. It's a matter of time you will level up too and even surpass their achievements in life. (Hiding from them makes the matter worse. And you can't even hide forever).

Lastly, forgive your self of the past mistakes and look ahead to a better future. Accepting the love and forgiveness of Jesus Christ into your life will make it easier to do so.

God loves you and He still has a plan for you. Embrace it.

kingxsamz:
And why not?
Why can't you have sex in Heaven?

People that will make Heaven will wear a glorified body there. They will have no need for procreation or canal pleasure which sex serves here on earth.

I'm curious to know why you asked that question.

kingxsamz:
Can you have sex in Heaven?

Very funny. No!

kingxsamz:
Do you have freewill in heaven? Yes or no?

Yes!

I recently had a discussion with some people along this line. Now my I can see how much this figures validated my views. thanks for sharing.

kingxsamz:
Pay what price?
Your god created Lucifer who became Satan.
Punished Adam and Eve for eating an apple, even though he's omniscient and knew they'd do it.
When sin became too much, even though he foresaw it, he decided to kill all humans, even though he knew they wouldn't listen to Noah. After destroying humans, he didn't even think for a second to destroy Satan (the root of the problem) once and for all. Yet he allowed Satan live and thrive. Many years later, sin had been restored and the earth was as sinful as it was before he destroyed the earth with flood. He now sends his son to die for the sins of people. To pay the debt that who the fvck is owing? To save people from the same hell that God himself created.
Do you people use your brains at all?

If only you knew new better, you would not be talking like this, criticising what you don't understand:

Let me make a few points though, with the hope that you will get it better:

Man sinned of their own freewill. Don't blame it on God.

God created Lucifer not satan.

Satan is a spirit, it doesn't die.

God created hell for satan to punish him for his rebellion.

Any man that goes to hell go there because they followed satan - by rejecting Jesus.

These are spiritual matters. As good as your brain is, it can't understand this without the help of the Holy Spirit.

Just give your life to Jesus, the picture will definitely become clearer to you.

Every child of God should learn to hear his voice.

Where is Nigeria in all this? Are we so helpless?

She is a rare kind of girl. All the stories I hear are about ladies asking for more money for wedding, here you are with a girl that wants less.

Please don't annoy her by insisting on your N1m wedding. She told you what she wants - half of what you budgected. Thant souds good; please work with the medium budget.

The money you spending for a wedding is to impress other people. If your madam, doesn't want you spending plenty money like that, please follow her advise. From the story she told, she had never given you bad advise before. So why are you doubting this one?

If you really want to impress her because she deserves it , just save the extra 500k and give it to her after the wedding, or better still add money to it and buy her car as gift. After all, you said she accepts gifts but doesn't accept cash. Thank your God you have a fine girl like that.

As much as people want to deny that it exists, hell remains real for satan and his followers.

The good news is that Jesus has paid the price so that people don't go to hell. So the people that will go to hell will go there because they refuse to accept that Jesus paid for their sins.

Simply put, hell remains a beckoning reality for any one who rejects the saving grace that only Jesus offers.

Just wondering why the list was dominated by Edo/Delta people.

udy4real:
But how possible is that?

It's complicated. Just make sure you don't lose the phone that has your phone number tied to your bank account. It might give fraudsters an inroute to defraud you if find yourself in that situation.

So if you ever lose your SIM, immediately block the SIM and block your bank account to avoid stories that touch the heart.

udy4real:
But if you do not collect atm card from your bank can they still scam you?

Yes you still be scammed. The phone no tied to your account can be a point of target.

If you did not request ATM card from your bank and you get defrauded via ATM, you bank is liable to refund you.

The most eloquent Nigerian I know.

Happy birthday to one of us Nigeria's Bible expositors, W. F. Kumuyi.

Amujale:
Perhaps you didnt get the main point.

Jesus is a fictitious character.

Furthermore, should anyone adopt a God who is not in the person's own image; once a person embraces doctrine that doesnt teach that person to love that person's own kind above any other people, when one's oppressor and saviour; one's God and enslaver are one and the same, such a person becomes the principal agent in the person's own destruction.

Jesus is not a fictional character. Both historical and Biblical records prove this. Oh by the way, I know too He is real because through faith in Him, my sins are forgiven.

Amujale:
Christianity is a fake and malicious ideology.

I don't know how you came to that conclusion. But I would recommend to you a personal relationship with God through faith in Jesus Christ. May be you will see things differently.

Another proof that the Church has immensely contributed to the academic well-being of our citizens.

These are the best pictures so far. All the other Universities shown earlier don't even come close.

Amujale:
Christianity was manufactured by the Romans in the first century.

Assuming there's another kind of Christianity, you mind sharing the origins of that one.

I'm talking about having a personal relationship with God through accepting Jesus Christ by faith as your personal Lord and Saviour. That's the core of the gospel.

Luckyziakegha:
In America it's racism while in Nigeria it's tribalism/ religion.

I think you are right. That's exactly what the post in the link below takes about:

https://victorscornerdotorg./2018/01/24/racism-america-tribalism-nigeria/

Eddykul:
With the increased costs of going to the university, i am just wondering whether it is worth it any more. Stories about graduates struggling to find employment and with more and more alternative routes being developed, is it still worth getting a degree?

Is it true that there are so many graduates these days that employers are now looking for work experience?

Nowadays, it is the people that didn't not go through the university that are employing graduates. #FACT

Graduates are no more getting jobs like before when university was university, after spending so much time, spending money just to learn, you later come back to square one in becoming a business owner. #FACT

Most people are getting jobs on what they didn't even read in school just to earn a living.

Nowadays work that human beings are supposed to do, it being done by robots..

I am thinking of collecting my five years tution fees and also school hostel rent fee and course materials money from my parent to start up a business.

Is going to the university worth it anymore?

Yes, going to the university is still worth it, even if your ambition is to do business. Please don't give up your quest for uni education for anything.

JourneytoEL:
Do you know why many adults today are suffering from low esteem? It is because of their upbringing. This has affected their life choices in careers, marriage and even their faith, as they can be easily swayed away from the Godly life they were raised with to living a sinful life. Read on to learn helpful tips you can use to raise your little ones to be a Godly and confident individual.

1 Do not body-shame or insult your kids.
Don't call your kids "dudu", "blacky" ,"hummer head" ,"wowo","blockhead" ,"big-mouth" ,"lekpa", "orobo-kiti", "ugly child", "Anya 4:30", "hammer head of horror" "idiot" "fool" "goat" "slowpoke"etc. If you are doing these already please stop it ASAP. Ha! Many ladies who are bleaching today are doing so because their parents used to mockingly call them blacky. Were you the one that created your child?, did she create herself? so why are you insulting her. These types of insults will remain in the minds of your kids all through their lives. That your daughter that you constantly call wowo will at the age of 14 have a toaster that will call her beautiful. Do you know what she will do? she will leave your advice and run into his hands just because no one calls her beautiful at home. Even as a joke, never ridicle your kids and caution whoever tries to do that.

2. Always call them by sweet names
Always call your kids beautiful, miss world, mr handsome etc. Proclaim God's blessings on them by calling them child of favour, child of grace, blessed child,prosperity is your name, love, apple of God's eyes, 'uwa-oma', peaceful child, my joy, my firstfruit, future president get my phone from the room etc. You can even customize these names in your local dialect for your kids. Personally, i don't call my kids endurance, perseverance and patience, biko don't ask me why

3. Give them positive proclaimations to say daily.
Say these statements with your kids daily at the end of their morning prayers. You can spice it up by jumping, hitting your chests, or shouting hurray to make them gingered.
I am beautifully and wonderfully made (x3)
I can do all things through Christ that strenghtens me (x3)
I am blessed, I am favoured and I am a child of grace (x3)
I am strong, i am beautiful, I am great, I can do anything (x3)
My protector is awake. The protector of (INSERT NAME e.g ugo) never doses or sleep (x3)

4. Don't flog or scold your kids excessively
Yes, the bible says spare the rod and spoil your child, but just as with all things, flogging or scolding your child excessively is very detrimental to their esteem. It leads to two things, either the child stops getting scared of been flogged or scolded or the child's spirit gets broken. He becomes a dummy, has no say of his own. He won't be able to speak out for his rights when been maltreated as an adult. On the either end, they can become narcisstic, beating up their spouses because they believe that is the only way to correct someone. Your kids are individuals with their own minds just like you. Learn to take them by your side and ask why they acted in a bad manner. Listen to their opinion and their point of view and correct accordingly. If you must spank use a cane and beat on their palms or buttocks. Please don't use your hands,belt,pepper,iron to slap or inflict bodily marks on them.

5. Treat your kids equally
Always show your kids that you love them equally whether or not it is true. Not doing so can make them grow up feeling like they are not good enough. Don't show one kid more love or buy better gifts than the rest. This act can breed sibling rivalry that will last even after you are gone.

6. Preach and practice Godly values with them
Teach your kids Godly values like love, peace, humility, forgiveness and how God hates envy, jealousy, lies etc. You can tell the first to forfeit his meat for the last, if he does without hesitation reward him with two meats. Tell the last to hug and forgive the elder sibling who spanked her. These values last for a lifetime. Remember to practice what you preach. You can't be beating your wife and be teaching your kids about love.

Lastly, endeavor to pray for them always. It is only God that can perfect our efforts. Please post some cute names and useful tips others can learn from in this thread.

Thanks for sharing.

AlexReports:
Maduka, Ali, Igwilo Top List O 10 Nigerian Medical Practitioners In United State


This article attempts to select ten out of the over 5000 prolific Nigerian doctors working in the United State . This list exclude the veterans like Professor Ferdinand Ofodile and Dr Chukwuma Okadigwe.


1 Dr Samuel Achilefu

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Dr Samuel Achilefu, is a Nigerian -born Scientist and medical researcher who invented high-tech infrared goggles to enable surgeons to see cancer cells during surgery.

He is the Professor of Radiology and Vice Chair for Innovation and Entrepreneurship at the Mallinckrodt Institute of Radiology, Washington University School of Medicine. He holds joint appointments as a professor of Medicine, Biochemistry & Molecular Biophysics, and Biomedical Engineering. He currently serves as the Director of the Washington University Molecular Imaging Center.

Achilefu is a world-renowned specialist in the development and use of light-sensitive drugs for cancer detection, imaging, and therapy. He also discovered a novel treatment paradigm for cancer using a special type of light and non-pharmacological doses of drugs to selectively trigger cancer cell death without harming healthy tissue. These and many other innovations have resulted in 59 issued US patents.

2. Dr. Bankole A. Johnson


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He is a licensed physician and board-certified psychiatrist throughout Europe and the United States who served as Alumni Professor and Chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Neurobehavioral Sciences at the University of Virginia. He is a respected global authority in psychiatry, substance use, psychopharmacology, neuroscience, psychopharmacology of medications for treating addictions.

In 2002, he received the Distinguished Senior Scholar of Distinction Award from the National Medical Association.He was inducted into the Texas Hall of Fame in 2003 for his contributions to science, mathematics, and technology. In 2004, Johnson accepted an appointment to serve as Alumni Professor and Chairman of the Department of Psychiatric and in 2019 he was named as a recipient of the American Society of Addiction Medicines (ASAM) Brinkley Smithers Distinguished Scientist Award.

3. Dr Obinna Chukwudi Igwilo

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Dr. Obinna Chukwudi Igwilo, From Abia State is a pioneer of the robotic surgery, which he had been working on since 2014. He cemented Africa's place in the field of medicine after performing groundbreaking first major robotic surgery in the United States of America. Dr Igwillo is an Assistant Professor of Medicine with Campbell University School of Osteopathic Medicine. Igwilos robotic surgery remains a historic event being the very first to be performed in the 80 years history of Fayetteville VAMC.

4.Dr. Olakunle Akinboboye

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Dr. Akinboboye is board certified in Cardiovascular Disease and Sleep Medicine. He is an Associate Professor of Clinical Medicine at the Weill Medical College of Cornell University, New York. He is also the Medical Director of Queens Heart Institute/Laurelton Heart Specialist P.C. in Rosedale, Queens, New York.

The award-winning nuclear cardiologist is listed among the top doctors in the United State by leading US medical publications. Dr. Olakunle Akinboboye is a member of the American Board of Internal Medicines (ABIM) Council and he is the first black Chair of the Cardiovascular Disease Board

5[b]. Dr. Oluyemi Badero [/b]

Olurotimi John Badero is recognised as the world's first and only fully trained cardio-nephrologist (heart and kidney specialist). He performed the first trans-radial cardiac catheterization and coronary angioplasty at CMMC Hospital Mississippi and has authored many peer-reviewed journals.

Over the years , Badero has become one of the Nigerian-American most celebrated Doctors as well as as one of the best Cardiologist, Nephrologist in United States of America.

Presently , Dr Badero is the Executive Director, Cardiac Renal & Vascular Associates. He is also the Medical Director of St. Joseph Hospice and also Assistant Professor of Clinical Medicine, at the State University of New York Health Sciences Center in Brooklyn. He is the President and CEO, Cardiac Specialists of Brooklyn, LLC

For his outstanding work and medical contributions, he has been recognized in the US, UK, and Africa .Among his numerous recognition includes: The Association of Black Cardiologists scholarship award for the Best Cardiology Fellow in the U.S.Few years ago, the 108th session of the US Congress praised Baderos outstanding accomplishments in the field of medicine, and one of the very few African-American specialists in his field.

6.Dr. Oluyinka Olutoye

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Nigerian Surgeon Dr. Oluyinka Olutoye is renowned for removing baby from Her Mothers womb, operated on her tumor and returned her back .The operation was carried on the baby at 23 weeks. The baby healed and continued to grow until she was born again at 36 weeks.

Years later , he was appointed as the surgeon-in-chief at Nationwide Children's Hospital, Ohio, one of the largest and most comprehensive pediatrics hospitals and research institutes in the World

7.Oluseun Alli

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Oluseun Alli a Nigerian doctor with Novant Health Presbyterian Hospital is the first health expert to implant 100 patients with Watchman device

The device is inserted into patients to help them deal with stroke .The device has been hailed for saving lives and has been implanted in almost 1 million people around the world in a one-time procedure.

8[b].Dr Godwin Maduka [/b]

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Dr. Godwin Maduka, a billionaire Nigerian-American doctor based in the United States of America.He is the Owner/CEO and Medical Director of the Las Vegas Pain Institute & Medical Center, the largest pain treatment center in Nevada. He was certified by the American Board of Anesthesiology in 1998 and fulfills the role of Medical Doctor for the Nevada State Board of Medical Examiners.

According to records, Maduka bought seven residential properties in Nevada for more than $7 million and spent nearly $4 million on the two buildings that house the Las Vegas Pain Institute, where he employs 80 people. He has also built a 15-storey building,edifice, which is expected to be equipped with state-of-the-art facilities in medical science and will be the first of its kind in Africa.

9.Bennet Ifeakandu Omalu

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Bennet Ifeakandu Omalu is a Nigerian American physician ,forensic pathologist, and neuropathologist who was the first to discover and publish findings of chronic traumatic encephalopathy in American football players. He later became the chief medical examiner for San Joaquin County, California, and is a professor at the University of California, Davis , department of medical pathology and laboratory medicine.

Omalu holds seven advanced degrees and board certifications and is a professor in the University of California, Davis Department of Pathology and Laboratory Medicine

10.Dr. Nwando Olayiwola

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Dr. Nwando Olayiwola is a family physician, as well as an Associate Director of the Center for Excellence in Primary Care and Assistant Professor in the Department of Family and Community Medicine at University of California, San Francisco.

Prior to this, Dr. Olayiwola served as the Chief Medical Officer of the largest Federally Qualified Health Center system in Connecticut, Community Health Center, Inc. (CHCI)

Since 2007, Dr. Olayiwola has been named one of America’s Top Family Doctors by the Consumers Research Council of America annually. In October 2008, she was one of three physicians in the nation to receive the Emerging Leaders Award from the Family Medicine Education Consortium . In the summer of 2011, Dr. Olayiwola was named one of the Top 40 Physicians Under 40 by the National Medical Association before the age of 40”.

She is presently the Chief Clinical Transformation Officer of RubiconMD, a leading technology company that provides electronic consultations. She currently provides clinical care at the Zuckerberg San Francisco General Hospital’s Family Health Center.


https://leadership.ng/2020/05/31/maduka-ali-igwilo-top-list-of-10-nigerian-medical-practitioners-in-united-state/

This is very inspiring. Nigerians are very talented.

If you want to know about Dr Badero, no 5 on the list, you can check out this post:
https://victorscornerdotorg./2017/07/16/have-you-met-the-only-heart-and-kidney-doctor-in-the-world/

Interesting15:
So a guy here recently published a piece claiming no sex before marriage is a scam..

At first, I was thinking he's just one of those loose guys who only justify sexual immorality because they can't be human enough to gain mastery over their bodies, and who can't control themselves and are slaves to their urges.. But I was shocked that this guy was attempting to justify an unholy act like premarital sex, with the Holy Scriptures..

I was like, JESUS, this guy must be stopped!

First of all, if you check the guy's profile, you will discover he is selling sex tools and products. Therefore, he is only trying to pervert people's mind so they could comfortably patronise him. He is aware that the Holy Words of God is a threat to the sales of his immoral sex tools, hence, he is trying to twist the scriptures for his own dirty motives.. If only he knew the danger of what he just did! Don't forget that the devil too is a master at twisting the Bible!

Nevertheless, please discard his claims.. The Word of God stands sure.. Premarital sex is a sin, because it is contrary to God's Will. God's Will is that all sexual experiences should be shared between a married man and his female wife only, in the safe circle of their marriage.

The Bible says in Hebrews 13:4: "Marriage is honorable among all, and (let) the marriage bed (be) undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"

It means, those that indulged in premarital sex will not only hurt themselves (STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc), but will attract punishments to themselves (and even the devil will have a chance to afflict them).

God Himself said: "...the sexually immoral...shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death" Revelation 21:8

The guy even claimed that during the time of Mary and Joseph, virginity wasn't highly regarded. That's a lie from the pit of hell! Their society was a very conservative one, and women caught indulging in sexual immorality are usually stoned to death!

The guy also claimed that you can sleep around because "God only sees a clean and a pure heart". Can you imagine! If you wear a clean white dress, won't you avoid anything that can get it stained?

In conclusion, although the world is currently vehemently corrupt (as we are in the last days), I want you to know that there are still many of us (Sons and Daughters of YAHWEH) still obeying Him and living lives of total purity. And guess what? We are happy and blessed. We are enjoying our marriages, and raising godly and responsible children.

God bless you and thank you for speaking up.

eazzzy1:
Are you a Nigerian? do you have friends and family in diaspora or home who are doing well for themselves but will ignore your request to send money all the time? before you call them stingy or wicked, here are some of the reasons why rich friends do not give out money;

1. They don't have enough: Enough is subjective, someone can earn as much as $100,000/annum but feel he's not earning enough, some people have these dreams of being wealthy and that salary isn't sufficient to get them there. So you have a friend/relative who works in a big firm abroad, you think he's rich, he thinks he isn't earning enough. Even millionaires have needs too.

2. You are not the only one making financial demands: You think you are his best friend because you went to secondary school together and were seat mate or bunk mates in the hostel so automatically he should be predisposed to meeting your needs, well there are primary school best friends, university best friends, first love, NYSC best friends, Neighbours, uncles, aunties, brothers etc who think their request should be met too. It is impossible to meet all these needs.

3. Making financial demand is never a one time thing: I had this habit of giving money to people who ask for financial favors the first time. I thought since they never asked for such before, they must really be in need. I soon found out that after that first time they run to me whenever they need money again, sometimes they space out the request like two months, some every month etc. I then realize that the $100, $200 i send them is never going to be sufficient, they will always come back for more. So i joined the God will provide gang.

4. Yahoo boys : Not every fraudster hacks into companies accounts, or forge the accountants signature, or even find lonely older women/men to scam. Some yahoo boys have resorted to begging, they send you message of how their dad is dying in the hospital, how their sister got arrested for a crime she didn't commit and they need a lawyer bla bla, they call these lies format and once you send them money they pop champagne and call you client.

5. General realization : One day i was going through my bank statement and i noticed i gave out about $500 monthly to family and friends. The same me who will walk into H & M, see a shirt of $40 and think it's too costly. I either buy it grudgingly or wait till it's on sale to buy. I realized i wasn't taking care of myself enough. Most people will come to this realization at a point in their lives.

This thread isn't limited to just people abroad, it include people who work and earn who are home based too. How do you cope with demands?Diasporans what made you rethink your generousity?

Feel free to add yours.

It's all right.

Amujale:
No aspects of our culture are idolatous.

Christianity is the definition of idolatry.

As in, everything about Christianity is fake and malicious.

Whilst our parents was concerned with promoting science, technology and intellectual improvement, Christianity on the other hand is concerned with murder, brainwashing, theft, impersonation, desecration, defamation and slavery.

You are obviously refering to another Christianity, not the one I practice.

RAO1:
u dey NYSC camp

Noooo

englishmart:
born against you mean?

There is no such thing as born against. It's either you are born again or not.

radiant3:
True talk

Thanks

englishmart:
pls. Don't get Jesus angry

No He won't be angry, because I'm speaking the truth.

tola9ja:
verse and chapter jesus said accept me as your lord and saviour ?

Romans 10:9-10 "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."